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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a little quick but maybe say you cant send messages until you are at least photo verified. Not everyone is on here to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

So many people complain they cant get a meet until they verified. If they cant get verified until met then they are all fucked LOL.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

true that all people aren't here to meet but there has to be a line between people saying they aren't meeting and people making fake profiles ...it's sad and wastes people's time

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Well that would have been me thrown off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol my main point is separating the fakes so they can be removed suppose it might not be the best idea but am sick of them

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"lol my main point is separating the fakes so they can be removed suppose it might not be the best idea but am sick of them"

Well I've not had any bother with fakes so maybe you should look harder at your own way of choosing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How would that stop fakes? And why does everyone have to meet within a week ? Just wouldn't work, this site is for everyone , some come to chat, some to play in cam only, some even come to meet but it's up to them how they choose to use the site. Also who would do the verifying, the amount if single guys on here would get kicked off, you can't expect people to meet that quickly ( we don't meet u til after we have been chatting for longer than a week)

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol my main point is separating the fakes so they can be removed suppose it might not be the best idea but am sick of them"

How do you know they are fake?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

er....... no......

why pressure people to meet, they will do it when they are ready

if you are worried about fakes, i would probably look at your selection process first.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well then surely they have to do something with being photo verified coz they amount of couples I talk to that are getting messed around just like me is ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet within a week? How lucky are you to be able to meet in a week.

Tell me your secret please.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're a no pressure and choosy couple and we'd have never joined!

Everyone uses the site differently and there are things you can do to minimise the chances of a waste of time Also, reporting fake profiles is of benefit to all site users

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By *eepspeepsCouple
over a year ago

exeter

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am just saying accounts should be checked and monitored and photo verified so people aren't wasting there own time arranging meets...turning up and there's nobody there , obviously new users that would be hard to judge but people that have been signed up for long period of time with no photos,not being photo verified etc should be removed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

omg...the OP is only giving his opinion ... those of us that have been here a while would know that that wouldn't work but there are better ways of saying so!! lighten up ppl, it's only a forum thread

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

timewasters are on every site that you join and have been for a number of years.

i was swinging with my now ex husband

a lot of years so i know what i'm talking about,he used to say people get off on the idea of joining a site then cant go thru

with it.

at this moment in time i'm not here to meet anyone just to read the forums and join in the banter as i live alone xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

I agree something needs to be done to get rid of fakes and time wasters, they make it harder for genuine 'newbies' to get a foot in the door, but meeting in 7 days wouldn't work, some people, like me, have been on 2 months and haven't had a meet, but I know I'm not fake and I haven't wasted anyone's time (apart from making people read my less then intelligent forum threads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photo verification would be o.k. - it's easy enough. Meet within a week just wouldn't work - too much pressure, and too little time to arrange.

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By *upitersmileCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Oh dear, you just have to accept that you will never get rid of the fakes. You'll also have people that have been verified that will mess you around.

If you come across fakes and time wasters get over it, pick yourself up and move on. It's part and parcel of the site.

Good luck x

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

That's easier said than done. I was on here about 2 months before I managed to get my first meet. Not through lack of trying. Probably because I was a newbie with no verifications. Very few even bothered to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

the only thing that would stop the fakes would be the ability to name and shame....and as we aren't allowed to do that the next best thing is to report the profile to admin and hope that they can deal with it!

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "
Er no actually! Have yet to meet a fake or time waster!

