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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I will admit to not liking it very much either. I hope I don't react childishly but its certainly not my favourite thing in the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I will admit to not liking it very much either. I hope I don't react childishly but its certainly not my favourite thing in the world"

No one does..but doesnt mean you start abusive messages and childish name calling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not nice being rejected but you got to be a man and accept it it happens to us all.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes."

Well in my personal experience it has been men.....

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Its not nice being rejected but you got to be a man and accept it it happens to us all."

If only they would without dishes out slags, fat, and other lovely names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Move on and keep looking for pussy

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Move on and keep looking for pussy "

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, to be honest, if your only looking for boys, then boys are what you'll end up with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Move on and keep looking for pussy

Good idea "

Is yours free???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt take it too seriously if they are young men but i did gett annoyed when an old man called me the c word because old people are supposed to know better, i had deleted his messages because he didnt like it that i didnt answere them straight away.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"i wouldnt take it too seriously if they are young men but i did gett annoyed when an old man called me the c word because old people are supposed to know better, i had deleted his messages because he didnt like it that i didnt answere them straight away."

I think the older ones are the worst tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not nice being rejected but you got to be a man and accept it it happens to us all.

If only they would without dishes out slags, fat, and other lovely names "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you rejecting me???

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Are you rejecting me??? "

Fraid so

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down."

On tap? Really? Lol.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down."

Lol its so pathetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

It's not only the men that do this!

Single females and couples can be just the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

I think you will find most of us do accept it. Just the idiotic minority that resort to ill mannered abuse and childish behaviour.

When I was trained as a salesman we were told if you don't ask you don't get but if the answer is no just move on to the next prospect.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down."

looks like a win win

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

I think you will find most of us do accept it. Just the idiotic minority that resort to ill mannered abuse and childish behaviour.

When I was trained as a salesman we were told if you don't ask you don't get but if the answer is no just move on to the next prospect."

Think you should train these morons lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is part of the site. Not every one is for everyone! I get knocked back more often than not. It doesn't bother me. Not into name calling, what's the point? Doesn't get you any further. If someone actually bothers to message back with a 'sorry you're not for me', then I just thank them for their reply. Most don't even answer. Always think its polite to answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

It's not only the men that do this!

Single females and couples can be just the same! "

Exactly! I was surprised when I got a bit of abuse from a couple before when I said I wasn't interested!

I've been rejected before but I always try as stay positive! Plenty more fish in the sea, and all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you rejecting me???

Fraid so "

This is where I move on and keep looking for pussy

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

reject and block

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Rejection is part and parcel of swinging....no one will appeal to everyone.

I don't imagine that anyone really enjoys it. Just some people (men and women) take it better than others.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Prior to the internet, guys and girlssuffered the dejected walk of rejection, , I along with many others were rejected in a publiic arena, name calling got you no where as others saw and heard, you soon realised that it was nt the end of the world there were and would be others,, come to the internet and the anonymity it provides is the reason for the name calling, delete block move on, theres otjers,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are plenty fish in the sea...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes."

I agree,

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

A polite turn down is ok. But I'll always say not replying or just a "No" is ignorant. And yes I'm well aware how hard it is for you women with your hundreds of messages a day etc. But as someone said "its part and parcel of being on a swinging site"

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By *ornycouplefromguildfordCouple
over a year ago

Guildford

Weak insecure people cant take rejection!

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

How do you define rejection though??

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??"

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection "

Not really, if someone doesn't reply to my message , I don't class that as rejection, in fact you can only reject a person if you have met them. Profiles and online conversations don't really define who a person is or what they are like. If I meet someone and they aren't interested I class that as rejection

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection

Not really, if someone doesn't reply to my message , I don't class that as rejection, in fact you can only reject a person if you have met them. Profiles and online conversations don't really define who a person is or what they are like. If I meet someone and they aren't interested I class that as rejection "

So whay would you call saying no to meeting someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection

Not really, if someone doesn't reply to my message , I don't class that as rejection, in fact you can only reject a person if you have met them. Profiles and online conversations don't really define who a person is or what they are like. If I meet someone and they aren't interested I class that as rejection

So whay would you call saying no to meeting someone? "

I wouldn't call it anything tbh, profiles are mostly bull shit anyway, how can they tell you what a person is really like. I suppose if you refuse to meet someone your rejecting there profile, not the person

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection

Not really, if someone doesn't reply to my message , I don't class that as rejection, in fact you can only reject a person if you have met them. Profiles and online conversations don't really define who a person is or what they are like. If I meet someone and they aren't interested I class that as rejection

So whay would you call saying no to meeting someone?

