FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys performance at clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do single guys not realise how rude it is to play with a couple and deliberately hold back during the meet ?

Although it doesn't hapoen too often , when it does it is the ultimate passion killer !

Just this week at Chans a guy actually said to my wife as she sucked him ' Oooh slow down luv , it's early yet and I don't wanna cum yet , the night is young ' .... WTF ?

What is it with this ....

Before anyone gets on our case we believe every play should be great for all involved and fail to see how it can be if the guy us just thinking about not wanting cum !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some guys can only cum once and find it hard to get hard again for a while after, if your like that I suppose you don't want to be cumming at 6pm knowing your not going to be able to play again fro another 4 hours

It does make you feel a bit naff tho as a woman, I remember going into a room with a guy at chams once and he got up mid play and told me he was going for a look round and would be back later lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's not just there for your pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the top and bottom of it is men will take what they can at the beginning of the night but want to save themselves for someone they really want to play with and that may not come till later on in the night

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Do you...don't you....do you.... don't you

Sheesh...how's a man to know....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure. "

Nor are we for his !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have thought a little invention to give him time and you both some fun would be the right thing. I understand him not wanting to blow early but there are ways and there are ways . He just picked the wrong one!!

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I would take it as a compliment. As in you're so sexy that he wants to have intercourse with you which wouldn't happen if he came from oral.

Agree that the "night is yet young" phrase is a bit weird though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The outcome was ironically that he shot his load anyway and declared thar it was a great experience ... my wife took it as a compliment . However the original post was more general and naughtynympho seems to have a more realistic perspective so far .

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

luckily i can repeat pretty quick so would not stop until i finished what i started then try and find someone else

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"luckily i can repeat pretty quick so would not stop until i finished what i started then try and find someone else"

And for us anyway that's how it should be !

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

i dont think my cock would let me get up and leave halfway thru

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens a lot... The had the.. "it's still early "comments lots of times..

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Shame we don't have a little, cock 'stop cock' on the side

then a bloke could evenly distribute his load. Little squirt for you, little squirt for her. Everyone's a winner

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"He's not just there for your pleasure. "

Can we nominate posts of forever? Because this right here is up there.

Recently touched on this, but it is sad how many couples have this mindset.

Sidenote: If you want a stuntcock, go do some porn.

/rant

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

these things happen.....the end result is not always bad as you still have each other to play with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it depends if you think that the best thing about sex is having an orgasm or not.

Personally I think there's better things than orgasms and lots of blokes I know do too.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

So sorry to go off topic

But Ryan. Lmao at your new pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Can we nominate posts of forever? Because this right here is up there.

Recently touched on this, but it is sad how many couples have this mindset.

Sidenote: If you want a stuntcock, go do some porn.

/rant"

where do I sign up

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Can we nominate posts of forever? Because this right here is up there.

Recently touched on this, but it is sad how many couples have this mindset.

Sidenote: If you want a stuntcock, go do some porn.

/rant

where do I sign up

I happen to know a couple....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a problem we have ever encountered, but I suppose from a single mans perspective they are not performing seals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry if im betraying the brotherhood here and i'll hand im my membership card at the door, but the guy is a Twat!

Sorry guys but if you are a one or two shot and you are done for the evening, then what are you doing going to a club in the first place. You are going to have the expectation of multiple plays.

If you are lucky enough that a couple are willing to have you play with them, why would you want to disrespect them by holding back. If that was me, i would want to cum as a sign of gratitude for blowing me in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really rude?

If I was a guy in a club anticipating a whole long evening of fun and I knew that if came it would take ages to get going again I think id hold back too,as long as everyone is enjoying the experience then I can't see a problem,its me that has'nt had the orgasm,id be doing my best to make sure you had one though,plus theres always a chance I may end up wanking it out at home anyway if no one else wanted to play with me for the rest of the night

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

"Is it really rude?

indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it really rude?

