FabSwingers.com forum: Should a Face Pic be Mandatory on all Profiles

By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got face pics but keep them for friends only and private so then i can choose to send one when requested !

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Got face pics but keep them for friends only and private so then i can choose to send one when requested !"

I've got a face pic for friends only too and its also available to send on request, but i'd be more than happy to make it my main profile pic if it meant i could see everyone else's face pic too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

Let us be real for a moment, swinging is not _iewed by the general populous as a good thing and consequently many people wish to retain some discretion in case your friends, family or employers notice.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No a face picture should not be compulsory , if it was about 90% of members would leave, remember lots of people

are committing adultery, cheating and just here for a knee trembler, so wouldn't want to be recognised.

sites make money by having members, its a numbers game, so why limit numbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say 'lots of other websites' - are any of these swinging sites, or are you trying to compare this site with mainstream dating sites?

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would leave if that was the case. We have face pics available to send when we wish. But would not be happy with every Tom dick and Harry being able to see. We both have public jobs and we wouldn't be happy with random people coming up to us or talking about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

Maybe it would be a good idea to lead by example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be daft. People like to keep things low key, face puctures etc will lead to all sort of proplems if they are recognised in the street, men harassing couples and females, sorry but many men come across as think its a free shag site and all couples/females are here becouse they will shag anything.

I refer those who question this to the countless threads about pushy, won't take no, pleading messages and the multiple one liners with, fuck, horny, cum on you types....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would leave if that was the case. We have face pics available to send when we wish. But would not be happy with every Tom dick and Harry being able to see. We both have public jobs and we wouldn't be happy with random people coming up to us or talking about it "

This!

Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

So I'd be off site in a jiffy and just stick to meeting contacts I already have and visiting clubs. It wouldn't benefit the site at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah . My chest is what gets me my messages . My face is what gets them deleted

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

So why haven't you got one then?

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Nah . My chest is what gets me my messages . My face is what gets them deleted

Awww bless

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

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if you want to basicly half the amount of members, as we would all prob leave then yeah great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!"

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

What grounds would they have to dismiss you from employment because you engage in sex with multiple partners in your private life? Most people - especially younger, single people - these days do, even if they don't use a website to facilitate it.

I'd be interested if anyone has any actual evidence of an instance where this has happened, 'cause to me, it just seems like an over-justification to be especially private (which shouldn't need one, by the way; if that's your choice to be).

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have a face pic on my profile, and won't meet unless I see one back.

BUT!!

That's my choice. I know people think this site is going to the dogs, but its simple - if you won't meet people without face pics on their profile, then just browse for profiles that have them. It's not up to the admin to police who and how we meet. It's up to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

There are many jobs where being outed on a site like this would cause enormous problems, as a couple of teachers have found out recently.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

There are many jobs where being outed on a site like this would cause enormous problems, as a couple of teachers have found out recently."

And at least one policeman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

Conduct unbecoming is a term used.... plenty of examples in public life becouse they make the headlines...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it shouldn't, people should be allowed what they want on their profile. Most people have them set as private so if someone wants to see who they are talking to/add to message they can. For me, if they don't have face pictures at all, I wouldn't chat further.

I think if it became mandatory, you would drive people away from this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

Simple. There's a "reputational risk" clause in my contract. I've seen people sacked for idiotic posts on bookface - so feedback from a client that they do not agree with my choice of 'recreational activity' and no longer wish to do business with my company, or work with me - and I'm out the door!

Can't quite work out why some people doubt that businesses are able to have this _iewpoint? It's actually more common than you think these days. Certain industries require their employees to act in a certain manner both in AND out of work - and rightly or wrongly perceive this sort of activity as potentially being damaging to their image.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

ok anyone who is in the military for example can be done for bringing their service in to disrepute. Conduct un becoming and so on, normal companies can and would use the same sort of thinking.

Think of it this way how many parents would cause a fuss if they found out their child's teacher was on a sex website ? The school would let the teacher go.

Swinging is still morally wrong in the eyes of the general public

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think that every member should have to verify themselves to admin with a photo and username but only to be available to the public eye when you so choose to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

What I meant but put better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"Got face pics but keep them for friends only and private so then i can choose to send one when requested !"

Me too... I chose who I show

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

******* lots of sensible stuff ******

What I meant but put better

Even if an employer did not have a suitable clause in place and hence could not dismiss, individual managers who were morally outraged by your behaviour could make your working life hell until you felt relieved to be able to leave. I speak from personal experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

Oh hells no! We do have clear face pics for friends only or pm's but we choose not to display them publicly for reasons of discretion. We wouldn't participate in a site that had that as a rule.

I do see your point, but, that method's not for us.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

Its the worse of two evils really, yes it would be good to see the other person/persons but in reality it would never work.