I wouldn't call it anything tbh, profiles are mostly bull shit anyway, how can they tell you what a person is really like. I suppose if you refuse to meet someone your rejecting there profile, not the person "

Well whatever you call it they cant seem to accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

How do you define rejection though??

By saying i dont want to meet or by not replying both are rejection

Not really, if someone doesn't reply to my message , I don't class that as rejection, in fact you can only reject a person if you have met them. Profiles and online conversations don't really define who a person is or what they are like. If I meet someone and they aren't interested I class that as rejection

So whay would you call saying no to meeting someone?

I wouldn't call it anything tbh, profiles are mostly bull shit anyway, how can they tell you what a person is really like. I suppose if you refuse to meet someone your rejecting there profile, not the person

Well whatever you call it they cant seem to accept it "

Which is a shame, if they looked at it from my point if _iew they wouldn't get so annoyed

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol."

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities."

Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities."

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities."

Was going to ask you to send your plumber up my way to install new taps!

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know "

I think she means from eachother

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know

I think she means from eachother "

Ah, of course,

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know "

We mean as in us being a couple we have sex. Morning, afternoon or evening. Whenever it takes our fancy. So for him to suggest we don't get any really was idiocy of the highest order.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Its not just men. Women can be especialy venomous. We had to block emails from couples, because of absolute ***ts who couldn't fathom why they weren't wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know

We mean as in us being a couple we have sex. Morning, afternoon or evening. Whenever it takes our fancy. So for him to suggest we don't get any really was idiocy of the highest order. "

I get you now, and your right, he must be a loon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Its not just men. Women can be especialy venomous. We had to block emails from couples, because of absolute ***ts who couldn't fathom why they weren't wanted."

I have had that also, one woman told me she was by far the best shag in here and that I must be gay, which was nice

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Its not just men. Women can be especialy venomous. We had to block emails from couples, because of absolute ***ts who couldn't fathom why they weren't wanted."

Am sure they can i have only experienced it with guys tho

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Yesterday we got a tirade of abuse from someone we had the nerve to say no to. I mean how dare we ? Him being a self proffessed sex God and all.

The tool was so dumb he even went as far as saying we will never get any lol. Excuse me, we're a couple and have it on tap unlike the moron we turned down.

On tap? Really? Lol.

Well not quite on tap lol. But to accuse a couple of not getting any sex clearly advertised his mental capabilities.

Can I ask why?? Obviously his wording sounds pathetic but not all couples get meets you know

We mean as in us being a couple we have sex. Morning, afternoon or evening. Whenever it takes our fancy. So for him to suggest we don't get any really was idiocy of the highest order.

I get you now, and your right, he must be a loon "

Yep ! A genuine fruit loop.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In 5 yrs never once had any abuse from anyone ive said no thanks too,most have been very gracious about it

Once ive said no thats the end of it,No further communication is needed

If you're getting abuse then once you've said no thanks use your block button,they can't come back at you if you've used that...its simple really

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"In 5 yrs never once had any abuse from anyone ive said no thanks too,most have been very gracious about it

Once ive said no thats the end of it,No further communication is needed

If you're getting abuse then once you've said no thanks use your block button,they can't come back at you if you've used that...its simple really"

Av only had it a few times mostly when i dont reply at all

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Rejection is part of the site. Not every one is for everyone! I get knocked back more often than not. It doesn't bother me. Not into name calling, what's the point? Doesn't get you any further. If someone actually bothers to message back with a 'sorry you're not for me', then I just thank them for their reply. Most don't even answer. Always think its polite to answer."

That's my eperience on here too, but then I deserve it for being married and on here alone (and old!). I have sent several polite messages this morning and each one was deleted without a reply. Time to throw in the towel? Possibly.

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Its not just men. Women can be especialy venomous. We had to block emails from couples, because of absolute ***ts who couldn't fathom why they weren't wanted.

I have had that also, one woman told me she was by far the best shag in here and that I must be gay, which was nice "

Oh my god what a sap!!!! Lol some people really love themselves!!!

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Its not just men. Women can be especialy venomous. We had to block emails from couples, because of absolute ***ts who couldn't fathom why they weren't wanted.

