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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

I have read so many posts on here from ladies and couples complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

I am trying a new approach , and won't be sending any messages today , and hope that those people who genuinely want a fun , reliable , no drama guy to have fun with , have the opportunity to contact me from this post .

( hope I haven't set myself up for a roasting here ....LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read so many posts on here from ladies and couples complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

I am trying a new approach , and won't be sending any messages today , and hope that those people who genuinely want a fun , reliable , no drama guy to have fun with , have the opportunity to contact me from this post .

( hope I haven't set myself up for a roasting here ....LOL "

Good luck but don't hold your breath. Like your idea though it's original and your profile looks honest enough as is mine. Hope you pull a few in us genuine respectful guys deserve it.

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By *himanMan
over a year ago

chichester

Good luck mate

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

"

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun.

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun."

I take your point , but there are people on here that have been totally put off single guys , when they may have been luckier and found a good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I agree and good luck, guess that's life my friend, there are always ones that spoil it for others in all walks of life,

Good luck and hope that couples and ladies take the time to read this

Have a nice day

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Oops , stumbles onto look at me thread looks around casually to make sure no one looking and declares look at me too x X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops , stumbles onto look at me thread looks around casually to make sure no one looking and declares look at me too x X "

Never knwo it might work

worth a try so count me in

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun.

I take your point , but there are people on here that have been totally put off single guys , when they may have been luckier and found a good one "

I've met people who swore off single guys completely. You make your own luck/ headway on here.

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun.

I take your point , but there are people on here that have been totally put off single guys , when they may have been luckier and found a good one

I've met people who swore off single guys completely. You make your own luck/ headway on here."

not sure you need to rely on luck my friend

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By *MOOTH AND ROUGHCouple
over a year ago

tamworth

We know that there are some pushy guys but also not so pushy guys. We arranged our first mmf back in june and advertised we wanted to meet a guy we had our fair share of weirdos with no heads on there pics etc etc but one guy who met us took time to write a nice message and added his face pics and was not pushy at all. Just ashame he deleted his profile

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter


"We know that there are some pushy guys but also not so pushy guys. We arranged our first mmf back in june and advertised we wanted to meet a guy we had our fair share of weirdos with no heads on there pics etc etc but one guy who met us took time to write a nice message and added his face pics and was not pushy at all. Just ashame he deleted his profile "

Have you found a replacement ? Or indeed are you even looking for one

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By *stmateMan
over a year ago

Notts

Great idea and good luck. Don't let the rest of us genuine singletons down. We are counting on you to make a good impression lol. Seriously all the best.

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By *MOOTH AND ROUGHCouple
over a year ago

tamworth


"We know that there are some pushy guys but also not so pushy guys. We arranged our first mmf back in june and advertised we wanted to meet a guy we had our fair share of weirdos with no heads on there pics etc etc but one guy who met us took time to write a nice message and added his face pics and was not pushy at all. Just ashame he deleted his profile

Have you found a replacement ? Or indeed

are you even looking for one "

Ha ha no we haven't and probably won't be due to being 4 months pregnant but we will definitely have another MMF x

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By *uckyinlustMan
over a year ago

manchester

The main problem us single guys have is that most of the "single" women on here already have a fb, or two,

They also get bombarded with messages ,so actually getting a nice message read is like finding a virgin in a swingers club ............................

Perseverance and luck , and no short messages stand you a better chance, but writing a decent message and seeing its been deleted makes you think .............aaaaaaaaaaarrrrrggggggg

Go to a social or a club far easier.

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I think I would get disheartened if I kept sending messages and seeing them get deleted without being read.

Nevertheless I instantly delete messages that say things like 'Hi hun, u ok?' or 'How's your day been?' cos there is nothing interesting in those.

If a guy makes me laugh in his message then I will take a look at his profile.

But if I read ''I can make any woman gush ' then that's a block !

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By *uckyinlustMan
over a year ago

manchester


"I think I would get disheartened if I kept sending messages and seeing them get deleted without being read.

Nevertheless I instantly delete messages that say things like 'Hi hun, u ok?' or 'How's your day been?' cos there is nothing interesting in those.

If a guy makes me laugh in his message then I will take a look at his profile.

But if I read ''I can make any woman gush ' then that's a block !"

But I can .........................honest.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It is one of those things, you quickly learn to just shrug off unread/ deleted messages. especially if you change your mindset to site use.

