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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We usually avoid meeting people who live in the same (small) town as us. However we have been talking to a guy recently who seems really nice and when he sent his face pic through we realised we have seen him around town a fair bit although we have never spoken. He has given reassurances about discretion and we are very tempted to meet him BUT there is the anxiety about our closeness, bumping into him etc. Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lady who lives a few doirs away from me sent me a message and face pic last week ! I nearly fell of my chair ...

I havnt revealed my identity but politely said no thank u !

Shame cos she's stunning but i like to keep my playing life seperate !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually avoid meeting people who live in the same (small) town as us. However we have been talking to a guy recently who seems really nice and when he sent his face pic through we realised we have seen him around town a fair bit although we have never spoken. He has given reassurances about discretion and we are very tempted to meet him BUT there is the anxiety about our closeness, bumping into him etc. Any thoughts? "

Your profile says cant accommodate so why not just go out of town to a hotel and have fun their

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started chatting to a guy when i first joined and he turned out to be someone I have known most of my life! We were at school together and he still lives in the street we both lived in as kids. Not sure it's quite the same thing but feels a little weird. Can i really have sex with him? My sex drive says oh yes please (he is very fit and I had a crush back in school) but my sensible head says way too weird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Started chatting to a guy when i first joined and he turned out to be someone I have known most of my life! We were at school together and he still lives in the street we both lived in as kids. Not sure it's quite the same thing but feels a little weird. Can i really have sex with him? My sex drive says oh yes please (he is very fit and I had a crush back in school) but my sensible head says way too weird "

And We are facebook friends too!!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I'd much prefer to meet locally, but understand why many might not want to. Can be frustrating in situations where all involved clearly click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a couple send me face pics didn't know them but knew the pics were taken in my local pub, we chatted met lots of times, a polite hello if she came in to my work, we are all on here for the same reason and was so handy they were local, I would say go for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guess if we were all sensible we wouldn't be on this site. He can accom so we aren't worried about the meet itself. Its more the possibility of difficulties after ...like if the meet went badly etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Started chatting to a guy when i first joined and he turned out to be someone I have known most of my life! We were at school together and he still lives in the street we both lived in as kids. Not sure it's quite the same thing but feels a little weird. Can i really have sex with him? My sex drive says oh yes please (he is very fit and I had a crush back in school) but my sensible head says way too weird

And We are facebook friends too!! "
Go for it or you may always wonder 'what if'

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm the same. I live in a tiny town. Not too far from you by the look of it and I've had one person message me for a meet saying he thought he recognised me and did we used to work together? And another who keeps asking for a social meet and I've said no because its too close to home. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually avoid meeting people who live in the same (small) town as us. However we have been talking to a guy recently who seems really nice and when he sent his face pic through we realised we have seen him around town a fair bit although we have never spoken. He has given reassurances about discretion and we are very tempted to meet him BUT there is the anxiety about our closeness, bumping into him etc. Any thoughts? "

we don't meet close to home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep nice to have a little local interest but same town is a no no just in case plenty of pervs just a little further away so stick to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it. Might make the meet even more exciting.

Will be handy for short notice meets if it does go well.

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By *illyDudeMan
over a year ago

norh east

As i dont drive and live in a really small town ive come across this. And all i can say if you been speaking to them a while like them go for it. Could be an amazing experiance with areally nice guy x

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By *lassy pairCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich London

We would say also go for it, as you will greatly regret it if you miss the chance, we all here for the same thing so he will be as discreet as you are and guys don't have a scorn as women do

Goodluck

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By *iceguy25Man
over a year ago

tongbridge

I think if no matter who I meet and where they are from discretion is everything think if I see them around the most id do is a slight smile (unless they say hi or somthing) it adds to the fun I think I have seen people from here around and just walk past lol

So yer go for it

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

in this situation at the mo very very local and im really not sure now I don't recognise him from his photo but hes at the end of my road

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

You have to go with your instincts as only you know what your life is. Having friends close by can be great, but the flip side is if they turn out to not be discreet etc life can become awkward

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I only meet locals as I have better things to spend my money on than British rail. Also when I make the call of the wild waiting hours kills the mood.

In six years never encountered a stalker, indiscretion etc. I can understand why people don't want local playmates, the horror stories you hear, but it works for me.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

ive had a stalker and he was local and wouldn't take no for an answer it was very scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Local meets are best in my view as little risk owt being said as all on here for same reasons.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Started chatting to a guy when i first joined and he turned out to be someone I have known most of my life! We were at school together and he still lives in the street we both lived in as kids. Not sure it's quite the same thing but feels a little weird. Can i really have sex with him? My sex drive says oh yes please (he is very fit and I had a crush back in school) but my sensible head says way too weird

And We are facebook friends too!! "

Well looking at your profile "Looking for a couple of regular play partners, I don't do one off meets. Seeking a connection that allows for fun, laughs and great sex! I won't have sex on a first meet so please don't ask." I would say he sounds ideal, go for it.

On the general thing of meeting nearby, I exchanged some messages with a Tgirl the other day and during the process discovered we live just a few minutes walk from each other. We're quite looking forward to meeting up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is a guy on here who keeps messaging me whose son goes to the same school as mine...and he has a partner who I am pretty sure doesn't know he is on here so that's a definite no no

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"ive had a stalker and he was local and wouldn't take no for an answer it was very scary"

Someone I know from here had one from here recently and he was over 20 miles away from but still was a problem. If they're determined distance probably won't make much difference sadly.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire


"ive had a stalker and he was local and wouldn't take no for an answer it was very scary

Someone I know from here had one from here recently and he was over 20 miles away from but still was a problem. If they're determined distance probably won't make much difference sadly. "
true but he was outside my house constantly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've met a school mum a few times and that was fun. Always funny at the gates when we bump into each other.

If all are discreet then have your fun and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Started chatting to a guy when i first joined and he turned out to be someone I have known most of my life! We were at school together and he still lives in the street we both lived in as kids. Not sure it's quite the same thing but feels a little weird. Can i really have sex with him? My sex drive says oh yes please (he is very fit and I had a crush back in school) but my sensible head says way too weird "

I can understand the preference not to met local but why is it 'way too weird'?

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"there is a guy on here who keeps messaging me whose son goes to the same school as mine...and he has a partner who I am pretty sure doesn't know he is on here so that's a definite no no "

Does he know that they go to the same school and have you told him you're not interested in meeting? In which case he shouldn't be continuing to message you.

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

we got message from a guy, full face on profile, not only local , but we know him and his wife, she does not know, we was upfront with him, he is in same boat as us, we invited him over, and yes all had sex, everything was fine,no guilt he is still on here, and is still very active,

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Go for it

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