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By *entgardener OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells

Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of average guys on here who meet lots of people,and some good looking ones who dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's an average looking guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an average looking guy?"

Those who fall roughly in the middle of

'WOW!'

and

'URGH!'

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Lots of average guys on here who meet lots of people,and some good looking ones who dont."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

im average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an average looking guy?

Those who fall roughly in the middle of

'WOW!'

and

'URGH!'"

wonder what end of that scale i rate..lol

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By *beautifulpainCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"What's an average looking guy?"

I wish I knew. Maybe they don't exist at all. Maybe I just suspect that I am below average and I'm in denial about the existence of averageness

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

You're obsessed! You've got to let it go!

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By *entgardener OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells


"im average "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's an average looking guy?

Those who fall roughly in the middle of

'WOW!'

and

'URGH!'"

Oh the ones nobody notices!

I dunno then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think I might start handing out rose tinted specs prior to being able to view my profile though :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really. "

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

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By *entgardener OP   Man
over a year ago

Tunbridge wells


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

You're obsessed! You've got to let it go! "

All I seam to get is blokes checking me out an guys from Ireland an Scotland messaging me not soly into guys be nice to get a meet or even conversation with couples an singles

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

You're obsessed! You've got to let it go!

All I seam to get is blokes checking me out an guys from Ireland an Scotland messaging me not soly into guys be nice to get a meet or even conversation with couples an singles"

So set your filters so that single guys can't message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - life is life (ta da da da da - sorry - 90's german pop reference there!)

Oh - and pop back to your "sweingers" thread - it's gone really well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

You're obsessed! You've got to let it go!

All I seam to get is blokes checking me out an guys from Ireland an Scotland messaging me not soly into guys be nice to get a meet or even conversation with couples an singles"

thing is though, just because guys look at your profile, it dosent mean their "checking you out" for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh! "

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh! "

I think most people have something going for them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive."

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Being physically attractive to look at and being sexy can be two totally different things. Like I think David Beckham is an attractive guy, but I don't find him sexy. Yet there are other guys who may be less physically attractive, but a 100 times more sexy.

A friend told me the other day how hot he thinks Miley Cyrus is. I actually think she is repulsive.

It's all subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does. "

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either."

I'd say Tom Hanks would be a good example of a 'Mr Average', who manages to be attractive through his natural charm and charisma.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

A friend told me the other day how hot he thinks Miley Cyrus is. I actually think she is repulsive.

It's all subjective."

Nòooooooooooo!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either."

what it means is that regardless of how you look if you behave repulsively then you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being physically attractive to look at and being sexy can be two totally different things. Like I think David Beckham is an attractive guy, but I don't find him sexy. Yet there are other guys who may be less physically attractive, but a 100 times more sexy.

A friend told me the other day how hot he thinks Miley Cyrus is. I actually think she is repulsive.

It's all subjective."

A friend told me the other day that he had a thing for Rihanna

I told him to keep his grubby little hands off my woman!

But Oli - you're right - an attractive profile pic does not an attractive person make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either.

I'd say Tom Hanks would be a good example of a 'Mr Average', who manages to be attractive through his natural charm and charisma."

But doesn't that make him overall 'above average'.

Well above I'd say if you throw in his talent - and a few other attributes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either.

what it means is that regardless of how you look if you behave repulsively then you are."

I meant the 'life is like a box of chocolates' quote

But yes I agree. Except that some people are assisted by their attractive qualities and so may not be considered quite as repulsive as somebody less attractive displaying equally repulsive behaviour.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

These forums have almost descended entirely into a series of "look at me" and "woe is me" threads by single guys, its mental almost every thread you open is some sort of extended whine about not getting meets or even worse a "help me improve my profile" post which is a less desperate "why cant I get any meets".

If the common problem in getting meets is you then you are the problem.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive.

for me repulsive is as repulsive does.

That reminds me of the Forest Gump quote. I never really got that either.

what it means is that regardless of how you look if you behave repulsively then you are.