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By *oubleDsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Well I've not had any bother with fakes so maybe you should look harder at your own way of choosing [/quote

Have to agree with you on this one

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the issue will always be that no way if fullproof.... and to be honest... fake and timewaster are labels that are easily thrown around because it leaves the picker blameless...

but some of it has to go on the picker... which is why some will say "pick better" what precautions do people go thru, phone calls, pictures, seeing them thru skype or messenger, social meets ect ect ect....

i know some will hate that idea, but there has to be some checks and balances done...

people show me a fullproof way, I will back it, but until then, a healthy bit of common sense and a tiny bit of cynicism go a long way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the issue will always be that no way if fullproof.... and to be honest... fake and timewaster are labels that are easily thrown around because it leaves the picker blameless...

but some of it has to go on the picker... which is why some will say "pick better" what precautions do people go thru, phone calls, pictures, seeing them thru skype or messenger, social meets ect ect ect....

i know some will hate that idea, but there has to be some checks and balances done...

people show me a fullproof way, I will back it, but until then, a healthy bit of common sense and a tiny bit of cynicism go a long way

"

well said that man

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley


"the issue will always be that no way if fullproof.... and to be honest... fake and timewaster are labels that are easily thrown around because it leaves the picker blameless...

but some of it has to go on the picker... which is why some will say "pick better" what precautions do people go thru, phone calls, pictures, seeing them thru skype or messenger, social meets ect ect ect....

i know some will hate that idea, but there has to be some checks and balances done...

people show me a fullproof way, I will back it, but until then, a healthy bit of common sense and a tiny bit of cynicism go a long way

"

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By *aughtylittlemeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Maybe a little quick but maybe say you cant send messages until you are at least photo verified. Not everyone is on here to meet."

This is a good idea, or a cam verification within the first month

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP... As others have said if you're sick of "all" the fakes... Look at your own selection process.

I have never had more than an initial message from profiles that I think are not who / what they say they are.

It's easy to filter out unverified people... then they can't contact you.

When searching tick the "only show users who have verification by meeting"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't even quantify the load of rubbish OP with a decent response at the moment

The suggestion is unworkable and ridiculous

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Maybe a little quick but maybe say you cant send messages until you are at least photo verified. Not everyone is on here to meet.

This is a good idea, or a cam verification within the first month "

No thanks, I don't cam, and wouldn't like to be forced to just to verify my account.

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

we have found there isnt such thing as a timewaster, you just need to refine your selection process, in 5 years we havnt ever been stood up

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people are on here just to chat. Someone might join then not bother for a while. I joined about 2 years ago but did nothing till last September as I had other things more important happening.

Maybe you could call a landline, see a webcam, see if they are verified, meet in a cafe or club first so if they don't turn up, it's no big deal. Report people for not turning up. I once arranged to meet a couple, all chat chat chat, when I said ok I'll meet it was 'yeah, ok' and then on the day.....zilch. So I went to see my mum instead. They left th site almost immediately but I suspect they are back. They had a certain style which would be difficult to change. Total pair of toss-pot timewasting losers. My mum was nice though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't !! I joined in April and didn't have my first meet till the following January. When I was ready.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I never had a problem with fakes. Not sure if Its been:

A) I've been lucky

B) the way I approach who I interact with

C) I'm just not their cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

So when there's something like 100 guys to each girl on here, how do you propose all those guys get a meet in their first week.

Fakes and time wasters are easily dealt with and can be spotted in a message or two, then hit the block.

Out of curiosity what do you define as a fake account and as a time waster ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the issue will always be that no way if fullproof.... and to be honest... fake and timewaster are labels that are easily thrown around because it leaves the picker blameless...

but some of it has to go on the picker... which is why some will say "pick better" what precautions do people go thru, phone calls, pictures, seeing them thru skype or messenger, social meets ect ect ect....

i know some will hate that idea, but there has to be some checks and balances done...

people show me a fullproof way, I will back it, but until then, a healthy bit of common sense and a tiny bit of cynicism go a long way

"
More pearls of wisdom from Fabio. The man talks sense. I say let him stand for PM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No especially as single guys struggle given the ratio of males vs women and it does not prove anyone is genuine whether they have met either

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I never had a problem with fakes. Not sure if Its been:

A) I've been lucky

B) the way I approach who I interact with

C) I'm just not their cup of tea "

C) definately C)....you should meet people who prefer coffee.