I think it depends how its said, if your in a open room its easy to move from person to person and slink off un noticed or to even say you need to go for a drink and will catch up later, but to tell a woman who's playing with you to slow down because you basically want to save yourself for someone else seems a little rude I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree,its how its said,there is a huge difference between slown down its going to be along night and I don't want to peak too soon,than actually id like to shoot my load over someone better so stop what you're doing right now!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"Im sorry if im betraying the brotherhood here and i'll hand im my membership card at the door, but the guy is a Twat!

Sorry guys but if you are a one or two shot and you are done for the evening, then what are you doing going to a club in the first place. You are going to have the expectation of multiple plays.

Are you serious? If you are a guy who can't repeat multiple times in one night, you shouldn't be at a club?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sorry if im betraying the brotherhood here and i'll hand im my membership card at the door, but the guy is a Twat!

Sorry guys but if you are a one or two shot and you are done for the evening, then what are you doing going to a club in the first place. You are going to have the expectation of multiple plays.

Are you serious? If you are a guy who can't repeat multiple times in one night, you shouldn't be at a club?"

I thought that was an odd thing to say as well

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

Once again the couples sense of entitlement astounds me. Always the singles fault. I think I have had enough of meeting couples. Rant over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I could say the same about single fems that think the sun shines out their arses......but I won't make sweeping generalisations about a whole section of the site that I hav'nt met,im a bit more rational than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im sorry if im betraying the brotherhood here and i'll hand im my membership card at the door, but the guy is a Twat!

Sorry guys but if you are a one or two shot and you are done for the evening, then what are you doing going to a club in the first place. You are going to have the expectation of multiple plays.

Are you serious? If you are a guy who can't repeat multiple times in one night, you shouldn't be at a club?"

No. I was referring to the prick the OP was talking about, making a dumbass comment like that. Im sure most other guys would be more respectful of their comments if they are in the same situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I could say the same about single fems that think the sun shines out their arses......but I won't make sweeping generalisations about a whole section of the site that I hav'nt met,im a bit more rational than that

but the sun does shone out my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He said he did'nt want to cum too soon because it was early? how is that being a prick? and how is it disrespectful?

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

"I suppose it depends if you think that the best thing about sex is having an orgasm or not.

Personally I think there's better things than orgasms and lots of blokes I know do too."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but the sun does shone out my arse

I know ive got my glasses on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Can we nominate posts of forever? Because this right here is up there.

Recently touched on this, but it is sad how many couples have this mindset.

Sidenote: If you want a stuntcock, go do some porn.

/rant"

I will assume this is a misunderstanding fir the sake of the poster !

A stuntcock ?

We are a couple who enjoy playing with single guys as much as couples and our profile says as much - as do our verifications .

The point I was making was simply this - if the guy is deliberately holding back , it doesn't make the woman feel great if he is waiting for something better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He said he did'nt want to cum too soon because it was early? how is that being a prick? and how is it disrespectful? "

He wasnt exactly tactful in his choice of words and to me thats disrespectful to the other participant.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Can we nominate posts of forever? Because this right here is up there.

Recently touched on this, but it is sad how many couples have this mindset.

Sidenote: If you want a stuntcock, go do some porn.

/rant

I will assume this is a misunderstanding fir the sake of the poster !

A stuntcock ?

We are a couple who enjoy playing with single guys as much as couples and our profile says as much - as do our verifications .

The point I was making was simply this - if the guy is deliberately holding back , it doesn't make the woman feel great if he is waiting for something better !

Waiting for something better? Maybe....just maybe....he didn't want to cum yet. Like he said. Even disregarding the bit he added at the end.

I've told women and couples i've met to slow down so we could savour the moment a bit longer. Not once has that been called into question as anything more than a request to slow down.

Hey men...you either cum too quickly, or take too long. And better be ready to go 4 or 5 times in one night. Because we are all built like that. To hell with biology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank god ive not got delicate sensitivites and can understand where hes coming from,its not about waiting for someone better,its about pacing yourself because you know how your body works

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

this is the kind of thread when you find all the "white knight" crawling out the woodwork.......

