FabSwingers.com forum: Crap sex!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had quite a few meets on here that have left me unsatisfied and occasionally shaking my head with disappointment. ALOT of men seem to talk the talk but when it comes down to sex they don't seem to have a clue. My clit gets rubbed so hard I think its going to touch my spine and oral is rushed so he can get down to the fucking.. If they cum too fast its my fault for doing 'that thing' with my pussy or mouth... and the time spent waiting until he is ready again is spent with them making small talk... HELLOOOO im here and need satisfying!! Why do men take it for granted that the lady is satisfied when the mans finished?

Many meets have ended with me and my toys after they have left.. surely this is not what fabs about? Anyone else having this trouble?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear.... You're clearly meeting the wrong guys. Not one of my meets have I been left disappointed. Quite the opposite, bloody knackered and totally fulfilled!! I guess I just been lucky so far...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever had 1 bad experience that way from Fab meets thankfully.

I'm sure though some males will have the same issues with woman.

Be interesting to read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh dear.... You're clearly meeting the wrong guys. Not one of my meets have I been left disappointed. Quite the opposite, bloody knackered and totally fulfilled!! I guess I just been lucky so far...

Id say 1 out of 5 have left me knackered and fulfilled...

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By *olwaySonarMan
over a year ago

Carlisle

Cut us lads a bit of slack

It's not easy trying to satisfy such wanton females. Mind I'm a dab hand at repairing toys and installing new fuel cells

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I would not say I have had crap sex on any meet from fab but some are amazing and some pale in comparison.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Oh dear.... You're clearly meeting the wrong guys. Not one of my meets have I been left disappointed. Quite the opposite, bloody knackered and totally fulfilled!! I guess I just been lucky so far...

Id say 1 out of 5 have left me knackered and fulfilled..."

what if I chase you around your bedroom for 10 minutes before the fun begins would that help to leave you knackered and I would be happy to bring a plate of cream buns to leave you fulfilled

if I am crap at the sex it wouldn't matter as much then ? xx

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By *aulsussex5Man
over a year ago

nr Gatwick

Works both ways... have had meets where the woman has nearly pulled my cock off as she wanked it so hard! Another who thought a BJ was like chewing an overcooked steak! Sex can be crap for men too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Works both ways... have had meets where the woman has nearly pulled my cock off as she wanked it so hard! Another who thought a BJ was like chewing an overcooked steak! Sex can be crap for men too!"

Its very frustrating that the effort has been made to get to know someone.. organise a meet and make yourself look and smell nice for it to be over and done with to be left feeling you should have stayed home .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you voice your frustration OP at the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A quick peek at veris you have left suggests otherwise. Maybe stick with guys you know and meet your expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

average sex most of the time which is better than none.

have had to use my toy quite often afterwards, now i tell men what i like, i dont mind if they dont make me cum though because i still enjoy it, thats unless i have met someone who is totaly unsuitable for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't had any "crap" sex with any of our meets...

If its a reoccurring thing perhaps your not communicating well enough with your meets?

"Oh no not like that... Here let me show you... Oh yeah that's it !"

If you don't tell them it's not doing anything for you.... How are they meant to know otherwise?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If you don't tell them it's not doing anything for you.... How are they meant to know otherwise? "

Take charge woman!!! They love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are wired differently. Maybe these guys are doing things that work for other women but not you. Sometimes people just don't fit!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"People are wired differently. Maybe these guys are doing things that work for other women but not you. Sometimes people just don't fit!

Exactly what works for one, won't for another!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP:- Do your veris reflect the lack of satisfaction you received?

I am sorry you have met men like that. For me my greatest pleasure is seeing the lady pleasured and truly satisfied. I will get my bit at the end when she is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP:- Do your veris reflect the lack of satisfaction you received?

I am sorry you have met men like that. For me my greatest pleasure is seeing the lady pleasured and truly satisfied. I will get my bit at the end when she is done.