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By *murf1980Man
over a year ago

Letterkenny

Well said huni

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must come back to this thread after work

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why is it always people unable to sort the wheat from the chaff that want to change the site?!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly."
1

My thoughts as well!

I take my time in getting to know someone before I would actually consider meeting them

Do men even think these things through properly?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet..."

Nearly six years here: not an abusive message, not a fake, not a timewaster. I can't think what I'm doing right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet...

Nearly six years here: not an abusive message, not a fake, not a timewaster. I can't think what I'm doing right! "

You are in the inner circle - it's called common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly.1

My thoughts as well!

I take my time in getting to know someone before I would actually consider meeting them

Do men even think these things through properly? "

Men think??

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly.1

My thoughts as well!

I take my time in getting to know someone before I would actually consider meeting them

Do men even think these things through properly?

Men think?? "

Your right! I wasn't thinking straight

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly.1

My thoughts as well!

I take my time in getting to know someone before I would actually consider meeting them

Do men even think these things through properly?

Men think?? "

Bless her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men even think these things through properly?

Men think?? "

Not with our brains, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it always people unable to sort the wheat from the chaff that want to change the site?!! "

Because they know what the answer will be and that way they can continue blaming the site for not tackling the issue of fakes/timewasters and not have to take any personal responsibility?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree it's practically impossible for a single guy to meet in a week I've not had a meet on here in over a month and believe me it's not through lack of trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am just saying accounts should be checked and monitored and photo verified so people aren't wasting there own time arranging meets...turning up and there's nobody there , obviously new users that would be hard to judge but people that have been signed up for long period of time with no photos,not being photo verified etc should be removed "

Or you could just not message them?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've never found fakes hard to spot, personally. If they look too good to be true, then ask for more details and watch the fun.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up. "

Ill be a timewaster for you.....what time do you not want me to turn up? and ill make sure I don't

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

I really think a lot of people join this site thinking the site is just going to "do the work for them".

The site gives you all sorts of tools to make cutting down on "fakes" easier, verifications both photo and meet and a huge list of filters (newbies, non verified etc). You combine that with a bit of common sense, self awareness and tineye/google image search and if you're still finding "fakes" a problem then I have little hope for you as a human being.

I say it over and over and over, if the common problems is you then you are the problem. Look at the way you pick people and how you do things and change what you need too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really think a lot of people join this site thinking the site is just going to "do the work for them".

The site gives you all sorts of tools to make cutting down on "fakes" easier, verifications both photo and meet and a huge list of filters (newbies, non verified etc). You combine that with a bit of common sense, self awareness and tineye/google image search and if you're still finding "fakes" a problem then I have little hope for you as a human being.

I say it over and over and over, if the common problems is you then you are the problem. Look at the way you pick people and how you do things and change what you need too.

"

I think the site have a responsibility to deal with the lack of common sense and self awareness of some members. It is surely unfair to expect members to tackle this themselves.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

We dont arrange meets so this dont bother us we also feel we dont need to get photo verified either. We do have meet verifications and we are a genuine couple. But we wouldn't be here if we had to meet someone or had to get photo verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I really think a lot of people join this site thinking the site is just going to "do the work for them".

The site gives you all sorts of tools to make cutting down on "fakes" easier, verifications both photo and meet and a huge list of filters (newbies, non verified etc). You combine that with a bit of common sense, self awareness and tineye/google image search and if you're still finding "fakes" a problem then I have little hope for you as a human being.

I say it over and over and over, if the common problems is you then you are the problem. Look at the way you pick people and how you do things and change what you need too.

I think the site have a responsibility to deal with the lack of common sense and self awareness of some members. It is surely unfair to expect members to tackle this themselves.

"

While they are at it could admin please also sort out the people that take no responsibility for themselves in day to day life too please. Thank you.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up.

Ill be a timewaster for you.....what time do you not want me to turn up? and ill make sure I don't "

Next Monday, 10.47am, asda carpark, Brighton Marina

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I don't know why people think being verified prevents timewasters. The two times I was stood up were by men with a nice selection of verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet..."

