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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How far in advance are you prepared to plan a meet for?

Due to various genuine reasons a couple have planned a meet with me for the end of October.... Hence the post!!

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By *ark Gr8 Teddy BearMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I'd plan well in ahead

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

It totally depends. I have arranged meets for over a month in advance before. Sometimes it's just needed if people have things on and need to travel or people have kids they need to arrange babysitters for or any other family commitments. Sometimes some people just need to plan ahead.

I also once planned a meet at 7pm and I was round there by 8

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Shortest 2 hours . . . Longest a week(ish)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found in the past meets planned far in advance never come off ! So personally a week is as far in advance I would make firm arrangements ! But would keep that date open till they confirmed at the beginning of that week

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


"I have found in the past meets planned far in advance never come off ! So personally a week is as far in advance I would make firm arrangements ! But would keep that date open till they confirmed at the beginning of that week "

I have honestly never had a problem with the meets I have planned well in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't plan in advance, i have found in the past the longer in advance you plan the more likely they are to cancel, you give someone 4 weeks notice to meet and in that time anything can happen, plan to meet the next day and they more likely to turn up

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I have one planned for March 6th 2017, but I'm not holding ma breath as I'll probably be outside their age range by then

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

95% of our meets have to be organised in advance, normally 3/4 weeks.

Don't have that many cancel once something has been arranged.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have young kids, so have to plan well in advance as need to book babysitters etc. It is not ideal but family will always come first. We do state this on our profile though, and people we have chatted to are generally ok with it

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By *ungle-FeverCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Bristol/Gloucester

Depends really... I quite like spur of the moment meets

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the ones that you plan for tend to go pete tong so spontaneous meets for me. xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally have to plan well in advance...the most is probably almost 2 months.....the countdown was fun, and boy, was it worth it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shortest for me was about an hour and the longest was about 2 1/2 weeks but had been talking to them both for weeks/months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I planned a meet think it was about 2 months in advance once. We both turned up and it was worth the wait

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

As you've had 77 meets verified on your profile already, I find it strange you're asking advice lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't normally tend to plan, more spontaneous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends! I've had a few last minute meets but generally ranges from a few days to a week in advance.

Different for some club/social events - they're often planned months in advance!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How far in advance are you prepared to plan a meet for?

Due to various genuine reasons a couple have planned a meet with me for the end of October.... Hence the post!!"

Without knowing the couple in question an in depth look at their verification trail will give you a real feel as to how genuine they are likely to be.

Some folks profiles just have 'reliable'written all over them and other don't, takes a while to work out who's who

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As you've had 77 meets verified on your profile already, I find it strange you're asking advice lol "

My dear fellow it wasn't advice I was after.... More out of curiosity to gauge other Fabsters opinions.

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Spontaneous meets are the most successful for me, as people tend to fail to keep to planned in advance meets for one reason or another

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Planned a few weeks in advance works best for me. Any longer, they tend not to happen.

However spontaneous works well as well. An hour has been my shortest time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plan meets normally only spontaneous ones are still either a day or a few hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shortest for me was an offer to pop in as I was driving past ....

From Text to Tit in 15 mins!

Longest was a week.... I can't plan that far ahead as I work away a lot..

Prefer spontaneous or not too far ahead arrangements personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've planned as far back as a month, but usually two weeks with the odd spur moment meet within a day or two...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've planned as far back as a month, but usually two weeks with the odd spur moment meet within a day or two..."
a month to two months .socials sometimes ahead more but they usually guaranteed.best i find if you do plan ahead plan a few in the same week.vanila stuff can sometimes get in the way with kids work etc.generally people with kids have to plan stuff.have o say if i don't knw people i tend to pan only a month ahead but it i met them already will go for two months.best to get yourself a meet diary ten though so you don't double book .i use initials only of profile so if its found its not obvious to prying eyes what it means.poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've planned as far back as a month, but usually two weeks with the odd spur moment meet within a day or two...a month to two months .socials sometimes ahead more but they usually guaranteed.best i find if you do plan ahead plan a few in the same week.vanila stuff can sometimes get in the way with kids work etc.generally people with kids have to plan stuff.have o say if i don't knw people i tend to pan only a month ahead but it i met them already will go for two months.best to

get yourself a meet diary ten though so you don't double book .i use initials only of profile so if its found its not obvious to prying eyes what it means.poppyxx "
oh and always check at the beginning of the week its still ok .cos some peope forget or organise other stuff or have vanilla problems .i wouldn't wait till the day before to check .poppyxx

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I've planned as far back as a month, but usually two weeks with the odd spur moment meet within a day or two..."

"spur moment meet within a day or two"

A day or two is like long term advanced planning for me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few days to a few weeks for me but RL does seem to get in the way if its too long x x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"How far in advance are you prepared to plan a meet for?

Due to various genuine reasons a couple have planned a meet with me for the end of October.... Hence the post!!"

I meet at home when my daughters are not home. When I know they'll be on holiday say, I'll plan meets: three months in advance has been my longest, ten minutes the shortest when they decided to drive down to their brother in Crawley. The joys of local playmates.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I won't plan more than a week in advance as I don't always know when I am going to be child free, I'd rather delay making arrangements than have to cancel them.

Problem I then get sometimes is someone I might have had a lot of fun with if we'd met that day or in the next day or two, it can go a bit stale.....can end up not talking for a bit then they pop up occasionally 'do you want to meet tomorrow night then' but by then the flirting and the wanting has fizzled out and it feels more like trying to make a booking at the dentist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We plan our meets around time off we have together and specific club nights that we can get to.

Parties we plan up to a couple of months in advance purely because it takes so long to get people in one place on the same day.

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I won't plan more than a week in advance as I don't always know when I am going to be child free, I'd rather delay making arrangements than have to cancel them.

Problem I then get sometimes is someone I might have had a lot of fun with if we'd met that day or in the next day or two, it can go a bit stale.....can end up not talking for a bit then they pop up occasionally 'do you want to meet tomorrow night then' but by then the flirting and the wanting has fizzled out and it feels more like trying to make a booking at the dentist."

My point exactly. I find if i'm really getting on well with a woman by messages, if we don't meet within the next day or so, the spark always seems to fizzle out and the conversation turns into nothing more than the odd 1 word reply, if that lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we generally meet once a fortnight, so start planning the beginning of the 2nd week.

any longer than that and we find people 'forget' and make other plans.

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