What we think is piss taking is when people want facial pics yet don't have any on show themselves...these people need to either change their profiles or put pics up on their profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

alot of websites are shit...so i dont see the issue.

yes privacy is VERY important...sorry OP havent u read the papers? havent u heard of employers codes of conducts etc etc the list goes on mate...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally think that every member should have to verify themselves to admin with a photo and username but only to be available to the public eye when you so choose to do so. "

We've never been photo verified and have never felt the need to do so...we don't intend to change that now

If face pictures were compulsory we would leave. Our long built careers are just not worth jeopardising and people who don't believe it would be an issue are incredibly naïve...

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Nope.... I think most people have the sensible approach of pics available to send/friends only.

It's not a lifestyle everyone understands and as others have said could cause problems out of context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

And the award for this year's silliest idea goes to....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

I've been thinking about this face pic business as well, I think it's a bit "off" to dictate a face pic must accompany the first message, how the hell do you know who you're sending your photo to? I prefer to exchange a few messages first, to see if there's any initial "spark" if there isn't why bother sending a face photo? Everyone needs to go at their own pace, I prefer to stay away from people that say "you must do this" or "you must do that" get real, and get a life ffs. Chill, have fun n keep smiling

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Got face pics but keep them for friends only and private so then i can choose to send one when requested !"

this.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant P45 from work!

Without meaning to sound rude at all, as I said in the other thread about this subject, I've never bought into this kind of paranoia.

Hi I would be instantly dismissed from work .. we had a training day the other week and we told that if we participated in extra curricular activities that would bring my place of work into disrepute or cause safeguarding issues to the company it would be classed as gross misconduct and nit in keepibg with company ethos and instant dismissal would be inevitable .... even if it wasnt I would be made to feel so uncomfortable I would want to leave xx tabitha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

I'm allowed to say must send pic with first message as mine is already on show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

I'm allowed to say must send pic with first message as mine is already on show

Everyone is allowed to ask! If people choose to "comply" with these sometimes spurious demands is up to them. People could be missing out demanding face photos straight away......just a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nah . My chest is what gets me my messages . My face is what gets them deleted

Yeah same here

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Compulsory face pics would kill Fab stone dead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

I'm allowed to say must send pic with first message as mine is already on show

Exactly those profiles that demand a face pic with first message and don't have one on show I find slightly hypocritical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

I'm allowed to say must send pic with first message as mine is already on show

Everyone is allowed to ask! If people choose to "comply" with these sometimes spurious demands is up to them. People could be missing out demanding face photos straight away......just a thought

Lighten up , I agree with you. It just means that those that don't with me don't get anywhere and that works for me

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The site seems to work very well without mandatory face pictures, if it ain't broke don't fix it.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Absolutely not. Ridiculous idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll happily share my face pic with people however the reason I don't tend to have face pics on show is the fact I want discretion, I don't need someone from my sons school to see me and that to have an impact on his education. If I didn't have a child I wouldn't care.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I think you will find every company has got a clause in your contract re bringing the company into disrepute. My years ago I got the sack for crashing a company van a refusing to pay for the repairs. They said I had signed to say I agreed to the company rules. Isaid I had but there was nothing on the A4 sheet of rules about paying for a crashed van. They then got a book out about A4 and six inches thick... I bet nearly every company has a rule book like that hiden away. It said I agreed to basically any punishment the company saw fit...

In my job now if I didn't get the sack I would at least be moved sideways into a dead end role on less money...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"
you dont have any on your profile

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Simply bypass those demanding a face pic be attached to 1st message...

And cease conversation with those who claim not to have a face pic at all...

Then move on

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"When you say 'lots of other websites' - are any of these swinging sites, or are you trying to compare this site with mainstream dating sites?

My thoughts exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was made to have face pic in public pics I'd leave I have face pics in friends only that I show when I choose as a single woman I feel safer having them private

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By *ammyDodgaMan
over a year ago

Nottingham/and everywhere my location says i am ;)

And why were at it, enforce property detail, mobile number and employer details

It's personal choice, free will and comfortability dictate if you post a face pic. Read between the lines bud. Everyone likes to see who there talking . So send a pic with a msg.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

Like that would work!

If it were mandatory I'd leave: my private business is just that! Having my face on heartsandflowers.com is one thing, Fab another.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

Like that would work!

If it were mandatory I'd leave: my private business is just that! Having my face on heartsandflowers.com is one thing, Fab another.

Common sense as usual!

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me. "

But why do you think that ?

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By *ricky_DickyMan
over a year ago

Mirfield

Face pictures on a swingers site! whats the problem, no one can see them unless they're logged in and surely we're all swingers here for the same thing aren't we?

Actually we're not all swingers on Fab, there are journalists, suspicious other halves and a whole host of busy bodies who'd like to piss on your bonfire.