If I was a lady just seeing you in those purple pants would make my day lol.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

If something isn't working for me then I am not afraid to show or tell them how I like it.

Same as I am not offended if someone tells me to change what I doing so they get more enjoyment.

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By *incolnLovers2Couple
over a year ago

lincoln

I feel for the men cos how they meant to know what we like....some women love being finger fucked, whereas I dont, thry wouldnt know that as the last 5 women they been with may have loved it! Its about communication....if like soft approach or a good pounding we need say so....I looooove a lovely licking to cum before penetration.....lovely

xxx

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Sex is a two way street you know. Don't like something happening at the time? Then damn well say something. Humans aren't mind readers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sex is a two way street you know. Don't like something happening at the time? Then damn well say something. Humans aren't mind readers."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say ladies is;-

You've never met me!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sex is a two way street you know. Don't like something happening at the time? Then damn well say something. Humans aren't mind readers."

Think you need to take a deep breath lol

Of course I tell them and the veri's I have left and have displayed are from the good sex!

I never said it was all bad Iknow everyone is different but having a guy lie on my bed with his hands behind his head while motioning towards his cock with eye movement.. plus the words 'enjoy' really doesn't do it for me.

I feel maybe because the m to f ratio on here is so high they like the thrill of the chase and once actually at a meet don't know what to do lol Maybe im just rubbish and choosing my meets x

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Maybe im just rubbish and choosing my meets x

At the risk of sounding harsh......maybe.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I wasn't aware signing up to a swingers site made you a better shag :D

There isnt a lot you can do to counter act this though really apart from taking a bit more time in getting to know the person letting them know what you do like/dont like and communicating more on a meet.

communication is key to everything in life right down to shagging, you arent just going to know what someone likes or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would not say I have had crap sex on any meet from fab but some are amazing and some pale in comparison. "

Well yeah saying crap sex does sound a tad harsh but im afraid i agree, ive been left very unsatisfied at times....perhaps its me, who is hankering after the sex ive had in the past with an ex who was soooo amazing. Maybe comparison is not where its at???

Oh well onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this too not all guys are great in bed, some id go as far as saying shouldn't be on here, luckily not many most of the guys weve met ive enjoyed, the ones I havent dont get another chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would not say I have had crap sex on any meet from fab but some are amazing and some pale in comparison.

Oh well onwards and upwards

Difficult to compare an one off encounter with sex with someone that you have known over time and learned how to please and pleasure each other.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

"Sex is a two way street you know. Don't like something happening at the time? Then damn well say something. Humans aren't mind readers.

Think you need to take a deep breath lol

Of course I tell them and the veri's I have left and have displayed are from the good sex!

I feel maybe because the m to f ratio on here is so high they like the thrill of the chase and once actually at a meet don't know what to do lol Maybe im just rubbish and choosing my meets x

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next time a guy does that tie him to the bed and ENJOY the look on his face as you leave the room

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol I shoved a toy up his arse and apparently he left feeling violated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sometimes left thinking is there something wrong with me as im difficult to please. ive met guys that have had numerous verifications saying how good they are at this that and the other, but either their meets were all faking it or im wired differently.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"I'm sometimes left thinking is there something wrong with me as im difficult to please. ive met guys that have had numerous verifications saying how good they are at this that and the other, but either their meets were all faking it or im wired differently."

sometimes for whatever reason, the chemistry just isn't there. I've had meets where the sex has been pretty damn good, and some were honestly, less than fulfilling in one way or another, and just didn't tick my boxes, even with encouragement!

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Takes two to tango

maybe say what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes telling someone what works for you doesnt work, not even showing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like some of the folks have said its down to Communication. I don't rush my meets I like to get inside the persons head and know Exactly what she's after...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP:- Do your veris reflect the lack of satisfaction you received?

I am sorry you have met men like that. For me my greatest pleasure is seeing the lady pleasured and truly satisfied. I will get my bit at the end when she is done.

