FabSwingers.com forum: Agressive profiles

By *iggles and Beardy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

What is it with agressive profiles? Do they work better, do they get more meets?

Just asking as the amount we seem to read, ranting about NO SINGLES (writen about 20+ times in caps in one profile)

or things like, male must have good cock as were not here just to provide some wife with a good portion.. (this kinda makes me laugh as I always thought it was non swingers who belived people swing, due to bloke cant fullfill wife, not that swingers belive it too)

Even saw a comment about if you turn up it better stand up "As real swingers never have a problem when it happens" Now personaly I have never had a problem (especialy if JD has been inolved) but face it, it will happen one day and some people just arnt as good looking up close as on a pic :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prob because numpties keep mailing them and they get fed up...we all know numpties cant read so it is pointless really

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By *iggles and Beardy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Prob because numpties keep mailing them and they get fed up...we all know numpties cant read so it is pointless really

Haha Numpty/Numpties have to be our favorite word (even named our dog Numpty) nice to see a person with taste :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thinks it's from people who have had other profiles, and starting with a new one.

One man know from another site is playing as a couple on this site, and has it in BIG BOLD letters no single men, and some threats etc if one dose contact them, lol

Obviously he doesn't want to share, but is happy to take, lol

We dropped him...

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

aggressive profiles really turn us off, okay it is mildly annoying when people mail who clearly havent read our profile, or dont meet our criteria,but it only takes a second to delete n block, but when you see all over a profile NO SINGLES THIS MEANS YOU DICKHEAD etc,,, it kinda puts us of, it like some couples get offended at the very thought of singles just looking at there profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but whom said capitals letter is shouting, I always think of it as pointing some thing out.

Welshsexpair you are right about single men who finds a lady, then don’t want single men, I have experienced that or you are not good enough any more for the single come couple to meet, that makes me laugh. Sorry that my english is not so good but only lived here for 4 years now lol

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

Well, it is easy to delete but I guess constant deleting are kinda tiring. Some extremely aggressive profiles turns us off like when the profile said nothing about them other then "NO, NO, NO" and that standard warning thingy...:D...and yup...I agree with tonyelke ... CAPS doesn't mean shout..."!!!" is considered a shout to us...CAPS are just to stress points or catch the eye of reader..:D...e.g: "WE ARE FUN LOVING COUPLE"..:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caps is shouting. It is perceived as that on every forum I post on, and every company I have ever worked for has discouraged using Caps in emails for the same reason.

Have you ever seen an official document using Caps to highlight something? Or would you expect them to use bold or underlining?

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Caps is shouting. It is perceived as that on every forum I post on, and every company I have ever worked for has discouraged using Caps in emails for the same reason.

Have you ever seen an official document using Caps to highlight something? Or would you expect them to use bold or underlining?"

i always thought caps as shouting but as somebody said above now its to emphasise as well so i just read it and judge ...the heavy demanding profile i bin it ...i do "requests" not orders ...

and this culture of tring to treat single men as crap dont work with some of us ....Bollox

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Agressive profiles are a huge turn off....we've all had inappropriate messages from people who choose not to read profiles but turning your profile into a page of screaming demands does'nt look good in my opinion

As someone said if they don't read your profile anyway they won't take any notice of agressive ones and all the nice people that may read them and want to contact you may just pass you by

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Agressive profiles are a huge turn off....we've all had inappropriate messages from people who choose not to read profiles but turning your profile into a page of screaming demands does'nt look good in my opinion

As someone said if they don't read your profile anyway they won't take any notice of agressive ones and all the nice people that may read them and want to contact you may just pass you by

yeah that was a good point there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes agressive profiles definately do acheive results.

They result in us being really pissed of when we see them and also make us more determined to ignore the owner of the said profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Caps is shouting. It is perceived as that on every forum I post on, and every company I have ever worked for has discouraged using Caps in emails for the same reason.

Have you ever seen an official document using Caps to highlight something? Or would you expect them to use bold or underlining?"

We don't have bold or underlining here though, so caps can be both, a way to highlight, or a way to shout, IMO.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Caps is shouting. It is perceived as that on every forum I post on, and every company I have ever worked for has discouraged using Caps in emails for the same reason.

Have you ever seen an official document using Caps to highlight something? Or would you expect them to use bold or underlining?

We don't have bold or underlining here though, so caps can be both, a way to highlight, or a way to shout, IMO.

I agree that caps can be used to highlight a point as we have no other way of doing it but too much highlighting a point quickly turns into shouting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't agree more wiggles happy.

When you've got limited space to write about yourselves & what you're looking for, it never ceases to amaze me how some people write ads that are aggressive moaney & derogatory about others.