Once logged in any one can _iew a public picture and even search for it elsewhere on the web using google image search and TinEye, I've found facebook and linkedin profiles from doing a search on a face pic. quite often revealing a lot of personal information that you would want making public on a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally think that every member should have to verify themselves to admin with a photo and username but only to be available to the public eye when you so choose to do so. "

i like this idea it would get rid of loads who join just for a windup , i dont mind the sight knowing me if it helps better the sight xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

because swinging isn't like any normal activity!

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"............

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

because swinging isn't like any normal activity!"

Online dating wasn't/ isn't like any normal activity either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"............

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

because swinging isn't like any normal activity!

Online dating wasn't/ isn't like any normal activity either."

maybe not but swinging is meeting purely for sex,you ok with all your friends /family knowing what you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

Like that would work!

If it were mandatory I'd leave: my private business is just that! Having my face on heartsandflowers.com is one thing, Fab another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And why were at it, enforce property detail, mobile number and employer details

It's personal choice, free will and comfortability dictate if you post a face pic. Read between the lines bud. Everyone likes to see who there talking . So send a pic with a msg. "

you forgot bank details and all your personal passwords to everywhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can always add national insurance numbers as well. Make sure your not shagging anyone that's illegally here.

Plus a contact telephone number thats available 24/7 for those that are horny around 4am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can always add national insurance numbers as well. Make sure your not shagging anyone that's illegally here.

Plus a contact telephone number thats available 24/7 for those that are horny around 4am.

now you're just being silly,almoat as silly as th OP

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over a year ago

"You can always add national insurance numbers as well. Make sure your not shagging anyone that's illegally here.

Plus a contact telephone number thats available 24/7 for those that are horny around 4am.

now you're just being silly,almoat as silly as th OP

Sorry i honestly thought it was actually meant as a joke.

After all its only supposed to be for fun.

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

I just think it would make life easier for everyone. Seeing who you're messaging before you do it. I know people have jobs to protect and things but its just my personal preference. If I ran the site I still wouldn't enforce it but I just think it would be better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

That's fair enough but just imagine what it would be like for the females on here or parents being recognised then possibly harassed by others. By not having our faces on display we reduce that risk and only show those who we would wish to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

No.

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

I know what you're saying and like I said I wouldn't enforce it for those reasons but I just think it would be good if we all could see each other from the get go.x

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"
Utter rubbish! I belong to three other adult sites and not one stipulate a face picture!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

I know what you're saying and like I said I wouldn't enforce it for those reasons but I just think it would be good if we all could see each other from the get go.x"

This is a very circular argument but for instance why would those we never want to meet need to see our face

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over a year ago

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

Problem with notion is that how would anyone know the mug shot you use is actually you?

The site is awash with fake/joke profiles so short of attending in person to a Fab approved photographer what proof is there?

You say it's you, your veri's might also say its you but how do the unverififed or new profiles get round it.............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get really bugged when people try to dictate how everyone else uses this site

We all have our own different reasons for being on here and use the tools provided in the way which works in our own situations

I have private face pics - it's not blind date - but I choose who gets to see them - I don't see how anyone can even attempt to dictate what everyone else does on a site such as this !!

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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over a year ago

Because unlike a lot of websites fab is a site to meet for sex.

I wouldnt want my sons coming across it and thinking omg my mums a swinger

Or any of their friends and also could have it thrown at me in work.

I come into contact with 100s of people every week and no way would i want my face public.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Ok, i'm not dictating to anyone how to use this site, neither am i seeking to put anyone's jobs or safety at risk, and it's childish to say so, i've only posed a question based on one thing most of you have missed.

Like i originally said, MOST women regard it as MANDATORY that they receive a face pic first before any conversation takes place. But if thats an ok condition for women to insist on, what about the privacy issue for the men? who in reality have no idea who they're sending their pics to.

I can understand the arguement that most women put forward of what's the point in chatting to someone you don't fancy, but i still cannot see what's wrong with saying hello first to someone who's taken the time to send you a message and then ask them, have you got a pic? If someone sends a one liner, then fair enough, but if someone has composed a decent sized message surely you can afford them the courtesy of a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people have only answered your question and where did anyone say you were going to put their job at risk?

Its childish to come out with a comment like that really.....most have just stated the reasons why they think its a bad idea which i assumed was the point of your post?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok, i'm not dictating to anyone how to use this site, neither am i seeking to put anyone's jobs or safety at risk, and it's childish to say so, i've only posed a question based on one thing most of you have missed.

You are dictating how others use the site though.

If I read a profile that's expecting me to jump through hoops I have two choices: jump, or jump to the next profile: it really is as simple as that! No one is holding a gun to your head stating you HAVE to comply to the demands!

If you choose to contact the divas and they ignore you, whose fault is that? It's not as if they masked the type of person they are, but you took a chance anyway.

Chance: sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...you knew the score, so?!!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I just did a search of women looking for couples in our area and out of the first ten profiles only one insisted on a face picture with the first message.

How does that equate to 'most'?