I have had that also, one woman told me she was by far the best shag in here and that I must be gay, which was nice "

Hahahahaha

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"In 5 yrs never once had any abuse from anyone ive said no thanks too,most have been very gracious about it

Once ive said no thats the end of it,No further communication is needed

If you're getting abuse then once you've said no thanks use your block button,they can't come back at you if you've used that...its simple really

Av only had it a few times mostly when i dont reply at all "

To be honest I don't think it makes a difference whether u reply or not with some people, if they have a bad attitude then they will attack!! Sod 'em

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all right, and everyone's right, to say "No". And if I'm the recipient of a "No", thats perfectly ok ps, I do get more "Yes's" than "No"'s, so that probably explains my pretty relaxed attitude to the occasional "No". Just go with the flow. Some you win, some you lose.

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By *amie22222Man
over a year ago

exeter

I've also had childish reply's from woman and couples after i've told them i dont want to meet. No one likes rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am lucky, I never say no, it was last years resolution.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

We wouldn't mind, but the guy who hurled abuse at us used all the usual keywords "genuine", "polite", "friendly", "non pushy". You get the idea. But the cherry on top of the cake was "please reply even if it's a polite no" lol. We only said no because he couldn't accommodate and he went ape shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've also had childish reply's from woman and couples after i've told them i dont want to meet. No one likes rejection."

whilst we all want to be adored and worshipped,as adults we have to be mature enough to accept that we won't float everyones boat,so even if no one like rejection we should accept rejection gracefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they do give u abuse

just report them an block them

its all you can do

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By *amie22222Man
over a year ago

exeter


"I've also had childish reply's from woman and couples after i've told them i dont want to meet. No one likes rejection.

whilst we all want to be adored and worshipped,as adults we have to be mature enough to accept that we won't float everyones boat,so even if no one like rejection we should accept rejection gracefully"

This

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

My big thing with this is that A.I have taken the time to read your profile (im aware the ladys you must get alot so you may not be able to reply to all) and think what to say with keeping in mind what I have read so a simple sorry not what im looking for would be nice B. I dont know about you guys but I never know what to say with out a conversation to carry on you never know you could miss out on the ride of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly don't know how the girls on here put up with it on here to be honest. The absolute desperation and creepiness ripping out of a majority is just weird. Go in the chat and into a "directing room" , it's ridiculous

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

As for the abuses you girls are getting there is no reason for that :|

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I have never encountered anyone being nasty when I've declined their offer. However I can only speak for the over 40's as I block younger guys so I cannot comment on what they are like.

Maybe I've just been lucky? I have though had a couple nasty comments from guys on the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best ones are

"Ive never been refused before"

"You dont know what your missing"

"I'm too good for you anyway"

"Thought i like to fuck a granny"

"Knew you were fake"

"Fucking bullshitter"

TBH most havent been here that long and dont know the rules to be able to meet someone nicely and usually end up meeting in a d*unken haze in a dark club and think "Fancy a quickie outside before the taxi gets here"? is a chat up line.

And usually end up either leaving or being banned from admin .

Guys/Girls if you get a knockback because you are not what the other person is looking for, move on and take it on the chin and block the person who doesnt want to meet that way it saves any further contact

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

I think the best way to say no is to just be polite and tell them that they are not for you, god knows how many times I've been rejected, never been abusive or rude to people. I've rejected people who I was not interested in just by saying that they were not what I am looking for and hope they find someone who is looking for them, never had any abuse, one lady even thanked me for letting her know and that if I ever changed my mind she looked forward to hearing from me.

Because this is a swinging site most people think that everyone on here will shag them and that if they don't it's because something is wrong with them so they get abusive to make up for their misfortunes.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We send a polite reply to anyone who reads our profile and I honestly can't remember the last time we rejected someone and they got "nasty" most are happy to get some sort of reply

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

As I said before, I have grown to accept rejection as it happens on a daily basis. What I found harder to accept recently is a local couple that winked at me first and, when I replied positively (thinking this was the one I have been waiting for for ages), they didn't reply and deleted. What's all that about?

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford


"As I said before, I have grown to accept rejection as it happens on a daily basis. What I found harder to accept recently is a local couple that winked at me first and, when I replied positively (thinking this was the one I have been waiting for for ages), they didn't reply and deleted. What's all that about?"

remember there are 2 in a couple.. maybe one said yes and another no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

It is some men not all of us, thank you. and they boys not men if they cannot handle a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you think that men outnumber the ladies about 100:1, I'm afraid that some of the guys are going to be unlucky (or the girls are going to be REAL busy lol). As said before, the decent guys just take it on the chin and move on without throwing a hissy fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block when I say no to prevent any comeback.

