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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being paid peanuts does rather limit one's options.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days."

Haha,,,thanks,,,made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days."

Decent stockings are a nightmare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to stick local so there's our place or theirs.. Cheap as chips

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Heck yeah. I would love to go to new paradise tonight but I have nothing to wear and fuel is so dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being paid peanuts does rather limit one's options."

Especially coupled with single guy entry fees at clubs (which I'm not complaining about, btw, I understand the reasons. I'm just saying...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it can be expensive, depending on type of meet it can mean hotel expenses and if we are wanting to stay over we pay for it.

Last w/e we went to a club Friday and stayed at a hotel & on Sunday a hotel booked by us and because we wanted to stay over we didn't ask for any costs to be covered.

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

I think it is like many things in life, you control how expensive or how much you spend.

As a single lady I dont pay much to get into clubs, however, I paid for my babysitter to go on holiday to Tenerife already this year . Between her covering the hours the nursery is closed and me going out socially, she earned more than I did last month.

Should I decide to go out, stay out and drink, on top of petrol, babysitting fees and club entry. Yes swinging could be very expensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days."

I haven't even considered the cost of my clothing and seem to go through a pair of stockings each time and at £8 - £10 a go, not good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Sunday before though probably cost us £20, so it is swings and roundabouts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we meet on the boat its free or here at home and if we go clubbing pay for hotel but its a night out for us not just swinging .. its don't have to cost a lot if you can meet at your own place .. maybe just the cost of petrol .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days.

I haven't even considered the cost of my clothing and seem to go through a pair of stockings each time and at £8 - £10 a go, not good! "

OMG I thought 2.99 for a six pack was bad enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find it that expensive. If I go to a club by myself it's normally free entry or a fiver.. take my own drink at maybe 3quid.. petrol to get there too...

I don't normally specifically buy underwear for swinging. I normally buy it for everyday use too.

I'm not sure it's much cheaper when I go with my friend to clubs.. as I normally pay fuel and buy his beer.. as he pays entry and any softdrinks I may have...

I haven't as yet ever paid for a hotel for a night at a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it."

Wow, more than us then. I guess we could stop in cheaper hotels but neither of us like slumming it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days.

I haven't even considered the cost of my clothing and seem to go through a pair of stockings each time and at £8 - £10 a go, not good!

OMG I thought 2.99 for a six pack was bad enough! "

Had two suspender belts broken recently as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are lucky that we have 2 local clubs that we can drive too. And driving means we are on soft drinks so the costs are pretty minimal, far less than a night out in London and not much more than a meal out.

If we stay over and drink then it soon becomes way more expensive.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swinging, like everything in life can be as expensive, or as cheap as you want it,

Lots use money as an excuse,

Very often the unexpected meet is the best, behind poundland at midnight, a dab of lager behind your ears and men will Q up for a shag.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

We live out in the sticks as well but also find that we dont make enough time for ourselves to have some fun(our fault we know!) so we try to combine some time away together with some fun with others....best of both worlds and if you shop about you can get some good hotel/appt deals on the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it.

Wow, more than us then. I guess we could stop in cheaper hotels but neither of us like slumming it"

The hotel we normally use local to us costs £89 and it is lovely there. However on Sunday we has an executive suite. The hotel on Friday was £50, and just bog standard and basic.

We also prefer more expensive hotels

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"swinging, like everything in life can be as expensive, or as cheap as you want it,

Lots use money as an excuse,

Very often the unexpected meet is the best, behind poundland at midnight, a dab of lager behind your ears and men will Q up for a shag. "

Pahahahaha love it up here it's whisky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it can be expensive but comparable to what ??

A vanilla night out with friends = £100 -£150 easily.

A night out in London with hotel = £200 upwards.

A brilliant night out swinging and meeting amazing people and having fantastic sex ??

