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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I don't think it's any different, personally, but it's up to them. I don't know their circumstances or their reasons and, beyond deciding if I would want to meet them, it's none of my business.

I used to believe cheating was wrong, full stop. Then I got a bit older and realised that life isn't always straightforward and situations can be complicated sometimes.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

I know it's hard to understand .I know a few married women that have cheated on here at a few who are not swingers .I have had a few invites from women who want to play with me and wife without their husband's .but I say no I would not want my wife to do it to me .and I would not do it to her ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was wondering that too, thank god someone has put the question forward, so come on ladies, married or single please answer the question

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't care what anyone does and until someone involves me directly by asking my opinion tend nowadays, to keep my mouth shut. My opinion is the same whether its a man or a woman though we don't knowingly meet either if they are in a relationship but play alone whatever their circumstances, as with everything else you only have their word for what their circumstances are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't play with married men or women unless they are swinging together of course makes no odds to me whether they are male or female the answer is always no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother us.

We are not here to be a moral compass for anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't bother us.

We are not here to be a moral compass for anyone."

I don't think its about being a moral compass to anyone else really.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

im married too

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Its up to the individual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are probably as many of each sex that keep quiet about them being married as those that say it in their profile. The problem I find is that having read so many threads about it on here a lot of the time a married woman is accepted more readily than a married man. I have seen all the fawning over a married woman , mostly by the single guys and all the bashing of married guys which lucky for them includes all sorts not just single guys.

I myself have no problem with either other than saying I want to know before hand.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Single women and couples can be picky here as there are so many single guy profiles were single guys struggle to get any meet sometimes. I have had many married women cheating I am not the one cheating they are I have never cheated on anyone nor would I if they choose to its up to them

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I'm single and as things stand unlikely to be in a monogamous relationship ever again.

I do not believe that one person could fulfil all my needs. Maybe I'm wrong and I'll meet someone who does but I'm not counting on it.

Any relationship would have to be an open one to some degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single women and couples can be picky here as there are so many single guy profiles were single guys struggle to get any meet sometimes. I have had many married women cheating I am not the one cheating they are I have never cheated on anyone nor would I if they choose to its up to them "

But you have cheated, you've cheated on her husband, if you knowingly have sex with someone who is married you are as responsible as the person your having sex with

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Married women tend to keep their heads down on here and just get on with it.

Married men seem to start a lot of 'why can't I get a meet' type threads drawing attention to themselves and the fact they are cheating which tends to not really being out much sympathy in a lot of people!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

i think I've said this before but for us it's not about morals but about strings and the way men and women think about infidelity. Men tend to blame their partner if they find out they're playing away, woman tend to blame the other party.

What that means is if we shag a married woman and her husband finds out he is less likely to camp on our doorstep and cook our household pets.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome"

It's called hypocrisy.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Whether you are a married man or woman, the situation is the same for one as the other and it isn't right that the men get the bashings but women don't. However, why they "cheat" will be their business. So long as people are honest with me then what they do is none of my business. It's when men lie about their situations that really annoy me because that brings a misery of its own, especially if the partner/spouse finds out about you. It isn't pleasant being called a slag because you have been friends with someone and met them, only to discover way after the event, that they were in a relationship, when said partner messages you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i think I've said this before but for us it's not about morals but about strings and the way men and women think about infidelity. Men tend to blame their partner if they find out they're playing away, woman tend to blame the other party.

What that means is if we shag a married woman and her husband finds out he is less likely to camp on our doorstep and cook our household pets."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome"

I doubt hose several profiles you read would care if a guy was married or not. The other reason is women hate to see other women get cheated on where a guy wouldn't really care. Think its all a bit more personal to a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is swinging not dating so not sure the normal relationship rules apply!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot of double standards in the swinging scene,this is a prime example. If a married man cheats on his wife, he's often branded a complete twat. If a married female cheats on her hubby,she's doing it because he's gone off sex,impotent,spends more time with the lads,etc,etc. Not usually because she's a raving nympho who simply can't get enough

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its up to the individual "

from both sides, the problem arises when one individual is not aware of what the other individual is doing.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

What is wrong with being a 'raving nympho who can't get enough'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution "
I thought swinging was a free sport to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution "

That is indeed prostitution.

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By *ohn_1983Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

I agree with the "moral compass" comment.

I am not here to judge anothers circumstances. I choose to play based on my own attraction to the individual/s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution

That is indeed prostitution."

I mentioned I was looking for a full daytime meet and the reply was "that would cost you loads"

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution

That is indeed prostitution.I mentioned I was looking for a full daytime meet and the reply was "that would cost you loads""

Report the message/profile to admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution

That is indeed prostitution.I mentioned I was looking for a full daytime meet and the reply was "that would cost you loads""

being a single dad I don't wish to pay for sex unless someone chops my hands off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been offered to join in a little gangbang tomorrow with someone's wife and they want to charge £40 for 30 mins. now call me old fashioned but isn't that prostitution "

He's pimping her out. That's awful in a funny way. Come on here charging to have sex with his wife....mind you Christmas is coming

I wonder if she charges him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome

I doubt hose several profiles you read would care if a guy was married or not. The other reason is women hate to see other women get cheated on where a guy wouldn't really care. Think its all a bit more personal to a woman."

