FabSwingers.com forum: Why is age a put off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Although I have had quite a few meets with couples, here seems to be so many put off by over 60's. Don't quite understand why as we more experienced swingers have so much to offer. What's your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is an important factor in choosing meets - hence why there's an option to filter by age.

It's beyond everyone's control - so concentrate on those looking for your age group and don't worry about the rest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saggy balls............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little thing called personal preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saggy balls............"

Haha!

Generally I wouldn't meet someone much older unless she was mint

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me its about common ground for topics of discussion between shagathons...i prefer to converse with people my own age who are more likely to understand the music I listen to, the tv programmes i watch, the childhood memories when reminiscing, etc...much older or much younger and the conversation is not the same and therefore the sex is lacking if the communication isn't there

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Its not so much the age, but the look that comes with age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my GILFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know but you'd make a fine hat stand

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am simply attracted to men younger than me - though not too young. Hence the filters. As I get older the filters may change but I will still probably prefer men younger than me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some good points raised. I like those in my age range too. Just because of the commonality in life's experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have just looked at your profile (i got past the photos this time!!) and have one question to ask you.

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Because it's not a pretty sight to see a set of teeth in a jar by the bed ( not mine)!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have an old grey plump grumpy old fart..Time for a change I say..

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

Choice. Its as simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

too grumpy in my experience, and more likely to have erection problems when putting on a condom.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Coz I don't want to meet people older than my dad!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can' t argue with the majority of comments. Just trying to put in a vote for us oldies that can still press the right buttons on occasions.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Saggy balls............

Haha!

Generally I wouldn't meet someone much older unless she was mint

oh blimey that's me out then because I'm strawberry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it is like choosing between fine dining cheese and fresh milk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet we are far more 'on trend' than a lot of couples half our age.

And in better shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree with the age factor I am 28 and have more in common with women 20yr old then me or even a ten year difference and the sex is by far awesome

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Because 60+ is as old as my parents.

I don't recall ever having been attracted to anyone 20+ years older than me at any point throughout my life.

Plus much older guys tend not to be able to repeat or manage extended sessions like younger men often can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not so much the age, but the look that comes with age

i agree with this but from both ends of the scale, I'm also not attached to very young guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have changed my age filters but not to accommodate someone of a different generation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number ..... I will talk and meet with anyone, however if we don't click that's as far as it will go, if we click then see how it goes. But I never put age in the way of meeting great peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just a number, personally I find older women hot, if there's a connection, can have a laugh etc then it's all good.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Because I don't find men attractive when they are older than my dad!

Plus I just don't find people that much older than me sexually attractive. Attraction isn't something you 'decide' on. It's just something that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my hubbys 20 years older than me i fancy him lots, just not had good experiences with other much older men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say More to offer what do you mean exactly?

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By *errible_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Because I don't want to have Sex with people the same age or older than my parents

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

It is as everyone says personal preference. I am almost 42 and have had mind blowing sex with a guy 11 years my senior. Another guy 5 years younger than him just didn't stimulate me the same. Just because an 11 year gap worked it doesn't mean any guy within that bracket will suit me.

I guess some people over 60 may not be able to have sex the same quality and quantity as when they were 40 say. I am sure there are some having better sex the older they get.

Its all total preferance x

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Because I don't want to have Sex with people the same age or older than my parents

bingo, when the usual ageism suspects get hold of this thread its going to be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would you like an alcopop and a kebab or a glass of bordeaux and a filet mignon-I suppose it depends on whether you are ...(complete as you prefer...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was 11 yrs older than me.. Listened to the Archers, looked and acted like Victor Meldrew etc... Need I say more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was 11 yrs older than me.. Listened to the Archers, looked and acted like Victor Meldrew etc... Need I say more

Yes, i know the feeling when they act like victor meldrew.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Queen thats funny. My 11 year older man was great in bed and lots of other things. Shame he wasn't honest with me. I guess we live and learn. I do still miss him though to be honest. Victor Meldrew he wasnt lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer women with a more mature outlook because they tend to know what they are looking for. However with actual age comes physical deterioration for all of us. I know that's a generalisation, but it is more often than not, correct. I am lucky in that my work has kept up my fitness levels so I would place myself well above average for my age. I also see some very fit older ladies around, but of course even that's relative. Is old a physical condition or an attitude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as much as we dont meet people the same age as the kids, we also wont meet people the same age as our parents.

its called preference.

you feel people are missing out

they dont

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Age is just a number as long as there mature enough and we click, x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Age is clearly not just a number hence the amount of threads about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My top age limit is set at what I like, that is what I prefer and I am sorry OP but just because you are older doesn't equate to having more experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a rule I would only go 15 years over my own age, and tbh I would prefer to only go 10 years over. Personally my issue is I'm only 22. People in their mid to late 30's can seem on a completely different page to me. They remember their teens like they were yesterday and mine practically were!

I wouldnt rule them out on a swinging level, however for friendship or relationships...it just doesn't work out.

I would mention younger, but onviously I wouldn't go more than 4 years younger than myself as it would be bordering on wrong...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my filters set as this is what I usually like but then saying this I have played with a fabulous lady who was 50 when I was 26 it isn't the age that puts me off it is how they look at that age E.G if they look l,ike my mum or dad then it won't be happening if they don't then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although I have had quite a few meets with couples, here seems to be so many put off by over 60's. Don't quite understand why as we more experienced swingers have so much to offer. What's your thoughts?"

In the politest possible terms the only person who seems to be missing out, based on your post, is you.

