FabSwingers.com forum: What % of married couples swing?

By *aybecouple OP Couple
over a year ago

handlope

Or in other words, are we unusual, odd or in a real minority and do non swingers see us as "dirty"?

Be interesting to see some figures...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

% on here or say out of 6 regular married couples how many of those swing?

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes. A real minority and very much looked down on.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

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Be interesting to see some figures..."

I doubt figures would be true. A lot of swingers/ wife-swappers won't admit it and plenty of folk who've not had a shag in years will claim membership of the lifestyle.

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By *eonlylive1seCouple
over a year ago

Atherstone

Seems to be more common than we think, been in a few ( seperate) conversations recently with 'vanilla' friends who have mentioned they know someone who are swingers ( the have no idea that we are lol)

One friend said 'its disgusting' another was intregued as to what they actually 'get up to' we just said 'each to there own ' and smiled sweetly while they gave their opinions

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

I think it's a fair few on here .they should think more about the cheating couples .we know quite a few who have cheated ending up in divorce and splitting family's .at least. This way we are having fun together have a great sex life been together28. Years 24 married if we have a solo meet when we get home we jump on each other .swinging is great fun .when we do give itup at least we can say we give it a go .all you cheaters on here why not sit down with your partners and plant the seed. They may like to give it a go .I had courage to ask wife after 20 yrs she had courage to try so we play about four times a year and enjoy .

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By *aybecouple OP Couple
over a year ago

handlope

"% on here or say out of 6 regular married couples how many of those swing? "

Really thinking about the wider population.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems to be more common than we think, been in a few ( seperate) conversations recently with 'vanilla' friends who have mentioned they know someone who are swingers ( the have no idea that we are lol)

One friend said 'its disgusting' another was intregued as to what they actually 'get up to' we just said 'each to there own ' and smiled sweetly while they gave their opinions

Some of our friends recently found out about us indulging in occasional activities, they didn't seem to think it was disgusting and they were a lot less judgemental than we expected. Doubt everyone is that openminded tho!

I think in a lot of married couples one or other partner would like to do it but are not sure how approach the subject or would be doing it for potentially questionable reasons

It certainly isn't something that would suit everyone!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I should imagine the % in the general population is quite low for actively taking part and quite high for being interested to some degree.

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By *aveandSue1Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Did see in a newspaper (so it must be true !!) some time ago that in over 60% of marriages, one or both partners cheat.

If that's the case then two things spring to mind, a) we're being honest and b) there's an awful lot of dissatisfied people out there who aren't content with their marriages and would probably love to swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we will never know what goes on behind closed doors, a swinging lifestyle threatens society, and in public would be looked down on, privately I imagine many couples would like to try it, and it would probably help their marriage last. just a thought.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I'm gonna wait till the double money round before giving my answer.

Besides, Vernon is still doing the survey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

from puberty we are groomed and expected to find a partner, produce children and conform, most take the easiest path and do conform. after about 2 years many wonder what they have done, and if they can get to 7 years they have done very well, its around 7 years many will have affairs, and lots break free.

Many marry to be "normal", most don't chose their soulmate, just someone who is available. After 35 yrs of talking to 20 people a day with relationship problems, its a very common story.

My father died recently, I said to my mother you must of really loved each other, being married for 50 years, she said when I was 19 I became pregnant, and I had to marry your dad, he was a good man, but we never loved each other we cared, if I would of had a mobile phone or the internet, I would of been gone long ago !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chatted about this a few times when we've been to clubs. Overall I'd say it's pretty low (cheating doesn't count and neither does one partner going off for sex).

But even within the swinging world I think bona fide couples are not the majority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet the percentage is less than 1% and that's with the Internet god knows how things went on before that?it goes back to the old car keys in a bowl lol

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

The thing we have found is that hardly any swingers we have known have had an affair in this lifestyle though selling that to a marriage guidance therapist maybe fun lol

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

Car keys in a bowl ? In this day and age some sod would nick the car ! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets face it this is a minority sport! complete guess is that the number of married couples actively involved with swinging is considerably less than 1%, and the numbers are not that much higher for singles.

