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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I and we ( our cpls) profile states safe sex we / I avoid those with no protected penetration pics.

We also found at meets that guys say safe sex a must then try to get bare back with string of excuses. Be honest with wants and dislikes and respect others . Don't push the boundaries respect then as in my limited experience you get more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

And if you do question them, they are always pics of an ex

Hmm I wonder.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Fwb ??? Wot is that ??? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listing safe sex on your profile doesn't necessarily mean you'll never do bareback. If you have spanking or rimming or whatever else interests you it doesn't mean it's going to be compulsory for every meet, it just depends on the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A Fwb ??? Wot is that ??? X "

Friend with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Listing safe sex on your profile doesn't necessarily mean you'll never do bareback. If you have spanking or rimming or whatever else interests you it doesn't mean it's going to be compulsory for every meet, it just depends on the individual."

+1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Listing safe sex on your profile doesn't necessarily mean you'll never do bareback. If you have spanking or rimming or whatever else interests you it doesn't mean it's going to be compulsory for every meet, it just depends on the individual."

But stating you have safe sex and you don't effects the health of others where as spanking ect doesn't.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The thing that made me start the thread was the frustration of seeing bareback pictures on profiles we like. It's a clear no.

Some people may also be ok with the excuse that it's a "long term ex" but surely you wouldn't use pictures like that on here.....would you lol.

As I said earlier I have no problem with bare back if that's what people choose to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love bareback but would only do it with someone I known for a while x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought but we doubt there is a single member on this site that will not have gone bareback with someone at some stage in the not so distant past.

We also doubt that the vast majority of members on this site partake in regular health checks.

The fact that a profile does not contain bareback photos means the square root of feck all.

At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe?

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"Just a thought but we doubt there is a single member on this site that will not have gone bareback with someone at some stage in the not so distant past.

We also doubt that the vast majority of members on this site partake in regular health checks.

The fact that a profile does not contain bareback photos means the square root of feck all.

At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe?

"

Fully agree, it is naive in the extreme to assume the lack of bare back pics means anyone has never done it, assume everyone has, and you'll be right

If you want to practice safe sex then take control yourself and use protection and try not to second guess anyone else on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All we can do is protect ourselves as much as we can. I never play bareback, if a guy has turned up without condoms I wont play even though I have my own. And any hint of bareback in pics turns me right off and I will not consider meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The risk of going bareback is too great both in short and long term. I won't do it but others will by choice. My choice is to protect my own health and future partners I sleep with.

Plus I don't need any awkward conversions with my doctor!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always play safe.

There's bare back pics on my profile.

Its my husband and he has some of the same pics on his profile also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bareback with strangers is like Russian roulette. you get what you deserve. Like the original post they may be pics of partners and then play safe with newbies. Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want. From past experience I know that that's the case on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?"

We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

There is a website/s about going bareback. It encourages men to trick women into having sex bareback by removing the condom during sex without her knowledge. Not sure but think it started out in the gay community and then crossed over.

PS. I'm not blaming gay guys as it is outrageous to trick anyone into bareback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using one form of protection is not enough condoms break etc so if people are thinking a condom is enough to secure safe sex then its not x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought but we doubt there is a single member on this site that will not have gone bareback with someone at some stage in the not so distant past.

We also doubt that the vast majority of members on this site partake in regular health checks.

The fact that a profile does not contain bareback photos means the square root of feck all.

At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe?

Fully agree, it is naive in the extreme to assume the lack of bare back pics means anyone has never done it, assume everyone has, and you'll be right

If you want to practice safe sex then take control yourself and use protection and try not to second guess anyone else on here "

What...you mean I have to take responsibility for my own health and not trust a guy who's name I may not even really know???

Op...bareback pics do make me think twice about a meet as it does then highlight that person could be an increased risk, but I would never assume that because a profile states 'safe sex' that the person/couple are going to be risk free. Simple fact is people lie...especially if it means they're gonna get laid

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby "

I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex .

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

At what stage do 'we' assume that our playmates are safe?

"

When they've been known for a while allegedly, are a fuck buddy on a swingers site but only sleep with them ?sniggers?if they say so...apparently!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?"

This is the view I take. That said, the human mind is a funny thing. If I see bareback pictures showing potential meets ball deep in a variety of pussies it does put me off.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?