If I was a lady just seeing you in those purple pants would make my day lol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not experienced bad sex, I tend to stick to a select few to play with & have repeat meets, gets more exciting & adventurous as you learn more about each other. And I love it when they leave and my pussy is aching & I'm exhausted. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing I never understood about the men supposedly being all talk when they're trying to get into a woman's knickers is that they're basically having a dick measuring contest with somebody that doesn't have a dick lol (an organic one that isnt detachable)

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

I don't cum til the girl is ready for me to ... I HATE that so many men don't know how to have good sex and that they're selfish in bed ... or as bad, just crap and no chance of being better.

Selfish lovers is the worst thing to happen to the world. Well, ok, after dictators and murderers etc ...

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

"I have had quite a few meets on here that have left me unsatisfied and occasionally shaking my head with disappointment. ALOT of men seem to talk the talk but when it comes down to sex they don't seem to have a clue. My clit gets rubbed so hard I think its going to touch my spine and oral is rushed so he can get down to the fucking.. If they cum too fast its my fault for doing 'that thing' with my pussy or mouth... and the time spent waiting until he is ready again is spent with them making small talk... HELLOOOO im here and need satisfying!! Why do men take it for granted that the lady is satisfied when the mans finished?

Many meets have ended with me and my toys after they have left.. surely this is not what fabs about? Anyone else having this trouble?

Oh my ... that is such a shame ... I have to say I personally spend ages checking verifs and cross checking verifs and asking all those nitty gritty questions ... and if there is any doubt in my mine I pass them over rather than just go for it hoping for the best !!!

I'm a very firm believer that you get out what you put in ... pardon the pun !!! Seems to work for me anyway !!!

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I feel for guys on here. They have to know what a woman likes , and what turns her off, they have to stay hard, not cum too quickly, not drag it out in case it gets boring . They worry that they aren't big enough. They feel under pressure to create mind blowing orgasms. No wonder they sometimes make a dash for the finishing line!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many meets have ended with me and my toys after they have left.. surely this is not what fabs about? Anyone else having this trouble?

I normally get my toys out after a meet. Lego or Action Men, depending on my mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many meets have ended with me and my toys after they have left.. surely this is not what fabs about? Anyone else having this trouble?

The mistake you are making is using the toys after they have gone. Get them out whilst they are there! Damn well be in charge of your orgasm girl, I am!

My ability to climax easily varies according to what part of the menstrual cycle I'm at... so knowing my luck I get a meet during a difficult part, therefore when he's pounding I'm paying attention to my clit. It works almost all the time. Cock on it's own, nah

. Tongue on it's own, nah. Fingers... well I gush but I want an orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last fuck bud got like this so I walked away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had 'crap sex' from a meet but some are better than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP:- Do your veris reflect the lack of satisfaction you received?

I am sorry you have met men like that. For me my greatest pleasure is seeing the lady pleasured and truly satisfied. I will get my bit at the end when she is done.

If I was a lady just seeing you in those purple pants would make my day lol.

Much better without I think !!

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By *a petite madameWoman
over a year ago

London / Essex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel maybe because the m to f ratio on here is so high they like the thrill of the chase and once actually at a meet don't know what to do lol Maybe im just rubbish and choosing my meets x

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

Many meets have ended with me and my toys after they have left.. surely this is not what fabs about? Anyone else having this trouble?

Lol, you'd be surprised how much I've heard this. It seems experienced means that at some point sometime in the guys life they have seen a pussy at long range and actually got to fuck one more than twice a year

lol.

Honestly don't know how you can get around it other than reading their veris closely as well as their profile.

For me, if all I see on a womans profile is 'great blow job after great blow job' then I tend not to contact as I'd probably be a bit too full on out doing all the work.

Just thought though, if on the meet, dictate what you want, e.g. if the guy is there expecting a wank in the first 5 mins lay back and simply say, 'I don't bite you know' ? Freelance sex is about pleasure. Mutual pleasure. Hope you can widdle a few out, there's nothing more disappointing than bad sex x

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