FabSwingers.com forum: does anyone reply to mail ever?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so..

a: only reply to couples or fems that advertise for guys.Check

b: No one liners or cock shots. Check

c: Compose individual mails with contact details and pics. Check

d: common manners to reply? zilch

May as well go back to winking, what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A) There are 100's of other single available single males - Check

B) The 'PS' in your profile makes you look like a moaner - Check

C) Some people are not keen on profiles where people profess to be 'intelligent' 'handsome''Well travelled' 'Good Company' it can come over as 'being up ones own arse' - Check

D) Hey - That's life - move on - Check

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

winge winge winge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

e: no reply to email = not insterested. Check

pretty simple or thats how we see it, why anyone would moan about NOT having an inbox full of no thanks is beyond us, do some people actualy get off on being turned down?

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

A) You want local, attractive females - Check

B) Moaning and whinging in your PS - Check

C) Egotistical profile - Check

D) Can't accommodate - Check

Answers

A) You've limited yourself to Liverpool and those people that consider themselves attractive, thereby, cutting out a massive amount of swingers - Check

B) Whinging profile; most couples and females are sick to the back teeth of whingers and move on to the next profile in the vein hope that it is cheer and well thought out - Check

C) Egotistical Profile; Who says you are handsome? I personally don't. You say you are intelligent..... are you as intelligent as me? I doubt it. Are you bragging? Yes - Check

D) Can't accommodate; Why not? Are you cheating? - Check

This isn't meant as a swipe at you but look at it from a couple's point of view and from single females points of view. All of the above is constructive critisism and may help you to understand why the people you write to look at your profile and move on.

Oohh and change your header on your profile.... it smacks of the whinging moaning desperado that so many couples and females take great pains to avoid!

I hope you find what you are looking for and I wish you the very best of luck

Maddie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with Maddie...but wouldnt have put it so eloquently (is that spelt right?) lol

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Ok so..

a: only reply to couples or fems that advertise for guys.Check

No we reply to everyone who takes the effort to contact us and we state so on our profile, it's plain common courtesy.

b: No one liners or cock shots. Check

No we reply to everyone whether they have photo's or not, ans whatever bits they choose show. If we like the sound of the profile we may ask for some more pics. We've even been know to meet 'blind' on occasion

c: Compose individual mails with contact details and pics. Check

Of course we compose individual replies, why wouldn't we? there's plenty ways to say "yes" or "no" each suited to whatever the situation is.

d: common manners to reply? zilch

I think we already answered that one, or so you mean to tar everyone with the same brush?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People DO reply, but not all of the people will reply to all of the messages. You have to accept that single guys are in the thousands and couples and single ladies wanting single men are considerably less in number. If we all got hundreds of messages every day our enthusiasm to reply to EVERY one would drop quickly!

biggest tip i could give in this game is to NEVER take anything personally. its hard not to, but you have to keep trying!

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

where is the edit post button?

Ahh well

Also meant to add we make the effort yo reply to anyone who makes the effort to contact us. Even single guys although our profile says we're looking for couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gawd bless people like you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bet he wishes he never asked now, lol

as said in a previous post , i reply to them im interested in, i dont have time to say no ta to the rest sorry guys, but hey thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u reply to a guy to say no thanx, then u either get abuse or asked why not ,,,, then it ends up in a row... lol well mine have a few times ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like the only one not replying now is the OP ...

Stick your head above the trenches, and it will probably get shot at ...

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

He's probably standing in front of the mirror, comb and hairspray in hand, tarting his gorgeous self up whilst rechecking his IQ with mensa.......

It isn't only Single Males it happens to.

We wanted a single male a couple of weeks ago, we sent 10 messages........ did we get a reply to any of them?

Nope....... do we care........ nope.

We went to chameleons instead!

If at first you don't succeed............go clubbing!

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

oooooohhhhhhhhh

I've just received a message for a numpty who obviously can't read!

1 line message - how very eloquent of him

He's black - My profile specifically says white males only

Miles away - like he would turn up for a midweek shag living over 100 miles away!

barebacker - hahahahahahahahahahahaha

Now OP or those goody goody politically correct (we can't upset anyone) hippy dippy halfwits, tell me WHY I should reply to that.

