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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

If you look at my profile you'll see that I state with all my honesty that I am partnered to a man and that I entered the world of man-woman swinging in order to enjoy my sexuality with single women or couples. I also state honestly that I am looking not just for bi-male couples but also for couples who are both straight becuase my object is not to pounce on the man but to have delightfully naughty threesome fun with a married/attached couple. Now, there have been one or two incidents that ocurred to me outside the swinging world that made me think...How do you ladies and couples feel towards bisexual men who approach you for sex? Do you somehow see them as "lesser men" than straight ones? Do you not see them as sexual beings or are you suspicious that they would pounce on the man (if you are a couple) rather than get turned on by the woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see them as lesser men never met one though that has ticked all the boxes.

Can see why some couples don't fancy it. It's a catch 22 situation in that you want to be honest and upfront about it but as you mention it does put people off and cuts down the chances of meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know that people are turning you down because you are bi? It could be some other reason.

I like some bi guys and some I don't. Just one of those things.

Some people just don't like the thought of two guys together. Some do.

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

Scarlet, when I said that those incidents ocurred to me outside the swinging world, I kinda fibbed because they ocurred both in irrelevant social settings and in the swinging setting. Last Sunday I was at LC club and I was at the hot tub chatting to another bloke (who was not British incidentally) and when he asked me I said plainly that I am bisexual and that I want to have sex with women but I have a man. And he was utterly shocked (perhaps because his culture is not that friendly to bisexual people) both at me and at the fact that there's actually lesbian action going on at LC. Obviously I wasn't that bothered by his reaction 'cause he wasn't in my interests but it nevertheless made me think "what if I provoked the same reaction from a lady or a couple?" By no means did I say that I feel unwanted because I am bisexual. It's just the "what if" that I have in my mind x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There are very few men who introduce themselves to me with 'Hi, I'm (insert name here) and I am bi, even at swinger clubs. Probably because I am not a bloke, and don't have one with me.

How would your sexuality affect me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bisexual guys look at me, they don't message me, I assume because profile says I'm straight. I wouldn't meet any because it's not my thing, nothing against them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first three some was with two bi males and it was amazing. So bi or straight makes no.difference to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont care about bi males. Hubby is secure enough to understand that bi men are what they state. Bi lol. Welcome to join us if the chemistry is there.

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"My first three some was with two bi males and it was amazing. So bi or straight makes no.difference to me "

Oooooohhh I'm well jealous!!!! Lol

That's my ultimate fantasy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first three some was with two bi males and it was amazing. So bi or straight makes no.difference to me

Oooooohhh I'm well jealous!!!! Lol

That's my ultimate fantasy!!"

Didn't think I'd get to do it it just sort of happened but was sooooo good onky.done it twice since but that was about three years ago. If you.get the offer to for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bisexual guys look at me, they don't message me, I assume because profile says I'm straight. I wouldn't meet any because it's not my thing, nothing against them"

Mental..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Scarlet, when I said that those incidents ocurred to me outside the swinging world, I kinda fibbed because they ocurred both in irrelevant social settings and in the swinging setting. Last Sunday I was at LC club and I was at the hot tub chatting to another bloke (who was not British incidentally) and when he asked me I said plainly that I am bisexual and that I want to have sex with women but I have a man. And he was utterly shocked (perhaps because his culture is not that friendly to bisexual people) both at me and at the fact that there's actually lesbian action going on at LC. Obviously I wasn't that bothered by his reaction 'cause he wasn't in my interests but it nevertheless made me think "what if I provoked the same reaction from a lady or a couple?" By no means did I say that I feel unwanted because I am bisexual. It's just the "what if" that I have in my mind x"

But if you did provoke the same reaction in a lady or a couple, does it really matter? People will be offended by many different things, don't take it to heart. As long as you're happy I reckon that's all that matters. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes no difference to me what sexuality people are if they meet us. I don't care if men are bi or women are bi.

If we have arranged to meet then sexual expectations will have been discussed so they will be aware of what we're into.

We have met couples where the woman is bi. I am not sexually interested in women and they know there won't be girly play.

Just because someone states their sexuality, it doesn't mean that they only have to play a certain way.

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"We dont care about bi males. Hubby is secure enough to understand that bi men are what they state. Bi lol. Welcome to join us if the chemistry is there. "

Bravo, its not about sex or your sexuality at all really, its about love and intimacy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi guys are just guys who like what I like ... But I'm biased as one of my closest friends is a bi guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bisexual guys look at me, they don't message me, I assume because profile says I'm straight. I wouldn't meet any because it's not my thing, nothing against them

Mental.."
no need to be offensive. I'm allowed my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required."

