FabSwingers.com forum: Phone Proof Shut Him Up!

By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

I have had three or four messages from a chap I dont know, and never replied. To be honest I never really noticed them, and I wasnt trying to be nasty.

Last night he sent a message saying I was obviously a bloke, and he could back this up as his friends on Fab had confirmed it!

I asked him for Skype so I could show him all my lady bits, but he didnt have it, nor FaceTime on iphone either.

Eventually we settled on a phone call where I calmly explained that I am a female, smiling broadly as he spluttered and muttered on the other end!

I know I did not have to justify myself to him or anybody, but my husband and I had a great laugh hearing him backtracking with a no doubt red face!

Then this morning he starts messaging again, this time trying to pay me compliments!

Just wish people would think before trying to act like they know everything - only to be proved totally inaccurate. Him and his pretend friends.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

but didn't he get what he wanted... your attention

I wonder who is playing "a game"........

if someone doubted me I know what my answer would be... block,delete,move on

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Yeah, your probably right, but it was just nice that once to make somebody think about how stupid they are - judging everybody else by their own standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry OP, there is a few sides to a story, this is mine.

I'm asked for a meet, and the minute I ask for a number(as its me traveling out)-things go quiet..

ever walked in to a meet and the female half isnt aware of who is coming?- u better believe it happens.. and can be fairly embarrassing to all parties

I dont know how the guy has phrased the 'ur a man' comment, but I think EVERYBODY should think of their safety, and one way of assuring that is by making sure u have had some communication before the meet.

if I didnt have a webcam or facetime etc..I'd be likely to ask the same

and it doesnt make me an idiot...in fact, it makes me smarter than some of the idiots who jump to meets at with very little information....

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

There was no plan to meet.

As explained above he had mailed me three of four times and not had a reply. I have sometimes had over 500 unread mails in the inbox before.

He took it upon himself to mean that I must be a man.

I had never had any contact with him, never mind trying to lure him anywhere and then a gang of 6 burly blokes jump out and smash him to bits.

The only basis he had was that as I had not rushed to reply to his cut and paste messages. This, in his eyes, meant I MUST be a man!

There was no meet ever on the cards. He accused me purely because his messages we not answered. Of course people are not going to meet random individuals without making the sensible checks. I dont think you are telling us anything we didnt know there.

So, I respect your viewpoint, but I think you have missed the point of my original post.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

So now a guy who I'm guessing you weren't intending meeting has your phone number? It's not something I'd do myself but if you got off on it, fair play to you

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wouldn't feel the need to justify myself to someone I had no intention of meeting, but the OP might be different.

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Of course not - just set the iphone to withold caller id. Easy enough.

I never realised people sat and tried to pick holes in everything.

I can see why I never posted on here earlier!

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I wouldn't feel the need to justify myself to someone I had no intention of meeting, but the OP might be different."

Clearly the OP is different

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

I asked him for Skype so I could show him all my lady bits."
i dont belive u and would like to see your lady bits to prove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different but i think this guy played a game and won.

I wouldn't justify myself to anyone who doubted me. I'd ignore and if needed, block.

Their opinion of me is irrelevant.

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

He didnt really win anything except a large slice of humble pie!

I realise most people on here are clearly far too superior to ever have to stoop so low

Lighten up a bit. It was meant to be a bit of fun to give somebody a bit of an eyeopener, nothing more.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I'm confused about a few things listed in your situation, but i won't dogpile.

Congrats on your victory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course not - just set the iphone to withold caller id. Easy enough.

I never realised people sat and tried to pick holes in everything.

I can see why I never posted on here earlier!"

sorry never tried to pick holes to be honest, just stating the fact, things arent always as they seem..there are plenty of disillusioned people on the site of all groups

still no point in proving anything really if no intention to meet...anyway...was he wanking as u spoke?

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Oh dear.

I really never realised that the forums were like this.

Lesson learned that if you fancy passing half an hour, dont bother posting on here.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Oh dear.

I really never realised that the forums were like this.

Lesson learned that if you fancy passing half an hour, dont bother posting on here.

Welcome to the forum!

I said it on another thread last night, it always amazes me how people post threads then throw a strop when they don't get instant agreement about what a wonderful thing they've just done or the opinions they've sought differ from their OP. If you can't handle folk politely posting their opinions of your threads then yes, I'd agree, don't bother posting...if however, you enjoy a bit of banter with a group of certifiable loonies then keep posting and getting involved on different threads; we're mostly harmless (nods to Douglas Adams)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you even bother your arse to speak on the phone to someone you have zero interest in and who has accused you of being a man? Talk about play right into his hands

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Many thanks for taking the time to pass on your words of wisdom. I was clearly ignorant before, but due to you passing on your opinion I am fully aware of the error of my ways.

