FabSwingers.com forum: Would you stand me up...???

By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

Would you meet me or stand me up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a warning mate . These kind of posts never go well .. Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm

I don't find you attractive but you seem nice enough.

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By *ibanditMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason.

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By *ambo75Man
over a year ago

radcliffe

"Just a warning mate . These kind of posts never go well .. Just saying

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haha...

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Neither..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither.. "

This

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Neither, as both imply some degree of pre-meet chat and communications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brave man!

If ive made an arrangement I would'nt stand anyone up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id pick you up and put you back on top of your pedestal "look at me ,look at me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm

I don't find you attractive but you seem nice enough.

Sorry I didn't make myself very clear. I wouldn't meet you because you're not my type but I wouldn't deliberately stand you up and I don't see why others that are attractive to you would.

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

"Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason.

I think its just wrong to "suddenly evaporate" after chatting and arranging a meet.

Perhaps a "Name and Shame" post should be started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You was warned

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason.

I think its just wrong to "suddenly evaporate" after chatting and arranging a meet.

Perhaps a "Name and Shame" post should be started."

lol - so you've been 'stood up' and want to name and shame? You stood up us last week - no message no nothing - pfttt! Z

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

Your In Bolton ... the other side of the country from Norwich. I think you're very mistaken.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Your In Bolton ... the other side of the country from Norwich. I think you're very mistaken.

They are showing you by example why name and shame threads don't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear oh dear...this is going terribly wrong!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zoe was proving its very easy to name and shame, naming and shaming dont prove no one stood you up.

If someone has stood you up, follow site rules and report the profile to admin.

But messages fizzling out isnt timewasting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason.

I think its just wrong to "suddenly evaporate" after chatting and arranging a meet.

Perhaps a "Name and Shame" post should be started.

lol - so you've been 'stood up' and want to name and shame? You stood up us last week - no message no nothing - pfttt! Z "

And where were you two last night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who would stand anyone up for a meet lol..if arranged OP i wouldnt stand u up..but then we'd never meet for 'that' reason lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were 6ft no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a warning mate . These kind of posts never go well .. Just saying

Lol hope he knows what he's in for...

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

1.Messages dieing out and standing up are not the same.

2.Perhaps when people list meets (similar to Facebook confirmations) you confirm your intention to attend.

Then the host can reconfirm and display results on profile. ie this individual has been to 100% of arranged meets etc.

I don't have all the answers but frustrated with wasting my time without recourse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dear oh dear...this is going terribly wrong!!

Well....he was warned lol

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I wouldn't stand anyone up That is rude..

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"Your In Bolton ... the other side of the country from Norwich. I think you're very mistaken.

yep - naming and shaming would just never ever work! Z

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

"Your In Bolton ... the other side of the country from Norwich. I think you're very mistaken.

yep - naming and shaming would just never ever work! Z"

kinda annoyed how easily you've proven your point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like you hung yourself there fella... Me thinks you have been named and shamed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have made plans to meet you in the first place.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"1.Messages dieing out and standing up are not the same.

2.Perhaps when people list meets (similar to Facebook confirmations) you confirm your intention to attend.

Then the host can reconfirm and display results on profile. ie this individual has been to 100% of arranged meets etc.

I don't have all the answers but frustrated with wasting my time without recourse."
For goodness sake what next a traffic light system? Just a thought but maybe you might want to consider the people you are making these meets with.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

[Removed by poster at 28/09/13 18:16:19]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I just ask: the OP is straight, according to his profile, but amongst his meets counts two men. Isn't that giving confusing signals? Maybe that could be the issue with the stood-up?

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

OP you are not what I am looking but I would never stand you or anyone else up if we had agreed to meet! Decency, empathy and respect are values lost on some fum posters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"May I just ask: the OP is straight, according to his profile, but amongst his meets counts two men. Isn't that giving confusing signals? Maybe that could be the issue with the stood-up?"

So glad you said something because I saw where he was referred to as a hairy bear... I thought I was the only one who caught that!!

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

"Would you meet me or stand me up?

We would never arrange to meet anyone who is deceptive in their profile. You claim to be straight but have two veri's from men who seemed very satisfied with you "hairy bear".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These threads are suicide threads -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you meet me or stand me up?

We would never arrange to meet anyone who is deceptive in their profile. You claim to be straight but have two veri's from men who seemed very satisfied with you "hairy bear"."

Pmsl@ hairy bear ... heard it called some things !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't stand you up but I wouldn't meet you so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you meet me or stand me up?

No offence but I wouldn't arrange to meet with you, but whe I do arrange to meet with someone I don't stand them up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very nice just too young and too far so not meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like most sound-minded people I wouldn't ever stand anyone up if I'd agreed to meet without good reason.

I think its just wrong to "suddenly evaporate" after chatting and arranging a meet.

Perhaps a "Name and Shame" post should be started."

No its against the rules

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single guys that get messed around....I was stood up by a couple last week...waited in a pub and they didn't appear.

Then their profile disappears........then re appears with their names round the other way ! !

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

I'm rather amused by the questioning of my sexuality. The verifies came from bi men part of couples or mmmf meets.

The OP was naively simple..... didn't get across what I was asking.

I was particularly angry having been stood up. This had been after weeks of messaging back and forth so not a suddenly arranged meet.

My annoyance has subsided now. Thank you to those who have privately messaged with kind words of empathy and constructive criticism.

Those who spit poison and mistrust I think it reflects on themselves quite well.

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By *ohn_1983 OP Man
over a year ago

South of Norwich

"It's not just single guys that get messed around....I was stood up by a couple last week...waited in a pub and they didn't appear.

Then their profile disappears........then re appears with their names round the other way ! !

I've seen that. profile disappears then reappears with same photos and simple change to the name.

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