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VERIFY or not to VERIFY

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been a member for a while on here and love it to bits

I've been with 4 lovely women on here but I asked them not to verify me.

The reason for this is because I don't want to come across as a male slut, but I think this may be hindering my chances . Am i a bit daft or what or is it better.

What do you all think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if it works for you then why change it

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Each to their own... but personally anyone without any meet in person veri's who's been on the site over a year I would pass by.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

But I also think, people will look and think, on for over a year, and has not met? Might be a bit suspicious for some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't accept them but I wouldn't meet someone that had been on over a year with no verifications.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason for this is because I don't want to come across as a male slut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on the floor laughing

4 women? You're a complete he whore.....tie a knot in it immediately!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could have them verify you but not show them, no green tick, over a year I wouldn't meet or even chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been a member for a while on here and love it to bits

I've been with 4 lovely women on here but I asked them not to verify me.

The reason for this is because I don't want to come across as a male slut, but I think this may be hindering my chances . Am i a bit daft or what or is it better.

What do you all think?"

4 oh you man whore lol

Seriously mate, its up to you but the majority of people wont meet without a verification, it shows you are genuine and not a timewaster. Want to click, show the tick simples squeek

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Personally, over a year and no meet veris means you wouldn't come up if I were searching your area cos I always use the advanced search option to only find those meet verified so I'd never see your profile. If you were to contact me (and you got past the initial numpty filter), I'd be less likely to engage in conversation as you've no meet verifications. I can't see 4 meets making you a less likely prospect but I'm sure it may be to some. If you're happy with how you're doing in Fabland then carry on, if not, maybe ask one of your lady friends to verify you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it's verify lol

wow didn't expect this much help that's great

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Feel a bit embarrassed to ask them to verify though after its passed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely all you need to do is just remove the older veri's as they get staler. Bit of common sense needed that's all. Or is this some crafty way of saying "Hey look at me. I'm a real player. I know how to please the ladies now." If so it sure is a good un. ;0)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure they would understand

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Feel a bit embarrassed to ask them to verify though after its passed"

I'm sure they would understand though, as they are members as well! Just ask them!

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Met four women and asked them not to verify eh? ?? Hmmm. Not that I'm suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am on the floor laughing

4 women? You're a complete he whore.....tie a knot in it immediately! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As my profile states I only meet well verified guys, so I wouldn't meet you.

And 4 in a year makes you a slut???..... Goodness me there's lots of people on here who have more than that in a night lol

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme


"Feel a bit embarrassed to ask them to verify though after its passed"

You just have to hope they remember you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 in a year makes you a male whore ? i must be passed help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

does that mean you think women with 4 or more veri's are female sluts??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met four women and asked them not to verify eh? ?? Hmmm. Not that I'm suspicious. "

Look at me springs to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been a member for a while on here and love it to bits

I've been with 4 lovely women on here but I asked them not to verify me.

The reason for this is because I don't want to come across as a male slut, but I think this may be hindering my chances . Am i a bit daft or what or is it better.

What do you all think?"

I know what you mean, its getting the balance right, just enough to show that you are genuine bit not to many that makes you look like you slut

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No not at all its just that I remember wanting to meet this girl who stated that if you have a lot of verifications that she wouldn't want a meet .

Turns out she didn't like me anyway but that sort of stuck in my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am real, I do meet and I would never have very on my profile or indeed very anyone else I meet mostly married guys and they expect discretion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why wouldnt you meet anyone that's been here for over a year and hasnt met? Why is that suspicious?

Not everybody takes this site seriously and comes here every day and some people dont fancy their chances but still come back at a later date anyway.

That's a bit harsh really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us veris form part of our screening especially when it comes to single males. So you would never even come up in our searches we would suggest the same goes for a lot of other users too.

It's up to you what you show and don't show at least you would have a tick even with out showing anything. Like has been said over a year without so much as a green tick looks bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been a member for a while on here and love it to bits

I've been with 4 lovely women on here but I asked them not to verify me.

The reason for this is because I don't want to come across as a male slut, but I think this may be hindering my chances . Am i a bit daft or what or is it better.

What do you all think?"

Just don't accept verifications, when offered, but do it in the nicest possible way. Or accept one, to show you've been verified, but don't publish it. I don't show them, because I don't want to be responsible for the verifier to be the recipient of perhaps unwanted requests. Being private is good, and shows concern for the people you've been with. Hope this helps. Mike

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why wouldnt you meet anyone that's been here for over a year and hasnt met? Why is that suspicious?

Not everybody takes this site seriously and comes here every day and some people dont fancy their chances but still come back at a later date anyway.

That's a bit harsh really."

I only meet verified guys no matter how long they have been on here for. The main reason for this is my safety. I need to know who i'm meeting is who they say they are and isn't going to kill me or something!!

It also helps to know that they have a clue what swinging is about, is respectful, non pushy, likely to not waste my time ect.

Verifications exist for a reason and we're allowed to use them as we see fit.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Why wouldnt you meet anyone that's been here for over a year and hasnt met? Why is that suspicious?

Not everybody takes this site seriously and comes here every day and some people dont fancy their chances but still come back at a later date anyway.

That's a bit harsh really."

For me, if you've not met anyone in a year, I'd wonder if you were serious about meeting or a windup merchant...I have limited time to play so like to be as sure as possible that the person/couple were going to show up and no meet veris would be one of the alarm bells. That being said, I was contacted once by a couple with no meet veris who'd been on site over a year - I asked why, they explained and eventually we met and had a great time so although its unlikely I'd pursue a meet with non verified, it's not impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be the cleverest 'Look at me thread' this week....

ted.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

each to their own but i would show them, I prefer a profile that has them and like another insight in to who i/we might be meeting.

Ruby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they choose to leave feedback for others you dont have to show then 4 meets dosnt make you a slut trust me

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