Nobody has ever met a fake or timewaster, otherwise they wouldn't be a fake or time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification is important but the be all and end all and as for meeting within a month. I don't think this would work as the ratio of men to women is slightly heavy on the male side. Unless you're a couple it's quite difficult to get meets. Age is sometimes an issue because if filters. I still like this site as its a fun place with lots if nice people.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I didn't bother get photo verified either.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"Am just saying accounts should be checked and monitored and photo verified so people aren't wasting there own time arranging meets...turning up and there's nobody there , obviously new users that would be hard to judge but people that have been signed up for long period of time with no photos,not being photo verified etc should be removed "

Verified people do that too...

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"I didn't bother get photo verified either. "
been on here since 2008...not photoverified....

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish


"I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet...

Nearly six years here: not an abusive message, not a fake, not a timewaster. I can't think what I'm doing right! "

All your potential meets are too afraid to hehehe....because they may get the wasabi treatment

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Does photo verification really mean that much?

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Goodness, think we had our first meet after nine months!

One thing that could change is that verification ticks are for meets only. No idea what the value of a cam veri is, other than to get around filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't bother get photo verified either. been on here since 2008...not photoverified...."

Me neither, but I tried to get verified as soon as possible, I think there should be a cut off though, maybe 3 months. I like the new verification summaries as you keep a record if your old veris even when people leave. Fakes can be Spain but in the while very easy to detect, and they all seem to be looking for the same thing, so hopefully they just waste each others time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't bother get photo verified either. been on here since 2008...not photoverified....

Me neither, but I tried to get verified as soon as possible, I think there should be a cut off though, maybe 3 months. I like the new verification summaries as you keep a record if your old veris even when people leave. Fakes can be Spain but in the while very easy to detect, and they all seem to be looking for the same thing, so hopefully they just waste each others time "

Apologies for my wording, bloody predictive texting, shocking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up.

Ill be a timewaster for you.....what time do you not want me to turn up? and ill make sure I don't

Next Monday, 10.47am, asda carpark, Brighton Marina "

Prepare for the mother of all letdowns

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up.

Ill be a timewaster for you.....what time do you not want me to turn up? and ill make sure I don't

Next Monday, 10.47am, asda carpark, Brighton Marina

Prepare for the mother of all letdowns :-

D"

Ha ha I'm not gonna go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

And whats to stop having 2 profiles and arrange to meet themselves if you get my drift

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here

And whats to stop having 2 profiles and arrange to meet themselves if you get my drift"

I play with myself a fair bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had a problem with fakes... I'm not even sure what it means to be a fake in this context. Some people don't want to meet... That doesn't mean they are a fake it just means they are here for something different that you. I have heard that some men pretend to be women on here but not encountered this and don't see how this can ever pay off. So what is a fake?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I've tried meeting a timewaster for ages but they never turn up.

Ill be a timewaster for you.....what time do you not want me to turn up? and ill make sure I don't

Next Monday, 10.47am, asda carpark, Brighton Marina

Prepare for the mother of all letdowns "

Ooooooooo that sounds quite kinky,

So count me in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

Absolutely. Fucking. Ridiculous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it always people unable to sort the wheat from the chaff that want to change the site?!! "

It took me about a month before my first meet. I have never met anytime wasters. You just need to have your wits about you.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I had a meet within the first week of joining. It was shit, for both us, and no verifications made.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm beginning to feel really unloved on here - I don't think I've met a fake or a timewaster yet...

Nearly six years here: not an abusive message, not a fake, not a timewaster. I can't think what I'm doing right! "

Think Miss maybe you should set up some classes then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly."

I would never meet within a week

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here

Absolutely. Fucking. Ridiculous."