I meant the 'life is like a box of chocolates' quote

But yes I agree. Except that some people are assisted by their attractive qualities and so may not be considered quite as repulsive as somebody less attractive displaying equally repulsive behaviour."

oh right

I agree if you look like Quasimodo and behave like the Kray twins less kindhearted brother then you got nothing going for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say Tom Hanks would be a good example of a 'Mr Average', who manages to be attractive through his natural charm and charisma.

But doesn't that make him overall 'above average'.

Well above I'd say if you throw in his talent - and a few other attributes!"

It does indeed make him 'above average'. My point is that even though I doubt many women would rank Tom Hanks as the number one guy they'd love to dive between the sheets with, I'd imagine that even if he wasn't rich and famous, a man with his attributes would have no problem approaching most women and engaging their attention at a social gathering, perhaps not in a 'phwoar what a hunk!' but that's not the only way to be considered attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say Tom Hanks would be a good example of a 'Mr Average', who manages to be attractive through his natural charm and charisma.

But doesn't that make him overall 'above average'.

Well above I'd say if you throw in his talent - and a few other attributes!

It does indeed make him 'above average'. My point is that even though I doubt many women would rank Tom Hanks as the number one guy they'd love to dive between the sheets with, I'd imagine that even if he wasn't rich and famous, a man with his attributes would have no problem approaching most women and engaging their attention at a social gathering, perhaps not in a 'phwoar what a hunk!' but that's not the only way to be considered attractive."

And on the flip side every man had a little grin and a sigh of relief when they first heard Beckham talk

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

It depends, Mr perfect might be the guy that is average looking but knows how to take a good pic for his profile, his profile reads humorous and articulate, he seems laid back, and fun, so becomes Mr Perfect, as opposed to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

After reading your profile I am not sure it's just your looks stopping you getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

It depends, Mr perfect might be the guy that is average looking but knows how to take a good pic for his profile, his profile reads humorous and articulate, he seems laid back, and fun, so becomes Mr Perfect, as opposed to..."

...Mr PREFECT, who pursues a career in Latin politics.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

After reading your profile I am not sure it's just your looks stopping you getting meets "

wow what a beautiful eye

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

You're obsessed! You've got to let it go! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say Tom Hanks would be a good example of a 'Mr Average', who manages to be attractive through his natural charm and charisma.

But doesn't that make him overall 'above average'.

Well above I'd say if you throw in his talent - and a few other attributes!

It does indeed make him 'above average'. My point is that even though I doubt many women would rank Tom Hanks as the number one guy they'd love to dive between the sheets with, I'd imagine that even if he wasn't rich and famous, a man with his attributes would have no problem approaching most women and engaging their attention at a social gathering, perhaps not in a 'phwoar what a hunk!' but that's not the only way to be considered attractive."

Good point! Hence my advice to guys asking the question about how to improve their chances of getting to know other site members is always to attend socials.

The problem seems to arise when they come up with a million reasons why clubs/socials aren't for them - which usually goes hand in hand with a reason they don't want to encounter others face to face - such as the odd fib on their profiles or the fact they've been around before and been somewhat different to their online persona!

There's nothing wrong with average - it's the folk that claim to be otherwise that seem reluctant to evidence their 'non-averageness' in person you have to worry about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only met average guys, but my idea of what is average may well not be the same as yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they don't want to encounter others face to face - such as the odd fib on their profiles or the fact they've been around before and been somewhat different to their online persona!"

Seems rather self-defeating that a swinger wouldn't want to meet others face to face, I doubt they'd be able to do much actual swinging with that approach. As for the 'online personas' part, if I ever thought I was chatting to someone who may not be as they seem, I'd simply read their verifications and draw my own conclusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am bi sexual but can play straight" - what does that actually mean OP???

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


""I am bi sexual but can play straight" - what does that actually mean OP???"

It means that a single (guy or girl) can go into a couple and play straight. As in only play with the opposite sex. So as a bi guy he is happy to go into a MMF with a couple but not play with the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really.

and one womans average is anothers ugh!

