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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My fella and I are both quite shy. When we meet couples at ours or theirs were never sure how or when to get things started. Our problem is were not sure if the other couple like us or not. Apart from the obvious spin the bottle..Any ideas? Thanks. P&D xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't all rush lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you not draw on your prior experience you have clearly had some meets already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same thing happens even in clubs !

For many it requires enough alcohol to offset the nerves . Somewhat frustrating for us as we don't drink !!!

The best bet is to try and make eye contact and use your instinct to ascertain when the time is right .

Think beforehand about the seating arrangement - make it easy to get things to happen .

Be brave , if it doesn't work out you never need see them again !

Too much chit chat can make it harder to get it started .

Hope this helps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We usually end up chatting for hours before it happens. Or spin the bottle. Would like ideas on how to start things x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We talk waaay too much lol x

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Same has happened to us. Even to the point of having a shorter playtime because of it.

Now mrs P tends to say some thing along the lines of 'I've been sitting here dying to find out what you kiss like, can I find out?'.

Seems to have worked so far

Sometimes you just have to jump in.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Mrs.........Take control

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a great idea. Well have to give it a go. We've sat for 4 or 5 hours cos were not confident enough xx

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

For us, up to this point. It's always been lead by the girls lol.

Lol you sound like us until we decided to do something about it.

The ironic thing is that everytime we had it happen to us we had all been sitting there thinking the same thing! I always assumed most go through it when they first start out and it improves with experience. Well that's my theory anyway lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha that's spot on. I'm going to grow a pair of balls and go for it. X

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Mrs.........Take control "

No fair! Hiding profiles from the lonely masses lol. We need to 'research' don't you know.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"Haha that's spot on. I'm going to grow a pair of balls and go for it. X"

That'll add to the experience... Might surprise some though lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Surprises are good x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well u could meet for a drink or a meal first before anything else to see if u click.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I organise and host a lot of Gbs, now if you leave it to the people there they'll talk about the weather / football all night. I'll usually say to the woman or one of them, do you mind if I start the play and usually lead her though to the bedroom. Next thing you know people are naked and fucking. Just remember guys, take your socks off

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