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By *ree8ive OP   Man
over a year ago

CORNWALL

Hi folks, kind of an etiquette question...if you find you are looked at several times,do you think about messaging that viewer? I think this is more a single guy question! I have done it once to a cpl who viewed me about 5 times over 36 hours. We swopped polite messages, and left it at that. I do look at the profile of viewers, and wouldn't message anyone whose preferences I was well outside of.

I know the viewer could wink or message first, but do people think its sort of pushy or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I tend to do is view their profile and if I appear to fall into the kind of guy it looks they are looking for then I might send them a polite PM. I thank them for looking at my profile and if they wanted to know more or had any questions to ask. I also send the a couple of face pic's along with the PM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite often ping a message to someone that has viewed my profile a couple of times if I think we might be compatible. What harm can be done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

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By *ree8ive OP   Man
over a year ago

CORNWALL

Cheers guys, both answers are how I'm thinking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?"

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?"

Yes but coming from the single lady side of things where you don't have to do any legwork!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Snap "

Me too

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Snap "

And here. But we get plenty of mail from those we have looked at and dismissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way i see it is if someone views as happened 5 times in one day then when i try to wink etc and get message cannot contact user due to filters i assume they are just pic collectors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?"

Simple question simple answer. As a single female you will get lots more PMs than you can handle. Us single guys have to work a lot harder on here so a simple PM may have the desired affect amd sometimes it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is persistantly looking then there must be something thats attracting them to your profile

Sometimes people can be a little shy or don't mail for fear of rejection,I don't see any harm in sending a short message,the worse they can do is say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Simple question simple answer. As a single female you will get lots more PMs than you can handle. Us single guys have to work a lot harder on here so a simple PM may have the desired affect amd sometimes it works. "

Yep. What I said a few posts up. Us guys have to explore every avenue. Why have the "looked at me option"???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There loads of people look at mine but when I go to look and send them a message it says there not looking for my type or something like that so what's wrong with that lol .......

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

People look at profiles for all sorts of reasons, maybe they like your posts on the forums, maybe they're looking at your veri's, maybe they've just forgotten that they'd already looked, it doesn't necessarily mean that they are at all interested. I certainly wouldn't message someone just because they looked at my profile a couple of times. If they'd looked a dozen times in one day I MIGHT send a wink but even then I wouldn't expect a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An argument for ladies not messaging "looked at me" guys is that they are probably just knkcking one out at their pics lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Yes but coming from the single lady side of things where you don't have to do any legwork!!!"

for me I don't think it has anything to do with not having to do any leg work, even if I got no messages, I still wouldn't see the point in mailing someone who had looked at me and not messaged because whether I get no mail a day or 50 he's still not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Yes but coming from the single lady side of things where you don't have to do any legwork!!!

for me I don't think it has anything to do with not having to do any leg work, even if I got no messages, I still wouldn't see the point in mailing someone who had looked at me and not messaged because whether I get no mail a day or 50 he's still not interested

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Well maybe when you're in the same boat as us single guys you might change your view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Yes but coming from the single lady side of things where you don't have to do any legwork!!!

for me I don't think it has anything to do with not having to do any leg work, even if I got no messages, I still wouldn't see the point in mailing someone who had looked at me and not messaged because whether I get no mail a day or 50 he's still not interested

Well maybe when you're in the same boat as us single guys you might change your view. "

if the tables were turned and there was 100 women to every man I wouldn't even be on here

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"There loads of people look at mine but when I go to look and send them a message it says there not looking for my type or something like that so what's wrong with that lol ....... "

I've met and had fun with lots of people who I've messaged after they've looked at me even though when it says they're not looking for people of my type, age etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Snap "

same, although i do look at their profile to see if we think they are for us.

we also fab peoples pics when they fab ours, but very rarely do anyone message back from that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?

Yes but coming from the single lady side of things where you don't have to do any legwork!!!

for me I don't think it has anything to do with not having to do any leg work, even if I got no messages, I still wouldn't see the point in mailing someone who had looked at me and not messaged because whether I get no mail a day or 50 he's still not interested

Well maybe when you're in the same boat as us single guys you might change your view. "

how does that work?

the woman has already said, if she had no interest from anyone, and someone looked at her profile but hadnt shown any interest further, then why would SHE want to follow it up?

would you approach people in a cafe just because they looked up from their cofee/breakfast/friends to give you a quick look a couple of times?

why?

they may find you repulsive/think they know you/like your shirt/be looking past you, anything is possible.

just because someone looked at you doesnt mean they have any interest.

hence why so many single guys messages get deleted unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope

if someone looks at me and don't mail me I take that as they arnt interested so why mail them?"

With your profile I would love to message you but sadly I notice you want local people which I am not and I know it's unusual for a man to read a profile and also I gave your pictures a good fabbing

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