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Some guys should be greatful they even get a 'No'!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys should be greatful they even get a 'No'!"

I reply to all messages, UNLESS the person messaging has clearly not read my profile, ie halfway round the UK, not verified or is of larger build. I always check the senders profile before I look at the message. If they are any of the things my profile states I don't want, I delete without reading.

The other day I had this, and deleted the message. I had another message saying "you stuck up c**t "

so I replied " exactly how does you being illiterate and fat result in me being a stuck up c**t?" and then utilised my block button. . . . .

I wonder who came off more annoyed? Lmao.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Some guys should be greatful they even get a 'No'!

I reply to all messages, UNLESS the person messaging has clearly not read my profile, ie halfway round the UK, not verified or is of larger build. I always check the senders profile before I look at the message. If they are any of the things my profile states I don't want, I delete without reading.

The other day I had this, and deleted the message. I had another message saying "you stuck up c**t "

so I replied " exactly how does you being illiterate and fat result in me being a stuck up c**t?" and then utilised my block button. . . . .

I wonder who came off more annoyed? Lmao. "

Hahahhaahhaahaha so funny

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"When you think that men outnumber the ladies about 100:1, I'm afraid that some of the guys are going to be unlucky (or the girls are going to be REAL busy lol). As said before, the decent guys just take it on the chin and move on without throwing a hissy fit. "

Wish they could see this point of _iew lol

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

Don't you know the type of guys in question are all Adonis sex Gods and mere women should feel utterly blessed that the exhaulted one has seen fit to bless the undeserved with his time and words.

Well, that's what's in their heads anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Some men are just arrogant/childish and can't handle it that someone has actually said "no" to them.

Some men on the other hand have just had so much of it. They don't know how to react anymore. Sometimes they will just give up on asking/trying for meets/ chats with women and some will just lash out verbally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

In my opinion they aren't men, but boys. If I send a message and it either gets deleted or on the occasion when I get a reply of no thanks, I take it no further, no pestering or trying to convert their thoughts. Just move on, not everyone is going to like what you have to offer, and with the amount of single blokes on here you lucky ladies have the pick of the litter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty....

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Nice when someone bothers with a thanks but no thanks, but whether do get one or not just move. Single women especially get so many mails it's quite normal that they often don't reply, especially from illiterate one liner merchants. However not everyone is someone's cup of tea.

I try to put some effort into my emails, don't always get a response. I don't see any point in trying things any further. If I was then to send insulting emails I'd just be confirming that they'd made the right decision in the first place, then I really would be behaving like a dickhead.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty...."

How does that make him then lol if not such a pretty face rejected him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys should be greatful they even get a 'No'!

I reply to all messages, UNLESS the person messaging has clearly not read my profile, ie halfway round the UK, not verified or is of larger build. I always check the senders profile before I look at the message. If they are any of the things my profile states I don't want, I delete without reading.

The other day I had this, and deleted the message. I had another message saying "you stuck up c**t "

so I replied " exactly how does you being illiterate and fat result in me being a stuck up c**t?" and then utilised my block button. . . . .

I wonder who came off more annoyed? Lmao.

Hahahhaahhaahaha so funny "

Good for you girl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty....

How does that make him then lol if not such a pretty face rejected him "
ha ha wish I had told him he was an ugly so and so before instead of trying to be nice and just saying he wasn't my type !

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty...."

Well STAN you certainly have attractive eyes and a lovely smile, boobs look good too I suppose I should now get my coat!!!

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty....

How does that make him then lol if not such a pretty face rejected him ha ha wish I had told him he was an ugly so and so before instead of trying to be nice and just saying he wasn't my type !"

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

I think the problem partly comes with unrealistic expectations on joining

if guys realised the ratio of single guys to women on here, and if it was explained that rejection, barring you being a Brad Pitt lookalike with a 12 inch dick, is an unavoidable part of being here, then they might be able to take it a bit better

in addition too many guys come on here all pent up pre wank thinking they can get a meet in 5 minutes when, like rejection, patience is something you have to have on this site before you get the rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty....

Well STAN you certainly have attractive eyes and a lovely smile, boobs look good too I suppose I should now get my coat!!!"

Wow a man who has read my profile .. shock horror lol

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty....

Well STAN you certainly have attractive eyes and a lovely smile, boobs look good too I suppose I should now get my coat!!!