PRICELESS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've often commented that it's quite a reasonable hobby expense wise...we tend to meet at our place for fun or local parties which are either free or cheap...if we have fun in a hotel it tends to be when we're away with work anyway...we incorporate socials or meals out as part of our overall social life anyway and clothes are bought for our own enjoyment so don't tend to count them into the costs...so overall, wine, food, condoms and lube, all stuff we have anyway...occasional club as a treat...we're not skinflints by any means and have a good lifestyle, we just include our swinging activities as a part of that everyday lifestyle...

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

It is what you make I suppose. A lot say by using your own place or visiting someone els's is the cheapest option, which is it, but that doesnt account for whether you actually want strangers in your home or whether you feel comfortable going to somebody else's house.

I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it can add up as I don't drive and don't accommodate when I meet it means paying for taxi's/train's, hotels etc so it can add up yes, but then saying that there are a 3 big hotels within walking distance from me which a lot of people stay in for business so if anyone mails me saying they are staying there its just a case of get ready and a 5 min walk to a hotel that someone's company has paid for so can be cheap as well

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Luckily we have found a very good swinging club close to us .so it is easy to travel .or inexpensive to stay over night .we will just use hotels for swinging if we happen to be on. Hols or have one booked through work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take."

Which is why it has to be better being part of a couple, at least you have each other and that third person/other couple is merely a bonus.

I'm appreciative of any man who gets a hotel room because I am too chicken poop to go to his place of abode for a first meet, and I won't accommodate. I must say though, the men usually like my appreciation

hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend to stick local so there's our place or theirs.. Cheap as chips "

most expensive meet we have ever had was going out for a meal with someone.

dont see the point in staying in a hotel when we have an empty house.

just need to sort a spare bed then we can offer friends from far and wide to stay overnight and go home the next day.

can see how the costs would mount up with those that are always at clubs, or stay in hotels, absolutely, but these are people i would suggest had more money than they know what to do with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heck yeah. I would love to go to new paradise tonight but I have nothing to wear and fuel is so dear."

I've got fuel n ya don't need wear anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend to stick local so there's our place or theirs.. Cheap as chips

most expensive meet we have ever had was going out for a meal with someone.

dont see the point in staying in a hotel when we have an empty house.

just need to sort a spare bed then we can offer friends from far and wide to stay overnight and go home the next day.

can see how the costs would mount up with those that are always at clubs, or stay in hotels, absolutely, but these are people i would suggest had more money than they know what to do with"

Most expensive mine ever been was a trip to canada from dubai.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take.

Which is why it has to be better being part of a couple, at least you have each other and that third person/other couple is merely a bonus.

I'm appreciative of any man who gets a hotel room because I am too chicken poop to go to his place of abode for a first meet, and I won't accommodate. I must say though, the men usually like my appreciation

hehe"

No I completely disagree, it is not better to be part of a couple, we have fortunately only had one occasion where the hotel was booked and not used for what we intended.

£150 later, we would have just stayed at home, we arrange meets to actually meet people, not for a bonus and our time is limited let alone the expense.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Doesn't cost me a penny.

I meet during my lunch hour for a coffee (on them) and play meet at mine with coffee (on me).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take.

Which is why it has to be better being part of a couple, at least you have each other and that third person/other couple is merely a bonus.

I'm appreciative of any man who gets a hotel room because I am too chicken poop to go to his place of abode for a first meet, and I won't accommodate. I must say though, the men usually like my appreciation

hehe

No I completely disagree, it is not better to be part of a couple, we have fortunately only had one occasion where the hotel was booked and not used for what we intended.

£150 later, we would have just stayed at home, we arrange meets to actually meet people, not for a bonus and our time is limited let alone the expense.

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A man pays for a hotel room and gets a no show = a total fucked up evening.

A couple pay for a hotel and get a no show = a total fucked evening... really? When you still have each other and might as well make the most of a night away?

You still don't think a couple have a slight advantage over the single guy in this example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it can be expensive, depending on type of meet it can mean hotel expenses and if we are wanting to stay over we pay for it.

Last w/e we went to a club Friday and stayed at a hotel & on Sunday a hotel booked by us and because we wanted to stay over we didn't ask for any costs to be covered.