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By *ophiasChoiceWoman
over a year ago

ystrad mynach

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Most people have only answered your question and where did anyone say you were going to put their job at risk?

Its childish to come out with a comment like that really.....most have just stated the reasons why they think its a bad idea which i assumed was the point of your post?"

Not knocking you but have another read from the start and you will see a whole list of people saying they would lose their jobs if anyone found out they were on a swingers site.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I just did a search of women looking for couples in our area and out of the first ten profiles only one insisted on a face picture with the first message.

How does that equate to 'most'?"

I'm not a couple and i don't live in Waltham Abbey, so that search was pointless, jeez

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"I just did a search of women looking for couples in our area and out of the first ten profiles only one insisted on a face picture with the first message.

How does that equate to 'most'?

I'm not a couple and i don't live in Waltham Abbey, so that search was pointless, jeez

Well it does show that 'MOST' single women don't ask for a face pic

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You are dictating how others use the site though.

If you choose to contact the divas and they ignore you, whose fault is that? It's not as if they masked the type of person they are, but you took a chance anyway.

Chance: sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...you knew the score, so?!! "

Where have i dictated to anyone? I haven't said anyone has to do anything ffs. People do what they like we all know that, all i've done is posed a few questions and put forward my own suggestions.

I'm surprised you put that accusation forward to me, as i've read many of your posts in other topics and i would've thought you were better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bet you're glad you started this thread eh?!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"You are dictating how others use the site though.

If you choose to contact the divas and they ignore you, whose fault is that? It's not as if they masked the type of person they are, but you took a chance anyway.

Chance: sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...you knew the score, so?!!

Where have i dictated to anyone? I haven't said anyone has to do anything ffs. People do what they like we all know that, all i've done is posed a few questions and put forward my own suggestions.

I'm surprised you put that accusation forward to me, as i've read many of your posts in other topics and i would've thought you were better than that."

You're opening posts suggests otherwise: that face pics should be mandatory. Is that not you dictating?

As for me being "better than that" I could say the same to you. You have a good grasp of English, punctuating your post with "ffs" shows intolerance and petulance: you're better than that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the great thing about choice isn't it.

No I don't think it should be mandatory at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a face pic on my profile, and won't meet unless I see one back.

BUT!!

The key words are "MEET people" You should not require a face pic as a prelude to messaging each other.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You are dictating how others use the site though.

If you choose to contact the divas and they ignore you, whose fault is that? It's not as if they masked the type of person they are, but you took a chance anyway.

Chance: sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...you knew the score, so?!!

Where have i dictated to anyone? I haven't said anyone has to do anything ffs. People do what they like we all know that, all i've done is posed a few questions and put forward my own suggestions.

I'm surprised you put that accusation forward to me, as i've read many of your posts in other topics and i would've thought you were better than that.

You're opening posts suggests otherwise: that face pics should be mandatory. Is that not you dictating?

As for me being "better than that" I could say the same to you. You have a good grasp of English, punctuating your post with "ffs" shows intolerance and petulance: you're better than that! "

I never said face pics should be mandatory, i ASKED should face pics be mandatory, get it right ffs

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture."

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

Mate, all you need to do is read what the single women have said on this thread and you'll see that MOST of them have stated they do require a pic first before they start a conversation. Ok? Thank you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

No, if you read what I wrote I'm telling you I read the first ten.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"You are dictating how others use the site though.

If you choose to contact the divas and they ignore you, whose fault is that? It's not as if they masked the type of person they are, but you took a chance anyway.

Chance: sometimes you win, sometimes you lose...you knew the score, so?!!

Where have i dictated to anyone? I haven't said anyone has to do anything ffs. People do what they like we all know that, all i've done is posed a few questions and put forward my own suggestions.

I'm surprised you put that accusation forward to me, as i've read many of your posts in other topics and i would've thought you were better than that.

You're opening posts suggests otherwise: that face pics should be mandatory. Is that not you dictating?

As for me being "better than that" I could say the same to you. You have a good grasp of English, punctuating your post with "ffs" shows intolerance and petulance: you're better than that!

I never said face pics should be mandatory, i ASKED should face pics be mandatory, get it right ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And why were at it, enforce property detail, mobile number and employer details

It's personal choice, free will and comfortability dictate if you post a face pic. Read between the lines bud. Everyone likes to see who there talking . So send a pic with a msg. "

Job, privacy, our childrens safety - you won't find a face pic anywhere on our profile and if someone insists that they want one before a meet can happen then they can 'jog on'!! Never have face pic associated with a site like this, our jobs, income and financial security is way more important than this. Besides, if you were in the wales room not so long ago you would be aware that pics had been copied and posted on facebook by some idiot! Ludicrous idea, can't imagine why you think it is reasonable?

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

I ask for a face pic with the first message and will send one if I send the first message. Wether the sender chooses to send one is up to them but I do make it clear that I'm not gonna be messaging without one. I see no point in wasting either of our time messaging only to find out there is no attraction for either party.