Wow a man who has read my profile .. shock horror lol"

Some of us can;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

"

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL "

You want to send the boys round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL "

I don't think they looked at your eyes. They're gorge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL

You want to send the boys round? "

Let's go. I've got the van too

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I has my status the other night saying ' watching QI , not just a pretty face ' all tongue in cheek and someone I had previously met at a social and turned him down sent me a messagwe' Pmsl your so not ' when I asked him what his problem was he said he hadn't a problem, just I wasn't pretty...."

Think he needs to go to Specsavers.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hahaha they make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you TRYBBW

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL "

A lot of blind idiots on here then.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL

A lot of blind idiots on here then. "

Hahaha they are idiots thats for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can i ask what do they say? I know I am more prone to get rejected than others on here, as I have all the wrong 'look' and my height doesn't help either lol.

..sometimes I guess the adults love to be babies.

So, what kind of things do they say?

Today i have been a stupid slut a rude bitch a fat disaster of a girl and fat and ugly LOL

You want to send the boys round?

Let's go. I've got the van too "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Have been rejected or ignored on numerous occasions and have never resorted to abuse or name calling and never would just accept and move on.

From and older gentleman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men just can't believe they're not god's gift to women.... Me I'm just used to it by now, I feel happy just to get a reply even if it is thanks but no thanks

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Rejection is part and parcel of swinging....no one will appeal to everyone.

I don't imagine that anyone really enjoys it. Just some people (men and women) take it better than others.

"

Exactly. And the workd keeps spinning

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Hahaha they make me laugh "

Keep on doing that, from what I've seen you look very attractive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The biggest guys can have the smallest shoulders. And the largest ego can be the most fragile.

Sadly, those who react that way to rejection, whether small or large in number, tend to leave a more 'profound' impression than those who are more gracious. Thus, that opinion can spread and become a general one. In this case, that 'men can't handle rejection, too immature'.

To those gents who are not like that, keep doing what you're doing, and eventually, you will be noticed for being polite and gracious. As stated before, those without manners, they will be banned or will end up with nothing.

And don't take it all so seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that what the block button is for ?

If I get rejected I just block them then I can't see them again in my search and if I reject someone I've stopped the polite no thank you and I just block them ...........esp the bi guys who can't read !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

Well in my personal experience it has been men..... "

well, tbf, seeing as you are only looking for men, the cross section of sample you have is somewhat limited.

yes, it can be all groups that get offended, and offensive, when you say thanks but no thanks, not just men. in fact, we have found the last few blokes we have said no thanks to have actually been very polite.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

Well in my personal experience it has been men.....

well, tbf, seeing as you are only looking for men, the cross section of sample you have is somewhat limited.

yes, it can be all groups that get offended, and offensive, when you say thanks but no thanks, not just men. in fact, we have found the last few blokes we have said no thanks to have actually been very polite."

Im not just looking for men looking for females mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Morning steph

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Not really had many negative responses to a no thank you. Mainly everyone is very polite.

In fact I think I have only had one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure what the point in sending abuse is........just wasting your time when you could be talking to someone who is interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've also had childish reply's from woman and couples after i've told them i dont want to meet. No one likes rejection.

whilst we all want to be adored and worshipped,as adults we have to be mature enough to accept that we won't float everyones boat,so even if no one like rejection we should accept rejection gracefully"

Some more than most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never have them mailing being nasty in all my years here only one ........ I must just be a lucky one maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a couple of nasty fat messages but hay ho if u say yes then ur the most gorgeous woman in the world pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

Well in my personal experience it has been men.....

well, tbf, seeing as you are only looking for men, the cross section of sample you have is somewhat limited.

yes, it can be all groups that get offended, and offensive, when you say thanks but no thanks, not just men. in fact, we have found the last few blokes we have said no thanks to have actually been very polite.

Im not just looking for men looking for females mostly "

in which case, set your message filters correctly and you will no longer get messages from men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because that's what some of them are, just call them names back it will really get their back up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Most of us can, it's just that small majority can't and therefore give the rest of us a bad name.

Just use the delete and block buttons and quietly move on with your life

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

Well in my personal experience it has been men.....

well, tbf, seeing as you are only looking for men, the cross section of sample you have is somewhat limited.

yes, it can be all groups that get offended, and offensive, when you say thanks but no thanks, not just men. in fact, we have found the last few blokes we have said no thanks to have actually been very polite.

