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How do you reply to messages that just say hi or hello?

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't, delete and block instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore them,the reason I ignore them is because you can hardly respond with a thanks but no thanks when all they have done is say hi how are you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends if they prick our interest.

if so we say hi back, if not then just delete.

conversations dont usually last very long anyway, so not much time to waste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete as ive wrote about tht on my profile...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I dont...

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Sometimes delete and move on sometimes just reply with the same word... Often you never hear from them again...lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I ignore, nothing to reply back with.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

i do love random friend invites from folks i have never even spoken to they make me want to meet them so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you reply to messages that just say hi or hello?

Goodbye??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"depends if they prick our interest.

if so we say hi back, if not then just delete.

conversations dont usually last very long anyway, so not much time to waste"

Refreshingly gown up approach

Irrespective of whether its a one liner, txt speak or War and Peace we ALWAYS check the profile before making any snap judgements.

Its proved to be a wise approach as we have met some lovely people courtesy of winks and one liners

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I ignore them,the reason I ignore them is because you can hardly respond with a thanks but no thanks when all they have done is say hi how are you"

^^^^This!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

Straight in the bin. Not even worth opening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know normally I don't bother either but I met one guy and that was his first message! Mind he attached a very sexy face pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they attach a face pic then yes, means they have read profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

If I don my sarcastic head then they get a sarcastic reply (that normally pertains to them having something in their profile which my profile would have ruled them out from contacting me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say hi back if they pique our interest. Wish a little more effort was put in though. When we message we don't go mad just a paragraph or so.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield, centralish

Depends what mood I am in. Sometimes delete sometimes reply with the same, hi or hello. Then itll be 'how are you' and I'll reply 'ok thanks. You? ' tends to be a conversation killer lol.

Had one yesterday asking what I am doing next week. Am I really meant to share my diary? and I'm sure he didn't really want to know. Think before you ask!

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

just reply "hello" and see what happens,we feel any email is just an ice breaker and not to respond could mean not meeting somebody who may be short on words but long on fun!

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield, centralish


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want."

If they are too shy to send more than the word 'hi' when sat behind a keyboard, I doubt they will be up to much when it comes to the bedroom gymnastics.

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By *lare GTV/TS
over a year ago

South of Sleaford

If someone sends a message with "Hello how are you (or more often 'hi how r u')" I now respond with "normal I hope".

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want.

If they are too shy to send more than the word 'hi' when sat behind a keyboard, I doubt they will be up to much when it comes to the bedroom gymnastics."

That's quite an assumption, personally i'm not shy in the slightest but i've met people who have been who've been absolute devils in real life, they're just nervous of rejection.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

Huddersfield, centralish


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want.

If they are too shy to send more than the word 'hi' when sat behind a keyboard, I doubt they will be up to much when it comes to the bedroom gymnastics.

That's quite an assumption, personally i'm not shy in the slightest but i've met people who have been who've been absolute devils in real life, they're just nervous of rejection."

Yes it is an assumption but I'm here for fun, not to coax people out of their shell.

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want.

If they are too shy to send more than the word 'hi' when sat behind a keyboard, I doubt they will be up to much when it comes to the bedroom gymnastics.

That's quite an assumption, personally i'm not shy in the slightest but i've met people who have been who've been absolute devils in real life, they're just nervous of rejection.

Yes it is an assumption but I'm here for fun, not to coax people out of their shell."

Fair enough, each to their own and all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but I delete

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

The response to a simple "Hi" from a single female is determined by your gender and whether you are single.

The overwhelming majority of single male profiles would respond positively. Yes, I know some of you guys have said you wouldn't and others will say the same but that only means your in the small minority.

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"depends if they prick our interest.

if so we say hi back, if not then just delete.

conversations dont usually last very long anyway, so not much time to waste"

I check their profiles out, then consider responding with a 'hi' back to them and maybe a wink if i like the look of them...

I do think it's extremely lazy to just say hi though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally i'll delete.

There have been occasions when I've been bored and decided to see how long I can keep up a game of 'few word message ping pong'.

Along the lines of:

"Hi"

"Hi"

"How are you?"

"Great, you?"

"Fine"

"Cool"

Then i'll usually fall asleep!

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I reply hia and wait and see what next mail brings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I alwais reply back with "Hi, thanks for your message, fancy a shag this week" lol x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even better than the 'hi' messages are the "How are you?" ones!

It's great fun replying with an essay about the week you've had, the shit your boss has given you, the frustration that you just can't shift those irritating bum grapes, todays shopping list, the long phone call you had with your long lost aunt and the fact that there's a dodgy smell coming from next door and you're worried that it's either a full blown crack den, an amateur taxidermist practicing on the neighbourhood cats or a gruesome undiscovered murder scene.