Some times can be more frustrating than others. Then again, Fab isn't the only avenue to explore this lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its going well this post, two mf couples and a single female have said anything to this tread,

Have been on and off for years on this site, its not like it used to be, single men flooding the place and its mental some of the stuff yoy hear, full over over confident females who are say they are curvy but in real life are defo not curvy but very overwright, they think fab is the real world and above themselves and that in real life they would get all this attention,

wish it was full of genuine swingers like said but unfortunately fab has turned into a single mans site that needs some tyoe of pest control abd overweight ugly females who need sex and confidence

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Its going well this post, two mf couples and a single female have said anything to this tread,

Have been on and off for years on this site, its not like it used to be, single men flooding the place and its mental some of the stuff yoy hear, full over over confident females who are say they are curvy but in real life are defo not curvy but very overwright, they think fab is the real world and above themselves and that in real life they would get all this attention,

wish it was full of genuine swingers like said but unfortunately fab has turned into a single mans site that needs some tyoe of pest control abd overweight ugly females who need sex and confidence"

And you think this sort of post is going to help you on here? Or the site to get better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun.

I take your point , but there are people on here that have been totally put off single guys , when they may have been luckier and found a good one

I've met people who swore off single guys completely. You make your own luck/ headway on here."

That saved me a lot of typing!

And to the guy bemoaning the other single guys and 'fat overweight women' - for someone who claims to have been around a while - I'd have thought the concept of respect would have been one you were well aware of ?

But seems not!

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

This post has only been on here 4 hours so I still hope I get a positive reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally find my single guys on the meet page, or 'bump into them' (ahem) at clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally find my single guys on the meet page, or 'bump into them' (ahem) at clubs

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I must say I've found the same - there must be a hoard of crappy single males out there from what I hear. A shame that they spoil it for those of us who are here for genuine meets.

Not that it's news though. It seems that, every time I look at local women's profiles or pop into the forum, the chances are I'll see reams and reams about this and that about single men ... which is more than a little discouraging.

Mind you... now, whenever I see a profile containing what just about amounts to patronizing and generalized hate statements I just block them and move on. Their loss, as far as I'm concerned, since it just means they've blown a chance of a genuine meet. And sure, I realise that might also reduce my chances but what the hell - I'm here for some fun, not to be talked down to.

Last time I looked, we were all just human beings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once again, overuse of the word Genuine as if it's a magic word that when used liberally will get you your dick sucked instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Once again, overuse of the word Genuine as if it's a magic word that when used liberally will get you your dick sucked instantly. "

And don't forget - no man can ever get a meet due to all the idiots ruining it for them!

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By *exiSlutBabeWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I agree with the poster who says it is only the individual that can mess it up for themselves ....... to a certain extent, I have friends who have stopped meeting single guys off sites like this because they are fed up with being pestered by the disrespectful ones.

The disrespectful ones don't bother me, my block button is easily accessible, so I just block those that mail me without first reading my profile or worse those that read it and ignore what I say in it.

Simplez

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria


"Once again, overuse of the word Genuine as if it's a magic word that when used liberally will get you your dick sucked instantly. "

Sorry, I meant to say bona-fide... either that or authentic ... or honest, ingenuous, legitimate, pukka, sincere, etc.

Seriously, what does it matter what adjective I choose to deploy as long as what I say is comprehensible?

No problem though, I'll be sure to consult my thesaurus next time I post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its going well this post, two mf couples and a single female have said anything to this tread,

Have been on and off for years on this site, its not like it used to be, single men flooding the place and its mental some of the stuff yoy hear, full over over confident females who are say they are curvy but in real life are defo not curvy but very overwright, they think fab is the real world and above themselves and that in real life they would get all this attention,

wish it was full of genuine swingers like said but unfortunately fab has turned into a single mans site that needs some tyoe of pest control abd overweight ugly females who need sex and confidence"

Lol. It WAS going well. I'm guessing your messages were deleted by these 'overweight ugly females'.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Its going well this post, two mf couples and a single female have said anything to this tread,

Have been on and off for years on this site, its not like it used to be, single men flooding the place and its mental some of the stuff yoy hear, full over over confident females who are say they are curvy but in real life are defo not curvy but very overwright, they think fab is the real world and above themselves and that in real life they would get all this attention,

wish it was full of genuine swingers like said but unfortunately fab has turned into a single mans site that needs some tyoe of pest control abd overweight ugly females who need sex and confidence"
How to win friends and influence people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun."

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

I for one don't think the idiot single men make it harder for the good ones, I think it makes it easier for the good ones to stand out!

