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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Then contact you saying they're bi. I know this has probably been done hundereds of times but it's relevant to me.

Even worse a married/attached man who has straight on his profile,then tells you he's bi. I've seen men get some unfair criticism on here so far but they're not in the same league as these cheats/liars.

Why on earth someone would want to play with someone who lies and cheats on their nearest and dearest,is beyond me. If they lie to their loved ones,it makes me wonder what they really get up to behind their backs. This isn't a rant it's the truth and you know what they say, 'the truth hurts'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We feel the same way. We even have it posted in our profile that we're not even interested in people that do this. Yet they keep sending us messages. We just give them a polite " We're not interested." and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then it's up to you to vote with your feet! We don't meet with bi guys who have straight profiles and yes there are a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was one of those guys until recently.

I did it because i felt that bi-curios was not the correct statement.

Id like to try oral and have played before but i have no desire for penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The bi scale is vast. We could do with more terms to please everyone

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I hate getting messages from 'straight' guys. I now put "no straight guys" in my status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Should have a kinsey scale option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on remind me what's that again?

Does it cover my "currently no interest in being bi until a very sexy woman makes me think .... Hmmmm" lol

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Go on remind me what's that again?

Does it cover my "currently no interest in being bi until a very sexy woman makes me think .... Hmmmm" lol"

Surely by a sexy woman you actually mean any woman? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be bi mad.

I don't know why I've changed so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its like the guys that think they`re straight because they meet trannys

denial

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

We feel the same way there should be a box with bi playful to tick as this wioud describe so many people . They like kissing and oral when in the heat of a meet but dont do penetration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does seem most guys won't admit to being bi because of the fear everyone will assume they do anal as well

And of course if you do anal you have to be mates with Julian Clary, wear lots of bling and sequins. Follow Joan Colin's fan club, only play Elton John or George Michael records. You will mince and not walk and you have an effeminate voice just to confirm the reason why you insist on wearing an earring in your left lobe and your wrist permanently limp. Anal = got to have the gay syndrome. Everyone knows this.

and that's why bi boys are usually straight boys because sucking on a cock is still grrrrrr manly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we get lots of idiots contacting us swearing blind they're bi but wanting x y z mainly as a way of trying to get a solo meet with K.

Our profile is very open as to our likes etc and we would expect the same as a minimum. Otherwise its delete, block and keep waiting as we're getting fed up of liars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was one of those guys until recently.

I did it because i felt that bi-curios was not the correct statement.

Id like to try oral and have played before but i have no desire for penetration.

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us woman just lick and bi ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That made me laugh 2innotts but so true

It's rather like saying only females are meant to take anal and only females can suck cock ?!? If more really took the time and effort to ANALyse just how stupid that is,they may view other things differently. Won't hold my breath though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

see i work on a need to know basis, i tell people who i want to know certain thing's about me, i do not feel the need to advertise certain things on my profile, like my sexuality, im bi but i have straight on my profile, for my own reasons, why should i get reported for keeping some things about me to only people i wish to know, all because this is a swingers site i have no obligation to tell you everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cats out the bag though now Nymph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to hold my hand and come skipping through the poppy fields

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

But you do have an obligation to be truthful on your profile.

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/Terms

5.3 You must ensure that your profile and any other Content is and remains complete, accurate and is not misleading in any way and that you will update it so that it remains so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cats out the bag though now Nymph

I think the term is.....

B-U-S-T-E-D!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

I'd say that's fine for vanilla preferences like what your favourite food is or what music you like. No-one needs to know stuff like that straight away.

But on a site like this easily being able to see what someone's approximate sexual preference is should be a given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

But you do have an obligation to be truthful on your profile.

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/Terms

5.3 You must ensure that your profile and any other Content is and remains complete, accurate and is not misleading in any way and that you will update it so that it remains so."

Oh shit ours says we're nice fun people. What will happen to us now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

But you do have an obligation to be truthful on your profile.

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/Terms

5.3 You must ensure that your profile and any other Content is and remains complete, accurate and is not misleading in any way and that you will update it so that it remains so."