That being said I definitely do not think that face pics on profiles should be mandatory. Privacy is very important on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooooh haven't I come to this one late...

I know a lot of people won't agree, but I wouldn't make it mandatory to have a face pic on your profile (not in your public or private galleries anyway), but I would make photo-verification mandatory.

Cut the fakes down to size, wouldn't it...

Okay, it IS possible to even fake a PV pic, but even those can be spotted... so long as someone in Admin has a keen eye....

ted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

That being said I definitely do not think that face pics on profiles should be mandatory. Privacy is very important on here! "

When asked for a face pic at the start of a conversation I ask if they will send one, whether or not we progress. Sort of quid pro quo. To date 1 couple out of 20 messaged did as requested.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Job, privacy, our childrens safety - you won't find a face pic anywhere on our profile and if someone insists that they want one before a meet can happen then they can 'jog on'!! Never have face pic associated with a site like this, our jobs, income and financial security is way more important than this. Besides, if you were in the wales room not so long ago you would be aware that pics had been copied and posted on facebook by some idiot! Ludicrous idea, can't imagine why you think it is reasonable?"

I can see your point and can see how ludicrous it is, but most women and some couples insist on this condition when it comes to single men. Which is the point i'm trying to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them. "

The site I was on prior to Fabs had no veri system, no photo verification - nothing, in fact, to tell you whether there was a real person behind the profile.

You know what? You actually had to use your nouse/intelligence - call it what you will - and do your 'homework' properly first.

I didn't have a single 'no show' in 18 months on there - it made me ask enough of the right questions before we ever got to meet and let me out the dodgy ones. The only drawback was the cost, but as I was getting meets regularly it made it worthwhile..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I can see your point and can see how ludicrous it is, but most women and some couples insist on this condition when it comes to single men. Which is the point i'm trying to make."

I think we've already seen that most women don't insist on this. If most womens profiles that you look at do maybe you need to look at your search criteria and see if there is something in that which is skewing the results you see.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

That being said I definitely do not think that face pics on profiles should be mandatory. Privacy is very important on here! "

Not knocking you at all as you have every right to do what you want to do, but can i just ask what's wrong with just saying hello first and then asking for a pic? This is a genuine honest question and please answer how you feel fit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them.

The site I was on prior to Fabs had no veri system, no photo verification - nothing, in fact, to tell you whether there was a real person behind the profile.

You know what? You actually had to use your nouse/intelligence - call it what you will - and do your 'homework' properly first.

If that's the cause then why try force others to do something that they don't want to ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them.

The site I was on prior to Fabs had no veri system, no photo verification - nothing, in fact, to tell you whether there was a real person behind the profile.

You know what? You actually had to use your nouse/intelligence - call it what you will - and do your 'homework' properly first.

If that's the cause then why try force others to do something that they don't want to ? "

* case not cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

That being said I definitely do not think that face pics on profiles should be mandatory. Privacy is very important on here!

There's nothing wrong with it!

Don't think I've ever sent a face pic with a first message or jumped through any other hoops to engage with others on here. And if I've messages someone for the first time (rare these days!) and it's been deleted for whatever reason, then so be it!

It's not stopped me enjoying life on here one bit!

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think we've already seen that most women don't insist on this. If most womens profiles that you look at do maybe you need to look at your search criteria and see if there is something in that which is skewing the results you see."

Oh dear

Please may i refer you to _isshottiebottie's posting just 6 postings above. It may well help you if you could read the single women's postings in this thread before you decide to make your next personal attack on me. I thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them.

The site I was on prior to Fabs had no veri system, no photo verification - nothing, in fact, to tell you whether there was a real person behind the profile.

You know what? You actually had to use your nouse/intelligence - call it what you will - and do your 'homework' properly first.

If that's the cause then why try force others to do something that they don't want to ? "

Point taken - but this whole subject is all about suspicion and wariness. 'If' it were compulsory, a lot of that would be taken away. With a free site, you will always get trolls/fakes etc abusing it and degrading it for the rest of us who are genuine. You could do what other sites do and charge (often large sums too) certain categories to join, but that would cut the membership down massively at a stroke.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Point taken - but this whole subject is all about suspicion and wariness. 'If' it were compulsory, a lot of that would be taken away. With a free site, you will always get trolls/fakes etc abusing it and degrading it for the rest of us who are genuine. You could do what other sites do and charge (often large sums too) certain categories to join, but that would cut the membership down massively at a stroke. "

Sorry mate, but with all respect this subject is really about why some women think its ok for men to risk their privacy by sending their face pic to someone they know nothing about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them.

The site I was on prior to Fabs had no veri system, no photo verification - nothing, in fact, to tell you whether there was a real person behind the profile.

You know what? You actually had to use your nouse/intelligence - call it what you will - and do your 'homework' properly first.