But one womans 'WOW!' probably won't fall much lower than anothers average - for example, whilst say, Gerard Butler won't be every womans first choice, I doubt many at all would say he's repulsive."

he would be my first choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they don't want to encounter others face to face - such as the odd fib on their profiles or the fact they've been around before and been somewhat different to their online persona!

Seems rather self-defeating that a swinger wouldn't want to meet others face to face, I doubt they'd be able to do much actual swinging with that approach. As for the 'online personas' part, if I ever thought I was chatting to someone who may not be as they seem, I'd simply read their verifications and draw my own conclusions."

Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking. People will be discreet, as is expected.

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One womans average is anothers good looking so its not quantifiable really. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - life is life (ta da da da da - sorry - 90's german pop reference there!)

Oh - and pop back to your "sweingers" thread - it's gone really well! "

I missed all the fun being at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

Something in the damn water today . Glad I'm now drinking whine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being physically attractive to look at and being sexy can be two totally different things. Like I think David Beckham is an attractive guy, but I don't find him sexy. Yet there are other guys who may be less physically attractive, but a 100 times more sexy.

A friend told me the other day how hot he thinks Miley Cyrus is. I actually think she is repulsive.

It's all subjective."

I concur listening tiomiley cyrus being interviewed ..needs a proctocologist to ressurrect herself from her own sphincter aesthetically pleasing but in my opinion unattractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

Something in the damn water today . Glad I'm now drinking whine "

Wine be damned! Hit the JD hours ago!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I am bi sexual but can play straight" - what does that actually mean OP???"

it means he don't feel the need to shag every man he comes into contact with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more to a book than just the cover.

However, when the content of the book is just as dire or even worse then the cover, then it will be left on the shelf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

Something in the damn water today . Glad I'm now drinking whine

Wine be damned! Hit the JD hours ago! "

The whiners have driven you to it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is more to a book than just the cover.

However, when the content of the book is just as dire or even worse then the cover, then it will be left on the shelf.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

Something in the damn water today . Glad I'm now drinking whine

Wine be damned! Hit the JD hours ago!

The whiners have driven you to it? "

No driving required! Just a few previous posts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking."

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!


"But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise! "

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

Something in the damn water today . Glad I'm now drinking whine

Wine be damned! Hit the JD hours ago!

The whiners have driven you to it?

No driving required! Just a few previous posts! "

Reading them through JD glasses helps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic "

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round! "

Well there is that, but of course, if this person is having ten bad meets for every good one, I'd imagine they'd have hung up their swinging shoes long ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round!

Well there is that, but of course, if this person is having ten bad meets for every good one, I'd imagine they'd have hung up their swinging shoes long ago "

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh the penny's dropped, one is not a swinger until wearing the official footwear . Jimmy choos or Clarks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round!

Well there is that, but of course, if this person is having ten bad meets for every good one, I'd imagine they'd have hung up their swinging shoes long ago "

Or just left an created a whole new persona!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round!

Well there is that, but of course, if this person is having ten bad meets for every good one, I'd imagine they'd have hung up their swinging shoes long ago

Or just left an created a whole new persona! "

That they'd no doubt have great trouble maintaining if it was all just an act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cup of tea anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

Oh fuck yes!! Sort it and stop moaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very sound advice! And the joy of Fab is that you will always meet people who've met other people. Any internet based contact site is just like real life networking.

And just like real life networking, its important to remember that a persons opinion of another will often be coloured by personal bias, hence why I will always take the opinion of 10 people on a given subject/person to be of substantially greater value than the opinion singular individual, to ensure a better degree of fairness and objectivity!

But when they experience a situation that has made them feel uncomfortable, shocked or downright freaked out - then it's not beyond natural instinct and behaviour for that information to be shared. Such is life. We will always be a species that complains more than we praise. And veri's will always be praise!

And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic

That works!

Unless the numbers are the other way round!