Quite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Jeremy Kyle would god damn live this forum lmaoo what have I started ....sorry folks

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

Hinckley

How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

Hinckley

Spesh if you get a lot of ticked boxes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just another point a friend and colleague of mine joined this site on my recomendation ! And because she was young and pretty constantly got accused of being fake and one cpl reported her and her account was frozen ! They called her fake cos she wouldnt meet them !

Maybe we should be careful before we call people fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is fabswingers gonna pay us a flat (or even fat) fee n expenses for turfing out for these veri meets?

I'm always interested in any money raising scheme lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

"

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them..."

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable!

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By *iker ladMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable! "

Or even, it's not public till 24 hours after the agreed time/date,

You chat, agree to meet, if you don't signify (privately) that a meet has taken place then a no-show flag pops up on your profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

I have met 5 people in 35 years, does that make me a fake, and should I be cut of from my social life, maybe the problem is within you, like attracts like, its called karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable! "

surely if only one person/couple showed up their box would remain ticked too

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

and if you never arrange to meet? Does that make the people who never arrange a meet fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable! "

mainly because it's got fuck all to do with anyone else but is an arrangement between 2 or more consenting parties in private...there's no contract, no guarantee...

We disagree with it and our track record here shows we are anything but unreliable...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable!

Or even, it's not public till 24 hours after the agreed time/date,

You chat, agree to meet, if you don't signify (privately) that a meet has taken place then a no-show flag pops up on your profile!"

how ridiculous, big brother has a lot to answer for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

i think thats why socials are good at least then ppl see social veris and know newbies not fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people expect too much, its a sex swingers site in cyber space, nothing is real until you meet, sounds like some want everything done for them with a guarantee, it wont happen, unless of course you pay for it, and it becomes a business transaction, and that would be for a different site. maybe then the sale of goods act would come into force,

each and every one of us is the same, and is different, attraction cant be expected with everyone, and yes life happens, you have something called gut feeling, and by now should have experience of people, if you use that , you will detect the people who are just here for a laff or knee trembler.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe the flag could say 'boom' if the meet occurs or 'meh!' if it's an ok-ish meet or 'plop!' if it doesn't take place....I don't see that I need to tell people about potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe the flag could say 'boom' if the meet occurs or 'meh!' if it's an ok-ish meet or 'plop!' if it doesn't take place....I don't see that I need to tell people about potential meets. "

maybe the cartoon dog going arooogah! Arooogah! If it's a particular hotty...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about an "agreed to meet" box that you both tick on the site & which will tick a box viewable by the public in your profile.

then when you meet up, you untick it.

If the box remains ticked it remains on your profile thereby showing you don't show!

That way folks can't hide the fact they're no shows & there's no need to name & shame.

why should we have to announce to all and sundry that we have a meet planned? Last time i looked although we're on an open site about our sexual preferences what actually happens between us and other consenting adults in the privacy of our own home is between us and them...

What's wrong with a flag stating that you've mutually arranged a meet with someone? If the flag stays up then it's ovbious to everyone that you are a no show???

If you have no intention of showing up then don't agree to!

The only kind if person I can see disagreeing with this arrangement would be someone who might be unreliable!

Or even, it's not public till 24 hours after the agreed time/date,

You chat, agree to meet, if you don't signify (privately) that a meet has taken place then a no-show flag pops up on your profile!"

What happens if they meet, don't get on and one party claims the other didn't show?

What happens if one party has a genuine reason to cancel and they get labelled a timewasters through circumstances they couldn't control?

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I really think a lot of people join this site thinking the site is just going to "do the work for them".

The site gives you all sorts of tools to make cutting down on "fakes" easier, verifications both photo and meet and a huge list of filters (newbies, non verified etc). You combine that with a bit of common sense, self awareness and tineye/google image search and if you're still finding "fakes" a problem then I have little hope for you as a human being.

I say it over and over and over, if the common problems is you then you are the problem. Look at the way you pick people and how you do things and change what you need too.