Definitely puts us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually read a profile earlier which was ALL caps.

And it was quite off putting to be honest.

Agree with "highlighting" with caps which helps but not the whole bloody thing !!!

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Funny how we all think the same about caps isnt it....if i read this and had any they would be straight off ...

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I used to work with a woman that used to write handovers to me in caps and I always read it as though she was shouting...in the end i told her to stop doing it as it always put me in a bad mood lol

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By *iggles and Beardy OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"I used to work with a woman that used to write handovers to me in caps and I always read it as though she was shouting...in the end i told her to stop doing it as it always put me in a bad mood lol"

This is reason Caps are considered shouting, on alot of forums, used to go on one forum where a guy ended almost every sentance with !!!!!!!!!! yet didn't see how people saw hs posts as aggressive :P

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well correct us if we are wrong but isn't THIS shouting and *this* how to express a point? Or is *our* netiquette all screwed up?

xxx

J&R

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Well correct us if we are wrong but isn't THIS shouting and *this* how to express a point? Or is *our* netiquette all screwed up?

xxx

J&R

I think it could depend on the context of what you're saying as well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By WigglesHappy

"What is it with agressive profiles? Do they work better, do they get more meets?

Just asking as the amount we seem to read, ranting about NO SINGLES (writen about 20+ times in caps in one profile)

I know exactly whose profile that is because having been roundly abused by the fem of the couple (in a Forum Thread) I had to go look at their profile. I hope they saw me perving them! And guess what their profile is exactly how they are. A pair of hardened swingers and distinctly unattractive. And that was before I read their profile ...hehe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you know what i really hate in profile? people who put things like no fatties, no mingers1......theres really no need for it, we all have our likes and dislikes, i mean i have seen profiles that say things like attractive couple who look after ourselves so we expect the same, and i have looked at their pics and though.....attractive? im whos bloody eyes?!! so all you people with snooty profiles just remember someones looking at you and thinking .......bloody hell no ta lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"you know what i really hate in profile? people who put things like no fatties, no mingers1......theres really no need for it, we all have our likes and dislikes, i mean i have seen profiles that say things like attractive couple who look after ourselves so we expect the same, and i have looked at their pics and though.....attractive? im whos bloody eyes?!! so all you people with snooty profiles just remember someones looking at you and thinking .......bloody hell no ta lol"

i so agree with you ..there is no need for slagging off people even before you meet ...lol...i mean ...define minger ....how many nice people are going to walk away thinking "dont think i am a minger ...but they might ...i wont post" ...

also selfish cold judgemental wankers dont do it for me and never will .

damn you got me all angry now .....LOL

There is good and bad in everyone if you look hard enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i mean ...define minger ....how many nice people are going to walk away thinking "dont think i am a minger ...but they might ...i wont post" ... "

see thats the bit i don't like lol

I've never seen myself as anything special, because im not im just me, but i leave it for other to decide if they like me or not, but soon as you see comments like no mingers or must be attractive thats put pressure on me straight away so i feel i can't reply, and hey you never know they may have though i was drop dead gorgeous and missed out on the best shag of their life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well you are hun and dont let anyone tell you different.

cant comment on the best shag bit though

lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to avoid negative & aggressive profiles on here. I wonder why? lol

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

So whats wrong with being a minger then????

Eh???

lol

If i plyed yu with enough booze and switched the lights off....you would never know!!!

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By *ocky669Man
over a year ago

Northumberland

nowt wrong with mingers therse someone for everyone, mind you,you wouldnt need ply me with drink and i would even let you leave the light on

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By *ocky669Man
over a year ago

Northumberland

back to the main thread i find it funny how some profiles slate virtually everyone who is normal then say "get in touch if interested" yer maybe from another planet and the would be happy

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

More and more people are having aggressive profiles...:D...even some of the straight guys here have "NO SINGLE GUYS...NO SINGLE GUY!!!"...:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More and more people are having aggressive profiles...:D...even some of the straight guys here have "NO SINGLE GUYS...NO SINGLE GUY!!!"...:D"

Why do you keep putting D in your posts .. ? HTML isn't alowed in here ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having read this topic with interest i looked at our profile and now im paranoid because i now think we have a aggresive profile

going to have to go and amend it now

if anybody wonts to take a look at our profile and tell me truthly if we have a aggresive profile or not we wont be offened

would rather know now than later and wonder why we arnt getting any messages

xxxx beccy xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think your profile is aggressive..its just stating what you want and what you dont want..best way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi jamnsar

thankyou for looking at our profile

glad you think our profile isnt aggresive wouldnt wont people thinking we are being rude lol