Im not just looking for men looking for females mostly

in which case, set your message filters correctly and you will no longer get messages from men"

So i have to block all men?? Just coz a prob wont meet guys doesnt mean i have to block them all does it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aint just men that react like that on here idiots abound both sexes.

Well in my personal experience it has been men.....

well, tbf, seeing as you are only looking for men, the cross section of sample you have is somewhat limited.

yes, it can be all groups that get offended, and offensive, when you say thanks but no thanks, not just men. in fact, we have found the last few blokes we have said no thanks to have actually been very polite.

Im not just looking for men looking for females mostly

in which case, set your message filters correctly and you will no longer get messages from men

So i have to block all men?? Just coz a prob wont meet guys doesnt mean i have to block them all does it "

no, but it would stop you getting messages off the ones that get aggressive.

appreciate you may like the atention that getting messages of single guys gives you, but if you have no intention of meeting any then its really not a problem if you do block them, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our way of saying no is firstly to say thanks for getting in touch but then say we already have too many regular partners to party with and are not looking for any more at the moment.

It is not necessarily true.

That seems to go down better than saying "you have a face like a bull dog chewing a wasp & even if you were the last man on the planet etc"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our way of saying no is firstly to say thanks for getting in touch but then say we already have too many regular partners to party with and are not looking for any more at the moment.

It is not necessarily true.

That seems to go down better than saying "you have a face like a bull dog chewing a wasp & even if you were the last man on the planet etc"

"

that just leaves you open to getting repeat messages tho. I'd rather just be honest. My reply is a non specific 'thanks, but you're not for me' message. Occasionally I will be asked why, to which I reply I do not have to explain my choices.

Very occasionally I will get an abusive message back. Most either are thankful for the reply, or just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Because to put it bluntly they think if your on here then you will service anyone including them .

The minute this proves not to be true the sycophant mask slips and there true feeling about women who use these sites surface .

Hence the name calling starts a case of be nice to women on a sex site even though you don't really respect her for being here as long as you may get sex..( sorry don't shot the messenger over this fact about how some guys _iew things )

the minute that's not the case speak your mind express your true thoughts on women who use these sites .

I'm sorry but its true its not there pride being hurt or any other cod wash its purely a case of they never respected you from the word go so when you turn them down they tell you there true thoughts for the first in there dealings with you as sex is now off the table .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry if you have heard this one before but it seems apt -

Q What is the difference between a slut & a bitch?

A A slut will sleep with everyone whilst a bitch will sleep with everyone but me.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Because to put it bluntly they think if your on here then you will service anyone including them .

The minute this proves not to be true the sycophant mask slips and there true feeling about women who use these sites surface .

Hence the name calling starts a case of be nice to women on a sex site even though you don't really respect her for being here as long as you may get sex..( sorry don't shot the messenger over this fact about how some guys _iew things )

the minute that's not the case speak your mind express your true thoughts on women who use these sites .

I'm sorry but its true its not there pride being hurt or any other cod wash its purely a case of they never respected you from the word go so when you turn them down they tell you there true thoughts for the first in there dealings with you as sex is now off the table . "

Lol thats a good explanation into a guys mind

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?"

Well said.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said."

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said.

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either."

Too bad if no one likes it....if u reply u then get half of them askin why or tryin to convince you otherwise..so not replyin is a simple solution..

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said.

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either.

Too bad if no one likes it....if u reply u then get half of them askin why or tryin to convince you otherwise..so not replyin is a simple solution.. "

I can only speak for myself but, if I get a reply saying no thanks, I will send a reply back thanking them for having the courtesy of replying (as so many don't). I have never, and will never, resorted to rudeness as I am very well aware I am not everyone's cup of tea, quite the opposite.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

ye a reply saying no is better than just deleting at least u know they read it rather than mass deleting

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said.

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either.

Too bad if no one likes it....if u reply u then get half of them askin why or tryin to convince you otherwise..so not replyin is a simple solution..

I can only speak for myself but, if I get a reply saying no thanks, I will send a reply back thanking them for having the courtesy of replying (as so many don't). I have never, and will never, resorted to rudeness as I am very well aware I am not everyone's cup of tea, quite the opposite."

And im sure there are others like you but there is a lot that jus then continue to hassle you and obviously i am not able to tell which category the guy is gona come into so to save hassle then its easier just not to reply..because if they had the decency to read my profile in the first place they shouldnt be sendin a message askin to meet me so i also get pissed off at lack of people readin my profile as it states clearly what im after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the guys saying i'd rather have a no thanks than nothing at all .

