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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok this is a bit of a rant. I arranged to meet someone today but unfortunately had to cancel due to last minute work commitments, I sent a message to apologies and promptly got blocked, this was a first meet so it wasn't line I had cancelled before. Is it mr or is that pathetic behaviour, or ami being over sensitive??

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their loss dude

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

We have all had to cancel at one point or another for reasons beyond our control. I certainly would give someone the benefit of the doubt if they cancelled for the reason given and wouldn't block, but some may have been subjected to time wasters in the past, so won't be as tolerant. Best just to chalk it up to experience and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it."

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over sensitive I reckon. The fact that it was a first meet means the other party has nothing else to go on but the fact that you cancelled.

You know it was a genuine reason, they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you can't control how other people feel,shes pissed of with you and thats the reaction

You may think its pathetic,she does'nt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant to add, if you had previously met them, and this was a repeat meet, then I would have expected them to give you the benefit of the doubt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have all had to cancel at one point or another for reasons beyond our control. I certainly would give someone the benefit of the doubt if they cancelled for the reason given and wouldn't block, but some may have been subjected to time wasters in the past, so won't be as tolerant. Best just to chalk it up to experience and move on. "

Fair point, and good advice, just seemed extremely petty and childish, I probably have had a lucky escape

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???"

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"We have all had to cancel at one point or another for reasons beyond our control. I certainly would give someone the benefit of the doubt if they cancelled for the reason given and wouldn't block, but some may have been subjected to time wasters in the past, so won't be as tolerant. Best just to chalk it up to experience and move on.

Fair point, and good advice, just seemed extremely petty and childish, I probably have had a lucky escape "
Hope they are not reading this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

over sensitive, it may be the first time you have cancelled, with this person, but its not about you, its about how many times they have been let down before.

so expected response, after all your nothing special to them, just one in a long line of no shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???"

You cancelled, she reacted with low tolerance... nothing childish about it. Bear in mind there are many time-wasters in here (and any conventional dating site). To me she is simply using the line "once bitten twice shy"... next

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it."

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have all had to cancel at one point or another for reasons beyond our control. I certainly would give someone the benefit of the doubt if they cancelled for the reason given and wouldn't block, but some may have been subjected to time wasters in the past, so won't be as tolerant. Best just to chalk it up to experience and move on.

Fair point, and good advice, just seemed extremely petty and childish, I probably have had a lucky escape "

Ego talking hahahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

You cancelled, she reacted with low tolerance... nothing childish about it. Bear in mind there are many time-wasters in here (and any conventional dating site). To me she is simply using the line "once bitten twice shy"... next "

I disagree, her reaction was childish, if she had cancelled I would not have blocked her, I have had a very lucky escape,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We have all had to cancel at one point or another for reasons beyond our control. I certainly would give someone the benefit of the doubt if they cancelled for the reason given and wouldn't block, but some may have been subjected to time wasters in the past, so won't be as tolerant. Best just to chalk it up to experience and move on.

Fair point, and good advice, just seemed extremely petty and childish, I probably have had a lucky escape

Ego talking hahahahaha"

Hers or mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way, "

You had better cross off the majority of females on here then .

As for crying cos they are not getting their own way? Ermmm what does it sound like you're doing this very moment?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way, "

Facepalm. Now you are deflecting and trying to make yourself feel better by labelling such behaviour "pathetic" Are you a child?

People can use the site however they want. Maybe they were at the end of their rope with cancellations and YOU were the straw that broke the camel's back. Did you stop to think about that?

Don't make a thread asking for opinions/ advice only to promptly ignore it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way, "

I really don't understand how its pathetic behaviour,you don't know what shes had to arrange or sort out to make this meet work and now its cancelled if she wants to block its her choice,lets hope she finds a last minute replacement meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over sensitive I reckon. The fact that it was a first meet means the other party has nothing else to go on but the fact that you cancelled.

You know it was a genuine reason, they don't.

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This. OP why should they give you a second chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way,

Facepalm. Now you are deflecting and trying to make yourself feel better by labelling such behaviour "pathetic" Are you a child?

People can use the site however they want. Maybe they were at the end of their rope with cancellations and YOU were the straw that broke the camel's back. Did you stop to think about that?

Don't make a thread asking for opinions/ advice only to promptly ignore it all."

I think SHE had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You asked f you were being over sensitive and have been told "yes, you are".

Why then dismiss what people have said?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way,

Facepalm. Now you are deflecting and trying to make yourself feel better by labelling such behaviour "pathetic" Are you a child?