"oh bad man... I would never do anything like that...... I am different!" ect ect ect....

men are not all machines..... and to be honest this thread could be seen as kinda insulting

and if a man had started the same thread I am guessing a lot of the replies would have been sooooo..... sooooooooooooooooo different

so many people take not cumming as an insult, like they are challenging their manhood.. or sexiness....

if they weren't attracted they wouldn't be playing in the first place!!!!

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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

He should've just said he wanted to switch places and give her a bit of oral

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Once again the couples sense of entitlement astounds me. Always the singles fault. I think I have had enough of meeting couples. Rant over "

Sense of entitlement ?

So we play with a guy and expect him to treat it as an enjoyable experience and criticise the fact that he is thinking he doesn't wanna cum too quickly or it nay spoil his night .. and we are wrong ?

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I suppose I would have surrendered to your wife's artistry and then crossed my fingers to get hard again for the rest of the evening lol xx

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"He should've just said he wanted to switch places and give her a bit of oral

I wouldn't want to cum too soon either but if I did, I'd be staying for everything else anyway, and taking turns is a good idea. A little more tact can be good.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Once again the couples sense of entitlement astounds me. Always the singles fault. I think I have had enough of meeting couples. Rant over

Sense of entitlement ?

So we play with a guy and expect him to treat it as an enjoyable experience and criticise the fact that he is thinking he doesn't wanna cum too quickly or it nay spoil his night .. and we are wrong ?

1: Cumming too quickly may have spoiled his night. It isn't all about you.

2: He may have been worried that you'd both criticise his cumming too quickly. That's another thing men worry about

3: The title of this thread itself is pretty telling, at least in terms of your mindset towards play with single guys.

4: Men are capable of having an enjoyable sexual experience without blowing their load. Shocking i know.

5: All of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a lot of threads on here about the elusive bi-female meeeting couples and a recurring theme from bi-fems is that they are left feeling like a performing seal, there purely for the couples pleasure.

Of this thread had been posted where it was a woman that hadn't been 100% compliant with the couples wishes, I can;t help but think it would be going even worse for the OP than it is.

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By *uy4couplesMan
over a year ago

south kent

we have had the same thing happen to us, in the past with a g/friend of mine

we invited a guy round to play etc, halfway through the evening we was playing when she was sucking ,wanking him etc,enjoying every minute

after about 2 hours of him holding back the cheeky sod told us his unable to cum now due to holding back to long, and that it wasn't for him, and that he would have to save the rest up for the wank back in the morning, i will point out at this stage that my g/friend is blond with hazel eyes with a figure of size 14

that left my g/Friend pretty much humiliated as she told him to leave immediately for being rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you are wrong, everyone is different and you need to compensate for that,

Your complaining about this is a bit selfish on your part in my opinion, live and let live you had fun move on,

If you are out to try cheese you can't expect the cheese to taste like ham

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure. "

Agreed ...you see lots of posts defending women's rights to play as they see fit so what's the difference here? OMG J Im agreeing with you lol I best go lie down for 10 mins lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

1: Cumming too quickly may have spoiled his night. It isn't all about you.

2: He may have been worried that you'd both criticise his cumming too quickly. That's another thing men worry about

3: The title of this thread itself is pretty telling, at least in terms of your mindset towards play with single guys.

4: Men are capable of having an enjoyable sexual experience without blowing their load. Shocking i know.

5: All of the above"

alla-fucking-lulah.....

amen to that brother!!!

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

ouch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Agreed ...you see lots of posts defending women's rights to play as they see fit so what's the difference here? OMG J Im agreeing with you lol I best go lie down for 10 mins lol

Had to happen eventually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people are wanting it both ways, play with as many people as possible and expect a fully satisfying fuck.

Clubs are like a all-you-can-eat restaurant. Try as many dishes as you can, but don't expect the best food ever.

