FabSwingers.com forum: Unread PM.s

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am sure this must have been posted before so sorry if its another repetitive question.

I have in my sent messages box approx. 6 unread messages to couples and single ladies. A couple of these go back to when I first joined here.

Are these messages simply sitting in their inbox or have they been deleted without being read? I must stress I only ever send PM's to people that I appear to meet their wants in a single guy.

All my PM's are original and written with the persons wishes in mind no copy and paste PM's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look at a profile before opening up a message unless its from someone i know.

and if the profile is lacking or im not interested i wont bother opening the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they had been deleted unread you would see.

Inbox only shows the first 100 messages, and other ones linger before the first 100 are deleted bringing up the older ones again.

But after a certain amount of time, think it is 12 weeks they disappear entirely.

I personally never look at my sent items.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just don't understand why they have not even been opened even just for a quick look before deleting them.

All my PMs are individually penned as said and I only PM those I appear to meet what they are looking for age accom etc.

I know couples and single women get lots of PMs but its a bit off not even opening them but it's their call I guess. However that's life.

I have never not read a PM but then I won't get anything like the number couples and single females will get.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don't understand why they have not even been opened even just for a quick look before deleting them.

All my PMs are individually penned as said and I only PM those I appear to meet what they are looking for age accom etc.

I know couples and single women get lots of PMs but its a bit off not even opening them but it's their call I guess. However that's life.

I have never not read a PM but then I won't get anything like the number couples and single females will get. "

As Jacqs said, I click on the profile and if that is not of interest to me I won't bother reading the message.

Or I can see it is a one liner, so I don't bother opening them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just don't understand why they have not even been opened even just for a quick look before deleting them.

All my PMs are individually penned as said and I only PM those I appear to meet what they are looking for age accom etc.

I know couples and single women get lots of PMs but its a bit off not even opening them but it's their call I guess. However that's life.

I have never not read a PM but then I won't get anything like the number couples and single females will get. "

well its a site and we can choose to do what we want with our profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem is the person you sent them to just cant see them as they have dropped off the bottom.

This happens to us all the time.

We have days where we recieve 50+ messages

we might only have an hour free each day to deal with them with more coming in.

Just hidden our profile today. Just to sweep in the inbox and oh my just found an unread msg from 3 weeks ago about meeting today opps.

Why oh why cant the mail boxes be bigger or even unlimited?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hun it could be for many reasons!!!! .... I can understand it must be frustrating ! But think you have to send and forget ! Think of it as a bonus if you get a reply ! Or you will send your self nuts wondering what? if? when? why? !!! Good luck with your hunt .....I Do think the ladies on her lack some compassion sometimes !!! I know for sure I could not \ would not be on here if I had to take the rejection that the men and some couples get !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably best to focus on those that reply rather than waste energy thinking about those that don't

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

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The couples may be fakes and you didn't include any pics for them to perv (the pic icon is visible without opening the message)

As mentioned the couples checked your profile already

Thisnis the second message you sent inside the same thread. they can see the content of th second message by looking at the first and thus the second is unread

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over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)"

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

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We delete when we know our profile hasn't been read .if people can't be bothered to readprofiles we ccan't be asked to read mesages

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

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"We delete when we know our profile hasn't been read .if people can't be bothered to readprofiles we ccan't be asked to read mesages

They can still look at your profile without appearing on hoes looked at me

It's a setting in Privacy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just don't understand why they have not even been opened even just for a quick look before deleting them.

All my PMs are individually penned as said and I only PM those I appear to meet what they are looking for age accom etc.

I know couples and single women get lots of PMs but its a bit off not even opening them but it's their call I guess. However that's life.

I have never not read a PM but then I won't get anything like the number couples and single females will get.

well its a site and we can choose to do what we want with our profile

With your profile?

I wouldn't dream of telling you what to do with your profile not sure where you got that from

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We delete when we know our profile hasn't been read .if people can't be bothered to readprofiles we ccan't be asked to read mesages

I ALWAYS read profiles fully before sending a PM. Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hun it could be for many reasons!!!! .... I can understand it must be frustrating ! But think you have to send and forget ! Think of it as a bonus if you get a reply ! Or you will send your self nuts wondering what? if? when? why? !!! Good luck with your hunt .....I Do think the ladies on her lack some compassion sometimes !!! I know for sure I could not \ would not be on here if I had to take the rejection that the men and some couples get !!"

Thanks and yes you are right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

Hey? WTF.

Now its looks to you that I maybe some sort of freaky stalker looking at a profile to see if they have logged on since I sent the message. Maybe they are on holiday and haven't read it or for some other reason. But if they have logged on and have not read it then I will delete it from my sent box. I also keep messages in my sent box as a reminder that I have already PMd somebody. Is that some sort of stalking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure this must have been posted before so sorry if its another repetitive question.