Compare the swingers club attendance to other non swingers entertainment establishments in the same city / area.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Or in other words, are we unusual, odd or in a real minority and do non swingers see us as "dirty"?

Be interesting to see some figures..."

How would you get those figures?? And I don't think you'll fund many non swingers on here to tell you if you are dirty or not.

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By *i de BiCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Could be new questions added to the next cenus .

Have you or your partner cheated ?

Do you swing ?

Thats the only way to get accurate figures lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be new questions added to the next cenus .

Have you or your partner cheated ?

Do you swing ?

Thats the only way to get accurate figures lol

And how many would complete those questions honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd tell the truth in a census if privacy was guaranteed. Me and hubby swing together. My main worry would be the kids finding out one day if information fell in the wrong hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The comedy film 'Meet The Millers' with Jennifer Aniston has a hilarious swinging scene in it.

We inwardly smiled knowingly whilst watching it but wonder who many 'straight' couples were intrigued by it. Particularly if they think girls like Jennifer Aniston do it. Phwooar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to guess I would say quite low, but who is gonna admit it that they are swingers to all there mates or the world, so if there is a rough estimate on fab that there was 50,000 couples and lets double or tripple it then couples swinging in this country it would still be low percentage, but if we was to do the survey on fab I would say 100% of couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd tell the truth in a census if privacy was guaranteed. Me and hubby swing together. My main worry would be the kids finding out one day if information fell in the wrong hands

The form comes to the house not the person, so Hubby completing the form looks up at wife and say "honey question 97 asks have you ever cheated during our marriage, do I tick yes or no?"

Also your children probably won't read it but your grandchildren could, they get released eventually, even old hand written ones are being digitised for gerontologist use, current ones are straight onto the computer.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

I think using "married" couples as a benchmark makes it almost impossible to get a true figure, as many committed relationships just don't bother with the paperwork these days.

Another difficulty would be ascertaining how many people are actually in a relationship as opposed to a couple of FB's swinging together.

Anyway after all that I decided to get the calculator out and have a very non scientific go at it, based on the best figures I could find.

Firstly I took the population of the FY postcode area 277,000 in 2010 of which approx 20% 55,000 are under 18 and roughly the same amount over 65 (another 55,000)OK I know that there are a few swingers over 65 but not enough to make much difference.

So that left me with 167,000 potential swingers. The difficult bit was getting a number for genuine singles and the best I could come up with was the number of people who described themselves as divorced in the last census (15% 25,000 for the area) so now I'm getting close at 142,000. or 71,000 couples.

Next job was to find out how many swinging couples were in the same area. I worked out an average number using this and a couple of other sites which gave me 400 couples or .57% of 71,000.

I know that there are lots of variables and an exact number is impossible but not a bad indication.

BTW I did the same exercise for our area in Germany and got .61% so pretty close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I would guess at 0.5%. Would be interesting to know for sure and also to look at regional variations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to say swinging couples would be looked down on, sweepingly, is a massive generalisation.

there are, of course, people that will look down, but then, they would probably look down on anything that isnt the same as them.

in modern times things are becoming more and more acceptable, so i dont think there is the stigma attached to many things now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to say swinging couples would be looked down on, sweepingly, is a massive generalisation.

there are, of course, people that will look down, but then, they would probably look down on anything that isnt the same as them.

in modern times things are becoming more and more acceptable, so i dont think there is the stigma attached to many things now."

I think that is a fair point, far more acceptable these days to see girl on girl even in high profile circumstances.

Others may not accept it though mainly because they don't understand it. Or have the nerve to try it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Or in other words, are we unusual, odd or in a real minority and do non swingers see us as "dirty"?

