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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh be quiet OP please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the nice guys become good lovers in relationships because they get the chance to better refine their sex techniques?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Fair point, but I've found it's difficult to create masterpieces from blank canvases lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

killer when you have been chatting for ages and the guy is useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the nice guys become good lovers in relationships because they get the chance to better refine their sex techniques?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

There's plenty! Nice guys that have acquired certain 'talents' don't always want to be 'snapped up'! hence they join sites like Fab, build good social and fun circles and take the site and the scene for what it is - a means to enjoy fun company for everything from drinks and banter to rampant group sex- knowing they maintain their single status, personal freedoms and the ability to live their lives how they choose!

Seek - and ye shall find!

Sometimes takes a fair bit of seeking and sifting - but trust me - it's perfectly possible to find what you're looking for. Just as it is for us guys to find like minded women!

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

Statistically I'd say there is a good chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fair point, but I've found it's difficult to create masterpieces from blank canvases lol x"

I'm curious though as to why you feel their sex is so poor?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

you have to train them xx

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By *antoplay1976Couple
over a year ago

Chico


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already

snapped them all up :P prove me

wrong? X"

Can't! Sorry my hubby is a great guy and an awesome amazing lover! I am one lucky lady!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's why I try not to leave a massive build up anymore from speaking to someone to meeting them - too many expextations and no spontaneity!

And that's the annoying thing, people generally understand it will be more difficult for guys, and therefore easier for women? Me thinks not!

In my experience before fab/clubs, it's always been the guys idea to start experimenting until they realised how suited I am to it, and soon they become jealous, rather than relishing the many more doors open to a couple rather than a single :S I envy the couples on here who have such a strong bond to swing openly and successfully x

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

I'm a nice guy & apparently I'm not too shabby between the sheets :p

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe this just applies to Brummies then? :P

I'm having a ranty day today, can anyone tell? 0

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

Yep. There's a few of us left but we're not settling!

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

There's plenty! Nice guys that have acquired certain 'talents' don't always want to be 'snapped up'! hence they join sites like Fab, build good social and fun circles and take the site and the scene for what it is - a means to enjoy fun company for everything from drinks and banter to rampant group sex- knowing they maintain their single status, personal freedoms and the ability to live their lives how they choose!

Seek - and ye shall find!

Sometimes takes a fair bit of seeking and sifting - but trust me - it's perfectly possible to find what you're looking for. Just as it is for us guys to find like minded women! "

First class responding there, has to be said

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Touché

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By *yLongJourneyMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

im a nice guy myself, single of course, but i cant seem to be able to get anywhere with any ladies on here which i cant understand at all

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

Hinckley

"Nice" guys aren't "shags" they're lovers,

they take the time to learn what to do that pleases you & expand upon that with relish!

They probably wouldn't be interested if they discovered they were "vanilla"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a brilliant wonderful goyjus guy n a crap shagger - so yeah you're right OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a brilliant wonderful goyjus guy n a crap shagger - so yeah you're right OP "

u shag crap?..thats a new fetish I think........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a brilliant wonderful goyjus guy n a crap shagger - so yeah you're right OP

u shag crap?..thats a new fetish I think........"

Yeah I'm too old to catch sheep these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's that old cultural allure of good guys and bad boyz. However when in comes to being a fantastic or a poor lover don't think this applies it more to do with both of you than one or the other being good or bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All great masterpieces start with a blank

canvas, a true artist can create a a work of genius from a cigarette packet.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

There's plenty! Nice guys that have acquired certain 'talents' don't always want to be 'snapped up'! hence they join sites like Fab, build good social and fun circles and take the site and the scene for what it is - a means to enjoy fun company for everything from drinks and banter to rampant group sex- knowing they maintain their single status, personal freedoms and the ability to live their lives how they choose!

Seek - and ye shall find!

Sometimes takes a fair bit of seeking and sifting - but trust me - it's perfectly possible to find what you're looking for. Just as it is for us guys to find like minded women!

"

Completely agree with this post.

I'm quite enthusiastic, adventurous, kinda fun and try my best to be 'a nice person' though perhaps am an average lover compared to some of the big willied casanovas on here.. fortunately i cant add to OP's woes as I'm just about out of her age range!!

Be selective, find people you feel a connection with and enjoy yourself...maybe wonderful lovers are rare, but perhaps that's what makes them special.

I hope youre able to find lovers that can give you that thigh quivering, toe curling, back arching, lip biting, breathtaking, multiple orgasm (and whatever else your body aches for) again and again x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A big cock or a sculpted body doesn't make someone a good lover, I'm not that shallow tyvm...

And as a sexually adventurous 21 year old, yes some people might grow into amazing lovers over time, but some may never, and it's taking that plunge into the unknown that scares the living bejesus out of me :S

Believe me, I've had quite the 'nice guy projects' since I was 18 haha, more than I care to admit to on here, and alas, no luck :s hence I'm still here as a single lady lol

I think some people have got the wrong idea about me when I posted this forum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you should be honest from the start and tell him you're going to fuck other people whilst seeing him.

