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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm sorry if this has been discussed before.. I have tried to find other posts and can't find any......

I have just found out that some women asks for a gift to be brought to them by the single guys on their first meet.....

Now I can't work out why some women need to do this or even why some men do it just to get sex!!!

To me are the men paying for sex? Does that then make the lady a woman of the night ....

Yes I understand to go half for hotel or even box of chocs/ bottle of wine because the guy wants to take it but to have to go out and buy a present is just not right ...

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

ive never been bought a gift by any bloke

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and some people will be daft enough to meet their demands.

but hey, their choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would say it's up to the individuals concerned really....could be part of the game for them who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can ask for anything you like on here, its upto the men if they are daft enough to provide it, sadly some are and that's why some women keep asking

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"and some people will be daft enough to meet their demands.

but hey, their choice.

"

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Totally in agreement with the above posts but I would of thought, that if a bloke does take a gift for the lady, then they would expect something in exchange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally in agreement with the above posts but I would of thought, that if a bloke does take a gift for the lady, then they would expect something in exchange"

Yer they do !!!!!!!!!! A fuck !!!! Lol ...... Is a gift really a gift if its a requirement !!! Would be interested if any men have agreed but not taken on and because of this she has refused to play !!?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

It's prostitution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Totally in agreement with the above posts but I would of thought, that if a bloke does take a gift for the lady, then they would expect something in exchange

Yer they do !!!!!!!!!! A fuck !!!! Lol ...... Is a gift really a gift if its a requirement !!! Would be interested if any men have agreed but not taken on and because of this she has refused to play !!?"

Interesting question. Surely that would confirm the accusation that it is a commercial meeting not a swinging meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've seen profiles with things like 'I love corsets, buy me one and I'll model it for you'. They are just money grabbing buggers.

I feel the same about people asking for tradesmen to do work in their house. It's cheap and tacky, pay for workmen to do it, don't scavenge for freebies.

Most of all shame on the people who accept these demands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got a msg the other day off a woman, asking if I wanted her to come around and do my ironing in just her stockings, suspenders and stilettos.

Was only only going to cost me £50 quid.

On ethical grounds I had to say no.

I've got way more than £50 worth of ironing

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By *amamanMan
over a year ago

Inverness and around. ...

I will bring a bottle of wine or chocs ,but would draw the line at lingerie and toys etc .. ..

Had a meet last week and was asked for money !and not towards the hotel room but for the ladys time ... so an embarassing situation to be in very uncomfortable . i aint paying for sex on a swinging site

told the lady no and left ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had men buy me something because they want to do it. I hate accepting but hate the argument about it even more. Regarding toys, I have my own but if a man wants a particular one he can supply it but take it home with him

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"I'm sorry if this has been discussed before.. I have tried to find other posts and can't find any......

I have just found out that some women asks for a gift to be brought to them by the single guys on their first meet.....

Now I can't work out why some women need to do this or even why some men do it just to get sex!!!

To me are the men paying for sex? Does that then make the lady a woman of the night ....

Yes I understand to go half for hotel or even box of chocs/ bottle of wine because the guy wants to take it but to have to go out and buy a present is just not right ... "

tiz prostitution tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had men say they want to get me lingerie etc I always say no as it feels a tad seedy ! If it was my birthday or something or was a gift from someone I met regularly then that's fine especially if its something we will both enjoy! Like a toy or lingerie !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive never been bought a gift by any bloke"

this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sorry if this has been discussed before.. I have tried to find other posts and can't find any......

I have just found out that some women asks for a gift to be brought to them by the single guys on their first meet.....

Now I can't work out why some women need to do this or even why some men do it just to get sex!!!

To me are the men paying for sex? Does that then make the lady a woman of the night ....

Yes I understand to go half for hotel or even box of chocs/ bottle of wine because the guy wants to take it but to have to go out and buy a present is just not right ...

tiz prostitution tho"

Thankyou _uby0000

That's I'd what I was thinking but I thought it was just me that thought that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read a profile inferring a gift is required to be chosen from that person's "wish list" on Love Honey in order to secure a meet.

Personally, I believe it is wrong.

I prefer to pay my own way, including the hotel room. This way, I do not feel I owe the gent anything when we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read a profile inferring a gift is required to be chosen from that person's "wish list" on Love Honey in order to secure a meet.

Personally, I believe it is wrong.

I prefer to pay my own way, including the hotel room. This way, I do not feel I owe the gent anything when we meet.

