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By *beautifulpain OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Hi all we are new to the scene, we have just been threesome whores the past. Also quite active on the kink scene.

We naturally looked to the swinging scene as the next evolution of our sexuality.

The most attractive thing to us is the ability hold a conversation and make us think and laugh. So we say hello want to get to know you, have a chat, Skype etc. But this is where it falls down....

Without fail everyone we have spoken to so far seems to think that sending us a wink or saying hello is enough for us to jump right into bed with them.

Is this what the majority of the scene is like? We find it incredibly unattractive, are we the ones in the wrong? Is this the wrong scene for us?

Should we leave?

JaM xx

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Hi guys. Firstly, I am not going to tell you whether you should leave or stay. That is entirely up to you.

But I will say that yes, unfortunately there are a lot of people on here who think Fab is instashag.com. Some may think that joining a site like this will get them instant sexual gratification. Some think that because people hve joined a site like this, ie for sex, that people will just shag anything that comes along.

Of course people who think like this are DEAD WRONG.

As a single girl on here I really wish I got a penny for every waste of time wink, friend request and 'fancy a fuck' message I got on here and then I could afford my bloody mansion!

BUT. The best thing is that after wading through all that rubbish from people who really don't understand how it works you WILL find those few absolute gems of people who are willing to go that extra step to show their interest and to show that they are willing to take the time to make everyone feel comfortable enough to want to shag!

So don't be disillusioned. It doesn't take much to click the delete or block buttons and just wait until that gem does turn up. My delete and block buttons are nearly worn out!

Socials are always a good way of meeting people on the scene in a no pressure environment. I jsut went to a fantastic one at the weekend. Maybe try a swingers club? Not everyone's thing, but another good way of meeting other swingers.

Chin up. We're not all like what you described above. Honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all we are new to the scene, we have just been threesome whores the past. Also quite active on the kink scene.

We naturally looked to the swinging scene as the next evolution of our sexuality.

The most attractive thing to us is the ability hold a conversation and make us think and laugh. So we say hello want to get to know you, have a chat, Skype etc. But this is where it falls down....

Without fail everyone we have spoken to so far seems to think that sending us a wink or saying hello is enough for us to jump right into bed with them.

Is this what the majority of the scene is like? We find it incredibly unattractive, are we the ones in the wrong? Is this the wrong scene for us?

Should we leave?

JaM xx"

don't give up

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

First up, hellos and welcomes to you both..

Think Olivia sold it best there, turn a few stones and find them Gems.. Ignore the chaff and pick the wheat

But you could try turning all filters on. So your perving that way no one can message you till you message them first.. That way you can decide on the profiles you like the sound of without a 1000 "I fuck you, yes" messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're not willing to jump in bed after the first message from a guy with no verifications and no pictures and no profile to read and all his message says is 'wanna fuck' you are by far on the wrong site!!! Away with you and such trivialities!!!!!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Hi guys. Firstly, I am not going to tell you whether you should leave or stay. That is entirely up to you.

But I will say that yes, unfortunately there are a lot of people on here who think Fab is instashag.com. Some may think that joining a site like this will get them instant sexual gratification. Some think that because people hve joined a site like this, ie for sex, that people will just shag anything that comes along.

Of course people who think like this are DEAD WRONG.

As a single girl on here I really wish I got a penny for every waste of time wink, friend request and 'fancy a fuck' message I got on here and then I could afford my bloody mansion!

BUT. The best thing is that after wading through all that rubbish from people who really don't understand how it works you WILL find those few absolute gems of people who are willing to go that extra step to show their interest and to show that they are willing to take the time to make everyone feel comfortable enough to want to shag!

So don't be disillusioned. It doesn't take much to click the delete or block buttons and just wait until that gem does turn up. My delete and block buttons are nearly worn out!

Socials are always a good way of meeting people on the scene in a no pressure environment. I jsut went to a fantastic one at the weekend. Maybe try a swingers club? Not everyone's thing, but another good way of meeting other swingers.

Chin up. We're not all like what you described above. Honest. "

I can only echo what Oli said!! xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If you're not willing to jump in bed after the first message from a guy with no verifications and no pictures and no profile to read and all his message says is 'wanna fuck' you are by far on the wrong site!!! Away with you and such trivialities!!!!! "

Don't be mean, you! Else it will be the poking stick for you.