I usually don't get replies after such responses!

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By *ubybabyCouple
over a year ago

lincoln ish

goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will normally have a look at their profile, if they sound ok, then I ight reply with "Hi", if not then I usually ignore, but if it's a 1 liner, "Hi how are you? " then I wil sometimes give a reply with a ditty about my life and the day to day crap. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like your style OP, bit of market research to find out who will bother to reply?!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I might put on my profile... Can anyone who messages me please you more than 10 words or I will not bother answering you :p

Ladies and couples have to use 20

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

I don't reply to those type messages as no effort in a hi or hello at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't waste your time! the person is probably very boring if he finds difficulty composing an e-mail introducing himself, and expressing his interest in a polite and interesting way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

any point of contact is welcome, I dont see it being lazy etc etc, I'll jump to conversation if I can soon...then aim to get a shag, simple as

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle

I look at their profile and if I have an interest I say hi back.

If I don't have an interest I say ..... no thanks ...

Mind you ..... im arsey with the ones that say ..... I just wanted to say hi ....

I don't reply. Im thinking..... well you achieved that much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want."

Absolutely brilliant answer!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

depends, we try and respond to every message but when we are busy the "hi how are you" and "nice tits" will easily fall to the bottom of the priority list over people who have formulated a decent interesting message.

You get out what you put in, so to speak

Ruby x

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

But there's a few people that can write a longish message (I'm going by other topics) and they get deleted. What incentive have they to write a decent message?

Didn't fab (or was it their earlier sites, cottaging and dogging) used to have a thing that said "nn% messages answered"?, or something like that?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

No we don't reply to messages that are only a couple of words. Doesn't matter if they are from single men, women or couples!

Does say in our profile that we will just delete these type of messages. Yet probably half of our messages are along the lines of 'Wanna chat?' or 'Hi, How are you?' To us that just goes to show they haven't bothered to read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"depends if they prick our interest.

if so we say hi back, if not then just delete.

conversations dont usually last very long anyway, so not much time to waste

Refreshingly gown up approach

Irrespective of whether its a one liner, txt speak or War and Peace we ALWAYS check the profile before making any snap judgements.

Its proved to be a wise approach as we have met some lovely people courtesy of winks and one liners "

we like the wink system, especially if they are followed up.

hate being winked, winking back and thats the last you hear of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want."

its very easy to sit there and say you reply to every message, even those you dont fancy, when you get maybe 2 or 3 a day, but when you are getting dozens, then its just not possible.

people dont have all day to spare writing 'thanks but no thanks' then dealing with the 'why not?' messages that follow, so branding people rude or egotistical is rather wide of the mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion,worse than the 'Hi how are you's?' are the 'What you looking for?.Its blood obvious if you read my profile!!

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By *j188Couple
over a year ago

aberdeenshire


"I don't, delete and block instead. "

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me


"I normally try and answer every message i get, even if it's not from someone i'm interested in.

It's just being polite really and remembering that at the end of the day there's a person behind each message.

I do find this place has the potential to turn some people into absolute monsters/ego maniacs.

Blocking people for saying hi, as an example, what if that person's shy?

But then i tend to think i have a good grounding in who am without being arrogant and have the confidence to know what i want.

its very easy to sit there and say you reply to every message, even those you dont fancy, when you get maybe 2 or 3 a day, but when you are getting dozens, then its just not possible.

people dont have all day to spare writing 'thanks but no thanks' then dealing with the 'why not?' messages that follow, so branding people rude or egotistical is rather wide of the mark"

That's a very fair point, but often you'll see those that delete or disparage those that say hi are the ones who do come across as a arrogant.

Anyway i'm not into arguing on the internet, was just making a point i've seen, and would never tar all people with the same brush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

if I am attracted to them I just send a message back saying hi to you too, if I don't fancy them or they have no pics I don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Generally i'll delete.

There have been occasions when I've been bored and decided to see how long I can keep up a game of 'few word message ping pong'.

Along the lines of:

"Hi"

"Hi"

"How are you?"

"Great, you?"

"Fine"

"Cool"

Then i'll usually fall asleep! "

On another site I simply responded with exactly the same as he was composing. It took the dear about 4 or 5 messages to discover we were not having a conversation

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Yeah they are pretty dry.. I prefer someone with a personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think yourself lucky most of my messages just seem to contain "xxx"

Really confused one guy by sarcastically replying it was a good film vin diesels hot so he responded by ??? Not sure what u mean n blocked me lol

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"
The missus would block these instantly . . also obvious copy & paste messages.