Well there is that, but of course, if this person is having ten bad meets for every good one, I'd imagine they'd have hung up their swinging shoes long ago

Or just left an created a whole new persona!

That they'd no doubt have great trouble maintaining if it was all just an act "

Oh I don't know!

In the years I've been on multiple sites I've come across people that have had almost 'split personalities' across them - profiles contradicting eachother, jumping ship due to negative feedback - and even those rejoining websites under new identities after previously being banned from the same sites!

The one constant I've found is that those that do such things will always come a cropper in the end.

Average - or apparently 'awesome'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And, as praise has to be earned, rather like the above, if 10 people are offering up praise and one person is offering up criticism, then I would deduce that the person doing the criticising was the problem, as opposed to the person being criticised - such is logic "

Perhaps misdirected, but in case of the OP who has major problems getting a meet - when many forumites go out of their way to be sympathetic and offer sincere advice, and one cuts through the crap and tells them to stop whinging and start listening, I have much sympathy for the crapcutter/-cutteuse.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

If you put even half the effort you spend complaining about your lack of success into getting meets you'd be one of the most successful guys on here.

Your looks MAY be a drawback but plenty of other average guys do very well on here. What do they do differently to you? Give it some thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

I think average guys are more successful on here than the "mr perfects" that you mention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - life is life (ta da da da da - sorry - 90's german pop reference there!)

Oh - and pop back to your "sweingers" thread - it's gone really well! "

that is a shocking reference!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

I don't want to sound patronizing but your reading to much into looks and bodies as to why you not getting the number of meets you would like .

The reality is supply and demand ..... the demand is high on these kinds of sites from the guys for single women or couples for fun.

The supply of single women or couples is outstripped by the demand which means someone somewhere has to miss out.

If it was a 50 / 50 split between supply and demand there would be plenty to go around sadly that is not the case .

So its a case of hanging in there and hoping for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just physical appearance that limits how attractive people are.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there "

One persons average is another persons hot.

One persons hot is anothers 'oh no'.

Not just looks that can make someone attractive / sexy!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


""I am bi sexual but can play straight" - what does that actually mean OP???"

That they are perfectly capable of playing next to the same sex without feeling the need to jump their bones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here here

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

OP seems to have a habit of having a whinge then not going back to his threads.

Speaking truthfully, if your looks and personality still hadn't put me off, your choice of newspaper would have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Average looking guys do we get the response as the mr perfect guys out there

Oh fuck yes!! Sort it and stop moaning "

How do you know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worried about reading the responses me thinks.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

The average Man doesn t think he is,,

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham

I class myself as average in looks and maybe a wee bit smaller than average (going by pics on here) penis wise, but I must say I have met lots of people from this site, and can see me meeting many more. So in answer to your question OP, yes I think we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been called many things over the years BUT average has never been one of them lol

(disclaimer - altho I'm definitely average in the trouser snake dept! )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP seems to have a habit of having a whinge then not going back to his threads.

Speaking truthfully, if your looks and personality still hadn't put me off, your choice of newspaper would have."

I had to look at the paper ok ok

OP you might want to rethink the cock oozing cum pic. That really is off putting to me. But yes defining average looks is very subjective as others have stated. My idea of average though - I have met lots of average looking guys and they've pretty much all been fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody's fucking average!..

..oh that's the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody's fucking average!..

..oh that's the problem "

Some may aspire to be average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody's fucking average!..

..oh that's the problem

Some may aspire to be average"

I think that's a good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody's fucking average!..

..oh that's the problem

Some may aspire to be average"

That's desperation not aspiration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody's fucking average!..

..oh that's the problem

Some may aspire to be average

That's desperation not aspiration"

And I thought I was being catty

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
20 weeks ago

South West London

80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

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By *ptimusFineMan
20 weeks ago

Bristol

It's more of an age filter thing. I've met a some very attractive people on here over the years, but after some time away I'm finding that there are way less people (certainly less genuine people) interested in talking and I'm either too old or too young for them.