I have in my sent messages box approx. 6 unread messages to couples and single ladies. A couple of these go back to when I first joined here.

Are these messages simply sitting in their inbox or have they been deleted without being read? I must stress I only ever send PM's to people that I appear to meet their wants in a single guy.

All my PM's are original and written with the persons wishes in mind no copy and paste PM's.

Thank's"

I would take it as they read your profile and weren't interested in your message so didn't read it. In the end you may think you meet what they require but only they can decide that...it doesn't matter how well crafted your messages are, if you're not what they want it doesn't make the blindest bit of difference...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

Hey? WTF.

Was that to me? if so its directed at the wrong person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know where the OP is coming from here. I have messages in my sent box that have never been opened. In some cases the recipient deletes them without reading, which I guess is fair enough, they probably checked out my profile and decided I wasn't for them. It's the ones that aren't read or deleted that I can't get my head around, surely they are just sat clogging up the recipients inbox

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know where the OP is coming from here. I have messages in my sent box that have never been opened. In some cases the recipient deletes them without reading, which I guess is fair enough, they probably checked out my profile and decided I wasn't for them. It's the ones that aren't read or deleted that I can't get my head around, surely they are just sat clogging up the recipients inbox

If people get the huge amount of mail they say they do, then usually your would be under a pile of fresh new ones within a day or so. The longer it was sent the older it is, the further down the list it is.. so it's even more unlikely to get read or looked at, especially if there is no face pic to check out - easily spotted if no pic isn't attached.

Keep sending a message everyday and attach a face pic maybe twice or three times if you really want to be seen.

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By *irtyDee33Woman
over a year ago

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"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

i didnt say he was but checking a person online to see if a message has been read is a tad strange

personally if i had a message that wasnt read i would just take it as not interested and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Julie how are you? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing if a person has been online if they haven't opened your pm it's natural to want to know why I prefer if a person simply deletes the message no harm done

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Sometimes I leave them there unread for ages just to piss people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Julie how are you? X"

Hello - fine thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Inbox and if I want to clear it, I mass delete

and then the process starts again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally delete any sent messages as soon as it appears in the recipients in-box. That way i don't get hungover about the fact if its either deleted or simply not read. And, its always a surpise if they reply 'eventually'.

Try and treat the messages like post. Its not as if you follow the postman about to make sure your mail gets delivered is it.

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By *rSwaggerMan
over a year ago

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@ OP.... Don't worry to much about unread messages.. I have a good circle of friends who miss my messages due to high volume... That's life.. Or think about when you message them.. if they not been on for over a week and you send a message it could be another week before they log on.. imagine them amount that would be sent since yours was.

When I was a teenager I sent a pen pal a letter and over 20 years later she hasn't written back yet..im sure she's read it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the numbers game you should not take a unread message personally .

I hot couple I was friends with once told me they got far to many messages from single guys to go through them all there just was not enough time in the day .

It is what it is you can't change the fact that there is no guarantees that no matter how well you write your opening message it will be opened at all.

Just try to not let your search become personal if you can ....a unread message just becomes part and parcel of this game and not worth a second thought as it means nothing to you personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

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"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

Hey? WTF.

no but you said you had seen they had logged in since but not read your message and have to agree sounded a bit sort of stalkerish to us too .. message if you dont get a reply move on and ignore. if people can be seen keep checking our profile we block them anyway..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I am sure this must have been posted before so sorry if its another repetitive question.

I have in my sent messages box approx. 6 unread messages to couples and single ladies. A couple of these go back to when I first joined here.

Are these messages simply sitting in their inbox or have they been deleted without being read? I must stress I only ever send PM's to people that I appear to meet their wants in a single guy.

All my PM's are original and written with the persons wishes in mind no copy and paste PM's.

Thank's

fair enough however in most cases they have not even looked at my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Keep sending a message everyday and attach a face pic maybe twice or three times if you really want to be seen.

I always attach face pic's to my messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"@ OP.... Don't worry to much about unread messages.. I have a good circle of friends who miss my messages due to high volume... That's life.. Or think about when you message them.. if they not been on for over a week and you send a message it could be another week before they log on.. imagine them amount that would be sent since yours was.

When I was a teenager I sent a pen pal a letter and over 20 years later she hasn't written back yet..im sure she's read it though

You have no way of knowing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always look at a profile before opening up a message unless its from someone i know.

and if the profile is lacking or im not interested i wont bother opening the message "

We do this too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

I am not getting hug up as some seem to think. I do OK for meets on here and other sites to be worried about such things. However when people expect you to write a few personal lines, don't check your profile or bother to read them then it's just a little confusing as to why.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

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if my message is read & deleted without a response then i just shrug & carry on, if its deleted without being opened then i Block them so that i dont make the mistake of sending them another message thinking that they seem like decent folks lookin at their profile.

if it remains unopened then i just assume that they cant see it or cant be assed, either way it no great shakes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am sure this must have been posted before so sorry if its another repetitive question.