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I think it was Michael Parkinsonwho said that the definition of a bore is someone who, when asked, "how are you?", actually tells you.

As a single straight guy, I obviously don't have this problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't, delete and block instead. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

just reply "hello" and see what happens,we feel any email is just an ice breaker and not to respond could mean not meeting somebody who may be short on words but long on fun!"

this is what I believe. I always say hi back to let the shyer ones know we are open to conversation.

if the next email is along the lines of "I want to....... what would you do to me if i was there?" then I delete ignore and possibly block lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really care whats in the first message - I look at the pics if I'm interested I'll message back and the conversation can start x I would rather hello than an Annoyingly long first message - also guys have to do all the leg work sending messages x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

"

Not aimed specifically at you but I do wonder how some of the folk posting on here get on in real life out there in the world on a daily basis.

Do you all simply turn your heads away and ignore the passer who occasionally says good morning?

Do you turn your heads away and ignore quick hi's etc from work mates during the course of the day?

Do you shun everyone you have a passing acquaintance with who politely says hi?

Probably not I would suggest so why the sudden sea change when engaging on a website such as this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to respond to every message except the downright rude or abusive ones those I just block, I will however respond with just one word answers if they have nothing interesting to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

Not aimed specifically at you but I do wonder how some of the folk posting on here get on in real life out there in the world on a daily basis.

Do you all simply turn your heads away and ignore the passer who occasionally says good morning?

Do you turn your heads away and ignore quick hi's etc from work mates during the course of the day?

Do you shun everyone you have a passing acquaintance with who politely says hi?

Probably not I would suggest so why the sudden sea change when engaging on a website such as this "

Okay get yourself a couple profile. Check and reply politely to all mail that you get. Come back in forums in a week and let us know what part of your life is now redundant because you are a Fab admin answering machine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

Not aimed specifically at you but I do wonder how some of the folk posting on here get on in real life out there in the world on a daily basis.

Do you all simply turn your heads away and ignore the passer who occasionally says good morning?

Do you turn your heads away and ignore quick hi's etc from work mates during the course of the day?

Do you shun everyone you have a passing acquaintance with who politely says hi?

Probably not I would suggest so why the sudden sea change when engaging on a website such as this

Okay get yourself a couple profile. Check and reply politely to all mail that you get. Come back in forums in a week and let us know what part of your life is now redundant because you are a Fab admin answering machine "

We have a couples profile. We politely reply to all emails that fit the bill, and to most that don't

Your point is?

Just spent several weeks in Spain where virtually everyone you see say Ola, thank the Lord we know how to politely interpret and reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

Send exactly the same back n put the onus on them again

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

Not aimed specifically at you but I do wonder how some of the folk posting on here get on in real life out there in the world on a daily basis.

Do you all simply turn your heads away and ignore the passer who occasionally says good morning?

Do you turn your heads away and ignore quick hi's etc from work mates during the course of the day?

Do you shun everyone you have a passing acquaintance with who politely says hi?

Probably not I would suggest so why the sudden sea change when engaging on a website such as this "

We get on in the real world just fine...

Course we don't ignore passers by or work colleagues, neighbours etc who say hi.

Don't think you can compare real life face to face meeting to a random message on a website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

I put on my profile that I won't respond to one liners. So I delete without replying. If they can't be bothered to say anything other than Hi or Hello then that is their loss.

Not aimed specifically at you but I do wonder how some of the folk posting on here get on in real life out there in the world on a daily basis.

Do you all simply turn your heads away and ignore the passer who occasionally says good morning?

Do you turn your heads away and ignore quick hi's etc from work mates during the course of the day?

Do you shun everyone you have a passing acquaintance with who politely says hi?

Probably not I would suggest so why the sudden sea change when engaging on a website such as this

Okay get yourself a couple profile. Check and reply politely to all mail that you get. Come back in forums in a week and let us know what part of your life is now redundant because you are a Fab admin answering machine

We have a couples profile. We politely reply to all emails that fit the bill, and to most that don't

Your point is?

Just spent several weeks in Spain where virtually everyone you see say Ola, thank the Lord we know how to politely interpret and reply "

So not answering all our messages makes us rude

I would think by spending half my life answering all the messages would mean I would have to ignore my family and my work in real life - that would be really rude !

I do answer a lot of messages, most in fact but it would be a fulltime job to answer all and I do have a life outside fab that needs my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So not answering all our messages makes us rude

I would think by spending half my life answering all the messages would mean I would have to ignore my family and my work in real life - that would be really rude !

