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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well whenever we meet someone for the first time..cant seem to relax completely and let myself go...even after a few beers..the other half never has any trouble! now im wondering is this a girlie thing? cud be better if we meet a second time????ms kitten x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably same with most x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well whenever we meet someone for the first time..cant seem to relax completely and let myself go...even after a few beers..the other half never has any trouble! now im wondering is this a girlie thing? cud be better if we meet a second time????ms kitten x"

Nearly all the women I have met on a 1st date/meet are nervous and I am not, nothing to be nervous about as you are only meeting to see if there is a connection

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Its not just you , Im incredibly shy out of the bedroom and exactly the same with being nervous although i seem to relax a little more if i meet the same person for a second time.

More so with men and not couples and ladies. Mr of course isnt phased . Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok cool, no Im fine on social meets..flirting etc very confident, but when it actually comes down too naughty fun..im well...a little erm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you really want this meet, are attracted to the person but a bit apprehensive, just be honest about it. Tell them. Take your time and don't feel pressured. Spend some more time chatting and only proceed to the upstairs when you're really in the mood. The idea is that all have fun, not that one is just going through the motions (pardon the pun). Be honest and yourself. Good luck and enjoy

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

maybe it's because ladies have to decide if they are going to allow their body to be entered by a new person .. ibet blokes are nervous too but just not letting on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yeah i think i just enjoy the flirting more..guess im just apprehensive..difficult when its just you feeling this way and the 3 others on the meet are horny as hell tho! Think it will be better if we do re meets..

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Mrs P is much the same the first time. Though following meets have been much easier.

We had one meet where the female partner said 'You know guys I am cacking myself' Mrs P laughed and admitted she had felt the same in the past . That made things so much easier. Ended up a fantastic meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers.. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much the same for everyone I'd have thought.

I've been told I'm overly Gentlemanly in asking before doing almost everything on a first meet.

Not soo sure that its a bad thing but nerves take over and really don't want to offend, seem pushy or more importantly overstep any boundaries.

Second is more relaxed and always seems more enjoyable and exciting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm usually very nervous when meeting someone for the first time so its not just women, I find a nice social first is always best then if all goes well arrange a second meet for a play... Problems for men is if they are nervous then can cause problems below lol ..(Dam come on wake up) pmsl x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met an amazing couple and was nervous as hell! Second time, I saw them the nerves weren't so bad. I should being seeing them again this weekend and I really don't think nerves will be an issue any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we decided we wanted a single bloke to join us, we met a guy and had drinks with him twice before we played (played on third meet) as I was apprehensive. I do think its harder for women to completely let go infront of complete strangers because i think we are naturally more self-conscious than men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we decided we wanted a single bloke to join us, we met a guy and had drinks with him twice before we played (played on third meet) as I was apprehensive. I do think its harder for women to completely let go infront of complete strangers because i think we are naturally more self-conscious than men x"

From a mans point of view this thread sums it up and is completely right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well whenever we meet someone for the first time..cant seem to relax completely and let myself go...even after a few beers..the other half never has any trouble! now im wondering is this a girlie thing? cud be better if we meet a second time????ms kitten x"

I will play on a first meet but a 2nd meet is so more relaxed and fun and we all know why we have met again ....to have fun xx so the ice has definitely broken.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh yes we always have a social meet first and take alot of time before we move on to naughty fun also..i dunno maybe a couple of regulars is a better option then.. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know i always get nervous before a meet but i think that they are probably just as nervous as i am for the same reasons.

I always try and make the other person relax by not rushing and taking things slow, making sure they are comfortable with the pace of proceedings.

And if anxiety rears its head and i get a mr. Floppy, will just switch up to foreplay or a good kiss will always get the blood pumping

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"well whenever we meet someone for the first time..cant seem to relax completely and let myself go...even after a few beers..the other half never has any trouble! now im wondering is this a girlie thing? cud be better if we meet a second time????ms kitten x"

get better meets.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Never had a problem....

Its not a "girlie" thing....its a YOU thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is very understandable, especially for ladies, which is why it is good to communicate well beforehand about likes and dislikes. Then when you meet try to be relaxed and open and have a laugh before bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am more nervous with some people than others. i always have one drink before i meet someone, last time i met 2 men i liked them both but one of them made me feel nervous. i was realy nervous, but i still had a very nice time.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"I think it is very understandable, especially for ladies, which is why it is good to communicate well beforehand about likes and dislikes. Then when you meet try to be relaxed and open and have a laugh before bed. "

to add. If they sound like a boring fuck - they probably will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i forgot to say, the more often i meet people the less nervous i get, being tired can make me nervous too.

i had been seeing the same man for the last few months so i was nervous about seeing someone different.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"i forgot to say, the more often i meet people the less nervous i get, being tired can make me nervous too.

i had been seeing the same man for the last few months so i was nervous about seeing someone different."

I've been meeting on and off for well over a decade and I still get nervous. Its part of the thrill! It's a natural thing but its not apprehension its more anticipation/endorphins/excitement. Either way I meet with a smile lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we always say to each other if we arent nervous about a meet we are either doing it too much or they arent what we want, whether its a playdate or a drink.

meeting new people should worry and excite you, as should playing with someone new.

if you arent worried then, in our opinion, its becoming the norm.

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By *aledCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

I (jo) always get butterflies on a first meet, mark never does, but find wine helps. Probably cos its me and the guy we meeting making the first kove.

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally opposite for me, Ali is the one who is always up for it, not phased at all, I'm a little more subdued when it comes to getting naked, saying that once the clothes come off any nerves soon go out the window, we find it is better the second meet.

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