We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off."

I know what you mean!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby

I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex . "

I stand corrected. Only a minute ago my wife said about couples where the females don't protect the toys Like double enders etc

Would also like to point out that even if the profile said safe sex we would not risk bare back....at all. At least not until the second meet lol.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby "

Lots of profiles list anal, gangbangs etc. It doesn't mean that's all they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and what about oral? In a vanilla forum I was chatting in oral protection got mentioned, can't remember what it was called but it basically is a thin sheet of condom like material between mouth and genitals.

Id never heard/seen of it before

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?

We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off."

why would it matter if when you met them you all played safe..?

unless when they said hello one of their ears fell off or something..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"and what about oral? In a vanilla forum I was chatting in oral protection got mentioned, can't remember what it was called but it basically is a thin sheet of condom like material between mouth and genitals.

Id never heard/seen of it before"

dental dam or complete turn off I think its called..

each to their own..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We treat every meet as if they are bare back as we don't know their past at all. And if somebody does bb then how does that affect your health if your not ?

We know that most people have done bare back and like yourself we would also treat everyone as though they have. How does that effect our health....it wouldn't but seeing the evidence just puts us off.

why would it matter if when you met them you all played safe..?

unless when they said hello one of their ears fell off or something.."

It wouldn't surprise me if Fabs alone created a new std with those effects lol....Only joking now.

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By *heNerdyCyclistMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Okay.

As a 'bareback (giver)lover' I think I should make this clear.

I enjoy bareback but as an poly male I am aware of the dangers of entering a new relationship, causal or long term. Me personally I'm more than happy to be tested (if need be) or at least where condoms until all parties agree that we are an closed poly group and it is safe to play unprotected.

I'm not crazy about condoms but I'm less happy about catching stds.

Now I've posted before about fantasies with others about breeding fantasies and I got bollocked for it. But the fact is this; IT IS A FANTASY PLAY.

Surely that is the reason why we are on this site.

I would ask to people not to judge books by cover, take fantasy for fact and just to use common sense and have an chat of what is okay and what isn't okay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always play safe.

There's bare back pics on my profile.

Its my husband and he has some of the same pics on his profile also

"

Im much the same! Always have condoms to hand and the only time I bareback is with my partner. (Who plays but isnt on fab) its wild the amount of guys that email oh would love to see myself like that in you... and they have safesex only on their profile. My health is very important so I do go to get tested every 3months depending how active I am I may go sooner cause like its been said before condoms arent 100% effective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and what about oral? In a vanilla forum I was chatting in oral protection got mentioned, can't remember what it was called but it basically is a thin sheet of condom like material between mouth and genitals.

Id never heard/seen of it before"

True I heard if it but can't remember name....

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

condoms and regular check ups at the GUM clinic for me. I look after my own health.

Some people assume that because they wear condoms, that regular check ups are not needed. To me, these people are just as risky as bare backers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback pictures..delete and block.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ?

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I tend to avoid bareback and people who are explicit about t wanting it on their profiles.

However, sometimes with long term friends crazy things do happen.

All you can do then is take a test and be ultra careful for others for the next few months.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"All we can do is protect ourselves as much as we can. I never play bareback, if a guy has turned up without condoms I wont play even though I have my own. And any hint of bareback in pics turns me right off and I will not consider meeting. "

+1 on this, I have refused about 4 guys in the past couple of weeks because of bareback pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each to their own if you don't like it don't meet or contact simples !! but don't bastardise when you don't know ... that old saying a picture can say a thousand words??? ... just sayin!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ? "

Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

No need to apologise .it. Happens at clubs too we get couples thinking we only bareback but once put straight fun is had

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ?

Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ?

Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners."

But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

seen loads of profiles safe sex ect then when we get a emails off them chat a bit starting to build something then pow a email asking for bb even users with great feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ?

Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners.

But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him. "

so true that's why I say don't assume !!! and if you do then just not engage with them simple !!! but don't make assumptions as you don't know the facts Op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a very heavy cumer witch some women love and some dont and have had women say to me whats the point of being a heavy cumer if were going to constantly have safe sex theres no better felling in the world than spraying my huge load deep inside them but even how tempting it is ive have only ever done this with x gfs becuse i know if it was with someone i did not know that well it would allways play on my mind so for me personaly its have fun and stay safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The only pictures I post on here with bareback are the ones of my cock in wife .when we play at club I will fucking my wife bareback .if she decides she wants to fucking any other guy or guys .they have to wear condoms .likewise if I get invited to play with another woman I carry condoms with me ?

