FabSwingers.com forum: Do I tell her

By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her, she probably will think you were comming on.to him, but if he is doing it with you, and your her best friend, he will be doing.it elsewhere, get it out there, and put a end to it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"

Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it?

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Tell her, she probably will think you were comming on.to him, but if he is doing it with you, and your her best friend, he will be doing.it elsewhere, get it out there, and put a end to it x"
not my best friend iv not known her that long

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????

Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it?"
both sayin things ang grabbing me an yes I went mad at him still dint stop him doin it tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????

Flirting coming on or physical contact coming on? Was alcohol involved did you challenge him over it?both sayin things ang grabbing me an yes I went mad at him still dint stop him doin it tho"

If he went that far and well past flirting tell her you may get fallout but if he was grabbing you its unacceptable.

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By *eeajCouple
over a year ago

derby

I wouldn't make a point of telling her, id just make sure he knew the score.

sounds like you did the best thing tbh.

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I wouldn't make a point of telling her, id just make sure he knew the score.

sounds like you did the best thing tbh."
hes an idiot an not 2 mention quite intimidating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hes an idiot an not 2 mention quite intimidating "

Well let her find that out for herself.

Friend or not, if you 'grass him up' and he rubbishes your story you could end up being the villain of the piece and lose your friend forever.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where was she?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Setup a sting opperation. At least thrn you've got dome gard evidence and nit jyst your word. The honey trap scenario never fails to catch a cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion, some thgs are best left unsaid. she wont thanks you ofr it..he will most probably lis and try and turn it on you.. and theres a possibility you will lose a friend.

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By *lippi WenwetCouple
over a year ago

tynemouth

many moons ago I found out my ex husband was cheating on me with just about anything that moved and my bf knew all about it and never said anything, I was more hurt by her being afraid to tell me rather than being cheated on, we fell out for a while and I kicked the ex to the curb but everything went back to normal soon after. If it was someone you knew then maybe keep quiet but if its your best friend, put yourself in her shoes, would she tell you? if you mentioned it your conscience would be clear. better still go for the honeytrap idea as mentioned above, that way she finds out and it hasn't come from you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No don't tell her and don't do anything.

Things like this never end well. If she stills wants her relationship to continue with this guy, she will make excuses fir him and you will end up the one who was trying to split them up.

If you were out at night, drink was probably involved, senses dimmed somewhat. At the time it was happening all you had to do was tell him to piss off and be suite firm about it. You can stop people touching and grabbing you, you just have to assertive and mean it.

I dont agree with the 'honeytrap' suggestions. Meddling further into other peoples relationships will almost certainly lose you a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont say a word!

This is a situation where she has to find out for herself.

If you tell her, it probably wont change their relationship but ruin yours with her.

She will find out sooner or later and deal with it herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd get him on his own and have a talk tell him you know it was the drink but it mustn't happen again warn him that next time you will from her. Then I'd try to keep out of his way . Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will tell her I meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he know u swing, were u braggin bout it, r u completely innocent in all this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't

was there no one else to corroborate this?

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By *ohn_1983Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't

was there no one else to corroborate this?"

Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others.

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"Did he know u swing, were u braggin bout it, r u completely innocent in all this? "
yeah I think u find I was innocent in this thank u I have no interest in a bully that thinks he can have who he wants when he wants

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No, best say nowt

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't

was there no one else to corroborate this?

Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others."
he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't

was there no one else to corroborate this?

Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others.he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley "

Where was your friend when this was happening? Or were you out without her?

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By *rankygirlWoman
over a year ago

Haverfordwest

I would go with having a talk to him when you are both sober - he will get the message then so you wont need to say anything if you're ever together in a pub again.

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"think you'll find your damned if you do and damned if you don't

was there no one else to corroborate this?

Sounds similar to a situation at my old work between two work friends.

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others.he was drinkin but defo wasn't d*unk he knew what he was doin an I don't think I'm the first he would have tryed this with unforunatley

Where was your friend when this was happening? Or were you out without her?"
not with me or him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others."

This sounds like a good idea to me. I think it's only fair that she knows he acted inappropriatly, just be very careful how you word it. Don't make your sustain for this guy obvious to her or she might think you're just trying to cause trouble cos you don't like him.

He sounds like an utter prick, & I think she should know she's lucky to have a friend like you who didn't reciprocate when he tried it on, as long as you don't make it sound like you think you're irresistible to men (which I'm sure you don't!) xxx

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"I would go with having a talk to him when you are both sober - he will get the message then so you wont need to say anything if you're ever together in a pub again.

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no he's the same pissed or sober he's just a nasty piece of work 2 b honest with ya

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

One decided to tell the other but importantly focused on how the guy had been drinking and how fortunate it was her he had hit on not someone else who might have said yes.

This tactic worked for them but might not for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"

stay out of it, the chances are if you tell her, she'll challenge him, he'll make every excuse to make out is wasn't his fault, she'll believe him and you'll be the bastard out of it all

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

If you're happy to lose a friend tell her.

Personally I have to say unless I was in the only pub/club in town I'd have moved on if there was a knob jockey like this annoying me

Tough choice, good luck

Julie x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I was out last night an my friend bf was comin on 2 me do I tell her of just leave it????"

Problem is people tend to shoot the messenger in these types of situations. Even if she doesn't, she's going to feel uncomfortable around you.

I'd make it clear to him his attentions are unwanted and stay clear of the creep!

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Thanks 4 all the feed back every body xxx

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Thanks 4 all the feed back every body xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her - then no matter what eventually comes of it, you've done the right thing.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said

Don't tell her, it would probably kill your friendship even if she does believe you.

Next time you see him make it clear you think he's a douche bag and would never go near him, embarrass him.

I really hate guys who do this, so disrespectful to both his gf and you

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By *ittlemisspink OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"As others have said

Don't tell her, it would probably kill your friendship even if she does believe you.

Next time you see him make it clear you think he's a douche bag and would never go near him, embarrass him.

I really hate guys who do this, so disrespectful to both his gf and you"
he's a cocky arragant prick an that's puttin it nice

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