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it."

But we've started to calm down now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended) "

No it adds up pretty quickly.....with my last special friend I was having a hotel meet every three weeks .

Add to that drinks sometimes a meal and it soon adds up .

I work for myself have a small business I was doing a extra hours work a day 4 times a week to make the money up .

Those extra hours I'm not doing now as I don't have a fb on the go at the minute but as soon as I do I'll be back doing it .

Its a price worth paying for some extra exciting fun but means I'm very picky because of the cost in money and my time to earn the extra money .

Sorry if that makes me sound cold I'm not just a realist who would not give up his time for just any body I guess deep down we are all like that at heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take.

Which is why it has to be better being part of a couple, at least you have each other and that third person/other couple is merely a bonus.

I'm appreciative of any man who gets a hotel room because I am too chicken poop to go to his place of abode for a first meet, and I won't accommodate. I must say though, the men usually like my appreciation

hehe

No I completely disagree, it is not better to be part of a couple, we have fortunately only had one occasion where the hotel was booked and not used for what we intended.

£150 later, we would have just stayed at home, we arrange meets to actually meet people, not for a bonus and our time is limited let alone the expense.

A man pays for a hotel room and gets a no show = a total fucked up evening.

A couple pay for a hotel and get a no show = a total fucked evening... really? When you still have each other and might as well make the most of a night away?

You still don't think a couple have a slight advantage over the single guy in this example?"

IF we did a hotel meet, it would be because we had already booked the hotel, that way, as you say, no loss, no harm.

and yes, we always have a good time, whether with others or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it doesn't cost much .... either I go to bmfc at Arousals which is £5 entry, £1 for your coat and take your own drink, and as it's only 30 mins drive for me, fuel cost isn't a problem either.

Jaydees club even better - free for single fems, £1 for the bar person, take your own drink and again it's only 40 mins drive for me, but I usually get a lift anyway Not gloating at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it can be expensive, depending on type of meet it can mean hotel expenses and if we are wanting to stay over we pay for it.

Last w/e we went to a club Friday and stayed at a hotel & on Sunday a hotel booked by us and because we wanted to stay over we didn't ask for any costs to be covered.

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it.

But we've started to calm down now "

Yes we had a month and half of intensity last year, then went on holiday and back to it for a month and then a break for 3 months and now as and when.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we go clubbing we book a hotel room anyway regardless if anyone comes back as thats just a bonus, we have each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to do social meets on a shoe string by only meeting locally say at our local beefeater (2 soft drink refillers for less than £6 means we can be there a long time for no money) or if food is needed we have a local 2,4,6,8 pub (2 meals and drinks for less than £10). However it's when we go to a club it gets expensive for us, travel, accommodation, food drink and entry usually come to around £120 for the night so it takes a few months to save for that but it's worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I know I couldnt fork out for hotels all of the time, so I choose to accommodate at my house and always offer that first. I have met in hotels, but its nothing something I do frequently.

The cost also gives a good understanding of why people hate time wasters so much. If you have gone to the expense of booking and arranging a hotel, only for a meet to turn out to be a 'no show' - its a big hit to take.

Which is why it has to be better being part of a couple, at least you have each other and that third person/other couple is merely a bonus.

I'm appreciative of any man who gets a hotel room because I am too chicken poop to go to his place of abode for a first meet, and I won't accommodate. I must say though, the men usually like my appreciation

hehe

No I completely disagree, it is not better to be part of a couple, we have fortunately only had one occasion where the hotel was booked and not used for what we intended.

£150 later, we would have just stayed at home, we arrange meets to actually meet people, not for a bonus and our time is limited let alone the expense.

A man pays for a hotel room and gets a no show = a total fucked up evening.

A couple pay for a hotel and get a no show = a total fucked evening... really? When you still have each other and might as well make the most of a night away?

You still don't think a couple have a slight advantage over the single guy in this example?"