"

Exactly the above, for instance what happens when the male turns up with the "gift" will this mean the female or couple will have to play even if they are not attracted to them?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Or give him a refund.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH

Wow I didnt know about gifts ... cool who wants to meet me but I need a new washing machine lol ....I cant believe a woman would ask .. or even that a man would reciprocate !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wow I didnt know about gifts ... cool who wants to meet me but I need a new washing machine lol ....I cant believe a woman would ask .. or even that a man would reciprocate !!!! "

Hahahaha put it on your wish list x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One friend brought me flowers. Never asked for it, and appreciate it immensely.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH


"Wow I didnt know about gifts ... cool who wants to meet me but I need a new washing machine lol ....I cant believe a woman would ask .. or even that a man would reciprocate !!!!

Hahahaha put it on your wish list x"

Mmmm how far can I go I want a hot tub and a caravan .. three meets and I could spend the money we are saving and have a holiday lol xc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One guy I met got me a huge bunch of flowers the first time we met. Has bought me a few gifts since too. I never asked for anything though. And it's quid pro quo with no expectations so I think that's ok. As a demand I think it's a bit much.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH


"One guy I met got me a huge bunch of flowers the first time we met. Has bought me a few gifts since too. I never asked for anything though. And it's quid pro quo with no expectations so I think that's ok. As a demand I think it's a bit much."

Agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant stand it !! ... I like a drink in a bar or guy brings bottle of wine coming to my house but never a gift. I had a regular guy want to take me shopping to Ann Summers - wanted to spend £50 on lingerie ! I choose a £10 set from Primark and it was the nicest too !! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd happily by a bottle of wine, flowers or a small gift as I don't like to show up to places empty-handed.

If a gift was demanded of me in exchange for a meet, I'd laugh! It's much more polite than telling someone they can fuck off!

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Asking for gifts is just lowering yourself. I wonder if the meet turned up with said gift but was smelly and disgusting would they still play??

I have had some flowers at Christmas from a long term buddy and another guy who paid for the hotel cos I'd travelled despite me saying I was more than happy to pay half but apart from that I feel asking for gifts is merely prostituting oneself!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh I have had flowers (I did meet him off Pof) .

I get the opposite. I get guys offering but 99% of the time they do not fulfil. It's as though they are bribing me for my time.

If you guys WANT to buy gifts then do it, if you don't then don't.

I'm after an experience that my own toys cannot fulfil... wine, dine and seduction. Take it or leave it (and I'll always invest in batteries )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that accepting regular gifts is wrong too.

I wouldn't want to accept a gift because it was my birthday. Why would I want to celebrate and accept gifts off a stranger for my birthday.

Similar to a guy always turning up with something every time you met. He is simply buying you. If you don't expect it them tell him at the point of arranging something that he must not bring anything.

And all this meets buying toys business. Why on earth would a stranger want to buy a swinging meet a sex toy. That's a personal thing, their not cheap and as it's just for a few hours why buy a sex toy. Sorry I just don't agree with it and I personally have never accepted anything from a stranger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Similar to a guy always turning up with something every time you met. He is simply buying you. If you don't expect it them tell him at the point of arranging something that he must not bring anything.

"

I have read many verifications about women receiving wine and chocs... if it pleases the men to give, and the women to receive, then what is the problem? I agree that one shouldn't ask for gifts, but that is simply because that was the way I was brought up. I was also taught not to expect.

Several posts likens the gift giving to prostitution.... hmmm a bit extreme. I could never imagine a prostitute paying her gas bill off with a bottle of wine .

I have had a conversation in the past, with someone wanting to meet. I asked if he was going to wine and dine me before seducing me all night , and I got accused of being a whore. I didn't know about instashag.com at the time . I simply laughed and told him that I would rather be a whore than a slag who would go with anything and everything.

My point is, that we all have different _iews and we will be compatible with some and not others. So I don't understand where the problem is.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

No but if someone says 'if you want a meet you have to buy me something off my Amazon wishlist' then that is prostitution.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No but if someone says 'if you want a meet you have to buy me something off my Amazon wishlist' then that is prostitution."

I suspect that would be the legal standpoint too even if money did not change hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's mad for people to ask for stuff, especially on a swingers site. We have had a few offer to buy B stuff, n we have also had 2 offers of payment don't understand it happening here, surely there are plenty of sites out there where it is acceptable or expected, instead of wasting people's times here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Similar to a guy always turning up with something every time you met. He is simply buying you. If you don't expect it them tell him at the point of arranging something that he must not bring anything.

I have read many verifications about women receiving wine and chocs... if it pleases the men to give, and the

women to receive, then what is the problem? I agree that one shouldn't ask for gifts, but that is simply because that was the way I was brought up. I was also taught not to expect.

Several posts likens the gift giving to

prostitution.... hmmm a bit extreme. I could never imagine a prostitute paying her gas bill off with a bottle of wine .

I have had a conversation in the past, with someone wanting to meet. I asked if he was going to wine and dine me

before seducing me all night , and I got accused of being a whore. I didn't know about instashag.com at the time . I simply laughed and told him that I would rather be a whore than a slag who would go with anything and

everything.