Leave it out for God sake a no reply is a no thanks .

Jesus I don't respond to any message I get unless I'm interested end of.

By interested i mean yes to a chat to see if there's a spark not yes i'm dropping my trousers.

So why would I expect any different from a women Jesus give the girls a chance and look at it like this if you had 50 messages a day as a guy would you really waste all day saying thanks but no thanks when you could be doing something better with your time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said.

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either.

Too bad if no one likes it....if u reply u then get half of them askin why or tryin to convince you otherwise..so not replyin is a simple solution.. "

I'll take it as I am not their type physically or personality wise. If a bloke walked up to you and started a conversation. You wouldn't just walk off would you. You probably hear him out and say no thanks. If someone just deletes their message. I'll just consider them as rude and not bother with them again. So I won't go out sending insults as they aren't worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would much rather have a message saying no thanks than just have a message deleted.Its a courtesy thing and yes there is room for it on swinger site.

Not everyone can be attracted to everyone eitehr physically or mentally and we all need to accept that, so no one should mind being rejected politely should they?

Well said.

My thoughts exactly, as courtesy costs nothing. But the argument that is flung back at this is that the ladies are inundated with messages. Most of mine are sent to couples though, so that one doesn't wash either.

Too bad if no one likes it....if u reply u then get half of them askin why or tryin to convince you otherwise..so not replyin is a simple solution..

I'll take it as I am not their type physically or personality wise. If a bloke walked up to you and started a conversation. You wouldn't just walk off would you. You probably hear him out and say no thanks. If someone just deletes their message. I'll just consider them as rude and not bother with them again. So I won't go out sending insults as they aren't worth it. "

Why are they rude for not replying to your message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why are they rude for not replying to your message?

"

Some folk use Fab in the exact same way as they use their cars, hidden behind the windscreen or the computer screen some folk act in a manner they would never do in a face to face situation.

No reply may well signify no interest but its no less rude than much of what goes on on our roads on a day to day basis

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Why are they rude for not replying to your message?

Some folk use Fab in the exact same way as they use their cars, hidden behind the windscreen or the computer screen some folk act in a manner they would never do in a face to face situation.

No reply may well signify no interest but its no less rude than much of what goes on on our roads on a day to day basis "

Looks like im rude then

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Why are they rude for not replying to your message?

Some folk use Fab in the exact same way as they use their cars, hidden behind the windscreen or the computer screen some folk act in a manner they would never do in a face to face situation.

No reply may well signify no interest but its no less rude than much of what goes on on our roads on a day to day basis

Looks like im rude then "

And may i add.....95% of messages i recieve are some creep askin if i fancy a meet..without as much even sayin hello..so why should i take time to reply to that..if someone said to me in the street fancy sex..damn right i would walk away

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Use your filters, block all guys, then do some legwork and search for the ones that take your fancy and send the initial message.

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Use your filters, block all guys, then do some legwork and search for the ones that take your fancy and send the initial message."

I dont search anyone on here actually have no idea how to do it properly haha

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Use your filters, block all guys, then do some legwork and search for the ones that take your fancy and send the initial message.

I dont search anyone on here actually have no idea how to do it properly haha "

Click the browse tab. A whole load of options to choose from including distance from you, age bracket, preferences, and via the advanced search, you can filter out non verified people, newbies, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Why are they rude for not replying to your message?

Some folk use Fab in the exact same way as they use their cars, hidden behind the windscreen or the computer screen some folk act in a manner they would never do in a face to face situation.

No reply may well signify no interest but its no less rude than much of what goes on on our roads on a day to day basis

Looks like im rude then "

No your not don't let a bunch of moaning guys ever tell you what's the right way to do something .

Its a bloody sex site for gods sake women can't win on a sex site there damned if they do damned if they don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ye a reply saying no is better than just deleting at least u know they read it rather than mass deleting"

Why should I reply to someone who clearly hasn't read my profile ? I will however reply to men who have taken the time to read it even ift I am saying no thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

There is a bigger percentage of women who can't handle rejection and take the hump trust me on that. The bitchiness is fueled by the over inflated egos they get on here. Granted its still only a small percentage maybe 5% but thats probably twice as many as a percentage as men.