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Why would you even bother your arse to speak on the phone to someone you have zero interest in and who has accused you of being a man? Talk about play right into his hands

Yeah, right into his hands. As you were there and heard the conversation you would know that he got pure pleasure from what happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would you even bother your arse to speak on the phone to someone you have zero interest in and who has accused you of being a man? Talk about play right into his hands

Yeah, right into his hands. As you were there and heard the conversation you would know that he got pure pleasure from what happened. "

If you have that much time on your hands then good for you,ill carry on spending time on people that I can have fun with and that are worth speaking to

Keep having fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Of course not - just set the iphone to withold caller id. Easy enough.

I never realised people sat and tried to pick holes in everything.

I can see why I never posted on here earlier!"

Its one of thereasons I never start a thread

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

You live and learn I guess.

Maybe that's why the forum seems to be the same few people passing on their verdict on almost every thread.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I didn't know you could withhold your number on iPhone! That's quite handy. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shame to see such disrespect for the OP who just wanted to share a story whereby she felt empowered. Good on her. Forums can be supportive and encouraging spaces if we let them. Let's try being that.

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Yes, in settings, under phone. Just switch off show caller ID

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"You live and learn I guess.

Maybe that's why the forum seems to be the same few people passing on their verdict on almost every thread.

possibly but that could also be down to they are the only ones who want to take part. I'm fairly regular in the forums, I sometimes get people agreeing with me, I often get ignored, I sometimes have people disagreeing with me, overall its an enjoyable experience. I've learned stuff and changed my opinion in both directions about a lot of people. Stick around, you look like you can handle yourself

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

It doesn't make the forum a bad place just because people don't agree with you.

I wouldn't have phoned anyone to prove who I was either and I doubt if he was eating humble pie , it was probably more like...yay !! I got a woman to call me . let me see if she will meet me now too....which could well be true as now he is mailing you with compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see any disrespect

I see opinions based on information that was given and not everyone shares the same opinions....thats allowed even if people don't like it

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I think someone agreed with me once, buggered if I can remember when it was though

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Shame to see such disrespect for the OP who just wanted to share a story whereby she felt empowered. Good on her. Forums can be supportive and encouraging spaces if we let them. Let's try being that. "

Where is the disrespect?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think someone agreed with me once, buggered if I can remember when it was though

I'm sorry I can't agree with that

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

And did he actually say "You're a man" though or did he say you weren't 'Woman'

Which would be correct because according to your profile you are a couple.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I think someone agreed with me once, buggered if I can remember when it was though

I'm sorry I can't agree with that

Oh well, it wasn't you then

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I put my washing in the machine before!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I think someone agreed with me once, buggered if I can remember when it was though

Well it wasn't me !

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I didn't know you could withhold your number on iPhone! That's quite handy. X"

Or dial 141 before calling a number. You can do this on any phone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think someone agreed with me once, buggered if I can remember when it was though

I'm sorry I can't agree with that

Oh well, it wasn't you then

and here is your second agreeing reply.

I agree with that!!!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Yeah, right into his hands. As you were there and heard the conversation you would know that he got pure pleasure from what happened. "

but...the point you said at the beginning was that you had no intention of meeting him anyway.... so maybe the question is "why did it bother you so much that you had to go to such lengths to prove him wrong?"....

he got to you... you bit...

in the game of "moral victories" I dont think anyone comes out looking like a winner... and maybe that is what comes out of this....

I'd rather concentrate on those people I like, as opposed to those I don't....

as someone else has said... no one is going to agree with everyone and everything you say on the forums, and it is how people react to that which can be as telling as anything else.....

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

wonder if hes reading this now, giggling at the drama he has caused

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By *arriedMilf OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Perfect.

Many thanks for the education and for pointing out all I did wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how many people do you hand your number out to to not know who's texting you?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Looks in, offers everyone a slice of cherry cake, says, 'peace out' and flounces off to another topic

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"You live and learn I guess.

Maybe that's why the forum seems to be the same few people passing on their verdict on almost every thread.

OP, I totally get where you're coming from and smiled when I read your story

I agree there are far too many who turn a light-hearted thread into something it wasn't intended to be. Lighten up people! You know who I'm referring to

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Looks in, offers everyone a slice of cherry cake, says, 'peace out' and flounces off to another topic

You won't win bake off with so few cherries Tina ...... go pop some more cherries !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"You live and learn I guess.

Maybe that's why the forum seems to be the same few people passing on their verdict on almost every thread.

OP, I totally get where you're coming from and smiled when I read your story

I agree there are far too many who turn a light-hearted thread into something it wasn't intended to be. Lighten up people! You know who I'm referring to

. . . .

I don't know who you are referring to ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You live and learn I guess.

Maybe that's why the forum seems to be the same few people passing on their verdict on almost every thread.

Totally agree with you. If I started a dull as shit thread, such as 'what is the date today?', you'd get the same few suspects clambering over each other to make 'profound' and argumentative comments.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Perfect.

Many thanks for the education and for pointing out all I did wrong. "

This is sounding silly now.... no one said you were wrong, they just disagreed with you.

This is how forums work, people sometimes don't agree.

I think this has run it's course now

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