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"Listing safe sex on your profile doesn't necessarily mean you'll never do bareback. If you have spanking or rimming or whatever else interests you it doesn't mean it's going to be compulsory for every meet, it just depends on the individual." +1 | |||
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"Listing safe sex on your profile doesn't necessarily mean you'll never do bareback. If you have spanking or rimming or whatever else interests you it doesn't mean it's going to be compulsory for every meet, it just depends on the individual." But stating you have safe sex and you don't effects the health of others where as spanking ect doesn't. | |||
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"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows " | |||
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"Just a thought but we doubt there is a single member on this site that will not have gone bareback with someone at some stage in the not so distant past. We also doubt that the vast majority of members on this site partake in regular health checks. The fact that a profile does not contain bareback photos means the square root of feck all. At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe? " Fully agree, it is naive in the extreme to assume the lack of bare back pics means anyone has never done it, assume everyone has, and you'll be right If you want to practice safe sex then take control yourself and use protection and try not to second guess anyone else on here | |||
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"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?" We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off. | |||
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"Just a thought but we doubt there is a single member on this site that will not have gone bareback with someone at some stage in the not so distant past. We also doubt that the vast majority of members on this site partake in regular health checks. The fact that a profile does not contain bareback photos means the square root of feck all. At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe? Fully agree, it is naive in the extreme to assume the lack of bare back pics means anyone has never done it, assume everyone has, and you'll be right If you want to practice safe sex then take control yourself and use protection and try not to second guess anyone else on here " What...you mean I have to take responsibility for my own health and not trust a guy who's name I may not even really know??? Op...bareback pics do make me think twice about a meet as it does then highlight that person could be an increased risk, but I would never assume that because a profile states 'safe sex' that the person/couple are going to be risk free. Simple fact is people lie...especially if it means they're gonna get laid | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby " I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex . | |||
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" At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe? " When they've been known for a while allegedly, are a fuck buddy on a swingers site but only sleep with them ?sniggers?if they say so...apparently! | |||
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"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?" This is the view I take. That said, the human mind is a funny thing. If I see bareback pictures showing potential meets ball deep in a variety of pussies it does put me off. | |||
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"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ? We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off." I know what you mean! | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex . " I stand corrected. Only a minute ago my wife said about couples where the females don't protect the toys Like double enders etc Would also like to point out that even if the profile said safe sex we would not risk bare back....at all. At least not until the second meet lol. | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby " Lots of profiles list anal, gangbangs etc. It doesn't mean that's all they do | |||
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"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ? We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off." why would it matter if when you met them you all played safe..? unless when they said hello one of their ears fell off or something.. | |||
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"and what about oral? In a vanilla forum I was chatting in oral protection got mentioned, can't remember what it was called but it basically is a thin sheet of condom like material between mouth and genitals. Id never heard/seen of it before" dental dam or complete turn off I think its called.. each to their own.. | |||
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"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ? We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off. why would it matter if when you met them you all played safe..? unless when they said hello one of their ears fell off or something.." It wouldn't surprise me if Fabs alone created a new std with those effects lol....Only joking now. | |||
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"I always play safe. There's bare back pics on my profile. Its my husband and he has some of the same pics on his profile also " Im much the same! Always have condoms to hand and the only time I bareback is with my partner. (Who plays but isnt on fab) its wild the amount of guys that email oh would love to see myself like that in you... and they have safesex only on their profile. My health is very important so I do go to get tested every 3months depending how active I am I may go sooner cause like its been said before condoms arent 100% effective. | |||
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"and what about oral? In a vanilla forum I was chatting in oral protection got mentioned, can't remember what it was called but it basically is a thin sheet of condom like material between mouth and genitals. Id never heard/seen of it before" True I heard if it but can't remember name.... | |||
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"All we can do is protect ourselves as much as we can. I never play bareback, if a guy has turned up without condoms I wont play even though I have my own. And any hint of bareback in pics turns me right off and I will not consider meeting. " +1 on this, I have refused about 4 guys in the past couple of weeks because of bareback pics. | |||
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"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? " Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners. | |||