If that's the cause then why try force others to do something that they don't want to ?

Or people could just move on to a profile that ticks all their preferences.

All I predict would happen is a new kind of moaning thread entitled 'they were photo verified but were fakes / time wasters' because there is no one defination of either on here.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Or people could just move on to a profile that ticks all their preferences.

All I predict would happen is a new kind of moaning thread entitled 'they were photo verified but were fakes / time wasters' because there is no one defination of either on here. "

I have to say the verified photo thing is a red herring and isn't really what this threads about. But i do have to take my hat off to you Moodymoo as you have put your face pic on your profile and think you are a leading light to the rest of us. Well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or people could just move on to a profile that ticks all their preferences.

All I predict would happen is a new kind of moaning thread entitled 'they were photo verified but were fakes / time wasters' because there is no one defination of either on here.

It's there to stop people messaging me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be off as soon as face pics had to be public. I'm not embarrassed about using this site or that I participate in the lifestyle but I do keep it discreet and been recognised on here with the profile and pics I have on _iew.

I am female and I won't meet anyone without seeing a clear face picture 1st but I don't e pest that to be sent on 1st message (it's nice when it it) or publicly displayed on a profile, I've got mine as private and respect that others have too.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Or people could just move on to a profile that ticks all their preferences.

All I predict would happen is a new kind of moaning thread entitled 'they were photo verified but were fakes / time wasters' because there is no one defination of either on here.

It's there to stop people messaging me

Deb, i like your pics and you look great in all of them and if i was near Shoeburyness it wouldn't stop me sending you a message to say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have face pics available and send them as long as I receive one. I can't display one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or people could just move on to a profile that ticks all their preferences.

All I predict would happen is a new kind of moaning thread entitled 'they were photo verified but were fakes / time wasters' because there is no one defination of either on here.

It's there to stop people messaging me

Deb, i like your pics and you look great in all of them and if i was near Shoeburyness it wouldn't stop me sending you a message to say so

thank you

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I would be off as soon as face pics had to be public. I'm not embarrassed about using this site or that I participate in the lifestyle but I do keep it discreet and been recognised on here with the profile and pics I have on _iew.

Now that's more like it... i think (e pest)

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It's there to stop people messaging me

Time to send that message

"Dear MoanyMoo....."

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have face pics available and send them as long as I receive one. I can't display one."

Thats no problem, at least if you allow someone to say 'hello' then ask for a pic, i can't see what's wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's there to stop people messaging me

Time to send that message

"Dear MoanyMoo....."

, you wait till social. I'm going to show you how good I am at moaning

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It's there to stop people messaging me

Time to send that message

"Dear MoanyMoo....."

, you wait till social. I'm going to show you how good I am at moaning

I like a good, sensual moan.......wait, we are talking about the same thing right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's there to stop people messaging me

Time to send that message

"Dear MoanyMoo....."

, you wait till social. I'm going to show you how good I am at moaning

I like a good, sensual moan.......wait, we are talking about the same thing right?

Errrrrr .. Nope

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Get a room you two

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a huge list of dos and donts on my profile but do I expect them to be complied with? Hell no, since the majority of guys who message me don't read the profile

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a room you two

lol"

Sorry

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

in messages or private maybe.. But on public show never.. if it was we would leave.. we decide who sees our face pic not anyone else.. can you imagine where our face pics would end up when we turn guys down which we do alot..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have a huge list of dos and donts on my profile but do I expect them to be complied with? Hell no, since the majority of guys who message me don't read the profile

You can't account for ignorant people i'm afraid, we all get them. I've got a straight male profile which says i'm looking for women only, but yet i still get messages from single bi men trying their luck lol. But to ask people to do something you're not prepared to do yourself, there's got to be something wrong in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For accuracy let's be perfectly clear the profile in question has some face pictures attached to it.

As to whose pictures they actually are neither you, I or anyone else on the site knows. They could simply be from anywhere on the Internet and the member in question could be Brian from Clacton!

The only sure fire way of knowing if someone on here is actually who the claim to be is when they publish their verification list and from that published list you recognise someone you have met or someone you know exists.

We have some really simple criteria when considering meeting people, one of which is hidden verifications = fake profile.

We have been playing for 13 years and not been let down once in that time so for us our methodology works fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant p45

I am responsible for the tenancies of 750 social housing tenants. If they knew that at the weekends I like to be spanked and ordered around, what kind of authority and respect would I then have?

Users of this site may be open minded and non judgemental, but naked piccies of me would bring the organisation I work for into disrepute and that's the grounds for dismissal... that I would be damaging the public image of the organisation.

Not paranoia. .. reality

I wish it were not the case.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm off to bed now, but all i can say is if this thread has made at least 1 single woman think, maybe i'll say hello first before i ask for a face pic, this thread will have been a success.

So there you go Cameron and Obama, that's what an operation with an achievable goal looks like

Goodnight all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For accuracy let's be perfectly clear the profile in question has some face pictures attached to it.