I think the site have a responsibility to deal with the lack of common sense and self awareness of some members. It is surely unfair to expect members to tackle this themselves.

While they are at it could admin please also sort out the people that take no responsibility for themselves in day to day life too please. Thank you. "

And bring world peace too? Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else think when people create a profile on fabswingers they should have to arrange a meet within the first week in order to prove they are genuine...don't know about anyone else but I am sick of all the fakes on here "

Not really as it would lead to pressure to meet people they dont like and under pressure to play or a verification might not be given. I would go down the route of compulsory photo verification though. I know its not foolproof but it would make it more troublesome to fake a profile.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

Why compulsary photo verification? We do not feel the need to get photo verified so why force us too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why compulsary photo verification? We do not feel the need to get photo verified so why force us too? "

It says above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're a no pressure and choosy couple and we'd have never joined!

Everyone uses the site differently and there are things you can do to minimise the chances of a waste of time Also, reporting fake profiles is of benefit to all site users "

Just this!! We didn't meet for about 2 months after joining - and have reported fakes/time wasters when necessary. No one should be pushed into anything. The photo verification doesn't always mean anything either - we have never done it & yet have reported fakes that have. It's all down to careful judgement, taking your own time & blocking/reporting etc xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think photo verification proves a thing, anyone can get a mate to hold a bit of paper whilst take a pic and upload it and palm it off as thenselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think photo verification proves a thing, anyone can get a mate to hold a bit of paper whilst take a pic and upload it and palm it off as thenselves"

They can but it is a sight harder than putting a profile up in 3 minutes. Nothing will stop determined people to fake a profile but it would without question reduce the number of fakes as that is what the thread centres around.

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Why compulsary photo verification? We do not feel the need to get photo verified so why force us too?

It says above."

Also more troublesome to keep a unfake profile. Everyone uses the site for different things. Photo verification means nothing. We can get photo verified very easily but choose not too, take away the choice and we leave..but that's not because we are fake, its because its not our choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why compulsary photo verification? We do not feel the need to get photo verified so why force us too?

It says above.

Also more troublesome to keep a unfake profile. Everyone uses the site for different things. Photo verification means nothing. We can get photo verified very easily but choose not too, take away the choice and we leave..but that's not because we are fake, its because its not our choice"

Some people will leave who are genuine but far more fakes will not be present I would think you would get more genuine people on the site as more people are frustrated by the number of fakes than having to photo verify a few who would leave would be well worth it to reduce the fake profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sorry but dictating "you must meet within 7 days" would have meant I wouldn't have stayed on the site.

There are safety issues for single ladies meeting, and I would not have felt happy to meet anyone that quickly.1

My thoughts as well!

I take my time in getting to know someone before I would actually consider meeting them

Do men even think these things through properly? "

Some of us. Although I always feel its a dwindling number.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

The problem with fakes is not meeting them (or not, ho ho), as that is easily avoided by engaging brain.

The annoying thing about fakes is that they clog up browsing searches, etc. if you do a search for women in our area, for example, around forty percent of the profiles are obvious fakes, including ones with verifications. It would be nice to be able to filter them out, but suppose it's impossible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why compulsary photo verification? We do not feel the need to get photo verified so why force us too?

It says above.

Also more troublesome to keep a unfake profile. Everyone uses the site for different things. Photo verification means nothing. We can get photo verified very easily but choose not too, take away the choice and we leave..but that's not because we are fake, its because its not our choice"

Yes it is indeed your personal choice BUT of course I'm now cogitating WHY you would choose to particularly NOT be photo verified???

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent


"

Yes it is indeed your personal choice BUT of course I'm now cogitating WHY you would choose to particularly NOT be photo verified??? "

because we dont use the site to arrange meets. we get our fun by going out and finding it. we feel we dont need to be verified at all but we have happened to bump into some people who use the site and they verified us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a meet in a week so that's 99% of guys never being members then oh and forum users and chat room people. Who are all genuine. Common sense sorts out the fakes

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