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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either." Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why??? | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either. Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???" Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)? | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either. Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why??? Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)?" Would put escorts and massage parlours out of business! | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either. Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why??? Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)? Would put escorts and massage parlours out of business! " Honesty isn't always good for business | |||
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"Me, I'm perfectly happy to admit it and discuss it. It's not something I'm embarrassed about Good why have you hidden your profile then?? Hiding something lol " No, I'm seeing someone from the site exclusively and having "not currently meeting only using the site to chat to friends or reading the forum" didn't stop people wasting their time messaging me, so hide my profile..... I'm pretty active in the forums & have attended site organised parties, do nothing to hide. | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either. Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why???" So that organisations can prove they're not discriminating against certain groups on the grounds of sexuality. It's an odd one. If you don't ask, you can't know so you can't discriminate but if you don't ask, you can't produce stats to prove you don't discriminate. | |||
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"Most of my close friends know I see more than one person at a time. If they came out and asked if I was a swinger, I'd say yes. I'm fairly openly bi, but I've never seen the importance of having to label every part of my life. Being bi or being a swinger is just part of what makes me who I am. And I'm happy with that. " + 1 have nothing to hide, or lie about | |||
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"Louie from the jungle book admitted he was king of the swingers, even sang a song about " Exactly so be proud of who we are XXX | |||
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"Who has ever admitted to being a swinger in every day life?" Can't think of any situation that would lead to me discussing my personal life with anyone apart from those directly involved. | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either. Good answer, Its like application forms asking for sexuality why??? Don't think they're allowed to now are they, like age, race or religion? But yes I'm quite open about it, don't go round with a badge on, but if someone asks, (hey it may be an offer)?" They are.Just had to answer all those questions on an online one. | |||
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"Nope, have no need or reason to." Looks like me and thee are in the minority. Don't discuss my bank balance, colour and consistency of my stool either! Honestly, we really don't need to share the minutiae of our lives! | |||
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"I have not taken out an ad in the parish magazine declaring what positions I fucked J in last week either! Don't discuss our sex life with family and friends so why would the need to tell them we are swingers crop up?" | |||
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"Who has ever admitted to being a swinger in every day life?" I (Lynn) told my Ma, my brother and sister in law. And Mark told his ex wife !! And they all know we are both bisexual Don't understand why it is judged as morally unacceptable | |||
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"We don't go telling everyone but family know and some very good friends know too. If someone asked us I wouldn't deny it at all. I would say why we have this lifestyle and let them decide for themselves I'm proud of what we do. It means we have a loving relationship and a trusting relationship now how many non swingers have that ? Truthfully" Sorry, don't see the correlation. | |||
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"I don't tell anyone - it's our business and nobody else's. I was wondering though - do you think it's easier for a single swinger to admit it than a couple? Would society's perception of a couple swinging still be 'adulterers' even if it was consensual? " I'm single and compos mentis: I just don't think my sex life is anyone's business. It wouldn't cross my mind to question my friends on their private life and they show me the same courtesy. | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest " Which employers would need to know that? | |||
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"Who has ever admitted to being a swinger in every day life?" My close mates all know though family have no reason to | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that?" Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that? Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance " I need to be vetted ie. CRB enhanced - it's not part of that. Was just wondering which employers would be allowed to ask about people's sex lives - secret services perhaps? Although they'd already know of course | |||
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"There are various stages of vetting and clearance One of them costs £30k" Mine cost about 30 quid. | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that? Those where you would need to be vetted and get security clearance I need to be vetted ie. CRB enhanced - it's not part of that. Was just wondering which employers would be allowed to ask about people's sex lives - secret services perhaps? Although they'd already know of course" Forum Mods? | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that?" My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that? My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable " More blackmailable than bribeable. If you're open and honest about yourself they've got buggar all to blackmail you with, (just don't mention the sheep ) | |||
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"Not me. Never have and never will. Not because I am worried my closest friends would be judgemental, but because they are so open-minded they would want to know every little detail and I'm not prepared to give them that! They actually think I'm pretty sexually deproved I think " LOL - I know the feeling - I'd never hear the last of it....questions galore. I suspect that they suspect anyway! | |||
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"Some people have to admit it at work, ie on vetting forms Bosses couldn't give a toss as long as you are honest Which employers would need to know that? My work. I have a DV clearance (developed vetting), it's reviewed annually, 2 of my referees were interviewed as was I. On my original interview I told them I was bisexual and promiscuous and that I had previously been a swinger, when I joined Fab, I put it on my review form. It's mostly if you work with sensitive material (in my case it's the nuclear industry) and they're more interested in seeing if you're bribable More blackmailable than bribeable. If you're open and honest about yourself they've got buggar all to blackmail you with, (just don't mention the sheep )" That's what I meant...and a sheep was one of my referees | |||
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"My friends all know I'm a swinger and bi, most of my family do too. The people I work with all know, but that will change in my new job. I currently work in a pub, so it's not really an issue, but my new job is a local authority based one, so I'll have to be a little more discreet. I'm not ashamed of what I do, and I'll openly and honestly answer any questions about it. " How can you be discreet if everyone already knows? Surely once everyone knows sonething you can't hide it. People have very long memories. | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either." this | |||
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"Who has ever admitted to being a swinger in every day life?" admitted ??? | |||
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"Me. I don't broadcast it but I don't deny it either." Same here......my Aunt had been told by my cousin (not her son) that I'm a swinger.....so she asked me......not really arsed, she wasn't shocked at all....she was shocked however when I told her I am submissive to my partner....she had me down as a domme..... | |||
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"Nope, have no need or reason to." Our sex life is our business, it's not something we go round discussing with family, friends or work colleagues. | |||
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"Most of my close friends know I see more than one person at a time. If they came out and asked if I was a swinger, I'd say yes. I'm fairly openly bi, but I've never seen the importance of having to label every part of my life. Being bi or being a swinger is just part of what makes me who I am. And I'm happy with that. " This. I can only second the whole of it! | |||
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"i admitted it and now i have my whole wor place discussing it and well i get the shit for it i didnt bring it to work they did i get the shit for it at work coz some one was curious so i answered questions and it all alnded on my shoulders i got in to trouble for it all and i did nothign wrong " Same happened to me. Now I just say it's not fit discussion at work. | |||
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"Nope, have no need or reason to. Our sex life is our business, it's not something we go round discussing with family, friends or work colleagues. " However some of us have to fess up at work.. The DV process. They could give a flying F&&k if you are honest, if your aren't then that's when the security vetting problems arise. Ie you are available to be compromised | |||
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"I don't tell anyone - it's our business and nobody else's. I was wondering though - do you think it's easier for a single swinger to admit it than a couple? Would society's perception of a couple swinging still be 'adulterers' even if it was consensual? " I think as a couple it has to be more discrete, when I was a single male I wouldn't have given a hoot. | |||
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