We do what works for us, when i have bi on my profile i just tons of messages from couples who think because im bi i should meet couples even tho my profile quite clearly states i only meet men and when you tell them that they expect a explanation as to why you don't meet couples if your bi which i don't feel i should have to give, so i put straight as it puts off lots of couples mailing and but if any do i just say, sorry im not bi, as its easier than going thro the whole rigmarole of why i don't meet couples when im bi, sometimes we have a genuine reason as to why we hold things back, its not always because we are deceiving lying bastards

i would have no problem changing it to bi if couples didn't mail me demanding to know why i don't meet couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

I'd say that's fine for vanilla preferences like what your favourite food is or what music you like. No-one needs to know stuff like that straight away.

But on a site like this easily being able to see what someone's approximate sexual preference is should be a given. "

im a single woman who only meet's single guys how many men on here do you think gives a shit if im bi or straight, now many men on here do you think would look at a woman's profile, like it, like the pics then think, oh she's bi fuck that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could always block messages from couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could always block messages from couples?"

I could but i do talk to some couples on here, plus seeing as i don't meet couples i don't see why its needed to know that im bi, why give out info that's really not needed

im not saying im right, i just do whats works best for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

I'd say that's fine for vanilla preferences like what your favourite food is or what music you like. No-one needs to know stuff like that straight away.

But on a site like this easily being able to see what someone's approximate sexual preference is should be a given.

on the same token, however, you have in the past, expressed a desire to share in the company of bi guys.

so how many bi guys arent putting it on theri profile, because they are looking to meet single women, and they think 'well why would a single woman care if im bi?'

i accept your premise, couples can be as big a pain in the arse as anyone, and also agree you should keep what you like to yourself, as can others, but it still makes things a little more hidden for people.

1 person cant justify hiding their sexuality, for arguments sake, yet lambast another for hiding the fact they are married, or chock full of crabs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don''t understand why guys put straight on their profiles but are looking for Bi guys and/or TV's/TS's or have lots of them as friends. I just ignore them now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beginning to wonder if this is a gay site or swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any man who messages me, who has straight on their profile gets reported.

I've absolutely no time for liars.

I'd say that's fine for vanilla preferences like what your favourite food is or what music you like. No-one needs to know stuff like that straight away.

But on a site like this easily being able to see what someone's approximate sexual preference is should be a given.

on the same token, however, you have in the past, expressed a desire to share in the company of bi guys.

so how many bi guys arent putting it on theri profile, because they are looking to meet single women, and they think 'well why would a single woman care if im bi?'

1 person cant justify hiding their sexuality, for arguments sake, yet lambast another for hiding the fact they are married, or chock full of crabs lol"

but my personal opinion to that is if your a single woman meeting a single guy why does it matter if they are bi?

i know not everyone shares my opinion on nthat but im really the wrong person to be asking that as i don't see why it matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but my personal opinion to that is if your a single woman meeting a single guy why does it matter if they are bi?

i know not everyone shares my opinion on nthat but im really the wrong person to be asking that as i don't see why it matters "

no, im saying i agree with you in that if you are after single men then why would it matter, but if you are after 2 single BI men, and you are messaged by a guy that has straight on his profile, but tells you he is BI, would you delete him for lying?

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I've been banging on about this one ! I want to meet bi guys for MMF fun and fortunately I have been contacted by some really great bi curious/sexual chaps. BUT I get plenty of messages from straight guys who say they are worried about being recognised etc, I had to laugh last week when one fella suddenly changed to bi sexual and sent a pic to me of a guy sucking a random cock!

I think if these men feel its dirty or embarrassing to say they are bi, what are they going to be like in a real life situation?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

"Beginning to wonder if this is a gay site or swingers site "

errm - not quite sure what you mean. Bi people aren't gay. So why would you wonder if it's a gay site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but my personal opinion to that is if your a single woman meeting a single guy why does it matter if they are bi?

i know not everyone shares my opinion on nthat but im really the wrong person to be asking that as i don't see why it matters

not at all, most of the bi men i meet say they are straight on their profile, im after sex not a love affair, so long as i like them mentally and physically that's all that matters, i'm sure most of the men i have met have lied but seeing as i'm only here for sex so long as i get a good sessions i'm really not bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We feel the same way there should be a box with bi playful to tick as this wioud describe so many people . They like kissing and oral when in the heat of a meet but dont do penetration "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but my personal opinion to that is if your a single woman meeting a single guy why does it matter if they are bi?

i know not everyone shares my opinion on nthat but im really the wrong person to be asking that as i don't see why it matters

Well you've been warned. If you're going to keep a straight profile, we ain't never gonna go skipping together, so just stop with them whining messages begging us for ffm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been banging on about this one ! I want to meet bi guys for MMF fun and fortunately I have been contacted by some really great bi curious/sexual chaps. BUT I get plenty of messages from straight guys who say they are worried about being recognised etc, I had to laugh last week when one fella suddenly changed to bi sexual and sent a pic to me of a guy sucking a random cock!