As to whose pictures they actually are neither you, I or anyone else on the site knows. They could simply be from anywhere on the Internet and the member in question could be Brian from Clacton!

We have some really simple criteria when considering meeting people, one of which is hidden verifications = fake profile.

We have been playing for 13 years and not been let down once in that time so for us our methodology works fine

I'm sure that those I have met will be very pleased to know I'm a fake called Brian. Glad your way works for you just as I'm very happy my way works for me.

Signed Brian from clacton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wanted to say bollocks , because I can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a huge list of dos and donts on my profile but do I expect them to be complied with? Hell no, since the majority of guys who message me don't read the profile

My get out of that is the fact I do not message anyone first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant p45

I am responsible for the tenancies of 750 social housing tenants. If they knew that at the weekends I like to be spanked and ordered around, what kind of authority and respect would I then have?

Not paranoia. .. reality

I wish it were not the case.

"Spanked and ordered"

You too, huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spanked and ordered"

You too, huh?

Very much lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Spanked and ordered"

You too, huh?

Very much lol"

And people wonder why I don't simply sit on PoF

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have a huge list of dos and donts on my profile but do I expect them to be complied with? Hell no, since the majority of guys who message me don't read the profile

My get out of that is the fact I do not message anyone first

I was off to bed lol but i have to answer this because its fundamental to my point. You have that luxury as a single woman no-vanillacupcake not to message anyone first, but as a single guy amongst 1oo's of others, we can't be so arbitrary, and when faced with the few single women that are on here who mostly insist on us risking our privacy by sending a face pic before you'll even chat to us, we normally have little choice but to send the pic and hope you are genuine.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I'm definitely off to bed now lol, will answer any questions later. Have fun guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to say bollocks , because I can

Language Brian, language

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a huge list of dos and donts on my profile but do I expect them to be complied with? Hell no, since the majority of guys who message me don't read the profile

My get out of that is the fact I do not message anyone first

Yes we can!

Number if first messages I've sent this year? Probably just in double figures!

Number of meets and socials? Considerably more - but then getting out in the real world (clubs, socials, parties etc.) does help no end!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.....

Why???

Personal preferences, that's why!

What's wrong with keeping face pics in private and sending them out if you want to!!

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

I could not of put it better myself

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By *udmjMan
over a year ago

Stoke-on-trent

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I personally think that every member should have to verify themselves to admin with a photo and username but only to be available to the public eye when you so choose to do so.

i like this idea it would get rid of loads who join just for a windup , i dont mind the sight knowing me if it helps better the sight xx"

it wouldn't stop people joining for a wind up. Getting a face picture verified.can only verify that its a face, there is no guarantee the face belongs to the person behind the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

I'd rather not put a face to many of the bodies I've seen on here

It's not a suggestion that can work. This site makes it's money because of how easily people can sign up, also meaning anyone can easily do so and look through profiles. Your proposal would alienate a large amount of the market.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As was quite well worked out on this thread http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/swingers/201130

99.5% of married couples are NOT swingers, that puts us into a very small minority against society norms. That is why we like to be discrete and keep face pics in the friends only area.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" This site makes it's money because of how easily people can sign up, also meaning anyone can easily do so and look through profiles. Your proposal would alienate a large amount of the market."

It's a free site. I suspect the majority of members do not pay to support the site, especially the ones hoping for an instant shag.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm quite surprised that anyone thinks that a verified face picture is proof of anything. This is the internet where burly truckers can call themselves Sophie and their wives won't know, 35 year old men can pose as 16 year olds, women of 60 can be 30 again ....we can be anyone we want. Trust no one until you meet them then only trust them a little.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"............

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

because swinging isn't like any normal activity!

Online dating wasn't/ isn't like any normal activity either.

maybe not but swinging is meeting purely for sex,you ok with all your friends /family knowing what you do?"

Yes. I try to keep it from my maiden aunt who's an elder of the Kirk (and in her 80s) but, apart from that.........

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I agree and I will exercise my right to use any face pics I find on the web

I have always thought I have the look of Obama in the right light

black cock anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how about this for an idea:-all those who think it should be compulsory to have one in public gallery,upload one and all those who don't think it should be just do as you want to also,that way both camps will be happy,wonder why the OP doesn't have one on public display? Perhaps he doesn't want every tom dick and harry knowing he is on here?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Oh dear

Personal attack?

I was merely trying to point at that the posters on the forum aren't 'most' of the site and, in fact, if you look at a majority of the female site users profiles they don't ask for face photos first. Now if you are going to take what a minority of the site users say and use this as evidence that you are right then I'm obviously wasting my time.

I'm out.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

I thought the only 2 mandatory pictures were for single blokes to

1) have an erect cock next to a suitable measuring device

2) an erect cock picture next to a suitable measuring device from a subtlely different angle,

I need a more flattering angle,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"............