Be interesting to see some figures..."
A lot don't swing they have affairs and then divorce . And some married couples play away but come together just for family and money .. I think people swing to add spice in there life if married and do the things they dream of as happy together .. You never know whats going on in peoples lifes even if happy and married ,

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"to say swinging couples would be looked down on, sweepingly, is a massive generalisation.

there are, of course, people that will look down, but then, they would probably look down on anything that isnt the same as them.

in modern times things are becoming more and more acceptable, so i dont think there is the stigma attached to many things now."

it may be a 'sweeping generalisation' that some in society who would 'look down' whilst others will be less judgemental..

any daily hell 'journo' trawling these sites or sights will have a certain viewpoint and usually an agenda and there are other gutter rags that equally start harrumphing about the moral decline/end of civilised society bla bla whenever a story is published about swingers..

other more liberal folk will go 'so what' its a none story etc..

also think in these 'modern times' it does seem with some aspects many things are less acceptable..

there is still a massive rise in std's, teenage pregnancy etc and like it or not 'we' with this aspect of our lives will be an easy target for those who deem to judge and make the most ridiculous connections...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"to say swinging couples would be looked down on, sweepingly, is a massive generalisation.

there are, of course, people that will look down, but then, they would probably look down on anything that isnt the same as them.

in modern times things are becoming more and more acceptable, so i dont think there is the stigma attached to many things now.

it may be a 'sweeping generalisation' that some in society who would 'look down' whilst others will be less judgemental..

other more liberal folk will go 'so what' its a none story etc..

also think in these 'modern times' it does seem with some aspects many things are less acceptable..

would tend to think those that would probably look down on it are those that are hidden anyway.

those that havent got the sort of relationshiup in which they can discuss things as reasonable, responsable adults and rather, if they want to do something, would do it behind the others backs.

the 'old' concept of wife swapping was generically middle class parties with porsche or bmw keys thrown in a bowl.

so it cant be snobbery.

think the tabloid press have a lot to answer for, as does the jeremy kyle generation of persons (not specifically those on that show, but you can go back to the last 15 years of early morning 'embarrass yourself on tv' early morning shows.

one question to all.

why do you keep it a secret?

is it because you KNOW people will look down on you, or is it because you percieve people will?

for us, its the latter.

we know people we know wont care, others will call it disgusting.

some will be very very interested indeed lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

would tend to think those that would probably look down on it are those that are hidden anyway.

those that havent got the sort of relationshiup in which they can discuss things as reasonable, responsable adults and rather, if they want to do something, would do it behind the others backs.

the 'old' concept of wife swapping was generically middle class parties with porsche or bmw keys thrown in a bowl.

so it cant be snobbery.

one question to all.

why do you keep it a secret?

is it because you KNOW people will look down on you, or is it because you percieve people will?

for us, its the latter.

we know people we know wont care, others will call it disgusting.

some will be very very interested indeed lol"

largely agree..

as to 'why not'..

for us its what possible effect it would have on our loved ones..

pretty thick skin personally etc but you just know that some for whatever reasons would use that information against ones family..

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

would tend to think those that would probably look down on it are those that are hidden anyway.

those that havent got the sort of relationshiup in which they can discuss things as reasonable, responsable adults and rather, if they want to do something, would do it behind the others backs.

the 'old' concept of wife swapping was generically middle class parties with porsche or bmw keys thrown in a bowl.

so it cant be snobbery.

one question to all.

why do you keep it a secret?

is it because you KNOW people will look down on you, or is it because you percieve people will?

for us, its the latter.

we know people we know wont care, others will call it disgusting.

some will be very very interested indeed lol

largely agree..

as to 'why not'..

for us its what possible effect it would have on our loved ones..

pretty thick skin personally etc but you just know that some for whatever reasons would use that information against ones family..

We would agree with that.

Couldn't care less what neighbours or friends think, in fact sometimes you just want to tell them to see the reaction.

However we both have elderly parents and kids and it is for their sake that we keep our lifestyle private.

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