This reminds me of why I never found them very satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is the kind of thread when you find all the "white knight" crawling out the woodwork.......

"oh bad man... I would never do anything like that...... I am different!" ect ect ect....

men are not all machines..... and to be honest this thread could be seen as kinda insulting

and if a man had started the same thread I am guessing a lot of the replies would have been sooooo..... sooooooooooooooooo different

so many people take not cumming as an insult, like they are challenging their manhood.. or sexiness....

if they weren't attracted they wouldn't be playing in the first place!!!!"

It is interesting that the expectation is that he has to cum. Why? I'm lost on this as I might not cum for 2-3 days and then let oh when I want.

Also love the "yeah if it was me" additions lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I am hit and miss with regards to getting hard shortly after cumming, and the general perception from men is that the women like guys who last for longer. So maybe he just didn't want to disappoint the both of you by cumming from oral without going further during the play session?! His comments could be seen from another perspective "the night is young" i.e "there is plenty more time for me to return the favour before we climax". He should have just been more specific with what he meant and chosen a better phrase lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fabio ......

I nearly always see your comments as being constructive and rarely disagree .

Maybe my choice of words or sentiment isn't coming across too well on this thread.

The deliberate act of holding back is in my opinion rude and disrespectful . If my wife told a guy to stop or slow down as she didn't wanna cum how would he feel ?

Are the guys who think we are up our own arses for suggesting that a meet should be uninhibited really only interested in the woman they play with as an aside or is it us that are wrong for wanting unbridled passion ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Nor are we for his !

but he has paid rather a lot to get in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have had the same thing happen to us, in the past with a g/friend of mine

we invited a guy round to play etc, halfway through the evening we was playing when she was sucking ,wanking him etc,enjoying every minute

that left my g/Friend pretty much humiliated as she told him to leave immediately for being rude

To be fair, after controlling going over the edge for a few hours I sometimes find it hard to cum too.

Although if all else fails, just make like a porn star and finish off by hand, lol.

I would have thought he'd prefer to wank over you than back at home, so does seem weird.

Alternative _iew: if he had cum in the first five minutes you wouldn't be humiliated, but a tad disappointed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ouch

When you post something that slams a section of the site you'll get a reaction,I could have said ouch too you know x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are the guys who think we are up our own arses for suggesting that a meet should be uninhibited really only interested in the woman they play with as an aside or is it us that are wrong for wanting unbridled passion ?"

Clever twist of terms, but its totally different to a meet and a club visit,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He's not just there for your pleasure.

Nor are we for his !

but he has paid rather a lot to get in

So did we lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clever twist of terms, but its totally different to a meet and a club visit,

Glad you said this as for us it isn't . Perhaps that's where the apparent comtempt at our issue has come from .

There was an earlier post saying that a club is like a buffet - we put our all into any interaction whether at a club or anywhere else .

Ironically we have argued the point that single guys should have as much right to have a great time as a couple with many other couples !!!

Clearly not everyone sees this in the same way and no offence was meant by the original post

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just a quick question for blackshadow ...

You say on your profile that you love to give oral to completion with a woman .... you can guess the next bit !

Would you be hapoy for her to tell you to stop before completion ?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

women have told me to stop a few times, they were squirters and didn't want to

I was cool with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you rather he faked it?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I take ages to come but once I have....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Would you rather he faked it?"

Huh ?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Just a quick question for blackshadow ...

You say on your profile that you love to give oral to completion with a woman .... you can guess the next bit !

Would you be hapoy for her to tell you to stop before completion ?

Yes. I'm not arrogant enough to believe that all women i give oral to would cum, or even want to cum.

Geez, it isn't rocket science.

Furthermore, i've met couples who have wanted to save the orgasms for themselves, and as such, the female half has told me to hold back on making her cum specifically for that. It is like some couples who only kiss themselves and not other people.

