FabSwingers.com forum: The Love Question

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So here we go then ..the eternal love vs swinging question....

Who is, who isn't, who wants to be and who doesnt want any part of it?

I am talking about the state of 'being in love' because despite everything we mere humans say; no amount of Olympic scale sexual marathons or 'livestock sized' equipment ( yes I did read that on one profile!!!) will ever replace the real deal!

So....get your voting cards ready. ..and...GO!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love hurts, so does swinging simetimes but only til the handprints fade..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"love hurts, so does swinging simetimes but only til the handprints fade.."

Ah...are we talking BDSM handprints or another kind? I hate to presume. .

But yes, love hurts. X

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

can't you have love and swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day! "

Yep...me too!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"can't you have love and swinging?"

Well maybe that's the ideal....but people's definitions of swinging re boundaries etc within a relationship are different of course. It certainly needs a very strong relationship.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"can't you have love and swinging?"

Having never had a swinging relationship I'm only guessing yes you can but if I had to choose between the two love would still win

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By *anther and gothic angelCouple
over a year ago

fairy land

"can't you have love and swinging?"

Yes you can and we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So here we go then ..the eternal love vs swinging question....

Who is, who isn't, who wants to be and who doesnt want any part of it?

So....get your voting cards ready. ..and...GO!

Swinging and sex is great! Exiting, pleasurable, naughty, sociable and great exercise! However, for me, nothing can beat making love to a woman you love, and who loves you. The depth of the pleasure from the intimacy goes far further than sex.

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By *isa and HeddoCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester

"can't you have love and swinging?"

This is the Heddo half replying, I think you probably can. However I would think that you'd probably have trouble shutting Pandora's box (don't think I've ever met her) once you've opened it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have both, it hasn't happened to me but see friends that have both..

For me love is not something I want ... I can love, but to be in love is totally different...

So for me what I share as a partnership is more than enough for me.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be in love. I also like to be loved. I've have had it in both my vanilla and swinging world. When it goes wrong it hurts just the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"can't you have love and swinging?

Having never had a swinging relationship I'm only guessing yes you can but if I had to choose between the two love would still win"

I definitely agree that love would always win... but also have never combined the two and in truth, I have no idea how I would feel about it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my husband are so so in love.

And we both love swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So here we go then ..the eternal love vs swinging question....

Who is, who isn't, who wants to be and who doesnt want any part of it?

So....get your voting cards ready. ..and...GO!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Me and my husband are so so in love.

And we both love swinging

Awwwwwwww soooo nice xxx

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"can't you have love and swinging?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day! "

Know where you are on that one. Was badly hurt last year. Nothing to do with this place though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

We met on a swing site and were so in love , some people find it strange we found love on a swing site but it was love at first site with us. we still love swinging but there is a huge difference between sex and making love

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away"

ah but you and I know that is the human condition.....we can fight it all we like but ultimately we don't get to choose. ....love chooses us and we just have to weather the storm! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day! "

Me too X

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So. ..its as I suspected. ...the swinging scene isnt quite as lacking in emotion as it appears. ...a lot of love out there!!!

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

ah but you and I know that is the human condition.....we can fight it all we like but ultimately we don't get to choose. ....love chooses us and we just have to weather the storm! Xx"

This is so true and love comes when u least expect it

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By *ouple_m_and_jCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

Marcus and I are 100% in love, and love every moment we spend together. playing is something we love doing together and wouldn't do without each other.

It's our 'thing' and part of what makes our relationship special. We don't need it, but we like it.

Yes you can have love and swinging. I don't know if you should ever mix love and the people you swing with though - that sounds messy to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day!

Yep...me too!!! "

I'll agree with this one... sometimes this can help keep a bit of emotional distance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !"

Jesus!! Me too!! He better hurry up lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Marcus and I are 100% in love, and love every moment we spend together. playing is something we love doing together and wouldn't do without each other.

It's our 'thing' and part of what makes our relationship special. We don't need it, but we like it.

Yes you can have love and swinging. I don't know if you should ever mix love and the people you swing with though - that sounds messy to me."

'People'? Maybe not....but you never know if one person turns out to be more special than you first imagined.....and so it begins.....x

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !

Jesus!! Me too!! He better hurry up lol x

and me.... not much hope left in me now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't you have love and swinging?

Yes you can and we do"

As do we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So here we go then ..the eternal love vs swinging question....

Who is, who isn't, who wants to be and who doesnt want any part of it?

So....get your voting cards ready. ..and...GO!

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Marcus and I are 100% in love, and love every moment we spend together. playing is something we love doing together and wouldn't do without each other.

This is the same for me and my husband. We went to an orgy Saturday and whilst we were happy for people to watch us and we were more than happy to perform oral sex on others together, we had the best sex together with each other. We have that connection and like others have said....I'd take the Intimacy with someone you connect with over swinging and casual sex any day.

Whilst we all know that being in love may cause us pain at some point....Isn't there a saying that its better to have loved and lost than to never love at all

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By *ovetobenakedMan
over a year ago

stotfold

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !"
expose himself

as in naked or clothed hello dollie iam here

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !

Jesus!! Me too!! He better hurry up lol x

Little kitten right now I wish I was a fella! All these lovely ladies looking for someone special ..sigh...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !expose himself

as in naked or clothed hello dollie iam here

There is always one!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

ah but you and I know that is the human condition.....we can fight it all we like but ultimately we don't get to choose. ....love chooses us and we just have to weather the storm! Xx"
unfortunately, my particular little storm is still on my friends list and I cant delete him. ok wont delete him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I happen to have fallen in love with a chap off here and we now doing swinging together.... And it's absolutely fantastic...

