FabSwingers.com forum: Don't laugh

By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Don't laugh please, but yesterday my partner took me to Chameleon's for the first time. It was awesome, wish i'd gone before....

Anyway i'm new to swinging and am paddling nice and slowly, dipping my toes so to speak. Anyway, we're in the jacuzzi chatting and some random man started stroking my leg under the water... I nearly died of shock. I mean i knew there was a chance of sex or something, but nobody had told me of the underwater groping. I froze i didn't know what to do.

My chap laughed when i told him and said i should of rubbed him back if i liked him....

Next time i will but it seems rude to touch people up without asking lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You knew there was a "chance of sex, or something" , yet you froze when someone stroked your leg ?

I don't think you are ready for what your partner wants you to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just be glad of the attention, unless he was that ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I find that very rude, I hate feeling like just because I'm at a club it's a free for all. If someone hasn't got the decency to ask then they can bugger off

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"You knew there was a "chance of sex, or something" , yet you froze when someone stroked your leg ?

I don't think you are ready for what your partner wants you to do.

bit harsh isn't the young lady allowed nerves on her first visit ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You knew there was a "chance of sex, or something" , yet you froze when someone stroked your leg ?

I don't think you are ready for what your partner wants you to do.

Are you joking??

Men should always ask before touching! In a Jacuzzi or not when in a swingers club/ environment!!!!

To the op.... Sorry you was put threw this, he should have asked! Don't let it put you off and hope you enjoy this site and many a club to come.

No pun intended

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By *ickedxxxCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I went a few weeks ago we was in the Jacuzzi and a guy sat on the edge of the pool and washed his balls before he got in! I know it's not related to the op but thought I'd share it anyway lol

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I went a few weeks ago we was in the Jacuzzi and a guy sat on the edge of the pool and washed his balls before he got in! I know it's not related to the op but thought I'd share it anyway lol "

Classy guy

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Hahaha... Its threads like these that make me think a hazmat suit and a cattle prod will be a good idea!! X

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Sorry to hear that the guy didn't ask.

Everyone should ask first, not just men. Some females are the worst offenders after drink.

Hope you go back and have a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went a few weeks ago we was in the Jacuzzi and a guy sat on the edge of the pool and washed his balls before he got in! I know it's not related to the op but thought I'd share it anyway lol "

OMG how gross, and to think I was told off for rinsing out my pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See I find that very rude, I hate feeling like just because I'm at a club it's a free for all. If someone hasn't got the decency to ask then they can bugger off "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You knew there was a "chance of sex, or something" , yet you froze when someone stroked your leg ?

I don't think you are ready for what your partner wants you to do.

I disagree. We go to clubs and have always played but I hate if people touch/grope me without invitation. I also freeze and think fucks sake why do people do that. Just because youre in a club doesn't mean people have a right to touch without permission. I usually move out the way without saying anything but then if they don't get the message either my bf and I will move away or ill just say sorry not interested.

I hate being groped even on a normal night out if someone grabs my arse etc. Im not a piece of meat and I have lost my temper a couple of times when its happened x

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

we were in a club on Tuesday and the very same thing happened to me the guy in question seemed very shocked when I turned to him and said don't touch unless you ask just because I was there doesn't mean I am a bit of meat for all to have a grope of xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i also find it rude

even though you are ina swinging club no need for rudiness and no manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i also find it rude

even though you are ina swinging club no need for rudiness and no manners"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My chap laughed when i told him and said i should of rubbed him back if i liked him....

Next time i will but it seems rude to touch people up without asking lol xx

I'm not laughing and neither should your partner. No one is allowed to touch you unless they ask and receive a positive answer and your partner should be reinforcing your confidence in that area not finding it funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being in a club is still no reason to assume anything , asking is polite and expected we find an evil stare works for us, not that its happened much in four years of clubbing ,

I hope you find the courage to go again and remember same rules apply to every one no means no

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Permission should always be sought before any sort of touching or playing commences.

You should have politely taken his hand off and informed him of this.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

"Don't laugh please, but yesterday my partner took me to Chameleon's for the first time. It was awesome, wish i'd gone before....

My chap laughed when i told him and said i should of rubbed him back if i liked him....

Next time i will but it seems rude to touch people up without asking lol xx

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I absolutely LOATH that when they do it at Kestrels ..

So rude they dont even speak or look at you. its gross. they soon find out it was a mistake ,!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Op can I ask why you thought we might laugh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had something very similar happen to me. Was in a jacuzzi with the guy I attended with, we were having a snog when I felt a hand on my bum I knew it was the guy I was with as I knew he had a hand behind my head & the other on my boob.

I just removed his hand & asked where his manners were & advised him to check onthe etiquette of swinging & club rules. He called me a snooty bitch & got out. xx LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He shouldn't have touched unless he was invited, I went to a club recently with a couple who are very close friends and we were all in the playroom and I got a bollocking from them afterwards for not joining in with them, which I replied but you didn't invite me.

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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Op can I ask why you thought we might laugh?"

I thought you would laugh because of the venue & what we were there to do

To the op, my partner isn't making me do anything. He mentioned 18 months ago when we started seeing each other that he used to swing & at the time I found the idea repulsive. As we've settled into our relationship & are confident with our feelings I decided I'd like to explore swinging scene. If I turned round tomorrow and told John I didn't want to do this anymore we wouldn't do it and we would still be fine

I will be going with my partner again and he will again look after me xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It doesn't matter where you are or what you're there to do it all has to be consensual. Women are never fair game in any situation neither are men and most people realise that. I didn't think your partner was making you do it I was just concerned that he might think it was ok for you to be touched without your permission....sorry.

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By *D40 OP Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"He shouldn't have touched unless he was invited, I went to a club recently with a couple who are very close friends and we were all in the playroom and I got a bollocking from them afterwards for not joining in with them, which I replied but you didn't invite me."

My partner took a mutual friend off to play. We sometimes all have fun together. I sat in the bar & finished my wine. When he came looking for me he asked if I'd gone off with anyone for fun. I replied no, there was hardly anyone there and I didn't fancy who was. He said on the way home I should have joined them. How could I? You have to be asked

Thing was if the guy in the jacuzzi had spoken or shared eye contact I wouldn't have been so shocked & maybe would have played cos he was cute lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hahaha... Its threads like these that make me think a hazmat suit and a cattle prod will be a good idea!! X "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing was if the guy in the jacuzzi had spoken or shared eye contact I wouldn't have been so shocked & maybe would have played cos he was cute lol"

Good manners, politeness and respecting other people at all times in a club should be strictly obeyed...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think its rude the way blokes think they can randomly grope without even saying hello .. if your too shy to talk .. your too shy to grope

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