I have in my sent messages box approx. 6 unread messages to couples and single ladies. A couple of these go back to when I first joined here.

Are these messages simply sitting in their inbox or have they been deleted without being read? I must stress I only ever send PM's to people that I appear to meet their wants in a single guy.

All my PM's are original and written with the persons wishes in mind no copy and paste PM's.

Thank's

fair enough however in most cases they have not even looked at my profile

I've looked...but you'll never know because it doesn't show...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got some that's been read but not deleted. What's that all about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not."

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best thing you could do is delete them from your sent box an forget about them

Which is what I will do esp as these people have logged in a number of times since I sent them. Thank's.

Thats distrubing. You have been looking at profiles to see if they have been online to see why they havent opened your mail

im sure people will take this as a good way now to opem your messages (NOT)

There are lots of behaviours that I woukd class as disturbing,checking to see if a message has been read is'nt one of them,stop trying to make him look like some sort of freaky stalker

Agree

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then? "

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list. "

Now you could call that stalking

and why would you want to hide it anyway :-

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then? "

How do you turn that off then

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list.

Now you could call that stalking

and why would you want to hide it anyway :-"

It is a site feature I choose to use, and so I don't get messages - hey you looked at me, do you like me? Or hey you looked at me and haven't rea/answered my message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show."

I'll look at that one thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show."

Harr right so only those you invite to view your profile can see it. I have not seen many profiles that are hidden on here when I have hit on them. Thanks for the info.

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list.

Now you could call that stalking

and why would you want to hide it anyway :-

It is a site feature I choose to use, and so I don't get messages - hey you looked at me, do you like me? Or hey you looked at me and haven't rea/answered my message

Or, Hey, will you fuckin stop looking at my profile!

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show.

Harr right so only those you invite to view your profile can see it. I have not seen many profiles that are hidden on here when I have hit on them. Thanks for the info."

No not at all, they are two different things.

When someone hides their profile, no site member can see their profile text but if they leave public pictures in their gallery anyone can still see them.

This option I am talking about is so that you do not show on peoples Viewed Me List.

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list.

Now you could call that stalking

and why would you want to hide it anyway :-

It is a site feature I choose to use, and so I don't get messages - hey you looked at me, do you like me? Or hey you looked at me and haven't rea/answered my message

Or, Hey, will you fuckin stop looking at my profile!

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By *ornyHousewife 68Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show.

Harr right so only those you invite to view your profile can see it. I have not seen many profiles that are hidden on here when I have hit on them. Thanks for the info.

No not at all, they are two different things.

When someone hides their profile, no site member can see their profile text but if they leave public pictures in their gallery anyone can still see them.

This option I am talking about is so that you do not show on peoples Viewed Me List."

Looking like that I'm not sure why anyone would want to message you anyway

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over a year ago

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

How do you turn that off then

Privacy - profiles - don't show.

Harr right so only those you invite to view your profile can see it. I have not seen many profiles that are hidden on here when I have hit on them. Thanks for the info.

No not at all, they are two different things.

When someone hides their profile, no site member can see their profile text but if they leave public pictures in their gallery anyone can still see them.

This option I am talking about is so that you do not show on peoples Viewed Me List.

Looking like that I'm not sure why anyone would want to message you anyway

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"I have friends on here who go away for months at a time and often don't log onto Fab so won't read my message for some weeks often.

Like I have said it's no real problem I was just asking how they could still be unread after all.

Looking at profiles and seeing if they have logged on since you sent it gives you a good indication and you can delete it from your sent box. Nothing more to it really.

Thanks for all the replies most have been very informative.

You have no idea if they have checked your profile or not.

Don't I? Then what's the look whose looked at your profile hit thing for then?

Which is easily turned off, so it will not show in your list.

I have looked at your profile, I will not be on your list.

Now you could call that stalking

and why would you want to hide it anyway :-

It is a site feature I choose to use, and so I don't get messages - hey you looked at me, do you like me? Or hey you looked at me and haven't rea/answered my message

completely agree we have ours hidden so no one knows, guys tend to see you looking at their profile (allbeit you might have been there only a few seconds before you thought oh god no way) but you looked as far as they are concerned they're in and gonna get a shag.. because you looked you must ve interested as there us no way you thought never in a million years.. so much easier for them not to see you looking.

Its same as in chat.. whrn our cam us on people watch do we om each one ..no. but if you flick through guys cams the second you do you get a pm.. 'like what you see hun ...' umm no or i would have messaged you...

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