There is a difference between the two .... Love and swinging and I'm happy to do both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love can bring the biggest highs but also the lowest lows but even having been recently hurt and shut down for a while I now know I'm definitely open to it again. I'd take love over this any day! "

totally agree with this comment. But until that special person is found this helps with a womans needs. xx

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By *ovetobenakedMan
over a year ago

stotfold

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !expose himself

as in naked or clothed hello dollie iam here

There is always one!!!

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opps sorry

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By *uckyinlustMan
over a year ago

manchester

The very minute a man falls head over heels in love with a woman , he is completely fucked ..............................

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away"

I think though as someone who is married and playing its a different ball game completely as the feelings can't easily be acted upon!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are both the same. You must show some form of positive feeling to have sex with them and when you don't have either. You end up feeling the same anyway in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So here we go then ..the eternal love vs swinging question....

Who is, who isn't, who wants to be and who doesnt want any part of it?

So....get your voting cards ready. ..and...GO!

Eternal love & swinging - possible to have both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The very minute a man falls head over heels in love with a woman , he is completely fucked ..............................

There goes Mr Happy!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I happen to have fallen in love with a chap off here and we now doing swinging together.... And it's absolutely fantastic...

There is a difference between the two .... Love and swinging and I'm happy to do both

Well I personally think thats wonderful! May the joy continue!++

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

ah but you and I know that is the human condition.....we can fight it all we like but ultimately we don't get to choose. ....love chooses us and we just have to weather the storm! Xxunfortunately, my particular little storm is still on my friends list and I cant delete him. ok wont delete him"

Ah I sense the pain....time and all that. ...big hug xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !

Jesus!! Me too!! He better hurry up lol x

Little kitten right now I wish I was a fella! All these lovely ladies looking for someone special ..sigh..."

I know!!!!!! Who would have thought?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 4 years of being single I'm ready to let someone in again. But I don't trust easily, so there's few will even get a decent word, let alone anything else.

I'll know when it's right

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !"

Yes me too !!!

A very tricky one though ... not really sure I could 100% say which way I would fall !!!

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By *ovetobenakedMan
over a year ago

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aww bless you lovely ladies if you fall I would catch you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After being very hurt by someone I was in a swinging relationship with, it will take a lot for me to trust someone enough to get into a relationship with, let alone swinging with them.

Im slowly learning to be happy being single and happy with myself again. My confidence has taken a major knock but its slowly coming back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For me this is a time filler until I find my special someone. Hopefully he will expose himself before i'm too old and dried up to care !

Jesus!! Me too!! He better hurry up lol x

and me.... not much hope left in me now though "

You aren't dead yet hun! Come on, buck up....ALWAYS plenty of hope!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Marcus and I are 100% in love, and love every moment we spend together. playing is something we love doing together and wouldn't do without each other.

Love that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

I think though as someone who is married and playing its a different ball game completely as the feelings can't easily be acted upon!!"
I could act on my feelings if they were reciprocated. Ok I'm not going to leave my marriage but why can't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

I think though as someone who is married and playing its a different ball game completely as the feelings can't easily be acted upon!! I could act on my feelings if they were reciprocated. Ok I'm not going to leave my marriage but why can't I?"
bugger meant to put why couldn't i

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Feelings, love, swinging. Didn't work for me - fucked up a good thing I had going with a good guy. I now fight feelings because it will just push them away

Ah I sense the pain....time and all that. ...big hug xxx"
thank you. Time is helping

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I miss the intimacy and passion of making love to a love one.

Swinging and love can go together, I have seen it with some couples I have met. I have however seen more jealousy and arguments

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

We're in love ... 8 years together, and the most beautiful of relationships ... we couldn't imagine life without the other. Sexually, we are happy to play and will probably always ... we don't see why we should limit our sexual desires to one person. But we only play as a couple. We never fuck others without the other person involved. So yes, we're in love, and we love it :D If it came to swinging or love... well, obviously love. But we happily have both.

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Oh and jealousy ... well, in the 8 years together and all but 3 months of that being a big part of our life, we've not had the issue of jealousy or weirdness happen. The reason? We communicate constantly ... we are open, honest, and utterly truthful about everything to each other. Too many couples simply aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So. ..its as I suspected. ...the swinging scene isnt quite as lacking in emotion as it appears. ...a lot of love out there!!!

Yes! How can it be avoided? Lol

Human beings are programmed to create emotions during the act of giving and receiving sexual pleasure.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

"Oh and jealousy ... well, in the 8 years together and all but 3 months of that being a big part of our life, we've not had the issue of jealousy or weirdness happen. The reason? We communicate constantly ... we are open, honest, and utterly truthful about everything to each other. Too many couples simply aren't."
This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes i feel like i wanna fall in love..what a dipstick

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I'm madly in love and swing

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

I've found love through fabswingers and I still value honesty far greater than fidelity.

Jenny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my husband are so so in love.

And we both love swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am genuinely inspired and amazed by the beautiful responses to this forum.

I hadn't expected such a response but that has shown me.....

Thankyou x

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By *ungle-FeverCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Bristol/Gloucester

"can't you have love and swinging?"

Of course you can!

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

do you think when you are deeply hurt that you can go on and love again.

i miss been part of a couple ,my ex and i were swingers for years till he broke the rule of swinging and ran of with woman we had met from another site

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I've found love through fabswingers and I still value honesty far greater than fidelity.

Jenny."

You're right, having once lived a lie for 12 months, honesty is so much more important.

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