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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" Many reasons, but i guess ultimately its down to attraction, either your message hasn't attracted them, or your avatar, your profile text or your profile pics hasn't. | |||
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" You might think you fulfil all their criteria, but they obviously don't. Just move on to the next profile. | |||
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" On my profile I state that simply because someone may fit my preferences there has to be some kind of attraction. It's not a tick box exercise - you tick everything and magically you are suited. | |||
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you You might think you fulfil all their criteria, but they obviously don't. Just move on to the next profile."  | |||
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"Couples can pick and choose as they get lots of PMs from guys. I also get winks off couples and when I PM them I often get nothing back. Just move on and forget it. " Everyone can 'pick and choose' - including single guys! Nobody is obliged to message , chat or meet on here. Personal choice and preference cannot be put down in mere words and tick box categories on a profile!  | |||
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"Couples can pick and choose as they get lots of PMs from guys. I also get winks off couples and when I PM them I often get nothing back. Just move on and forget it. Everyone can 'pick and choose' - including single guys! Nobody is obliged to message , chat or meet on here. Personal choice and preference cannot be put down in mere words and tick box categories on a profile! "The difference being many couples are inundated with PMs from single guys so often have much more choice. Not many guys are lucky enough to get lots of offers. How many guys can boast the same as couples. | |||
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..everyone has their own preference. They can message whoever they want, whenever they want.
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" It's tough mate, but keep at it | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. " | |||
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 it's all about attraction and being able to wright a decent first message | |||
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"Whilst you are questioning why.... Why do men blatantly chance their luck and ignore profiles, but when questioned, they admit they just chanced their arm? Did I start a thread about it? Nope, It's easy enough to just ignore and move on " | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. " It's not about decency and respect - an unsolicited message is just that! When will guys get their heads around the fact that a reply is not an obligation?  | |||
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"Whilst you are questioning why.... Why do men blatantly chance their luck and ignore profiles, but when questioned, they admit they just chanced their arm? Did I start a thread about it? Nope, It's easy enough to just ignore and move on "i think its catch 22. so many women don't even bother to read the messages composed, and i always try and see if we fit and have things in common, and send a polite message, saying a little about me and just being nice, to either just get read and deleted , or just unread and ignored. Is it any wonder the guys then start to just paste, or lesson the amount of words IN A MESSAGE, and play the numbers game not really reading profiles and chancing arms  | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. It's not about decency and respect - an unsolicited message is just that! When will guys get their heads around the fact that a reply is not an obligation? "
Earlier today I sent a polite 'no thank you' as I often do - to be told I was rude and it was my loss.
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. " I would hardly call it evidence of arrogance or lack of decency or respect. As so many threads on here have repeatedly stated, couples and single women are so often inundated with messages which they cannot possibly read let alone answer. No reply? Move on. | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. " Or self defence because there's only so many times you can be arsed getting messages back with name calling when you've taken the time to be decent and send a reply...amazing how many times I've become a fat slag for daring to say no to someone who messaged me. A lot don't send abuse, but the minority that do stick out more than the ones that simply take a no thanks and leave it at that unfortunately. | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. It's not about decency and respect - an unsolicited message is just that! When will guys get their heads around the fact that a reply is not an obligation?
Earlier today I sent a polite 'no thank you' as I often do - to be told I was rude and it was my loss.
Too many petulant men!"You were polite to me Hun when you sead no thank you and I was polite back it's just good manors isn't it xxx  | |||
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my partner and i joined last week as a couple looking for our first encounter with another woman (threesome...yum we sent a few messages out and got some good replys got chatting to a few nice ladies "wow you two look nice very sexy" and all that but then they vanish or delete us why do they do that???
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"can i just put my 10 pence worth in please lol
my partner and i joined last week as a couple looking for our first encounter with another woman (threesome...yum we sent a few messages out and got some good replys got chatting to a few nice ladies "wow you two look nice very sexy" and all that but then they vanish or delete us why do they do that???
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"can i just put my 10 pence worth in please lol
my partner and i joined last week as a couple looking for our first encounter with another woman (threesome...yum we sent a few messages out and got some good replys got chatting to a few nice ladies "wow you two look nice very sexy" and all that but then they vanish or delete us why do they do that???