My point is, that we all have different _iews and we will be compatible with some and not others. So I don't understand where the problem is.

"

A sex toy and lingerie is not the same price as a bottle of wine or chocs.

I can understand a small token such as wine, in fact we ourselves would always turn up at a party with one. A sex toy and lingerie are more personal items and I think it's wrong to accept items of this nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I believe that accepting regular gifts is wrong too.

I wouldn't want to accept a gift because it was my birthday. Why would I want to celebrate and accept gifts off a stranger for my birthday.

Similar to a guy always turning up with something every time you met. He is simply buying you. If you don't expect it them tell him at the point of arranging something that he must not bring anything.

And all this meets buying toys business. Why on earth would a stranger want to buy a swinging meet a sex toy. That's a personal thing, their not cheap and as it's just for a few hours why buy a sex toy. Sorry I just don't agree with it and I personally have never accepted anything from a stranger. "

I'd feel very uncomfortable if someone turned up with a gift, no matter what it was.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


" ......

A sex toy and lingerie is not the same price as a bottle of wine or chocs.

......."

It's not about price, it's about principle.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

Any blokes get offered bottles of wine?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But remember, some men are turned on by giving gifts that is their thing.

I have been approached by a couple.

Saying that, been a while since I was given any gift lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But remember, some men are turned on by giving gifts that is their thing.

I have been approached by a couple.

Saying that, been a while since I was given any gift lol."

I thought I was a lone voice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Similar to a guy always turning up with something every time you met. He is simply buying you. If you don't expect it them tell him at the point of arranging something that he must not bring anything.

I have read many verifications about women receiving wine and chocs... if it pleases the men to give, and the

women to receive, then what is the problem? I agree that one shouldn't ask for gifts, but that is simply because that was the way I was brought up. I was also taught not to expect.

Several posts likens the gift giving to

prostitution.... hmmm a bit extreme. I could never imagine a prostitute paying her gas bill off with a bottle of wine .

I have had a conversation in the past, with someone wanting to meet. I asked if he was going to wine and dine me

before seducing me all night , and I got accused of being a whore. I didn't know about instashag.com at the time . I simply laughed and told him that I would rather be a whore than a slag who would go with anything and

everything.

My point is, that we all have different _iews and we will be compatible with some and not others. So I don't understand where the problem is.

A sex toy and lingerie is not the same price as a bottle of wine or chocs.

I can understand a small token such as wine, in fact we ourselves would always turn up at a party with one. A sex toy and lingerie are more personal items and I think it's wrong to accept items of this nature. "

Which is what I'm saying chocs/wine if going to GB etc but for ladys to ask for lingerie /toys the more expensive stuff I think is wrong... But as one comment on here has said, I wouldn't do it either cos that's the way I feel but I guess some lady's want presents to open their legs !!!!

So I suppose I should just except that we are all different

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

To ask for any gift makes it no longer a gift!

I have no problem with those who wish to receive payment for services of all kinds from decorating to sex but this is not the site for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To ask for any gift makes it no longer a gift!

I have no problem with those who wish to receive payment for services of all kinds from decorating to sex but this is not the site for it."

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" ......

A sex toy and lingerie is not the same price as a bottle of wine or chocs.

.......

It's not about price, it's about principle."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any blokes get offered bottles of wine?"

Good question or could even say how many men say gift please or no cock for you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But remember, some men are turned on by giving gifts that is their thing.

I have been approached by a couple.

Saying that, been a while since I was given any gift lol."

That's true, one of the guys that offered money for B did explain it was a fantasy of theirs to pay to have another mans woman. Was almost tempted when he named his price that's a joke! and he wasn't offensive or pushy in his message. So understand everyone has different fantasies, but those that are likely to offend others should maybe be kept to more appropriate places.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have got a friend a gift b4 ! It was a toy .. We had talked and he said he had never tried it and was curious ! So I thought it would be fun and he was very please I did giving is not always about getting something in return !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only had one gift a pack of. Cigs he was persistant i take then although i smoke bacci,thought it were sweet of him tho x it was at nudist beach he only got a veri as return,nothing naughty as not the place to get naughty and werent my type,he was gutted

If i go party always take Wine,its polite,i dont drink so take j20 for me

Have bin offered money find that a insult and dont meet them,thats desperate

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

No one's bought me a "gift" on a meet before, i feel like i'm missing out on the action *sniffle*

If anyone demanded a gift from me as a prerequisite to a meet, i'd tell them to fuck off. As clearly as possible.

I'm off to go update my wishlist (not really)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No one's bought me a "gift" on a meet before, i feel like i'm missing out on the action *sniffle*"

Awwww - if ever you end up in The Sticks, I've got an Eeyore 'nobody-loves-me' keyring for you.

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