As those who replied have stated, well apart from a couple of 'age is just a number so I will fuck anyone' posts everyone has an preference for who they feel comfy playing with and age,size, shape etc form part of that selection process.

It's also a bit if alert to suggest that being over 60 equips you better than anyone else, we have found that neither inept or skilled are age dependant

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think people always find a way to complain about the things that exclude them......

you are not going to appeal to everyone... that is real life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to have fit men because I'm of an age and health where I can't do most of the work any more. I have found older men tend to lean their weight on me a lot and that is very painful for me. Also men over 50 don't kiss very well. Only in my experience, I haven't kissed every 50+ man in the world

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I have to have fit men because I'm of an age and health where I can't do most of the work any more. I have found older men tend to lean their weight on me a lot and that is very painful for me. Also men over 50 don't kiss very well. Only in my experience, I haven't kissed every 50+ man in the world "

Funnily enough the best kisser by far I have met this time around was 55. But I am afraid in every other way I prefer younger men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wll age is a problem for some, for us its not, if a guys or couple are attractive then its a yes, if not its a no. This counts for rudeness as well. I suppose if the girl, guy is the same age as your kids or less (grown up) then for some it is a barrier. Some girls guys are put off by couples their parents age, for us not a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never meet anyone if I thought the french kissing might turn into the kiss of life not too mention breast rubbing becoming CPR!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough the best kisser by far I have met this time around was 55. But I am afraid in every other way I prefer younger men."

If the kiss isn't there I don't feel the sex is the same. Some younger men don't kiss nice either but in general I prefer men younger than me. Could be psychological because I find older men attractive until I'm in bed with them. Then I want to cry and go home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because I don't find men attractive when they are older than my dad!

Plus I just don't find people that much older than me sexually attractive. Attraction isn't something you 'decide' on. It's just something that is."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have my filters set as this is what I usually like but then saying this I have played with a fabulous lady who was 50 when I was 26 it isn't the age that puts me off it is how they look at that age E.G if they look l,ike my mum or dad then it won't be happening if they don't then

agreed, there are some very attractive older people, that really dont look their age, and on this we would possibly look at it different, but older people that look their age, and worse still act it, then sorry, not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love when age is seen as a physical or mental determining characteristic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saggy balls............"

Lol

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I love when age is seen as a physical or mental determining characteristic.

Apparently you guys are on some sort of age crusade because you seem to quite overtly think you're a "cut above" and clearly are quite insecure at the thought of being dissmissed due to your age.

However, the people who have a cut off here all pretty much state it as being their parents age as well , most find the mental idea of playing with someone there parents age + a turn off, im not sure ranting, raving and beating ones own chest about it because you disagree with someone's PERSONAL preferences is that good a plan.

Especially when you have many of your own own preferences including a profile age limit yourself, it screams "I can do what I want but you can't".

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"For me its about common ground for topics of discussion between shagathons...i prefer to converse with people my own age who are more likely to understand the music I listen to, the tv programmes i watch, the childhood memories when reminiscing, etc...much older or much younger and the conversation is not the same and therefore the sex is lacking if the communication isn't there "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite like an older gentleman, but what spoils it for me is when they try to pretend they're younger than they are, now that's an instant no thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is a major thing for us. we have had messages from people saying "if you want an easier meet, you need to increase the age you are looking for". but we would rather wait and meet someone right for us than go against what we are comfortable with. the male half of this couple doesn't mind older women, but the female half wants people who are around our age range "20ish" but no older than 35 really.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead"

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!"

Got to get in there before the rigormortis sets in though!

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

"Because 60+ is as old as my parents.

I don't recall ever having been attracted to anyone 20+ years older than me at any point throughout my life.

Plus much older guys tend not to be able to repeat or manage extended sessions like younger men often can."

Same reason as us my parents are in.their 60s just so it's a no go for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!

Got to get in there before the rigormortis sets in though!

its ok, just bury them in a Y shaped coffin

(ok im stopping now cuz its starting to look like i think about this way too much lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!

Got to get in there before the rigormortis sets in though!

its ok, just bury them in a Y shaped coffin

(ok im stopping now cuz its starting to look like i think about this way too much lol)"

Too late. The Y shaped coffin gave you away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quite a few men lie about their age so i probably do meet a few men who are in their sixties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"quite a few men lie about their age so i probably do meet a few men who are in their sixties."

Didn't the zimmer frame and stenna stair lift give it away then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love when age is seen as a physical or mental determining characteristic.

Bit hard to deny that it is though, age, shape, size, ethnicity, sexuality the list could go on, all form a part of the selection process either here or in the vanilla world, always has and always will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 20 which seems to put a lot of people off. Not many like guys my age it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead"

Ooooh i don't know-I got outrageously flirted with by a group of men the other weekend who were all aged between 91 and 97...wouldn't have fucked any of them though but some of the stories they were telling me certainly confirmed they were experienced! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!"

Whole new meaning to getting laid in your grave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you discriminate against folk over 99

Because they're dead

Think outside the box!

There's always necrophilia to explore

a dead girl never says no!

Whole new meaning to getting laid in your grave."

And you cant Fuck Dust diddle iddle iddle um

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"quite a few men lie about their age so i probably do meet a few men who are in their sixties."

Whats the point in lying about your age. Don't understand that one. You really need to be honest all the way as a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"q You really need to be honest all the way as a swinger."

That's an attribute that is not strong in many on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wholeheartedly agree with the kissing bit as yuk is all I can say

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