To the OP, it takes patience and perseverance to find the good 'uns on here, but they're worth the wait. Use the site features to reduce the crappy messages (filters etc) and do some searching yourself. You're more likely to get what you want if you go out and find it, rather than wait for it to come to you. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you're not willing to jump in bed after the first message from a guy with no verifications and no pictures and no profile to read and all his message says is 'wanna fuck' you are by far on the wrong site!!! Away with you and such trivialities!!!!!

Don't be mean, you! Else it will be the poking stick for you. "

Sorry

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Ignore the brainless chaff - waiting for

quality will pay off (and it DOES exist!).

I love your profile - write a book. I'd read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don t give up guys. There a lot of great people on this site and we re sure you ll find someone who you click with. We know it sounds corny but give it time maybe find out if there are organized social meets near you to go along to and get to know people face to face. Most of all enjoy the site and have fun.

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By *beautifulpain OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Ignore the brainless chaff - waiting for

quality will pay off (and it DOES exist!).

I love your profile - write a book. I'd read it "

Michael is writing one, well rewriting the first chapter of one.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm not really sure on your selection process or who you're choosing to take "further" (skype etc), but there are lots of very nice couples who value the social side as much as anything else, its just a case of finding them.

Yes there are a lot who are here for NSA and just make it plain thats not what you're interested in early on and move onto to those who are what you're after.

Should you stay ? who knows but this a site that takes time and effort to get results out of just as much on your end as anyone elses.

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By *beautifulpain OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

We really appreciate what you guys are saying, we are not giving up just venting frustration.

Thank you all for your kind words and for taking the time to reply to little old us.

JaM xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This website is only a little part of the swinging scene, there is much more to the swinging scene out there, as has been stated, there are many that join here that think its a catalogue and all they have to do is flash a cock and knickers will fall, the best thing to take on board is something that gets said often, you get out of swinging what you put into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We really appreciate what you guys are saying, we are not giving up just venting frustration.

Thank you all for your kind words and for taking the time to reply to little old us.

JaM xx"

Dont vent frustration. Otherwise you'll never stop!! Lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"We really appreciate what you guys are saying, we are not giving up just venting frustration.

Thank you all for your kind words and for taking the time to reply to little old us.

JaM xx"

It's a shame you didn't come along to the Kent social at the weekend! Was a great laugh with lots of friendly people, would of restored your faith I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just takes time to out the people who are just trolling the site or who only have a relationship with their wrist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ignore the brainless chaff - waiting for

quality will pay off (and it DOES exist!).

I love your profile - write a book. I'd read it

Michael is writing one, well rewriting the first chapter of one. "

We would read it too, great profile

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By *beautifulpain OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"It's a shame you didn't come along to the Kent social at the weekend! Was a great laugh with lots of friendly people, would of restored your faith I think x "

We didn't know that there were were socials, we go to munches often. I think it would be too much for Michael if there was playing at the first meeting we go to. I wouldn't know where to look and would stare at his feet all evening....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends who you are chatting to, i dont think you have said.

yes, a lot of guys message this way, but it must work otherwise they wouldnt bother.

however, i cant remember ever chatting with a couple and had that kind of response.

so maybe you should be a little more particular with who you chat with, or maybe we just arent as attractive as you guys lol

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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway


"Hi all we are new to the scene, we have just been threesome whores the past. Also quite active on the kink scene.

We naturally looked to the swinging scene as the next evolution of our sexuality.

The most attractive thing to us is the ability hold a conversation and make us think and laugh. So we say hello want to get to know you, have a chat, Skype etc. But this is where it falls down....

Without fail everyone we have spoken to so far seems to think that sending us a wink or saying hello is enough for us to jump right into bed with them.

Is this what the majority of the scene is like? We find it incredibly unattractive, are we the ones in the wrong? Is this the wrong scene for us?

Should we leave?

JaM xx"

You, like many other couples have every right to establish some sort of social connection with the people you want to play with. Nothing wrong with that. Some ppl are here just for the f**k, nobody can do owt about that. Keep being yourselves and keep swinging x

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By *beautifulpain OP   Couple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"You, like many other couples have every right to establish some sort of social connection with the people you want to play with. Nothing wrong with that. Some ppl are here just for the f**k, nobody can do owt about that. Keep being yourselves and keep swinging x"

We will - You have all been so nice to us. Thank you xx

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