No not at all, we have a fucked up night as well, as we have precious limited time alone together and organising a whole night away with commitments is not easy.

It isn't just the financial expense incurred, and as I said we would just stay at home.

If we wanted a special romantic night away we would choose to go somewhere else, and it is an entirely different thing.

We organise meets to play - not to spend time alone together as that could be done any night of the week.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended) "

I'm in the NW, meet people very regularly and I cant say its much of a cost. Though, it did when I was meeting in hotels.

Simple answer really, is to find people who accomodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we go clubbing we book a hotel room anyway regardless if anyone comes back as thats just a bonus, we have each other "

Yeah again I think that is different, when we go to our local club - we don't need to book a hotel as it is a taxi ride home.

Last Friday we needed a hotel room, and that was booked with no expectation of play after being to the club.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"We tend to stick local so there's our place or theirs.. Cheap as chips

most expensive meet we have ever had was going out for a meal with someone.

dont see the point in staying in a hotel when we have an empty house.

just need to sort a spare bed then we can offer friends from far and wide to stay overnight and go home the next day.

can see how the costs would mount up with those that are always at clubs, or stay in hotels, absolutely, but these are people i would suggest had more money than they know what to do with"

yep, never got the 'lets go for a meal' bit either - 1. it costs, 2. it wastes a good portion of the evening 3. you get bloated 4. you usually find something that just bores you about them 5. it's a little uncomfortable keeping a smile or forcing conversation when all you want to do is get naked.

I don't do socials/bar meets/meals anymore either - unless I know them well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we go clubbing we book a hotel room anyway regardless if anyone comes back as thats just a bonus, we have each other

Yeah again I think that is different, when we go to our local club - we don't need to book a hotel as it is a taxi ride home.

Last Friday we needed a hotel room, and that was booked with no expectation of play after being to the club.

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True but we usually play in the club if that arises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we go clubbing we book a hotel room anyway regardless if anyone comes back as thats just a bonus, we have each other

Yeah again I think that is different, when we go to our local club - we don't need to book a hotel as it is a taxi ride home.

Last Friday we needed a hotel room, and that was booked with no expectation of play after being to the club.

True but we usually play in the club if that arises "

Haha I will give you rises

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If we go clubbing we book a hotel room anyway regardless if anyone comes back as thats just a bonus, we have each other

Yeah again I think that is different, when we go to our local club - we don't need to book a hotel as it is a taxi ride home.

Last Friday we needed a hotel room, and that was booked with no expectation of play after being to the club.

True but we usually play in the club if that arises

Haha I will give you rises "

Ooo err mrs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are lucky as we have a campervan which makes staying over anywhere cheaper, but it still cost us fuel and entry fees into clubs, so we have to limit our visits which is a shame otherwise we would club it lots more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't pay more than £20 for a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can go over seas on a swinging holiday to the sun .. cost 1000s , lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think you need to look at other hobbys and compare how much you spend on other things, lets face it going to the pub now is exspensive

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

ive never got spare money to go out

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

Like anything it can be as cheap or expensive as you want it to be. We have had meets that have cost a lot also some that cost almost nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me, it doesn't cost much .... either I go to bmfc at Arousals which is £5 entry, £1 for your coat and take your own drink, and as it's only 30 mins drive for me, fuel cost isn't a problem either.

Jaydees club even better - free for single fems, £1 for the bar person, take your own drink and again it's only 40 mins drive for me, but I usually get a lift anyway Not gloating at all "

wish i was that close to jaydees lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it can be expensive, depending on type of meet it can mean hotel expenses and if we are wanting to stay over we pay for it.

Last w/e we went to a club Friday and stayed at a hotel & on Sunday a hotel booked by us and because we wanted to stay over we didn't ask for any costs to be covered.

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it."

Wow that expensive and your a couple, had a similar experience a while back which amounted to around £200 so yeah I think I may go back to taking coaches to club etc and leave the car for local meets !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's down to lack disposable income we all suffer from nowadays. I've certainly noticed we've got much less to spend than 5 years ago on treats such as hotel stays and other swing necessities like sexy lingerie and stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it can be expensive, depending on type of meet it can mean hotel expenses and if we are wanting to stay over we pay for it.