We are all different. Someone telling me they want to slow down and not cum/ not cum too soon isn't even remotely rude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But your pleasure is making her cum from oral and ours is enjoying psssionate sex where all parties put their all in .

I accept some couples do as you say ... but we don't and I think you are missing the point here .

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"...and ours is enjoying passionate sex where all parties put their all in...

That's great. Putting my all in doesn't always mean i cum at the end. Just the way it is.

Maybe not overanalyse and just accept the guy's predicament. If i were in his shoes, and i wasn't having a good time, i'd zip up and walk away. The fact that he wanted to hang around, but not cum too quickly tells you all you need to know. Or maybe it doesn't as you seem entrenched in your _iew.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

ouch

When you post something that slams a section of the site you'll get a reaction,I could have said ouch too you know x"

yeah sorry.. I did not intend to slam every couple on the site. I can only speak from my own experience and comment on the op. Apologies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when does 'passionate sex' mean 'MUST HAVE AN ORGASM'?

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By *assage and oralMan
over a year ago

Newent

How sad.

Unfortunately there are a lot of very selfish men out there. It's supposed to be mutual pleasure, not just focused on yourself. So you come early on having had fun. So what?

Have done full on fun and then just make sure the couple or woman are equally satisfied then just relax and enjoy the sights if you can't "go" immediately. The night's still young...

Sheesh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"...and ours is enjoying passionate sex where all parties put their all in...

That's great. Putting my all in doesn't always mean i cum at the end. Just the way it is.

Earlier in the thread I explained that he did infact cum and loved it . When we chatted later in the evening he said how good he felt as he later played again with another couple - the first time he had cum twice in an evening at chams !

So perhaps we are entrenched in our _iew or perhaps others are too !

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

ouch

When you post something that slams a section of the site you'll get a reaction,I could have said ouch too you know x"

was not my intention.. can only speak to my own experience and comment on the op. Apologies.

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By *assage and oralMan
over a year ago

Newent

Precisely flickky.

Coming isn't the be all and end all. Enjoy more for longer...personally, and I know there are others like me out there, I get my pleasure pleasing another.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since when does 'passionate sex' mean 'MUST HAVE AN ORGASM'?"

And how does a comment such as 'the night is young i don't wanna cum yet' fit into anyones idea of passionate sex ?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Earlier in the thread I explained that he did infact cum and loved it . When we chatted later in the evening he said how good he felt as he later played again with another couple - the first time he had cum twice in an evening at chams !

So perhaps we are entrenched in our _iew or perhaps others are too !"

Just going to quote....

"we believe every play should be great for all involved and fail to see how it can be if the guy us just thinking about not wanting cum"

and the thread title...

"Single guys "performance" at clubs"

And leave it at that. This will just become an endless back and forth. I believe you should take your male playmate(s) more into consideration and you believe it is rude for a guy to hold back during play.

Have fun.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I take ages to come but once I have....

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.....you sing "Everyones a winner, baby?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Precisely flickky.

Coming isn't the be all and end all. Enjoy more for longer...personally, and I know there are others like me out there, I get my pleasure pleasing another."

You miss the point - our pleasure comes from pleasing others too and to deliberately hold back is not pleasurable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ouch

When you post something that slams a section of the site you'll get a reaction,I could have said ouch too you know x

was not my intention.. can only speak to my own experience and comment on the op. Apologies."

Accepted ..... with huge squeezy hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do single guys not realise how rude it is to play with a couple and deliberately hold back during the meet ?

Although it doesn't hapoen too often , when it does it is the ultimate passion killer !

Just this week at Chans a guy actually said to my wife as she sucked him ' Oooh slow down luv , it's early yet and I don't wanna cum yet , the night is young ' .... WTF ?

What is it with this ....

Before anyone gets on our case we believe every play should be great for all involved and fail to see how it can be if the guy us just thinking about not wanting cum !!!

In what way is it rude to want to prolong cumming? As previously stated, maybe the guy finds it difficult to get hard again after cumming. And, single guys pay a hell of a lot more to get into clubs than couples and single fems.