I do answer a lot of messages, most in fact but it would be a fulltime job to answer all and I do have a life outside fab that needs my attention.

"

Tongue in cheek alert

With a hidden profile why would anyone message you at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So not answering all our messages makes us rude

I would think by spending half my life answering all the messages would mean I would have to ignore my family and my work in real life - that would be really rude !

I do answer a lot of messages, most in fact but it would be a fulltime job to answer all and I do have a life outside fab that needs my attention.

Tongue in cheek alert

With a hidden profile why would anyone message you at all? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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We get on in the real world just fine...

Course we don't ignore passers by or work colleagues, neighbours etc who say hi.

Don't think you can compare real life face to face meeting to a random message on a website."

No intention to be deliberately rude here just extending the debate

The passer by who you politely respond to is no more random or unknown than the polite Hi you receive on here.

I just wonder why folk will happily interact politely in person yet do the complete opposite when behind the comfort of a computer screen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So not answering all our messages makes us rude

I would think by spending half my life answering all the messages would mean I would have to ignore my family and my work in real life - that would be really rude !

I do answer a lot of messages, most in fact but it would be a fulltime job to answer all and I do have a life outside fab that needs my attention.

Tongue in cheek alert

With a hidden profile why would anyone message you at all?

"

The toughies are a real bastard to answer eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back to the OP. it's up to you to reply or not. It's your profile so do what you want with it. Let others do what they wish with theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

Maybe its to see if they have a response first then they get chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

Why not reply? ...why do people get so caught up in what people can or cant be bothered to do on here ..I think people's expectations are way too high on this site

Have a look at their profile if you like the look of it, then say 'hello' back.

If someone calls me up and says 'hello' before starting a conversation, I don't immediately hang up because they didn't have anything more profound to say on first contact...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

Why not reply? ...why do people get so caught up in what people can or cant be bothered to do on here ..I think people's expectations are way too high on this site

Have a look at their profile if you like the look of it, then say 'hello' back.

If someone calls me up and says 'hello' before starting a conversation, I don't immediately hang up because they didn't have anything more profound to say on first contact...

"

Very true. Couldn't have put it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

Why not reply? ...why do people get so caught up in what people can or cant be bothered to do on here ..I think people's expectations are way too high on this site

Have a look at their profile if you like the look of it, then say 'hello' back.

If someone calls me up and says 'hello' before starting a conversation, I don't immediately hang up because they didn't have anything more profound to say on first contact...

"

Brilliant

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I don't respond to hi but have the same problem with just getting a joke (my profile requests messages start with a joke). I've started just sending back "thanks for the joke" and leaving it in their court. If I send a message I include some sort of question to (hopefully) initiate a conversation. Can usually tell within half a dozen exchanges if we're likely to click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use your common sense ....what would you say if it was face to face ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't respond to hi but have the same problem with just getting a joke (my profile requests messages start with a joke). I've started just sending back "thanks for the joke" and leaving it in their court. If I send a message I include some sort of question to (hopefully) initiate a conversation. Can usually tell within half a dozen exchanges if we're likely to click"

Being polite here but do you check the profile of the sender of the polite Hi?

If it was a well crafted piece of prose, with interesting pictures, clearly provable veri's, completely fit the bill and really sparked an interest would you still simply delete based on the initial polite Hi?

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?

Why not reply? ...why do people get so caught up in what people can or cant be bothered to do on here ..I think people's expectations are way too high on this site

Have a look at their profile if you like the look of it, then say 'hello' back.

If someone calls me up and says 'hello' before starting a conversation, I don't immediately hang up because they didn't have anything more profound to say on first contact...

"

I've tried it, it's been crap

Hi

Hi

How are you

Good ta, you

Good

Zzzzzzzz

Ive even tried saying what I'd done that evening and asking what they've been up to

Good ta, been out for a drink with my friend, what you been up to?

Nowt much

Also, don't agree with your phone analogy, a phone conversation is very different to an email exchange and I would hang up if someone I didn't know just said Hi when I picked up the phone and waited for me to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, it's painful but then again I've had it the other way where the profile says please write something more than hi so you do and they don't even bother replying, not even a No!

It's your choice, depends on what you are ideally after?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I don't. Usually bin them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit like boring posts in threads. There are just some that don't warrant a reply, especially from posters who admit their behaviour is exactly the same as other posters they then try to chastise

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"I don't respond to hi but have the same problem with just getting a joke (my profile requests messages start with a joke). I've started just sending back "thanks for the joke" and leaving it in their court. If I send a message I include some sort of question to (hopefully) initiate a conversation. Can usually tell within half a dozen exchanges if we're likely to click

Being polite here but do you check the profile of the sender of the polite Hi?