Last w/e we went to a club Friday and stayed at a hotel & on Sunday a hotel booked by us and because we wanted to stay over we didn't ask for any costs to be covered.

So last weekend with fuel, drinks, eating on the way, 2 hotels looking about £300 expense.

It is not something we do that often, when we first started swinging and with the initial excitement we were probably spending £250 a week on it.

Wow that expensive and your a couple, had a similar experience a while back which amounted to around £200 so yeah I think I may go back to taking coaches to club etc and leave the car for local meets !"

Not sure what being a couple is relevant to?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Most of our meets tend to be pretty local and are usually at someone's house. So only costs petrol and a bottle of wine.

On the rare occasion we travel futher afield and meet in a bar or for a meal. Then the cost can soon mount up.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We normally go to our local club so its £25 to get in and you take your own drinks. It’s only a few miles away and as I (Mr) don’t drink, we go in the car so very little cost there. Not many nights out cost you lees than £30 with the plus point that you can end up having group sex xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended) "

~If you travel it can cost a lot thats why I prefer to accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange a meet with a travelling salesman who stay in hotels then no one pays for it except their company who he or she works for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrange a meet with a travelling salesman who stay in hotels then no one pays for it except their company who he or she works for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we also suffer this issue as we an hour from any clubs cities which have night life.also makes home meet near impossible as every one else think it to far to travel so can be very boring or cost loads xx

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By *inkySCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Well we are new members to xtasia and have been every sat apart from one for the last 5 out of 6 weekends we do stay at hotel next door but get it at club members rate... hubby likes a few drinks but I like to play sober...probably because we are new to it and having lots of fun hope the novelty doesnt wear off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your expectations, most expensive for me is tights, but I can get 6 pack for 2.99, so usually last 2 days.

Decent stockings are a nightmare "

no decent stockings are a dream!I don't let kas wear tights!:-horrible things

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended) "

It can add up.

We try to hit a social once a month.

Hotel - average of £70

Travel - £20 plus in fuel

Food and drinks - £40 plus

Misc £20

Thats £150.... and sometimes there are more than one social a month, so we either spend more, or more likely pick just one.

Parties obviously are cheaper, but we still have to travel, so a party can cost us £30 r £40 to attend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I don't accommodate my expenses vary from month to month depending on my choice of meets.... Some months are more expensive than others as I do like the occasional country hotel meet or a City break and this involves meals, drinks. For me it's part and parcel of the 'lifestyle' and makes for memorable decadent times...

There are times where meets involves private house meets and obviously cuts down the cost... I also visit various clubs which is no cheap night out but usually is very worthwhile on the satisfaction front....

My biggest expense is fuel as I recently averaged my lifestyle mileage which for the last 12 months adds up to 8000 miles....

Worth every penny!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is cheaper than other hobbies in our experience.

We can have a whole night out at a club, take our own drinks then stay at local hotel all for less than £130.

not many other fun activities that come in cheaper than that.

Then there are meets at others homes, all that costs is a bit of petrol, a few bottles of wine and a box of chocs for the people hosting us.

I actually think that swinging is very doable on a tight budget.

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

can if course make money by charging people who come in to your home I do know of some couple who do that

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham


"Well we meet on the boat its free or here at home and if we go clubbing pay for hotel but its a night out for us not just swinging .. its don't have to cost a lot if you can meet at your own place .. maybe just the cost of petrol ."

Caravan will travell all mod cons

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Because of our location we have to travel. We both like to have a few drinks so that means getting a hotel, it all adds up, we don't mind every now and again, but it can amount to quite an expense.