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

because swinging isn't like any normal activity!

Online dating wasn't/ isn't like any normal activity either."

dating sites are accepted as part of modern life, same as having your shopping delivered, one day in the future, marriage and traditional relationships will no longer be around, and swinging, or sex without limits will be the norm, until then, swinging is a perversion that will cause the fall of society

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"FFS I just searched women looking for a man anywhere and got the same result. One out of the first ten insisting on a picture.

Are you really telling me you've just read all the profiles of all the single women on Fabs?

That being said I definitely do not think that face pics on profiles should be mandatory. Privacy is very important on here!

Because more than once I've been in the situation where I've done that. Then received a pic and realised they aren'ty type. Then you have to say so, the way I do it its avoidable.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I don't agree with forcing anyone to get photo verified. I think people should use their heads when choosing meets and stop asking admin to do their work for them. "

This!

All by myself, I know, unique on here, I've managed to meet men without Admin holding my hand.

In six years I've not encountered a time waster, suffered abuse etc. I've been contacted by men who claim not to have photos on here because of their job but happy to Skype, send in email. As that's not how I roll I decline, wish them well and move on.

I repeat: choices. We use the site the way it suits us. If I don't want to play how others do I leave them to it, not seek to change it to suit me because I'm too stupid/lazy/inept etc.

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By *exxifun5Couple
over a year ago

NORWICH

"Plus I'd be guaranteed an instant p45

I am responsible for the tenancies of 750 social housing tenants. If they knew that at the weekends I like to be spanked and ordered around, what kind of authority and respect would I then have?

Not paranoia. .. reality

I wish it were not the case.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"I agree and I will exercise my right to use any face pics I find on the web

I have always thought I have the look of Obama in the right light

black cock anyone"

Don't grip it so tightly View and it'll go back to its normal colour (or should I say color if you're being American)

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've put all my face pics bar my avatar into private this week...I'm not ashamed, won't lose my job, don't deny being promiscuous or any of the other reasons that have been mentioned for not showing face pics

I do request a face pic in the first message and state I'll send one back if interested, on the occasions I send initial message, I also attach face pics. If a person/couple doesn't wish to send face pics with their first message then fair enough, kindly move onto the next profile or find yourself deleted and blocked...just how I roll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not publish names and addresses as well? With face recognition software you could be picked out in the street.

As a consequence demanding a face pic as a prelude to any response at all is, in our _iew, unreasonable. If it was made mandatory we would leave the site.

We have face pics which we send to people we have chatted to and whom seem genuine and worthy of meeting. That works for us.

I have to agree on this. Some of us work in public places & like the above I have face pic I can send on request but if it became mandatory for avatar.. I'd leave. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?"

WOW are you really that naïve? There are several very good reasons for someone not wanting to show face pics. Keeping their job being one of them!

There are lots of people on here were their job would become a pain if one and all knew they were on here.

Infact i'm not going to go in to anymore reasons as to why it WOULDNT be a good idea to make it compulsory. I'm sure if it was the number of members using this site would go down.

Very naive

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be curious to know what job the Op does?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people would not. Like the kid next door outing them .jon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most people have only answered your question and where did anyone say you were going to put their job at risk?

Its childish to come out with a comment like that really.....most have just stated the reasons why they think its a bad idea which i assumed was the point of your post?

Not knocking you but have another read from the start and you will see a whole list of people saying they would lose their jobs if anyone found out they were on a swingers site."

Yes but im sure they didnt single you out as putting their jobs at risk just that the fact mandatory pictures would,which is their opinion on your question not a personal slight at you which by calling them childish isnt a great response.

Some public sector jobs have rules about pictures on social networking sites.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"No"

Short but sweet ruggers

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

"I was just reading through a thread about Face pics and virtually every woman said it was mandatory for them to receive them first before any conversation took take place.

So i got to thinking, wouldn't it be best that it was mandatory for every profile to have at least 1 face pic on show so everyone would then see who they might be talking to.

I know i'll get the privacy thing thrown at me, but a lot of websites have this stipulation so why not Fabs?

mine is a face pic. My ugly mug. Probably why I keep getting 'NO's' lol. I think everyones avatar should be a face pic. But thats just me.

But why do you think that ?

I know what you're saying and like I said I wouldn't enforce it for those reasons but I just think it would be good if we all could see each other from the get go.x

This is a very circular argument but for instance why would those we never want to meet need to see our face "

not getting into it. You obviously dont agree with me and thats fine but I'm not going to keep trying to explain myself to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love for my

Parents

Kids

Family

Friends

Bosses

Work colleagues

Locals in the pub

Strangers who see me in the street

To see my face pic and know my intimate business....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quite easy to start a website nowadays,I suggest the ones who think it should be compulsory go and start a new swinging site and include that you have to have one as part of the T & T's of their site instead of trying to infringe on others rights to privacy on here!

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