Sorry misunderstanding there, we refer to bareback on single profiles. We would generally assume bareback on couples is between the partners.

But some of us with single profiles are still married. Me and the hubby have single profiles but any bareback pics are me and him. We shouldn't assume. I certainly don't play without condoms with anyone other than him. so true that's why I say don't assume !!! and if you do then just not engage with them simple !!! but don't make assumptions as you don't know the facts Op "

If the profile states that thy are married then bb pictures are assumed to be man and wife.

But like you say, we should never assume!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows "

Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"condoms and regular check ups at the GUM clinic for me. I look after my own health.

Some people assume that because they wear condoms, that regular check ups are not needed. To me, these people are just as risky as bare backers."

If anything I think they're more risky...the naivety they show is scary. Amazes me how many grown adults think you only need to go to the clap clinic if you have symptoms and that if you do go for testing then you're 'dity'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows

Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent."

Does she know they're posted on a swingers site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"They may have been taken with a long term partner. A FWB whom they trust to only have unprotected sex with them. Who knows

Spot on! I have BB pics, they were taken with a long term FWB, and not very recent.

Does she know they're posted on a swingers site? "

Our thoughts too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love bareback but would only do it with someone I known for a while x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does she know they're posted on a swingers site? "

Yes she does actually...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want."

What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford


"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want.

What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then

"

I had similar thoughts regarding that comment. My eldest sister is a full on schizophrenic but I don't think she's on any swinger sites But is was this line... "you get what you deserve." that made me wonder if the lad I used to know when I was at school 'deserved' to die from AIDS in his early 30's or my ex-wife's step-brother who died as a result of AIDS before he got to his 21st birthday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby

I think you will find there are just as many pics of couples on here in group situations having bareback sex .

I stand corrected. Only a minute ago my wife said about couples where the females don't protect the toys Like double enders etc

Would also like to point out that even if the profile said safe sex we would not risk bare back....at all. At least not until the second meet lol. "

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

My profile is full of bareback....and I have a singles profile...doesn't mean I go bb and the pictures are of my partner whom I also have a couples profile with.....bottom line is to protect yourself if people want to go bare, ultimately, they will have to live with the consequences eventually....

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it really don't bother me what other people do, if people want to have bare back sex and post pics on their profile what business is it of mine?

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Or it could be that some people on here are schizophrenic and have no idea what they want.

What the hell? Obviously a clear insight to that mental illness then

"

I have mild schizophrenia and bipolar I can't see why the schizophrenia would make me have no idea whether I wanted safe sex or not

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By *DestinyCouple
over a year ago

Caernarfon

We always play safe.... (Also listed on our profile) All photos are us, we've been together a few years

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By *estless in batterseaCouple
over a year ago

Wandsworth

It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe."

Yep I agree....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe."

Sorry if this thread has upset you but I was under the impression that this was the forums section where people post their thoughts and considering the amount of replies it seems there is some interest.

If posts such as mine offend you then maybe you should steer clear of the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because other profiles don't show bb pics doesn't mean they don't do it ....

Same as the straight men profiles looking women and couples but have glowing verts from men....

It's a sex site where anything and everything happens, we all take a risk, but those who tell untruths to the rest of us make the choices we make blind and therefore pointless....

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By *estless in batterseaCouple
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"It never seizes to amaze me when people bring up this subject... Why are you bothered about what someone else, who presumably you won't meet due to their swinging ethics is doing. Just mind your GODAMN business and keep yourself safe.

Sorry if this thread has upset you but I was under the impression that this was the forums section where people post their thoughts and considering the amount of replies it seems there is some interest.

If posts such as mine offend you then maybe you should steer clear of the forums."

It doesn't upset me at all, if you read I said it AMAZES me! Also I am posting my thoughts like you and everyone else, so if you can't deal with criticism, it's you who needs to stay clear of the forum.