Answers on a postcard to....... Maddie 'totally p1ssed off with all boneheaded arswipes who troll around fab pretending to real swingers'@fabswingers blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

email him back saying u have had a sex change and you would be happy to meet to compear cock sizes and asks if he minds taking it up the arse as your now a giver not a reciver

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Priceless Kitty........ totally priceless.

**Maddies off to scare another twerp into leaving her alone**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is to many people here can not read, there see a pic send a message and expect a reply, but if there had read the profile there would have seen that you do not match.

read profile to see if you match with likes and dislike.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Hi swinglemale ...have not read your profile but as you can see by some of the bad tempered replies on here ...single women and couples do get inundated with people who just have not read the profile or blanket message them ..Some guys still think its ok to "give it a shot" even if they dont meet the profiles requests , its non credible single bloke optimism isnt it ...

I have to say as a single bloke tho once the list of negative you cant do that ...or the list of traits the person is not looking for, rather than IS looking for comes into a profile... i move on, be it single woman or couple ...life is too short ....just give what the woman in here have said eh...we do not have a divine right to any form of contact from them ...even a "read the profile" is a pisser if you have to type it 50 times a day

MR X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know that we have not replied to couples in the past, funny how you dont get cpls complaining about not getting a reply.

Also we have mailed single guys and not had a responce, Thats the way it is and its time people got used to it.

no reply means not interested how simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just single males who don't read profiles.Since the forums reopened we've had contact from 3 couples with bi-males,2 of which were into bareback.We sometimes think they must do it for a wind up,lol.

Trace & Ric

XXXX

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

@ im_the_one

"u reply to a guy to say no thanx, then u either get abuse or asked why not ,,,, then it ends up in a row... lol well mine have a few times ..."

we must be lucky that's never happened to us in two years from either guys or couples we declined. The usual response (if we get one) is "ok we're may be dissapointed but thanks for the reply, so many don't bother

@_adchick

"Now OP or those goody goody politically correct (we can't upset anyone) hippy dippy halfwits, tell me WHY I should reply to that."

Because:

A/ it takes a few seconds, a lot less time than it takes to post on the forums asking nice folk why you should bother, and because,

B/ in our own experience, if you say no in a nice manner they don't bother asking again

and also

C/ because it's just plain common decency and costs absolutely nothing

Or maybe juut because our lives are not quite so busy that we can't find a few seconds just to say "thanks but no thanks"

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Or on second thought maybe because we are not so attractive or popular we get like 50 (or even 5) messages a day or sometimes even a week. We could see how that could become rather taxing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We reply to single males who interest us or a polite no thanks to hose that dont. We also send out mail to single guys and get no reply. We have had hundreds of mails and arranged many meetings over many months and would you beleive it only one has ever turned up. we are now of the opinion that most single males are here to satisfy there curiosity and therefore a reply is most probably the first pather in the road to nowhere.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

RichNJudy

"A/ it takes a few seconds, a lot less time than it takes to post on the forums asking nice folk why you should bother, and because,

B/ in our own experience, if you say no in a nice manner they don't bother asking again

and also

C/ because it's just plain common decency and costs absolutely nothing

Or maybe juut because our lives are not quite so busy that we can't find a few seconds just to say "thanks but no thanks""

A) I like posting on the forums and I don't like replying to idiotic feckwits who push their luck by mailing me, but I do not expect anyone to try to expose me as 'rude' on the forums. I don't reply because I don't want to......nothing rude about it, I have impecable manners thank you, but there is nothing in the terms and conditions of this site that says I HAVE to reply.

B) In my experience (and many others experiences), no matter how nicely you say no, you always get some troll coming back with 'why not?', 'you're just a fat slag anyone!', 'Well if you change your mind here's my phone number,' 'Whats wrong with me?' blah blah blah.

Maybe you don't get that because people were just trying their luck with you. For those of us that get the abuse or the whinging and whimpering maybe it's because people actually do want to meet us that desperately! (joke by the way!)

C)Plain common decency? plain common decency would be these numpties not contacting us without reading our profile first. Why should I be decent to others when I get messages like....."wanna fuck me, I've got a bigger cock than your husband?" ..or.. "I wanna fuck someone old enough to be my mother" .. or the ubiqitous .."Hi" ..or... "my phone number is 07786 ******"...... or........"Hi hun" blah blah blah..... the list is endless.

We state in our profile EXACTLY what we do and don't do. Anyone who can't be bothered to read and just pervs the pictures does not deserve the courtesy of a reply.