This I am married and play with permission. But i have been on the receiving end of an affair and said woman trying to rip my family and life apart and it is fucking horrible so i would never knowingly risk causing that pain to another woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome"

Having sex without the knowledge of your partner is just cheating. Doesn't matter which party is being unfaithful be it the male/female. That is not 'swinging'. If a person wishes to destroy their relatio ship for a few mins of sex then that is a really selfish act not to mention if there are children involved.

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By *elshcouple11Couple
over a year ago

Carmarthen


"I used to believe cheating was wrong, full stop. Then I got a bit older and realised that life isn't always straightforward and situations can be complicated sometimes. "

Well said

there's a big difference between married singles (male or female) who's partner knows what they are doing but who cant/won't join in, after all its not for everyone

The thought of a disgruntled partner turning up would be a major problem for most and the main reason why single married people are treated the way they are (after all no one would like their partner cheating on them) however, there are people on here who's partners do know what they are up to and are happy with their situation, how can that be cheating or a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm a widower and still wear my wedding ring for personal reasons is that cheating?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with being 'a raving nympho who can't get enough' but if the female is married and cheating,that's taking the piss out of the unaware hubby.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

yes but it's her that is taking the piss

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We won't knowingly meet someone who is married and cheating. Doesn't matter if they are male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

did these married women profiles discount married men?

there is a stigma from a lot of couples that wont play with married PEOPLE no matter their age, race, gender or religion.

and that peoples choices.

personally, we wont facilitate someone cheating on their spouse, no matter they have a cock or a pussy, its not worth the associated hassle that may come with it.

meeting other couples means everyone is in the know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great comments guys and girls its obvious that honesty is the best policy I personally not married but would hate tone cheated on I think was a good topic to post and thanks all

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome

I doubt hose several profiles you read would care if a guy was married or not. The other reason is women hate to see other women get cheated on where a guy wouldn't really care. Think its all a bit more personal to a woman."

I agree with the above, I think women do take it very personal, slightly different situation. me and hubby have both played together, however one particular occasion, someone got too close for comfort, lots of tears and upset followed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We did it once with FB's and hated ourselves for it afterwards so will never knowingly do it again.

What confuses us is those that will happily do it with absolutely no thought or compassion for the poor innocent victim sat at home.

We work on the ideal of 'do unto others etc' lifestyle so would never knowingly do anything to hurt anyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome"

The abundance of males on here multiply the negativity added to that people really have dual standards which will no doubt change at a whim to suit them and back again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

isnt it funny how the ones saying people have double standards about meeting married men or women, all seem to have 'cannot accomodate' on their profile.

deal with it.

some dont like meeting married singles.

some do

focus on the ones that do

leave the ones that dont alone

oh, and for the record, next time you see a thread about a married woman looking for fun, take a look at those that say they would meet her.

you can guarantee a pound to a piece of shit its mostly 'single' men, so your opinions are skewed, unless you want to meet other single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (as a male half of a couple, who also plays separately) mostly I find that a potential playtime is scuppered because they don't want to even find out what the situation is...

it's unfortunate, it's unnecessary, but no amount of griping is going to sort it out... people have their preferences/prejudices and that's just how it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples have to 'Pretend' they are mortified (for the benefit of their partner).

Single women; maybe because it happened to them or they really want a partner off here.

But NSA is that, and the risk is their own. I don't ask if they are married.

I have a regular playmate who is married, loves her husband (Life style) but sex is not there anymore, so i'm helping (or so I think).

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I don't understand those that go on about double standards.

Does anybody that meets both men and women use the same selection criteria?

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm married, not had sex or any physical contact with the wife for about 5 years and sleep in seperate rooms.

I look down the list of people I would like to chat to and it's usually, no married men or any that are in any sort of relationship.

We all have our reasons for being here and I don't judge others and wish others would get to know me before passing judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a genuine single guy on here, i couldn't give two fucks what anyone else does on here. It doesn't affect me in the slightest. I just find it amusing that people tend to moan about things they have no control over whatsoever! If your not into married guys/gals, just pass them by, simple really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this is a society each to its own and we all have preferred choices. But why is there a stigma against married men. Just read several profiles of ladies that are married and want to be descreet and play away yet the married man gets treated different and is a no go your views and comments welcome"

Its is what it is and wasting any brain power over the where's and why falls is a pointless endeavor if you ask me .

You do realise saying your single when your not is the most common lie told online by both sexes ......and I seem to remember reading somewhere the most common reason for not going through with a meet as well

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