But what if we had got chatting to a guy who was a really nice, funny, chatty guy whom we shared a similar outlook to - and he was bi. Would we then turn him down because he was bi and choose a guy we dont find as interesting just because he was straight.

It isnt always about the sex is it?

I have played with guys that are bi. We've met them, we've had a laugh and we've had some fun, and do you know, they even managed to keep their hands and their mouths of the OH's cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required.

But what if we had got chatting to a guy who was a really nice, funny, chatty guy whom we shared a similar outlook to - and he was bi. Would we then turn him down because he was bi and choose a guy we dont find as interesting just because he was straight.

It isnt always about the sex is it?

I have played with guys that are bi. We've met them, we've had a laugh and we've had some fun, and do you know, they even managed to keep their hands and their mouths of the OH's cock "

This, personally we prefer to meet people for who they are, not their sexuality and as long as boundaries agreed before meeting are adhered to we do not turn guys away on their sexuality basis

Just remember you may well think you are playing with a straight guy, or chosen a straight guy when in reality you will never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bisexual guys look at me, they don't message me, I assume because profile says I'm straight. I wouldn't meet any because it's not my thing, nothing against them

Mental..no need to be offensive. I'm allowed my opinion"

I think the comment came because a bisexual guy won't care whether you are straight or bi as a woman yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bisexual guys look at me, they don't message me, I assume because profile says I'm straight. I wouldn't meet any because it's not my thing, nothing against them

Mental..no need to be offensive. I'm allowed my opinion

I think the comment came because a bisexual guy won't care whether you are straight or bi as a woman yourself. "

I read it like that.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Will be honest and say we don't meet bi men. Only straight. But that don't make them lesser as you put it. It's just a personal choice. The same as I won't meet men that are low 20's or men that I feel are too old for me. It's all down to personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me, its about personality etc however if their profile says they are looking for both males and females but they have been verified mostly or soly by males, I wouldn't bother as I would think that they are more interested in males than females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really enjoy bi people in a play setting as there's no stopping and starting everyone just plays with everyone else.

Other than that it makes no difference to me if your bi straight gay or lesbian once your not an arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother me, its about personality etc however if their profile says they are looking for both males and females but they have been verified mostly or soly by males, I wouldn't bother as I would think that they are more interested in males than females"

I would just think that guys often have a hard time meeting women on here. Not necessarily that the guy would prefer meeting guys, just that it's more likely he'd find guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Will be honest and say we don't meet bi men. Only straight. But that don't make them lesser as you put it. It's just a personal choice. The same as I won't meet men that are low 20's or men that I feel are too old for me. It's all down to personal choice. "

The thing is you would never 100% know that for fact.

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By *_Marius OP   Man
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required.

But what if we had got chatting to a guy who was a really nice, funny, chatty guy whom we shared a similar outlook to - and he was bi. Would we then turn him down because he was bi and choose a guy we dont find as interesting just because he was straight.

It isnt always about the sex is it?

I have played with guys that are bi. We've met them, we've had a laugh and we've had some fun, and do you know, they even managed to keep their hands and their mouths of the OH's cock "

It would have been daft of me to approach a straight man and his wife just to get to the straight cock. I might as well go to a sauna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required.

But what if we had got chatting to a guy who was a really nice, funny, chatty guy whom we shared a similar outlook to - and he was bi. Would we then turn him down because he was bi and choose a guy we dont find as interesting just because he was straight.

It isnt always about the sex is it?

I have played with guys that are bi. We've met them, we've had a laugh and we've had some fun, and do you know, they even managed to keep their hands and their mouths of the OH's cock "

no, i agree about chattign and getting to know someone, absolutely.

but, you wouldnt look for a single bi guy would you?

so the chances of approaching someone thats bi (which i think was the point of the OP) as a straight male couple, would be slim, no matter the personalities of other guys, if that makes sense

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By *eggaeloverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"why would a straight/bi fem couple go for a bi male when there are plenty of straight males around?

if a couple are looking for a couple of bi guys, then yes, i can understand the search, but IF a couple are looking for a guy, and generally the male of the couple is straight, then there is absolutely no reason to look for bi males as it would be for the attention of the lady, so having the partner and a straight man to play with would make most sense.

dont take it personally, its not because anyone is looking down on you, it just makes no sense to search for a bi man, if a straight man is required."

That's fair enough but it doesn't really matter, its more about personalities. A bi man can play straight around a straight man, in fact I like them because I can just be their friend with no complications.

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