And yes, my life is busy...... far to busy for halfwits, inbreds, numpties, muppets and fuglies.

If you don't like it..... fine, I really don't give two hoots but DON'T tar those of us that don't reply with the RUDE, DISCOURTEOUS and UNCIVIL slap. It's not for you to say what people have to do on sites like this.....

We still have freedom of choice....... you choose yours, I'll choose mine!

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

@_adchick

My my, you really are an angry lady, and shouting too lol

Look, we had a think about it, and to be honest the real reason why we always reply is not because we are being PC or nice, it's because we don't like it when we contact someone (always because we read their profile and think we have compatibility)and then get ignored. So if we did the same to anyone else we would be being hypocritical in the extreme wouldn't we.

We're sure you do have impecable manners - in reale life - its probably just online you ignore people. If for instance some "halfwit numpty" accidentally rolled a shopping trolley over your foot in the supermarket (or any similar real life encounter), and muttered sorry, we'd bet everything that you would answer "oh it's ok" or "hey you need a driving test" or whatever, but we bet you would *never* just ignore them.

"DON'T tar those of us that don't reply with the RUDE, DISCOURTEOUS and UNCIVIL slap. It's not for you to say what people have to do on sites like this....."

Of course it's not for us to say what you should do nor for you to say what we should do. So far you're the one who quite unprovoked called us "PC correct goody goody numpty halfwits" or something like that, and now you feel we even can't express an opinion because we are thereby insulting folks

You obviously have strong thoughts about this.

OK let us ask you.

If you reply to someones profile because you have a good amount of apparent compatibility and you get ignored - if that is not rude etc, what is it?

xxx

J&R

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

R&J

You asked...

"If you reply to someones profile because you have a good amount of apparent compatibility and you get ignored - if that is not rude etc, what is it? "

.... it isn't rude........ it's life!

We keep the message for 3 weeks and if they haven't replied, we block them and move on. And the only reason we block them is to ensure that we don't contact them again and thereby come across as desperate.

As I stated earlier in the thread, we wanted a single male, we sent 10 messages and not one replied. So, we shrugged it off and went to a club instead.

It's not rude........ it's choice.

And I have never whinged about not getting replies...... but after being on these forums for yonks (now and before), I am one of the many who get totally sick to the back teeth of the whinging that goes on about no replies.

I am one of the few that will actually voice my opinion.

Oohh and by the way..... the patronising tone of your first sentence washes straight over my head......

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

lol well you obviously enjoy the debate as much as we do. We don't believe we ever winged about getting no replies, we just stated we don't like it. Don't think that is whinging.

Can we ask you one thing _adchick because we're intrigued by you.

You are in chams and sitting at the bar. A couple approach you. Or a single guy. The are very foward, say they have been watching you across the room. Say how sexy think you look and ask if you'd like to go to a room to play. The ones approaching you are not your cup of tea.

Would you ever ever just look at them, turn your back, and ignore them?

J&R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would, or i wouls stick up my hand and 'talk to the hand swingers'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowing Maddie as well as we do she would more than likely look them in the eye before turning her back ............. but thats Maddie for ya lol

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Face to face is not the same as the internet and you know it...... good try though!

Face to face you have very little choice than to say "No thank you" without getting some twerp in your face demanding to know why you are ignoring them.

Ooohh believe me, I've been there. As a founder member of Chams and a single female for many many years, I was subjected to all the worst chat up lines you could think off and when I've said "No thanks" I've had all the abuse you can also think off. Including one male of Asian persuation who actually said..."it's because I'm Indian isn't it you racist bitch".....! (thank god I'm well known there and there were plenty of people to stop me walloping the dickhead)

But to answer your question...Yes, I have actually turned my back on someone who has propositioned me in a club..... not for matters of rudeness but because I couldn't stop laughing that they would ever think that I would shag a man that was old enough to be my great grandfather! (not that he could have done anything, it took him half an hour to walk across the room) - (remind me to give up swinging when I need a stanna stairlift)

But in all seriousness, the internet gives us the power to chose who we talk to and who we reply to. As cringeworthy as it seems, the internet gives us the power to hide behind our keyboards and make our choices without fear of retribution (apparently)

If you do not reply to a message, you probably get far less abuse than if you say no direct to someone's face. And it is still freedom of choice.....