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

What never ceases to amaze me with threads on this subject is people shouting the odds of what is right and what is wrong. The fact of being an active swinger is NOT practicing safe-sex. Having a promiscuous sex-life is everything that safe sex isn’t. Perhaps the options tick-box should be ‘condoms compulsory’ or ‘condoms optional’ or ‘condoms not required’.

It might be worth having a debate as to how much protection using a condom offers in respect of reducing cross contamination.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What never ceases to amaze me with threads on this subject is people shouting the odds of what is right and what is wrong. The fact of being an active swinger is NOT practicing safe-sex. Having a promiscuous sex-life is everything that safe sex isn’t. Perhaps the options tick-box should be ‘condoms compulsory’ or ‘condoms optional’ or ‘condoms not required’.

It might be worth having a debate as to how much protection using a condom offers in respect of reducing cross contamination.

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This is very well put.

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over a year ago


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby "

Having read every post on here, I would like to comment that after having a glance at your own interests I wondered... when you are rimming or being rimmed do you use a form of protection, when you are giving oral or receiving oral is it with protection?

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over a year ago

Just because someone states safe sex on their profile doesn't mean they practice it every time.

Are people on here really that naïve to believe what it say's on a profile?

I'd put money on it that a high percentage of people on here that have had several meets or more have had a meet with someone that didn't practice safe sex on a previous meet.

Like I've said on several of these types of posts you should assume that everyone you meet has had unprotected sex on previously. If you are concerned there is pretty much only 2 things you can do:

1. Ensure they wear a condom

2. Don't invite other people in to your sex life.

I'm sure there are hundreds of females and couples on here that have had a meet with someone that stated "safe sex" in their interests and then during the meet have asked "do I need to wear a condom" or something similar or even worse tried to sneak it in on the sly!

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over a year ago

Another point on these threads there's always a multitude of single guys that disagree with bareback and say they never do it which makes me laugh cause i'll sometimes click on their profiles and read their verifications.

A couple of times I've found single male profiles stating "i'd never play bareback" but then they've got a verifications by meets from couples stating Bareback only.

Proves my point that you should never take a profile as gospel

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over a year ago


"After doing extensive research ( perving through Fabs ) It appears that there are alot of pictures with unsafe sex yet most of the profiles state safe sex.

Now don't get me wrong, I see bare back as exciting but by no means would we entertain it and if we did we wouldn't post it.

I know it's each to their own but wondered what people thoughts were on the subject.

Hubby

Having read every post on here, I would like to comment that after having a glance at your own interests I wondered... when you are rimming or being rimmed do you use a form of protection, when you are giving oral or receiving oral is it with protection?

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If the research we have done is correct it shows that the risk of std through oral is still there but a far lesser one than penertrative sex.

We agreed that for oral on a male it would be protection and for females we would be prepared to take that risk

( oral ) only.

As for "rimming" this is only mildly and between us....for the time being .

Of course even after taking all the precautions we would still get check ups.

As I have already stated im not saying that unprotected sex with strangers is wrong as people choose their own path.

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over a year ago

Bloody hell this thread has gone boring.....bareback is great, simples lol

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over a year ago

I met socially with a couple and although the safe sex activity was ticked on their profile they informed me that they play bareback as all their meets are professional and the husband had a vasectomy and the wife was sterilised when I looked alarmed they tried to allay my fears by stating that the husband had had an operation recently and had had blood tests and groin swobs so all was ok. I'm a health professional and as I'm sure most of you know anyway, HIV testing is a specifically ordered test, hospitals cannot and will not "test for everything" eg if you're going for bloods prior to an op/for your cholesterol monitoring or whatever other reason, they will only test you for that reason. Groin and nasal snobs are only for the detection of MRSA, not anything else.

When I tried to explain this to them. They got the huff and took it as a personal afront that they were dirty.In the end I ended the meet. I know you can still catch STI's whilst using condoms, but the likelihood for catching chlamydia is far less when condoms are used. Coupled with consistent and proper condom use and 3 monthly,full STI screens at he family planning clinic which consist of a blood test and a self taken vaginal swob, prevention or at least very early invention if I catch anything else seems like a good idea to me

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over a year ago

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By *jandmcCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

Don't and won't. If at anytime you bb in a casual sex situation you put yourself and others at risk. We've recent evidence of someone we've played with, we won't be doing it again.

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