Do others find the same or do most swing on a shoestring (no pun intended) "

I notice you're not too far from me so yeah, where we are it can work out pricey for clubs (I'm 2 hours to Manchester and like to stay over so a) can have a drink and b) don't like driving home at 3am)

Some socials I book in for early so can look out for cheap sale deals for Premier Inn/Travelodge but often it can be £60+ for a hotel room which is a good wedge for a single even though I'm pretty well off

On the plus side, met some friends up the road last night, cost me a bottle of wine and probably max of a tenner's worth of diesel, but local friends are few and far between unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being paid peanuts does rather limit one's options."

How many peanuts will you accept?

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By *4FantasyCouple
over a year ago

Spalding

We don't get to play too often with other commitments, so we choose our time carefully. We prefer house parties and clubs as opposed to replying on other people. Luckily hubby has free fuel with his company car and doesn't mind doing the driving. We will pay for a hotel if we fancy making a weekend of it and then combine our night to make it a great weekend. Just bought a caravan too so accommodation costs will be quite minimal now too and will be venturing further away.

We travelled to Amsterdam for a weekend away and visited a club there - that was an expensive weekend but not something we do often.

Hobbies like this can be expensive if you choose it to be, but it is something we choose to do as a couple in addition to our vanilla activites, and made some good friends though it too!

Kazxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't get to play too often with other commitments, so we choose our time carefully. We prefer house parties and clubs as opposed to replying on other people. Luckily hubby has free fuel with his company car and doesn't mind doing the driving. We will pay for a hotel if we fancy making a weekend of it and then combine our night to make it a great weekend. Just bought a caravan too so accommodation costs will be quite minimal now too and will be venturing further away.

We travelled to Amsterdam for a weekend away and visited a club there - that was an expensive weekend but not something we do often.

Hobbies like this can be expensive if you choose it to be, but it is something we choose to do as a couple in addition to our vanilla activites, and made some good friends though it too!

Kazxx

"

Are you hoping that his work are not going to notice or comment on the tow bar onhis car ?.

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

some weekends can work out expensive, but if you shop around, there are bargains. We've got a decent hotel in loughborough next weekend for 30 pounds a night. just need to find somebody to meet now.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I meet at mine so all it costs me is coffee or tea. Or occasionally fruit juice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what you make of a night out, it isn't expensive to play at home and have a couple of bottles of wine and a completely vanilla night out can cost a fortune....

We do like Radlett house parties, yes there is petrol and £40 to get in but there is an amazing hot swimming pool, good food, bring your own booze, room to crash out free and the real bonus, acres of grounds we can let our dogs roam in so though locked in the vehicle during party time we don't have to dash home at silly oclock in the morning or spend on kennel fees. Always a good party, wonderfully hosted so it is a great night out before we think of sex....bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some weekends can work out expensive, but if you shop around, there are bargains. We've got a decent hotel in loughborough next weekend for 30 pounds a night. just need to find somebody to meet now. "

thats the best way to do it, though.

book the hotel for a night away, then if you get summat excellent, if not, you have had a lovely night away anyway

good on you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just compare it to being in a bar for x number of hours with your friends and meeting someone. You can easily spend £50 on drinks in a night so offset your travel costs against that and swinging is less expensive, but can be a lot more rewarding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some weekends can work out expensive, but if you shop around, there are bargains. We've got a decent hotel in loughborough next weekend for 30 pounds a night. just need to find somebody to meet now. "

Creative thinking. Have to remember that one. I'm on a very low budget, too, but still would like to go places and meet away from home for a change.

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By *4FantasyCouple
over a year ago

Spalding

'Are you hoping that his work are not going to notice or comment on the tow bar onhis car ?. '

He has permission for the tow bar and they have no problem with private mileage.. perk of the job

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe


"some weekends can work out expensive, but if you shop around, there are bargains. We've got a decent hotel in loughborough next weekend for 30 pounds a night. just need to find somebody to meet now.

thats the best way to do it, though.

book the hotel for a night away, then if you get summat excellent, if not, you have had a lovely night away anyway

good on you x"
we've had a busy few weekends so deserve a fun one now. Fingers crossed]

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