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Women who don't orgasm when swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm still fairly new to this and have seen women commenting that they only orgasm during DIY or with their partner.

I'm here as a single female and have had an orgasm with all my meets and understand my situation is probably different to couples.

So I am intrigued, what is in it for you if you don't orgasm? What makes you want to do it?

I probably sound incredibly thick now, but if you don't ask you don't know.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

Italy

I don't orgasm on a meet either (mr new).

It's all to do with the occasion, we can orgasm at any time after the images have been in our head and recorded for prosperity (pension porn back catalogue)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still fairly new to this and have seen women commenting that they only orgasm during DIY or with their partner.

I'm here as a single female and have had an orgasm with all my meets and understand my situation is probably different to couples.

So I am intrigued, what is in it for you if you don't orgasm? What makes you want to do it?

I probably sound incredibly thick now, but if you don't ask you don't know."

i usually throw icing sugar / water mix on the ladies back whilst making the usual noises oooh yeesss jeysus never booskaka

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I don't cum on meets doesn't mean I don't get anything out of it, as I have said before cumming for me is an emotional and physical connection and I don't get that from meets, nor do I want to.

I love giving pleasure and we get to have fun regardless, not about cumming for me on meets - well bloke wise yes

Mister can sort me out anytime as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

orgasms, for V, are about being in the right place, feeling the right way and so on.

we have never felt relaxed enough for V to orgasm with anyone else. cumming is a different matter though, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do tend to only meet those who I have chatted to and feel some kind of connection to, chemistry and lust so maybe that is why I orgasm but as a single person there is nobody in my life who I have an emotional connection to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes i cum sometimes not, my partner is a lot older than me and doesnt want sex very often now so he lets me meet men on here.

I like giving oral sex, playing with mens willys, like the way some men touch me in a way that my hubby doesnt.

its fun meeting men who are all different and do things a bit differently. Hubby likes me meeting other men.

I get nervous and shy sometimes but still can get very excited at the same time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I love the whole erotic experience and if I don't have an orgasm I don't care in fact sometimes I like to be left wanting and waiting, the release the following day is incredible

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By *itKatChunky80Woman
over a year ago

wirral

I have never cum in a meet.....which makes going home to my man all the sweeter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because I don't cum on meets doesn't mean I don't get anything out of it, as I have said before cumming for me is an emotional and physical connection and I don't get that from meets, nor do I want to.

I love giving pleasure and we get to have fun regardless, not about cumming for me on meets - well bloke wise yes

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I have to agree with this completely - two totally different areas of my sexuality that will never meet, nor would I want them to...

Male and female sexual interest and desires can be completely different issues - so talk about and find out what the other person wants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm still fairly new to this and have seen women commenting that they only orgasm during DIY or with their partner.

I'm here as a single female and have had an orgasm with all my meets and understand my situation is probably different to couples.

So I am intrigued, what is in it for you if you don't orgasm? What makes you want to do it?

I probably sound incredibly thick now, but if you don't ask you don't know."

This is not just a female thing but sadly I don't think you will find many guys owning up

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

So I am intrigued, what is in it for you if you don't orgasm? What makes you want to do it?

"

Its FUN

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i do sometimes i don't, i think a lot of men just don't make the effort when swinging and are more bothered about their pleasure than yours, ive met some great lovers on here but also met my fair share of the blow job and fuck brigade, if i meet a guy who don't make me cum i do meet him again

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By *ittleBitOfFunCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sometimes I don't but think it's the pressure that gets me at times!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I must say for me if I sense the lady won't let herself cum I won't let myself cum x I have been known to play the two orgasm rule xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do and would be mighty dissapointed if I didn't

I do get to know someone pretty well before I meet them and most things are talked about and that includes foreplay x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must say for me if I sense the lady won't let herself cum I won't let myself cum x I have been known to play the two orgasm rule xx "

Lol I bet you have been lied to a lot too

Women can't usually cum to order

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrs hedo always cums on meets , but its done by her own hand as she like to be watched as she plays , just her way , but others and myself enjoy watching her mmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's the pleasure of giving, and I do enjoy the sex side too.. and for me the pleasure of getting a man to orgasm is great. I have orgasmed with meets, but funny enough mostly it's been from none touching.. i.e. when loads of guys have cum over me.

I play totally different now though and I notice that it's very much the connection with someone. I don't give anyone else control, except my play partner. X so he is pretty much only person that makes me cum.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I must say for me if I sense the lady won't let herself cum I won't let myself cum x I have been known to play the two orgasm rule xx

Lol I bet you have been lied to a lot too

Women can't usually cum to order "

Bet I haven't lol

I did not say I told them my rule , I said if I sense they won't let themselves and as illustrated many on this thread alone admit they won't allow it to happen xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must say for me if I sense the lady won't let herself cum I won't let myself cum x I have been known to play the two orgasm rule xx

Lol I bet you have been lied to a lot too

Women can't usually cum to order "

i wish i could, it takes a lot of effort to make me cum but if the effort is there i do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't stop myself cumming for me its all part of a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must say for me if I sense the lady won't let herself cum I won't let myself cum x I have been known to play the two orgasm rule xx

Lol I bet you have been lied to a lot too

Women can't usually cum to order

Bet I haven't lol

I did not say I told them my rule , I said if I sense they won't let themselves and as illustrated many on this thread alone admit they won't allow it to happen xx"

i don't understand why anyone would not allow themselves to cum

ive read a few times women who say they don't like to on meets and i just think why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to meet with someone who is purposely holding back on orgasm. If it doesn't happen then its not an issue but setting out not to would spoil it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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ive read a few times women who say they don't like to on meets and i just think why?"

