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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... To get started in the swinging side of life! Ive tried to be nice/upfront/to the point but i dont even get a response?

What am i doing wrong or am i just not that fit or 'hung' to attract the attention?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me. "

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have only been on 5 weeks.

Women don't flock to guys.

Have some patience and time will tell

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

YOu have only been on here for 5 weeks and as single guys outnumber everyone else significantly you really do need to have patience.

Your profile seems fine to me, but maybe sort some pics out of you smiling. You look like you would have a nice smile.

You need to approach fab with patience, a sense of humour, respect and oh did I mention patience? It can take months for you to get your first meet and to be successful on here you do need to work a bit harder as a single guy. Sorry if I shattered your ideas about how things work on this site, but it's just the way it is.

Joining in the forums is definitely a good start and we can have a right giggle in here. Getting yourself to a social is always a great way to meet people in a social environment where there is no pressure for anything. Have a look in the meet requests and parties forums as that is where the socials are generally advertised. If there isn't one up there near you now, there is bound to be one soon.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All looks fine to me except can't accommodate. You could add a note on your profile saying why

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22 "

I actually think your profile is fine

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By *orththeriskMan
over a year ago

all over

Too much info I reckon mate. Like the others have said be patient. It's not easy but worth the wait trust me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22 "

IMO and you did ask. You have gone on a bit and I am only telling you what I was told. I reduced it and tried to concentrate on what many consider the most important things people want to read on a profile.

When I changed it and it worked for me. I am not saying people beat a path to my door and I can't say if it will work for you or not.

Some people get bored reading a profile very quickly esp couples and single ladies who get hundreds of PMs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

I actually think your profile is fine"

Which goes to prove you can't please all of the people all of the time.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22 "

I think your profile is fine

Paitence, patience and more patience...you have only been on here 5 weeks, single men outnumber women and couples.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

I actually think your profile is fine

Which goes to prove you can't please all of the people all of the time. "

Exactly, it is impossible to please everyone so there is no point trying.

I once had someone message me specifically just to tell me that my profile was rambling and made no sense and I sounded up myself. Why someone felt the need to message me just to tell me that is beyond me. Did I change it? Did I fuck. My profile is ME and if people don't like ME then move along! That's how I see it anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers folks i prefer honesty i know where i stand then.

Seems to be guys think its too long but girls think its fine, il do some jiggery pokery and iron out some creases

I think il have to get me some more pics up tho as mentioned but again cheers all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would suggest adding clarity to your relationship status

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My profile is ME and if people don't like ME then move along! That's how I see it anyway "

Nail - head

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would suggest adding clarity to your relationship status "

Is single not clear?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your line been in a long.....

Could be taken either way, if someone is just scanning they could see that and move.on thinking your attached

Just a suggestion

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your line been in a long.....

Could be taken either way, if someone is just scanning they could see that and move.on thinking your attached

Just a suggestion "

Agreed and i hadnt noticed but ive amended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

I actually think your profile is fine

Which goes to prove you can't please all of the people all of the time.

Exactly, it is impossible to please everyone so there is no point trying.

I once had someone message me specifically just to tell me that my profile was rambling and made no sense and I sounded up myself. Why someone felt the need to message me just to tell me that is beyond me. Did I change it? Did I fuck. My profile is ME and if people don't like ME then move along! That's how I see it anyway "

However you are not a single guy and I can assure you what a single women states and how much the write will have little impact on the number of PMs you will get.

How many PMs do you get where the guy has not read your profile through? That is often not the case with single guys unfortunately as we single guys know all too well.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

I actually think your profile is fine

Which goes to prove you can't please all of the people all of the time.

Exactly, it is impossible to please everyone so there is no point trying.

I once had someone message me specifically just to tell me that my profile was rambling and made no sense and I sounded up myself. Why someone felt the need to message me just to tell me that is beyond me. Did I change it? Did I fuck. My profile is ME and if people don't like ME then move along! That's how I see it anyway

However you are not a single guy and I can assure you what a single women states and how much the write will have little impact on the number of PMs you will get.

How many PMs do you get where the guy has not read your profile through? That is often not the case with single guys unfortunately as we single guys know all too well. "

Oh I know that, and I reckon 90% of single guys at least don't read my profile proerly, or at all.

I wasn't trying to compare me as a single girl to the OP as a single guy, I was just trying to point out that whatever a person has in their profile needs to reflect THEM and as long as it does that and is clear in likes/dislikes, turnons/offs, is clearly and well written then that's all you can do. Like it was said earlier, you can't please everyone.

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

My Profile is long but I still tend to attract plenty of intelligent straight guys.

Jenny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

My Profile is long but I still tend to attract plenty of intelligent straight guys.

Jenny."

Straight with a slight curve hey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're being too nice. Keep on the forums, have opinions, be nice but with a streak of dirt, be real enough for someone to like you until more people warm up to you. Just be you and save the niceities until they count!

...if that helps lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient the girls don't flock at you and time will tell. Took me 6 months to get my first meet. As a male you are part of a large percentage on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When my profile was so long I got told to reduce it as in too much irrelevant information and not enough relevant information. So I reduced it and it seemed to work for me.

Saying mine is too long? Some want details some dont.. Catch 22

I actually think your profile is fine

Which goes to prove you can't please all of the people all of the time.

Exactly, it is impossible to please everyone so there is no point trying.

I once had someone message me specifically just to tell me that my profile was rambling and made no sense and I sounded up myself. Why someone felt the need to message me just to tell me that is beyond me. Did I change it? Did I fuck. My profile is ME and if people don't like ME then move along! That's how I see it anyway "

Anyone who changes their profile to suit others or appeal to as many as possible is fooling themselves!

You can only ever be the best YOU that you can be - no point in trying to be someone else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filter single men then you can take out the pointless not gay comment and I dislike being told I have to reply to people...I don't and it makes me even less inclined to do so...other than that it's pretty standard...

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