People can use the site however they want. Maybe they were at the end of their rope with cancellations and YOU were the straw that broke the camel's back. Did you stop to think about that?

Don't make a thread asking for opinions/ advice only to promptly ignore it all."

Lol, sorry I hadn't realised you were the 'oracle' of fabswingers, your advice was valid, but uour not the voice of the forums. If you think there behaviour was normal, fair enough, I happen to think its a sad inditement that that sort of thing is classed as acceptable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cocks are 2 a penny.

and if she couldn't get a replacement meet, she has several options, mm thinks courgettes mmmm

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By *ittle nelWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside

she's maybe annoyed or hurt that you cancelled, you maybe annoyed an hurt at the block. your feelings/her feelings are important an valid to you.

i wouldn't block some one for cancelling the first time, shit happens.

i wouldn't make a forum post about it if was done to me.

we all all different, embrace an enjoy!!

get nose first in life's pick n mix its awesome

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You asked f you were being over sensitive and have been told "yes, you are".

Why then dismiss what people have said?

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It's an open forum, I am being over sensitive in some respects, I fear for the site if everybody gets blocked for cancelling a meet, I suppose pathetic I'd to string a word, sad would be more apt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha OP suck it up and get over it,you cancelled on her,in her eyes you are nothing but a timewaster,and its more than acceptable for her to block you for that reason alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

I've blocked for similar. I don't have to give people second chances. In this case, looks like they thought the same. Not much you can do, so move on from it.

Fair enough, tbh I don't fancy meeting someone with such a pathetic attitude, god knows what they wound be like to meet, would they start crying if things don't go there way,

Facepalm. Now you are deflecting and trying to make yourself feel better by labelling such behaviour "pathetic" Are you a child?

People can use the site however they want. Maybe they were at the end of their rope with cancellations and YOU were the straw that broke the camel's back. Did you stop to think about that?

Don't make a thread asking for opinions/ advice only to promptly ignore it all.

I think SHE had a lucky escape "

Lol, I get the feeling you both have lots in common

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

I would of done exactly the same. I'm fed up with single guys with their no shows or last minute excuses. The last minute work commitment is probably the most popular excuse. Your either working or planning to meet. If your working or chance of working you don't plan to meet. If your planning to meet you book the day off. Then you come on here saying you have had a lucky escape. Hmmm really? If they read this in sure now they will be thinking what a great decision they have made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cocks are 2 a penny.

and if she couldn't get a replacement meet, she has several options, mm thinks courgettes mmmm "

And I bet it wouldn't come across as arrogant or whiny... win win for her

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Don't make a thread asking for opinions/ advice only to promptly ignore it all."

If someone cancels on me at the last minute or didn't turn up for a meet... I'm not going to arrange to meet them again, so may well block them.

If that's childish... then so be it. I call it not wasting any more of my (or their) time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hahaha OP suck it up and get over it,you cancelled on her,in her eyes you are nothing but a timewaster,and its more than acceptable for her to block you for that reason alone"

Is it?? It's my first time, I netted get used to it quick then, I suppose I have more patience than mos

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???"

Definitely childish! One cancellation can happen and is acceptable. You did let her know, so its not like you just did not turn up. She is obviously not worth your time and effort...move on to a better person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only give one chance, let me down/cancel and I will block. I don't see why I should waste my time getting ready for a meet to be let down.... If its someone I know and have met before I know they are genuine and we rearrange, but for a first meet i'm not wasting any more time on that person.

If you think that's childish that's entirely up to you but personally I see it as sensible, some people have very limited playtime so waste it with people that cancel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"cocks are 2 a penny.

and if she couldn't get a replacement meet, she has several options, mm thinks courgettes mmmm

And I bet it wouldn't come across as arrogant or whiny... win win for her "

Lol, I was right, I said it was a rant, whiny?? Probably , arrogant? What utter drivel,

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You are being overly sensitive. Just move on from it.

You think so?? Would you class there response as normal, or slightly childish???

Definitely childish! One cancellation can happen and is acceptable. You did let her know, so its not like you just did not turn up. She is obviously not worth your time and effort...move on to a better person "

Thanks, that's what I thought, but it appears I am in the minority

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I only give one chance, let me down/cancel and I will block. I don't see why I should waste my time getting ready for a meet to be let down.... If its someone I know and have met before I know they are genuine and we rearrange, but for a first meet i'm not wasting any more time on that person.

If you think that's childish that's entirely up to you but personally I see it as sensible, some people have very limited playtime so waste it with people that cancel?"

Fair point, have you ever had to cancel a meet??

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