If it was a well crafted piece of prose, with interesting pictures, clearly provable veri's, completely fit the bill and really sparked an interest would you still simply delete based on the initial polite Hi?"

Yes I would, it proves however well crafted they haven't read my profile (although on occasion I haven't blocked if I thought the profile was good) The one time I relaxed my normal rule because I liked the look of the pix I replied asking the person to have a read of my profile he responded by saying he wasn't gonna read War n Peace to get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I answer every message hence it mite take 12hr to get a reply when I have responded to the hi lol so if they get bored waiting no problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pet hate is 'what u up to' I don't reply I'm sat on my phat arse having cuppa and fag replying to messages tho,cuz I'm hardly having a rampant sex session while sat on ere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I answer every message hence it mite take 12hr to get a reply when I have responded to the hi lol so if they get bored waiting no problem x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In essence I find it all a lot of flim n flam. Surely it depends on volume received, time available, inclination of the moment, or if you remain so entrenched in the initial decision of how you respond to 'hi' that NOTHING moves your goalposts!

Sometimes maybe we could consider the sender is a bit shy n not confident how to open communication - they coulda sent a wink but decided that was even more impersonal so they are taking a first tentative step. Not everyone comes through as a raging bull!

They maybe really lovely people u were glad u met if you followed through. I appreciate women are gonna say ' I've had X number n can't b wasting time on those that appear not to have made a big effort ' which I guess is understandable.

I don't get mail in that sort of volume being a guy so I generally respond to 'hi' with 'hi '

Each to their own I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few. "

To a hidden profile, outstanding achievement

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I answer every message hence it mite take 12hr to get a reply when I have responded to the hi lol so if they get bored waiting no problem x

"

But you are a single women, the most sought after on here and you must get 100's of messages each and every day so how on earth can you possibly find time in the day to reply to all your messages

All tongue in cheek miss xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few.

To a hidden profile, outstanding achievement "

Amazing isn't it. One question to you - how do YOU know it's hidden?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"

We get on in the real world just fine...

Course we don't ignore passers by or work colleagues, neighbours etc who say hi.

Don't think you can compare real life face to face meeting to a random message on a website.

No intention to be deliberately rude here just extending the debate

The passer by who you politely respond to is no more random or unknown than the polite Hi you receive on here.

I just wonder why folk will happily interact politely in person yet do the complete opposite when behind the comfort of a computer screen?"

It clearly states on our profile we don't respond to one liners (regardless of their sex) So we use it as a kind of filtering system because to us they obviously haven't bothered to read our profile or simply choose to ignore it. That to us is not being polite!

I don't believe the whole they could be shy comments. Both of us are actually pretty shy but if you are brave enough to message in the first place. It's not difficult to make a bit of an effort and a stab at starting a conversation. It has got more chance of being replied to than simply hi.

We reply to all messages where someone has made an effort, whether we are interested in getting to know them or not.

Our mail volume is not very high at all as we use our filters. So it's not that we don't have time to reply just that we choose not to. We work on the basis, you make an effort and so will we.

The passer by is simply that a passer by. They are not looking to get into a conversation with me (very very rarely)

It works for us...just as replying to hi messages might work for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I feel like being mischievous, I would reply "Goodbye" to a "Hello" message before blocking.

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

I don't reply, just usually delete. Don't think I have blocked anyone yet though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few.

To a hidden profile, outstanding achievement

Amazing isn't it. One question to you - how do YOU know it's hidden?"

I know it's hidden cos I looked if that's any help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't, delete and block instead. "

delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few.

To a hidden profile, outstanding achievement

Amazing isn't it. One question to you - how do YOU know it's hidden?

I know it's hidden cos I looked if that's any help "

I'm Spartacus - cos I looked too can't remember reasons why now

oh yes cos they looked at me during 'Hitler' thread lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't, delete and block instead. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far this morning received 60 new messages. Replied to 54. I think that's quite a few.

To a hidden profile, outstanding achievement

Amazing isn't it. One question to you - how do YOU know it's hidden?

I know it's hidden cos I looked if that's any help "

Not just us then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to? The missus would block these instantly . . also obvious copy & paste messages."

Lol my female friend on here had a lovely message from a guy, only problem was that the opening greeting referred to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If im interested, ill reply. If not, delete. Then again, not had many lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes delete and move on sometimes just reply with the same word... Often you never hear from them again...lol"

this

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"Ive had a few messages from people who have just had the words hi or hello in them and nothing else. Do you bother to reply to these or do you think if someone can't be arsed to write more than a word they are not worth replying to?"

I delete messages like that.

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