I think if these men feel its dirty or embarrassing to say they are bi, what are they going to be like in a real life situation?"

I dont think its a case of guys feeling dirty or embarrassed there are sometimes genuine reasons for not displaying their sexuality

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Beginning to wonder if this is a gay site or swingers site

errm - not quite sure what you mean. Bi people aren't gay. So why would you wonder if it's a gay site?"

I'm wondering what this means as well. I know for a fact.... A FACT!!!! I'm not gay, There's a few lasses I know, that I want to fuck. There's also a few guys I want to fuck as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just think they try and edge their bets , to have their cake and eat it , as well as being desperate !!! , also found they are usually the most abusive when a polite no is said , so many macho men sat behind a keyboard !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 100% straight. Not into guys AT ALL, whether orally, wanking me off or watching porn with them, lol. I had to block all single guys due to mailing me and asking 'if i wanted to experiment with a guy'? Lol. Now, i wish there was a button to block couples with a bi guy in them. Due to 'the wife' wanting me to join them and watch 'her hubby' suck me off! So its not just single guys that chance their luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Beginning to wonder if this is a gay site or swingers site

errm - not quite sure what you mean. Bi people aren't gay. So why would you wonder if it's a gay site?

I'm wondering what this means as well. I know for a fact.... A FACT!!!! I'm not gay, There's a few lasses I know, that I want to fuck. There's also a few guys I want to fuck as well

You might just want to ease off the Abba stuff for a bit in case you topple off the edge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm 100% straight. Not into guys AT ALL, whether orally, wanking me off or watching porn with them, lol. I had to block all single guys due to mailing me and asking 'if i wanted to experiment with a guy'? Lol. Now, i wish there was a button to block couples with a bi guy in them. Due to 'the wife' wanting me to join them and watch 'her hubby' suck me off! So its not just single guys that chance their luck."

Lol you will try bi , you will try bi!

Poor lad - actually you're a victim of people not telling the truth because we all assume straight guys are raging fudge nudgers in the closet anyway

Are you Really 100% straight ? That's like rare lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol you will try bi , you will try bi!

Poor lad - actually you're a victim of people not telling the truth because we all assume straight guys are raging fudge nudgers in the closet anyway

Are you Really 100% straight ? That's like rare lol"

Lol, afraid so. No interest in cock whatsoever. Apart from my own obviously, lol,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's quite horny - no competition from my other half

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

"Yeah we get lots of idiots contacting us swearing blind they're bi but wanting x y z mainly as a way of trying to get a solo meet with K.

Our profile is very open as to our likes etc and we would expect the same as a minimum. Otherwise its delete, block and keep waiting as we're getting fed up of liars."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im straight and keep getting messages off gay guys all the time... and hardly any women. Is there something on my profile that says im into that or what???? Confused.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im straight and keep getting messages off gay guys all the time... and hardly any women. Is there something on my profile that says im into that or what???? Confused.com"

Well, you state on your profile that "your not going to beat around the bush". Seriously though. Maybe change your mail settings if it bugs you that much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And so im not aloud to have a bit of humour in my profile.... sorry for being human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The gayface look doesn't help either, it's confusing the gaydar on guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And so im not aloud to have a bit of humour in my profile.... sorry for being human"

Erm, my post was a bit of tongue in cheek mate! And not that cheek either. Lol. It was just a suggestion about the filters option. But you don't have to listen to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And so im not aloud to have a bit of humour in my profile.... sorry for being human

Erm, my post was a bit of tongue in cheek mate! And not that cheek either. Lol. It was just a suggestion about the filters option. But you don't have to listen to it."
. Apologies wrong end of the stick... haha bit like me i suppose

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