Has bugger all to do with rudeness and everything to do with freedom of choice.

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Lol at Kitty.....

Mids.... my gorgeous sis..... you know me too bloody well. You've also had the pleasure of seeing me in action in Chams and you also know what I can do to men if riled and harrassed.

If single men don't like being rebuffed...... they shouldn't swing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wow, for people who don't like to get involved in slanging matches or have issues with people who make unqualified assumptions about other folk, the above makes for interesting reading.

Obviously any single guy with the temerity to try and engage with the "scene" is just a catalyst for people to big themselves up by posting abuse, negativity etc...but I genuinely thought that by posting the topic I might raise a discussion or even create a, dare I say, forum for likeminds. I guess "mob rules" and the herd has spoken

Considering that this is supposed to be a sociable and enjoyable activity I'm amazed at the hostility on show

I won't be posting again so feel free to keep adding cheap shots in my abscence

I hope you all have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pick up your toys as well, u asked u got replys.

what abuse ffs? this really annoys me when OP's dont hear what they want they go in a strop ffs.

what a joke

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

hi swingleman ..

i did try to engage with what you said and the responses you had off various members.i was hoping you would come back with a response to further your point of view ...

hope you start getting responses soon

MR X

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

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@swinglemale

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"wow, for people who don't like to get involved in slanging matches or have issues with people who make unqualified assumptions about other folk, the above makes for interesting reading. ..... but I genuinely thought that by posting the topic I might raise a discussion or even create a, dare I say, forum for likeminds. I guess "mob rules" and the herd has spoken"

This *is* a discussion isn't it? We'd call it a lively debate. Definitely not a slanging match.... the difference being in a lively debate, the opponents put forward valid points to each other for discussion, a slanging match they just call each other names

*Mob rules* maybe it does. But if it's the whole herd we disagree with, or just the individual well we ain't afraid to make a stand

@_adchick

Hehe ok, you probably *would* turn your back too lol. Looks like you've met some rather worse people than us, we've perhaps just been very lucky in nearly two years on the scene.

Oh and the mental picture of some old guy creeping across the bar to croak to you how sexy you are! pmsl! did he have a zimmer frame (with sexy towel cover)?

By the way we totally agree with you on one thing - the answer to all this thread really - the internet empowers people (just like getting behind the wheel of a car) to do things that let's face you nor us would never do in real life person-on-person interactions.

Anyway it's been fun crossing swords with you _adchick (at least for us anyway), you obviously have intelligence as well as strong opinions and the ability to put them over well, without much slanging lol

We hope we put up some decent arguments though for a pair of, what was it, " hippy dippy halfwits"

Think we're gonna have to agree to disagree now, though maybe we met somewhere a little towards the middle in the end

J&R

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

R & J

We will meet in the 'middle' by agreeing to disagree.

To be honest, I'm far too bloody lazy to try and reply to every mail I get. I must prefer the forums. I'm one of those annoying people with a very high IQ, alot of intelligence and are not afraid to speak out. I also find that by typing on the forum, I can get an idea in my head and type it (I can also touch type) whilst watching the tell.........Currently watching James Martin (pphhhwwwooorrrr) whilst typing this.

I don't mean to come across as narcissistic, xenophobic and stroppy but hey..... it happens. Those that know me personally actually know I'm quite shy and hate to hurt peoples feelings but I have a terrible tendancy to stick my foot in it an awful lot.

The forums gives me an outlet to have a 'bit of a rant' without having to do it standing up and to someone's face.....

I'm quite the coward really aren't I....... but a sweetie to boot.

All hail the pussy posse....... (Judy, you are now an honourary member!)

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

tell? tell?..........

aaarrrghhhh, that was meant to say ... telly.....

Where's the ruddy edit button!!!!

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

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Thank you _adchick, you really are a sweetie xxx

edit buttons - yeah we needd that too!

J&R

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

aghhhh needd. need!

see :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wanted to arrange a meet for last night so i added myself to the meet today list....i reply to everyone generally even if its a no thanks, and i ran out of messages

that'll teach me to be polite eh?

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

tbh on your profile ya seem to have had some success so cant understand why the fuss as ya must of had some replys

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By *hil most chillMan
42 weeks ago

South East & Europe

This thread is from 2009, but indistinguishable from threads still posted daily

And on that note, good night!

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