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton


"

And may i add.....95% of messages i recieve are some creep askin if i fancy a meet..without as much even sayin hello..so why should i take time to reply to that..if someone said to me in the street fancy sex..damn right i would walk away "

So if Brad Pitt or David Beckham asked if you wanted to have sex you'd say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why is deleting a non solicited message any ruder than someone sending a message, when they KNOW they dont match what someone is looking for?

as with the OP, if she is looking for women, then any man, no matter what he thinks of himself, isnt going to be her type.

as with us, we get messages off men that are the exact opposite of what we are looking for, so why should we waste our time saying, thanks but no thanks, when they havent even taken the same amount of time to read, and consider the words written on the screen in front of them.

say a bloke messages and says he would love to fuck V, yet its very easy to see we only soft swing, so obviously has only looked at pics and not read a word. so we arent going to waste our time on shit like that.

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

If a man sends a message to someone outside the age range, or obviously not meeting the wanted critreia in someones profile they don't deserve a reply.

But if you read the profile, match the criteria and send a well constructed message, not a one liner, you deserve a reply. Its called couretsy and politeness which is lacking more and more on here.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


" i did gett annoyed when an old man called me the c word

"

That's not clever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If a man sends a message to someone outside the age range, or obviously not meeting the wanted critreia in someones profile they don't deserve a reply.

But if you read the profile, match the criteria and send a well constructed message, not a one liner, you deserve a reply. Its called couretsy and politeness which is lacking more and more on here."

Yeah, that sounds fair enough. Even if it is a polite no thank you, god knows I've sent enough of them to men who fancy a shot.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Why would a couple or single lady on Fab who have the choice of dozens, if not more, single men be bothered to reply to even a nice message from someone who fits what they want.

It doesn't happen guys, get used to it; but it is still no reason to get nasty which is the point the OP is making.

Its not about being polite, or respectful its about where the power is on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im afraid it goes with the territory on this site .When you get mail like that block and move on I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a shitty message last week when a guy realised after sending 3 or 4 messages that we weren't interested in him attending our party we were holding. So then he's messaging calling us rude fucking bastards for not replying.

I thought I was being polite. I should have replied after message one saying "no you're not coming because you're an ugly minging bastard" but hey ho you just can't win all of them

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

i struggle to think of a nice reply to anyone that messages me as my profile states not looking ,and folk still get funny with you ,had it on other sites too

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We had a shitty message last week when a guy realised after sending 3 or 4 messages that we weren't interested in him attending our party we were holding. So then he's messaging calling us rude fucking bastards for not replying.

I thought I was being polite. I should have replied after message one saying "no you're not coming because you're an ugly minging bastard" but hey ho you just can't win all of them "

Las nyt i was called sexy, 10 mins later i became fat and hacket

Today i was curvy and sexy, 2 mins later after a deleted msg i became fat again LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Emotionally immature or actually immature plus lacking in confidence.

That's what I reckon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Las nyt i was called sexy, 10 mins later i became fat and hacket

"

Hacket - haven't heard that ace term in years

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Emotionally immature or actually immature plus lacking in confidence.

That's what I reckon"

Lasnyts one was 22

Todays was 40 lol

Pathetic

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

Rejection always "hurts" but my life will always go on. I would never resort to name calling or snivelling. What's the point of it? Xx

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Las nyt i was called sexy, 10 mins later i became fat and hacket

Hacket - haven't heard that ace term in years "

Ahh well thats what i am LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't the block option lovely

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Rejection always "hurts" but my life will always go on. I would never resort to name calling or snivelling. What's the point of it? Xx"

Duno but makes people look incredibly pathetic how quick they change their mind that ur gorgeous to ugly and fat after they get rejected lol

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By *othingButCocoChanel OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Isn't the block option lovely"

a punch option would be better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sour grapes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really "

I think I handled it quite well after you blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it that "men" on here cant seem to handle rejection?

Start with their childish name calling if you dont reply or say no??

Really

Emotionally immature or actually immature plus lacking in confidence.

That's what I reckon

Lasnyts one was 22

Todays was 40 lol

Pathetic "

You could be 80 and emotionally immature, it's about knowing yourself, being comfortable with yourself and understanding other people are emotional creatures too ... And some other stuff too, but my thumbs ache

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I have been messed about by people who "liked" me a lot after having met me in the flesh and then they changed course on me, 180 degrees. Still, I wouldn't even dream of making a scene with them either online or in person no matter how bitter I felt. Just breathe deeply and rise above x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just put on your profile you cant mail all back. But thanks for there mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had that. I politely say 'no thank you' and usually get a 'thanks for replying' message back.

Rude messages seem to get rude messages back....

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