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"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners." | |||
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"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners." But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him. | |||
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"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners. But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him. " so true that's why I say don't assume !!! and if you do then just not engage with them simple !!! but don't make assumptions as you don't know the facts Op | |||
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"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners. But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him. so true that's why I say don't assume !!! and if you do then just not engage with them simple !!! but don't make assumptions as you don't know the facts Op " If the profile states that thy are married then bb pictures are assumed to be man and wife. But like you say, we should never assume!! | |||
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"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows " Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent. | |||
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"condoms and regular check ups at the GUM clinic for me. I look after my own health. Some people assume that because they wear condoms, that regular check ups are not needed. To me, these people are just as risky as bare backers." If anything I think they're more risky...the naivety they show is scary. Amazes me how many grown adults think you only need to go to the clap clinic if you have symptoms and that if you do go for testing then you're 'dity' | |||
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"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent." Does she know they're posted on a swingers site? | |||
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"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent. Does she know they're posted on a swingers site? " Our thoughts too. | |||
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"I love bareback but would only do it with someone I known for a while x" | |||
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"Does she know they're posted on a swingers site? " Yes she does actually... | |||
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"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want." What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then | |||
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"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want. What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then " I had similar thoughts regarding that comment. My eldest sister is a full on schizophrenic but I don't think she's on any swinger sites But is was this line... "you get what you deserve." that made me wonder if the lad I used to know when I was at school 'deserved' to die from AIDS in his early 30's or my ex-wife's step-brother who died as a result of AIDS before he got to his 21st birthday. | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex . I stand corrected. Only a minute ago my wife said about couples where the females don't protect the toys Like double enders etc Would also like to point out that even if the profile said safe sex we would not risk bare back....at all. At least not until the second meet lol. " | |||
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"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want. What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then " I have mild schizophrenia and bipolar I can't see why the schizophrenia would make me have no idea whether I wanted safe sex or not | |||
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"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe." Yep I agree.... | |||
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"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe." Sorry if this thread has upset you but I was under the impression that this was the forums section where people post their thoughts and considering the amount of replies it seems there is some interest. If posts such as mine offend you then maybe you should steer clear of the forums. | |||
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"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe. Sorry if this thread has upset you but I was under the impression that this was the forums section where people post their thoughts and considering the amount of replies it seems there is some interest. If posts such as mine offend you then maybe you should steer clear of the forums." It doesn't upset me at all, if you read I said it AMAZES me! Also I am posting my thoughts like you and everyone else, so if you can't deal with criticism, it's you who needs to stay clear of the forum. | |||
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"What never ceases to amaze me with threads on this subject is people shouting the odds of what is right and what is wrong. The fact of being an active swinger is NOT practicing safe-sex. Having a promiscuous sex-life is everything that safe sex isn’t. Perhaps the options tick-box should be ‘condoms compulsory’ or ‘condoms optional’ or ‘condoms not required’. It might be worth having a debate as to how much protection using a condom offers in respect of reducing cross contamination. " This is very well put. | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby " Having read every post on here, I would like to comment that after having a glance at your own interests I wondered... when you are rimming or being rimmed do you use a form of protection, when you are giving oral or receiving oral is it with protection? | |||
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"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex. Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it. I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject. Hubby Having read every post on here, I would like to comment that after having a glance at your own interests I wondered... when you are rimming or being rimmed do you use a form of protection, when you are giving oral or receiving oral is it with protection? " If the research we have done is correct it shows that the risk of std through oral is still there but a far lesser one than penertrative sex. We agreed that for oral on a male it would be protection and for females we would be prepared to take that risk ( oral ) only. As for "rimming" this is only mildly and between us....for the time being . Of course even after taking all the precautions we would still get check ups. As I have already stated im not saying that unprotected sex with strangers is wrong as people choose their own path. | |||
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