I'm 48 and my last play partner(s) were 24 and 27 (simultaneously), and both were very attractive (to me at least). I met them elsewhere.

Also, perfect in what way? A good body doesn't mean they aren't a nasty, narcissistic piece of shit. To be fair, that appears to be a lot of women's Kryptonite...

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By *oxy jWoman
20 weeks ago

taunton somerset

im only sexually attracted to whom im sexually attracted too to me that means they are hot to others they will be ugly / average / hot i dont know i only know what i like ...

however what i can tell you is moaning is a massive turn off for most women

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that "

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there.

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By *ickie76XXXMan
20 weeks ago

dartford


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there."

lol. Good point. Could be considered a bit “mean” lol.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there.

lol. Good point. Could be considered a bit “mean” lol. "

... why is it mean? It's just maths.

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By *ickie76XXXMan
20 weeks ago

dartford


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there.

lol. Good point. Could be considered a bit “mean” lol.

... why is it mean? It's just maths."

I meant “mean value” as in the average lol. It was a maths related joke.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there.

lol. Good point. Could be considered a bit “mean” lol.

... why is it mean? It's just maths.

I meant “mean value” as in the average lol. It was a maths related joke. "

Oh.

Facepalm.

I'm sick today. Cut me some slack 💜

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By *avidbanksMan
20 weeks ago

leeds

The world

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By *ickie76XXXMan
20 weeks ago

dartford


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there.

lol. Good point. Could be considered a bit “mean” lol.

... why is it mean? It's just maths.

I meant “mean value” as in the average lol. It was a maths related joke.

Oh.

Facepalm.

I'm sick today. Cut me some slack 💜"

That’s fair enough. I will put 50% down to you being unwell. 50% down to my jokes don’t translate well in the written word and the other 30% down to me being 25% average.

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By *ucka39Man
20 weeks ago

Newcastle

I'm borderline average somewhere but over average somewhere else 😂

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
20 weeks ago

South West London


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there."

No its 80%, most women are actually not attracted to most men on a physical perspective and that's not me making it up from my opinion, it's facts and you can look up as there's studies about this

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By *ickie76XXXMan
20 weeks ago

dartford


"I'm borderline average somewhere but over average somewhere else 😂 "

Don’t feel bad as exactly roughly 96.78664% of men think the same

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
20 weeks ago

South West London

Well take Fab for example, most women in here are definitely not attracted to most men on the site. The amount of messages women get from men on here I'm sure most of you women ignore them

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there. No its 80%, most women are actually not attracted to most men on a physical perspective and that's not me making it up from my opinion, it's facts and you can look up as there's studies about this"

Mathematically 50% is the average mark.

If women aren't interested in 80%, that means 60% of above average men also don't get a look in. But that doesn't mean they're average or below.

Most people aren't attracted to most people.

Men swiping right on everyone because they'll fuck anything with tits is where the data gets skewed.

If I meet 100 people in the wild, I'm not likely to be attracted to more than 2 of them, if any at all. That means 98% are no good to me 💜

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
20 weeks ago

South West London


"80% of men are average looking, nothing wrong with that

Surely it's 50% of men are average looking or below.

I'm not sure on your maths there. No its 80%, most women are actually not attracted to most men on a physical perspective and that's not me making it up from my opinion, it's facts and you can look up as there's studies about this

Mathematically 50% is the average mark.

If women aren't interested in 80%, that means 60% of above average men also don't get a look in. But that doesn't mean they're average or below.

Most people aren't attracted to most people.

Men swiping right on everyone because they'll fuck anything with tits is where the data gets skewed.

If I meet 100 people in the wild, I'm not likely to be attracted to more than 2 of them, if any at all. That means 98% are no good to me 💜"

Exactly because most women want the 20% of the men that they want but have to compete for

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
20 weeks ago

South West London

Also which people don't want to believe but only like 40% of men in the world are having sex with 80% of the women

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Exactly because most women want the 20% of the men that they want but have to compete for"

Most women want a man they're attracted to?

Stuck up bitches huh 💜

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