I don't stop myself, it just doesn't happen.. although I'm great at faking it.. although I'm sure they notice the difference between Lee playing with me and them doing so..

I wouldn't stop it.. I just actually can't with random guys. I need to be able to give control.. and that isn't something I can do with just anyone..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'd never hold back, god forbid however, I am not the easiest, that's not meant to be a challenge btw, but it also doesn't mean I don't enjoy the sex

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I never fake and I expect to cum on a meet. I've never linked orgasm with emotion so I think that helps. One is a pleasurable function of my body - the other is psychological.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on Earth should we be expected to orgasm just to please a man's ego???

Some of us do not want it, and say so!

Any man who says that he expects a woman to cum regardless is not only being extremely self-centred, but is totally ignoring the woman's own needs and desires....

Please don't try to push us into something that we don't want - especially when we might have easy access to some of your more tender and delicate bits....

Thank you...

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Why on Earth should we be expected to orgasm just to please a man's ego???

Some of us do not want it, and say so!

Any man who says that he expects a woman to cum regardless is not only being extremely self-centred, but is totally ignoring the woman's own needs and desires....

Please don't try to push us into something that we don't want - especially when we might have easy access to some of your more tender and delicate bits....

Thank you... "

Firstly not read anyone say they wish to push anyone into anything

Second may i ask why you would not wish to orgasm other than a self centered desire for self control and power ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take toys to practically ensure I orgasm

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I kinda thought it came (no pun intended) with time? When we first started i just couldnt relax myself but i still enjoyed it. Now we've had a few meets i guess ive learnt to relax into it more and it all depends on how attentive the person is. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a lot more to sex than orgasms.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I kinda thought it came (no pun intended) with time? When we first started i just couldnt relax myself but i still enjoyed it. Now we've had a few meets i guess ive learnt to relax into it more and it all depends on how attentive the person is. Mrs x

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To my mind this post exactly xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just because I don't cum on meets doesn't mean I don't get anything out of it, as I have said before cumming for me is an emotional and physical connection and I don't get that from meets, nor do I want to.

I love giving pleasure and we get to have fun regardless, not about cumming for me on meets - well bloke wise yes

Mister can sort me out anytime as well "

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"There's a lot more to sex than orgasms. "

To my mind this is true x I wonder how you feel when the man you have lavished love care and attention leaves without ejaculating his load ?

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

It is my experience that most , that means a majority and not all , but a huge majority of ladies i have met and not given a load are most upset and cannot understand what they have done wrong . I tell tell them I had a lovely time and tthere is more to sew than orgasm they often disagree xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Debbie cums almost immediately and doesn't stop until the fun stopped. I have never experienced anyone like her before xx

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

I don't alway reach a climax during a meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's a lot more to sex than orgasms.

To my mind this is true x I wonder how you feel when the man you have lavished love care and attention leaves without ejaculating his load ? "

If a guy didn't give me his load I wouldn't meet him again. Don't care that it's double standards. I have only had that happen twice. The guy told me after about 30mins he wouldn't come, so I didn't stay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither of us orgasm on meets.

If anyone wants to see if they can change they are welcome to try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes i do sometimes i don't, i think a lot of men just don't make the effort when swinging and are more bothered about their pleasure than yours, ive met some great lovers on here but also met my fair share of the blow job and fuck brigade, if i meet a guy who don't make me cum i do meet him again "

you meet again men who don't make you cum? Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kat loves to cum, and cums often during meets (with the right guy), but usually reserves her mind blowing orgasms for 1 on 1 with me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It is my experience that most , that means a majority and not all , but a huge majority of ladies i have met and not given a load are most upset and cannot understand what they have done wrong . I tell tell them I had a lovely time and tthere is more to sew than orgasm they often disagree xx"

I think if people expect both parties to have an orgasm then of course they'll be disappointed if it doesn't happen for their partner, we're told so often that men can orgasm easily. We are also told that guys walk around 24/7 with erections I understand that this is sometimes not the case on meets either. Its about the journey not the destination for a lot of us and if both sexes understood that maybe we'd put a lot less pressure on ourselves and others.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

It would be great to orgasm every time I played. But that is most of the time not the case. Doesn't mean I didn't enjoy myself though. In fact having a g spot orgasm just leaves me totally drained. I am totally exhausted and just want to sleep.

I do like it if a guy orgasms. But I have learnt that not everyone does. Just means more rounds in a quicker succession.

Sex to me is a banquet with many different dishes. As long as you enjoyed the dishes you tried. You don't need dessert everytime do you?

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