That way he might let go of his inhibitions and pull out some Neo style moves on ya

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

What the hell??!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would be the ideal situation but funnily enough it scares vanilla guys off :P I could settle for just other women though haha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A big cock or a sculpted body doesn't make someone a good lover, I'm not that shallow tyvm...

And as a sexually adventurous 21 year old, yes some people might grow into amazing lovers over time, but some may never, and it's taking that plunge into the unknown that scares the living bejesus out of me :S

Believe me, I've had quite the 'nice guy projects' since I was 18 haha, more than I care to admit to on here, and alas, no luck :s hence I'm still here as a single lady lol

I think some people have got the wrong idea about me when I posted this forum..."

Oh, that big willy thing, Casanova thing was just me projecting...

Similarly, having a body like ...um..(insert hot lady here) doesn't ensure fireworks either..

For me, a mental connection is necessary...it really helps build the lusty desires that I find are a pre-requisite of good sex.

Just like many, you'll have to kiss a few frogs before you get to ride that prince

Enjoy the journey..and if you're looking to pass the time kissing a frog, while you're waiting for the prince... I'm all puckered up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good answer lol

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

If Carlsberg made nice guys that are also dynamite in the sack .............. Look no further !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

If Carlsberg made nice guys that are also dynamite in the sack .............. Look no further ! "

Aye chuck but regrettably we ain't all lager drinkers tho innit lol

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"im a nice guy myself, single of course, but i cant seem to be able to get anywhere with any ladies on here which i cant understand at all"
i can pretty much understand why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im a nice guy myself, single of course, but i cant seem to be able to get anywhere with any ladies on here which i cant understand at all i can pretty much understand why "

Oh bless him I thort he was rather 'cute'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I better start behaving like a total wanker might make me a better shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im a nice guy myself, single of course, but i cant seem to be able to get anywhere with any ladies on here which i cant understand at all i can pretty much understand why "

Oops I attached meself to wrong poster lol

Try again

Oh bless him

I thort he was rather cute!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought there are two involved so responsibility lies with both parties ....its not just one that makes it rubbish.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Oh dear OP. do hang in there. Trust me lots of 'nice' guys are fantastic in bed.

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Oh dear OP. do hang in there. Trust me lots of 'nice' guys are fantastic in bed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe this just applies to Brummies then? :P

I'm having a ranty day today, can anyone tell? 0"

It does, I've played in the NW & Down south and I have to admit the guys in those places are more my taste the the local guys where I live in the Mids. Not sure if I'm too picky or what it is but west Mids men just don't cut the mustard........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe this just applies to Brummies then? :P

I'm having a ranty day today, can anyone tell? 0

It does, I've played in the NW & Down south and I have to admit the guys in those places are more my taste the the local guys where I live in the Mids. Not sure if I'm too picky or what it is but west Mids men just don't cut the mustard........ "

Finally someone agrees haha... The whole idea of the OP was to rattle a few cages and spark up a convo, which it has, but people seem to think I'm a knob now :S there is some truth to the OP but it was partly in jest - I of all people am not one to tar everyone with the same brush, but everyone has those pissed off moments like I was having after a particularly bad meet lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a horrible person .....

;) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe this just applies to Brummies then? :P

I'm having a ranty day today, can anyone tell? 0"

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

Always go for the quiet one my dad said to me and he was right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a nice guy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must be meeting the wrong guys in brum lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

Define horrendous ....??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But nice guys finish last, so at least you'll cum first.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

His nerves and your expectations may well be communicated through non-verbal behaviours and make this a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or just come and tap me up?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Grrrr no more Mr nice guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

I think most men big themselves up and exaggerate just how good they are then when you eventually meet its disappointing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

I think most men big themselves up and exaggerate just how good they are then when you eventually meet its disappointing "

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Grrrr no more Mr nice guy"

Are you about to break out into a bit of Alice Cooper?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X"

What a women looking for a nice guy! I think i my be dreaming.

Try some red spice then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't take offence but maybe he didn't think you were a very stimulating lover and therefore gave a lacklustre performance....just a thought

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Grrrr no more Mr nice guy

Are you about to break out into a bit of Alice Cooper?! "

Want to borrow my eyeliner?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Grrrr no more Mr nice guy

Are you about to break out into a bit of Alice Cooper?!

Want to borrow my eyeliner?"

Depends - did you use it whilst eating bats?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Grrrr no more Mr nice guy

Are you about to break out into a bit of Alice Cooper?!

Want to borrow my eyeliner?

Depends - did you use it whilst eating bats?"

They were only made out of liquorice

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Grrrr no more Mr nice guy

Are you about to break out into a bit of Alice Cooper?!

Want to borrow my eyeliner?

Depends - did you use it whilst eating bats?

They were only made out of liquorice "

Thats worse!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I have a dilemma. I try and be good and keep my swinging to a minimum when I'm considering dating a vanilla guy, but when I have been good and finally get to have sex with them weeks down the line, most of them are horrendous. Are there any nice guys left who are good lovers who aren't in relationships? My guess is no because the clever women have already snapped them all up :P prove me wrong? X

I think most men big themselves up and exaggerate just how good they are then when you eventually meet its disappointing "

Gotta love that hyperbole

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