Prob fakes men pretending to be women "I agree...vanishing profiles are usually fakes | |||
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"realy?? oh god we are so new to this lol...gettin fed up of the site already tbh...all we want is a nice curious girl to fulfil a fantasy " you will find one it sometimes takes a bit of time have you looked in meets or tryed going to adult party's? X | |||
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" Well said that Chester man  | |||
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"no not looked yet...we are new to all this but it seems on here there are alot of timewasters or fakes. waste of a tenner?! lol" Once you get past all the timewasters and fakes this is a really good site don't get put off to quick by a few idiots xxx | |||
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"no not looked yet...we are new to all this but it seems on here there are alot of timewasters or fakes. waste of a tenner?! lol" I was on a site which cost more than £20 a month - I've had more meets off here as a silver site supporter. | |||
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"why is it that some of us men meet what the people want and ask for message yoiu send one and it just gets delleted with out them reading it or they block you" I find writing proper English helps. It shows I care about the communication. The next worst thing from a one liner is a badly written piece or use of text speech in a message. | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. It's not about decency and respect - an unsolicited message is just that! When will guys get their heads around the fact that a reply is not an obligation?
Earlier today I sent a polite 'no thank you' as I often do - to be told I was rude and it was my loss.
Too many petulant men!"One rude man or a couple is too many but that's far from the majority of us. I would love to get no thank you's instead of nothing back at all esp after I have read their profile and match it in on paper at least for what they say thy are looking for. | |||
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"I think its a matter of arrogance alot of the time. They know they will get other offers so why should they take the time to be decent and respectful and reply to messages. It's not about decency and respect - an unsolicited message is just that! When will guys get their heads around the fact that a reply is not an obligation?
Earlier today I sent a polite 'no thank you' as I often do - to be told I was rude and it was my loss.
Too many petulant men!
One rude man or a couple is too many but that's far from the majority of us. I would love to get no thank you's instead of nothing back at all esp after I have read their profile and match it in on paper at least for what they say thy are looking for."I'd love tomorrow's lottery numbers and a new Jag F Type! (The V8 one, in red please!) I'm under no illusion that I'll get them - and I apply the same theory on the odd occasions I send messages! | |||
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"Ok for all the guys having a moan about not getting replies. Think of it like this every time you get a leaflet / letter through your door from a takeaway ,insurance company, double glazing you get the idea do you sit down and compose a reply ? I mean come on they took the time to contact you. " Your not seriously comparing a leaflet shoved for a take away etc though your door with people advertising for meets are you. I have never advertised for a take away yet. | |||
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"Ok for all the guys having a moan about not getting replies. Think of it like this every time you get a leaflet / letter through your door from a takeaway ,insurance company, double glazing you get the idea do you sit down and compose a reply ? I mean come on they took the time to contact you. " No because im sure they didn't take the time to check what I want, what I needed and I'm sure they were just cut n paste messages, a scattergun marketing exercise . That said, if I received junk mail asking me "do you fancy a fuck" then my blue bin wouldn't be so full | |||
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"It cost nothing to send a polite no thank you message. Trouble is when there are so many." Cut an paste a thank you no thank's PM to those your not interested in then. You could send 20 in a minute or two. | |||
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"It cost nothing to send a polite no thank you message. Trouble is when there are so many. Cut an paste a thank you no thank's PM to those your not interested in then. You could send 20 in a minute or two." Wish I had a £1 for every time I've posted this from the site FAQ's!! "There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages! It's not rude not to reply. Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?" It'll never sink in of course - but you can but try!! | |||
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"Ok for all the guys having a moan about not getting replies. Think of it like this every time you get a leaflet / letter through your door from a takeaway ,insurance company, double glazing you get the idea do you sit down and compose a reply ? I mean come on they took the time to contact you. "
That is quite a good analogy, although it is akin to sending a cut-and-paste message on Fab, as the text on the leaflets is the same for all recipients, but it still highlights the small likelihood of anyone replying. All they need though is one or two... | |||
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