It's SO EASY to ignore the morons and DELETE the shitty messages. And it's awesome when I do get a lovely decent message because I then forget about all the bad ones really quickly and the good ones makes wading through the bad ones worth it

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

over the years I have been here reading these forums there have been many, many, many rants about single guys, they have made zero difference: mainly because the target audience or a large percentage of it don't read the rants.....or forums.

but it gives a large percentage of the ranters a grandstanding opportunity, a 'their loss' moment or a sympathy shag.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun."

What some single men don't get. Add to that those who jump on other single men to make themselves look good, little realising they don't!

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By *isa and HeddoCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester


"Once again, overuse of the word Genuine as if it's a magic word that when used liberally will get you your dick sucked instantly. "

We associate Genuine with someone who says he's straight on his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol. We've had the couples having a go at us, we've had the females having a go at us. Now we're having a fucking go at ourselves! I know its just another 'i'm a good guy and the rest aren't' thread. But ffs lads, have a bit of decorum!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Lol. We've had the couples having a go at us, we've had the females having a go at us. Now we're having a fucking go at ourselves! I know its just another 'i'm a good guy and the rest aren't' thread. But ffs lads, have a bit of decorum!"

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

OK , this approach clearly hasn't worked .

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Its going well this post, two mf couples and a single female have said anything to this tread,

Have been on and off for years on this site, its not like it used to be, single men flooding the place and its mental some of the stuff yoy hear, full over over confident females who are say they are curvy but in real life are defo not curvy but very overwright, they think fab is the real world and above themselves and that in real life they would get all this attention,

wish it was full of genuine swingers like said but unfortunately fab has turned into a single mans site that needs some tyoe of pest control abd overweight ugly females who need sex and confidence"

I am very confident and get plenty of sex thank you. As a mother of three I am proud of my shape and who I am. So you got your closing (and infantile) statement very wrong.

Out of myself and the op guess who isn't getting any

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By *otwifeguy OP   Man
over a year ago

Exeter

OK that's not worked at all . I am going to completely change my profile ...... Again !!!

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

In order to stand any chance at all of getting messages, invites, etc. you need to replace the word "man" with "woman" in your profile.

Just kidding by the way ... obviously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have read so many posts on here from ladies and couples complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

I am trying a new approach , and won't be sending any messages today , and hope that those people who genuinely want a fun , reliable , no drama guy to have fun with , have the opportunity to contact me from this post .

( hope I haven't set myself up for a roasting here ....LOL "

Awww your profile is good, I cannot rip it apart (apart from there should be their).

Learn to have fun in all you do: here in the forum and out there in the messaging world and don't give up.

The great thing about the forum is you discover the cream of the crop you are up against (and can aspire to emulate) and the idiots you already surpass because their egos are so fragile they resort to degrading the fairer sex such as calling those of my gender overweight and ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun."

thats not strictly true.

the rude and pushy ones put people off meeting single blokes full stop, whether there be nice polite ones or not.

same with no shows/lazy lovers/hygiene deficient and so on.

there are only so many people will put up with until they close the door on the entire section of members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally find my single guys on the meet page, or 'bump into them' (ahem) at clubs"

And therein lies the answer to so many singlemen wants and moans about lack of success. Get out to clubs (and socials for that matter) and meet in the real world rather than rely solely on the site.

As for the "ruining it for others" brigade, they really are looking at it the wrong way, reality is that in the kingdom of the blind, the one eyed man is king. It really isn't hard to shine on here as a single guy.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Shine as brightly as you like, but in the kingdom of the blind (since we're getting messianic) still no one will see you.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"complaining of , rude , pushy , won't say no single guys , which is spoiling things for the genuine , reliable and respectful ones like myself .

Except that it isn't. The actions of the "rude, pushy, won't say no" single guys helps the genuine and reliable ones stand out.

The only person that can spoil things for yourself is you (or anyone that you LET do so on your behalf)

Have fun.

thats not strictly true.

the rude and pushy ones put people off meeting single blokes full stop, whether there be nice polite ones or not.

same with no shows/lazy lovers/hygiene deficient and so on.

there are only so many people will put up with until they close the door on the entire section of members."

Then they aren't people i want or need to meet. No one loses in that situation and i haven't been affected by any other single guy as a result.

I concentrate on those for whom i'd be a suitable match. That's within MY control.

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By *ral.steveMan
over a year ago

LEEDS

But clubs for single guys means £50+ for first visit + £25 every visit after

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