FabSwingers.com forum: Rudeness

By *beautifulpain OP Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Is this the norm here? We keep coming across this, it is what has caused the creation of this rant:

Just because we have expressed a desire for you to be rude with us, does not give you the right to be rude to us.

Manners are a turn on and some respect and decency is expected. You do not own us just because we ask to sleep with you.

Nothing gives you the right to tell us off or be derogatory in any way. So let's be fair if you are we are just going to move along and no one gets what they want.

So far not having the best Fab experience, still the eternal optimist in me will keep us going.

Here is to better times and better people.

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

i often send polite messages to couple that have looking for men on profile message just gets deleted no reply i realise some get a lot of messages but how long does it take to reply even a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is very frustrating for a guy to read through all the do's and don't of a ladies profile . Take all whats said in to account . Write a well thought out message . Just to see it deleted with no reply . I can understand how many messages a lady get everyday on here but how long does it take to say no thanks when one can see the guy has put a lot of effort into his message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a single guy cant put the effort into his introductory and subsequent communications just how well do you think he is going to perform in the other arras (such as play/sex).

OP .. sorry you are not having the best time..perhaps you should consider being more prescriptive in your profile?

I will say it is hard not to become despondant but remember..this is for fun.. not for an LTR..

Dave x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For god's sake these post are coming thick and fast.

Why do people require a written mail to say no? Its beyond belief that you want written confimation.

A message deleted is as good as a mail saying no..... Would you prefer a mail saying no thanks you ugly twat we dont fancy you? Just accept a deletion means know.

Oh and ugly twat was a generalisation weve not looked at anyone in particular on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its usually very self evident. If someone replies, they think its a kind offer but respectfully decline.

If they delete it without notice, either they get a lot of messages and have no choice, or had their reasons for not even wanting to look.

I wouldn't read too far into it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For god's sake these post are coming thick and fast.

Why do people require a written mail to say no? Its beyond belief that you want written confimation.

A message deleted is as good as a mail saying no..... Would you prefer a mail saying no thanks you ugly twat we dont fancy you? Just accept a deletion means know.

Oh and ugly twat was a generalisation weve not looked at anyone in particular on here"
You said the same thing on the other thread and i gave you a answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to always send a polite no thanks but have given up now as I either get them ranting at me for saying no or trying to change my mind I have put on profile I won't answer if I'm not interested . I'm not a rude person and I do hate to just delete but feel its now the only way and I will say sorry here to those that took my no and were polite about it ...x

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over a year ago

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

try going to a club or an organised social event, that may help

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For god's sake these post are coming thick and fast.

Why do people require a written mail to say no? Its beyond belief that you want written confimation.

A message deleted is as good as a mail saying no..... Would you prefer a mail saying no thanks you ugly twat we dont fancy you? Just accept a deletion means no

Oh and ugly twat was a generalisation weve not looked at anyone in particular on here You said the same thing on the other thread and i gave you a answer "
your correct you did but this is a new post by a different op so if its ok with you i chose to comment here as well!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For god's sake these post are coming thick and fast.

Why do people require a written mail to say no? Its beyond belief that you want written confimation.

A message deleted is as good as a mail saying no..... Would you prefer a mail saying no thanks you ugly twat we dont fancy you? Just accept a deletion means no

Oh and ugly twat was a generalisation weve not looked at anyone in particular on here You said the same thing on the other thread and i gave you a answer your correct you did but this is a new post by a different op so if its ok with you i chose to comment here as well!!"
Of course but would give you the same reply

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

OP, there is a lot of negativity around...and if you look a bit more carefully you'll see this negativity is inflicted on single men, single women, even from couples to other couples! As I said in a previous post to you, just be decent people but also be yourselves (meaning don't try to put up or fret about idiots). If you haven't met anyone nice from the website yet, I'm sure you will soon

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

"Is this the norm here? We keep coming across this, it is what has caused the creation of this rant:

Just because we have expressed a desire for you to be rude with us, does not give you the right to be rude to us.

Manners are a turn on and some respect and decency is expected. You do not own us just because we ask to sleep with you.

Nothing gives you the right to tell us off or be derogatory in any way. So let's be fair if you are we are just going to move along and no one gets what they want.

So far not having the best Fab experience, still the eternal optimist in me will keep us going.

Here is to better times and better people. "

Yesterday we suffered some disgusting abuse just because we said no to a member. As of the time of this post his dummy will be passing Saturn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always tried to reply but the constant messages with no thought behind them do wear you down. It's either cut and paste type messages or a few words. We welcome good quality messages from all

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