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By *achaCouple
over a year ago

manchester

we put some parts in full caps as we got sick of people contacting us, swaping emails, talking on the phone and then finding out they weren't compatible as they didn't read our small print! it saves everyones time, trust me..

it's also laughable how people compare profiles on a swingers site to official documents etc, it's a bloody sex site!!

we have had no probs with our profile and at the end of the day, if you dont like it, deal with it and move on..

cheers!

laura

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

"we put some parts in full caps as we got sick of people contacting us, swaping emails, talking on the phone and then finding out they weren't compatible as they didn't read our small print! it saves everyones time, trust me..

it's also laughable how people compare profiles on a swingers site to official documents etc, it's a bloody sex site!!

we have had no probs with our profile and at the end of the day, if you dont like it, deal with it and move on..

cheers!

laura

You are coming across so well.

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By *achaCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"You are coming across so well."

like i said, DEAL WITH IT AND MOVE ON.

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By *1dKingColeMan
over a year ago

east london

"You are coming across so well.

like i said, DEAL WITH IT AND MOVE ON."

PMSL!

Good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi cole

bless thankyou last thing we wont to be is comming accross all aggresive and rude lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Caps is shouting. It is perceived as that on every forum I post on, and every company I have ever worked for has discouraged using Caps in emails for the same reason.

Have you ever seen an official document using Caps to highlight something? Or would you expect them to use bold or underlining?

We don't have bold or underlining here though, so caps can be both, a way to highlight, or a way to shout, IMO.

I agree that caps can be used to highlight a point as we have no other way of doing it but too much highlighting a point quickly turns into shouting

I wonder if Michael Cane starts his typing in small case and then grADUALY GOES ON TO FINISH OFF IN CAP'S?

Have you heard the way he speaks,lol?

XXXX

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By *ishnchipsMan
over a year ago

Kingston

I think that everyone has the right to say what they want and what they do not want in their profiles. However, instead of saying "no mingers", why not say something like "looks are important to us"? Instead of "no fatties", why not "must be in shape"? A profile can be aggressive in tone, but aggressive words turn me off (unless they are said in bed!).

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"I think that everyone has the right to say what they want and what they do not want in their profiles. However, instead of saying "no mingers", why not say something like "looks are important to us"? Instead of "no fatties", why not "must be in shape"? A profile can be aggressive in tone, but aggressive words turn me off (unless they are said in bed!). "

I agree, nothing wrong with a bit of tact.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I have to be honest, aggresive sounding profiles just make us think, wow, angry people, and someone we wouldn't want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's also laughable how people compare profiles on a swingers site to official documents etc, it's a bloody sex site!!

we have had no probs with our profile and at the end of the day, if you dont like it, deal with it and move on..

cheers!

laura

Someone's getting very defensive.

Maybe you should follow your own advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting perhaps you and oldkingcole are a match secondrow. As you say one can protest too much especially with your uber camp profile pics. Maybe you can get that first verification - single fellas don't appear to be so fussy about men playing away from their wife and kids - sorry did we say that again of course we meant flatmates!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting perhaps you and oldkingcole are a match secondrow. As you say one can protest too much especially with your uber camp profile pics. Maybe you can get that first verification - single fellas don't appear to be so fussy about men playing away from their wife and kids - sorry did we say that again of course we meant flatmates!!"

Lol. Always rich coming from someone with no face pics. Nice back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of us are professionals with jobs and aren't supported by the wives they cheat on! Glad you enjoyed looking at a bottom and back - these little steps will be the first in your leap out of the closet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So is your profession to spend all day giving out abuse in forums and making unfounded accusations?

Or do you just do that because you're pathetic?

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By *achaCouple
over a year ago

manchester

it's also laughable how people compare profiles on a swingers site to official documents etc, it's a bloody sex site!!

we have had no probs with our profile and at the end of the day, if you dont like it, deal with it and move on..

cheers!

laura

Someone's getting very defensive.

Maybe you should follow your own advice. "

i'm sorry, i don't understand..can you explain please?

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" i don't understand..can you explain please?

thanks

You just sounded like you were taking the thread personally.

Just thought rather than getting annoyed you could just move on, as you often suggest.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

I absolutely piss myself laffing at some of the menu cards on here ..We dont do this and dont do that and no this and no that...and no pic no reply and they got no pic ..i just move on thinking ,what a pair of grumpy ol gits, im here for fun not a bollocking from someone i dont know.

its meant to be fun ffsake and if no means no and it does, just drop your personal limits out when chatting.

and oooh i got my soap box out now .....to everyone who has

NO SINGLE MALES plastered all over your profiles just hit the no single guy button ...you havent got to worry then !!!...simples

sometimes i think people moan for the sake of it ...including me ...so i am off now ..see ya .

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