All the guy done was ask your missus to slow down, maybe he didn't like her technique? And didn't like to say so in a negative manner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clearly best to leave it blackshadow ... agree to disagree .

We are the last people to not consider those we play with !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Since when does 'passionate sex' mean 'MUST HAVE AN ORGASM'?

And how does a comment such as 'the night is young i don't wanna cum yet' fit into anyones idea of passionate sex ?"

Because he wants to have passionate sex with more than person that night?

What's wrong with that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since when does 'passionate sex' mean 'MUST HAVE AN ORGASM'?

And how does a comment such as 'the night is young i don't wanna cum yet' fit into anyones idea of passionate sex ?

Because he wants to have passionate sex with more than person that night?

What's wrong with that?"

Nothing wrong with that - but if the overpowering thought is not to cum it isn't that passionate is it ?

Good luck tonight at xtasia and let's hope the guys you meet don't think like you !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with that - but if the overpowering thought is not to cum it isn't that passionate is it ?

Good luck tonight at xtasia and let's hope the guys you meet don't think like you !!!

Quite the contrary, I like to see people enjoy themselves as much as possible! If enjoyment for them is being with multiple partners (as it is for myself and my partner) then that is absolutely no problem! (Although it's next week we're going, this weekend is all about pony play in the great outdoors!).

It just highlights how you need to find people you're compatible with. And if you make a mistake and find yourself with someone that you're not compatible with then all you need to do is remember not to have sex with them again! Everyone has an experience that they don't enjoy once in a while, I'm sure that he too has been left with a bad taste in his mouth if he's read this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Take a bow! You deserve one, people like you make me stay on here!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The actual orgasm needn't be the be all and end all of a play session.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The actual orgasm needn't be the be all and end all of a play session."

No it doesn't but when it's there and a deliberate comment to stop it comes out ?

Oh well ... it's a mixed bag of responses and something to think about .

Thanks to everyone for their comments

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I'm thinking and I'm expecting some sort of backlash, that if I was a single bloke, paid as much as they do to enter a club, had a great night planned and a super hot couple asked me if I wanted to play 2 seconds after I entered and others had shown interest I wouldn't want to cum and leave half hour later!

Would I be offended? Fuck no! I get my fun from the play, the oral the sex, it doesn't have to be till the end.

Also there was a thread last week when lots of women said they didn't need to cum on meets and men just had to accept that or get shot down in flames...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally agree with the 2 seconds from arrival , but it wasn't !

It was more like 2 hours but hey ho .

Our first play of the evening involved 3 guys plus us and the couple we went with . All 3 guys happily unloaded and a great time was had by all . Note this was our first play !

The event I posted about , as I have said twice now ended very nicely too - it was the comment which irked us .

So some of you think couples like us are selfish and you are entitled to think what ever you like.

We go to clubs and we play with single guys , but expect reciprocal respect from our playmates . Shock , horror and disgust !!!!!

Laughable and farcical !

As much as we would like to try and see the other side if this particular episode , the more we see comments like how much he paid , typical couple up their own arses , it's not just about you , no respect for single guys etc ....Our opinion has not changed one bit .

We would like to thank those who sent messages of supoort to our in box - the forums can be intimidating .

If nothing else the thread has given plenty of folk the opportunity to see who we are ; and avoid us in clubs if they think we are as some have suggested !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She can suck my cock anytime, and I guarantee to cum

and will love it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each person is responsible and has the choice of what happens when they play.

The guy didn't want to come, he wanted a bit of variety throughout the evening. It is his perogative. You should accept that.

I don't care if a guy comes or not. My main concern is that we enjoy ourselves. I wouldn't feel offended if a guy said it to me. I'm not precious over a guys orgasm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After seeing you in the gloryhole room at Xtasia, you can make me cum as soon as I entered the club, I'd be most honoured that you would choose to play with me

Each to there own I guess.. Tact ought to be universal though.

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