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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive found most single ladies are very careful ! But a few cpls have tried it without which i found a little strange

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Maybe they only wanted you to take your shirt off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe they only wanted you to take your shirt off? "

Haha! Maybe. I should clarify that with them right away could be a fuss over nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had guys turn up for meets without condoms, had guys try to move from foreplay to penetration without getting one, I quickly remind them and their reply is (and I quote) 'Ohh yea I forgot'

People like to push their luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people..."

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people..."

Focus on your own enjoyment then. Easy enough to avoid those that indulge in bareback especially when they ask you.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

"

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?"

I was thinking the same, yikes!! Fit must mean disease free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eeeeek!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No excuse whatsoever for stupidity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

"
jesus have i read that correctly ? I thought we were meant to get wiser with age ?

I quote " i said yes because he was fit "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unbelievable..... My 14 year old daughter has more sense than to trust a guy just because he's fit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unbelievable..... My 14 year old daughter has more sense than to trust a guy just because he's fit!!"
but if that comment was from a 14yr old girl u could understand it and say no thats not right but your young and still learning about life !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had guys turn up for meets without condoms, had guys try to move from foreplay to penetration without getting one, I quickly remind them and their reply is (and I quote) 'Ohh yea I forgot'

People like to push their luck!! "

If they forget it's not standard practice for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just got a 3 pack from shops. Who's up for some fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't believe how cruel you can all be. Did you hear about the bullying on Facebook?

Isn't it up to that lady what decisions she makes about her own life and health without you all discussing it like cruel children in a play ground?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?"

Yes, well he was 20 tall, slim, blonde.

a very pretty boy.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

Yes, well he was 20 tall, slim, blonde.

a very pretty boy."

Well clearly your choice what you like and do. I would be interested to know your thoughts on it though. You state safe sex and condoms only in your profile. Is that open to negotiation depending on what your meet looks like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

Yes, well he was 20 tall, slim, blonde.

a very pretty boy.

Well clearly your choice what you like and do. I would be interested to know your thoughts on it though. You state safe sex and condoms only in your profile. Is that open to negotiation depending on what your meet looks like?"

And why not?

Its entirely up to her and her"fit" partner to decide the rules of their meet.

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


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I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing."

False equivalence. That's not the slant being discussed in this thread. Try again.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?"

Isn't that a good enough reason then??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

Yes, well he was 20 tall, slim, blonde.

a very pretty boy.

Well clearly your choice what you like and do. I would be interested to know your thoughts on it though. You state safe sex and condoms only in your profile. Is that open to negotiation depending on what your meet looks like?"

No because most fit young men dont mind using condoms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with all things in life - and between 2 consenting ADULTS (who made the bizarre comment about 14 yr olds?) - it is a matter of PERSONAL choice. If you don't like then steer clear. Simples !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As with all things in life - and between 2 consenting ADULTS (who made the bizarre comment about 14 yr olds?) - it is a matter of PERSONAL choice. If you don't like then steer clear. Simples !"

Now be careful (stern face on) - you are in danger of being told to try again because you are off topic

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

Yes, well he was 20 tall, slim, blonde.

a very pretty boy.

Well clearly your choice what you like and do. I would be interested to know your thoughts on it though. You state safe sex and condoms only in your profile. Is that open to negotiation depending on what your meet looks like?

And why not?

Its entirely up to her and her"fit" partner to decide the rules of their meet.

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing."

Who's moral posturing ? I'm just asking a question to try and understand why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 14 year old comment was in no way a sexual comment (it was about common sense) so please don't try to say otherwise as that's just disgusting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

Haha!

I was thinking the same, yikes!! Fit must mean disease free "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People banging on about morales..

Check out my profile. I get shit all the time about morales...

End of the day. If both parties are proven clean, and its what they want - You only live once. Play how you want! x

.... Well, and with my particular interest ::Other:: things cant happen anyways. But thats beside the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wear one, don't wear one. All supposed to be adults here. She only asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proven clean you say!!!

Being fit doesn't prove anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit though...I'd love to meet you all in the gum clinic, fresh clean certificates of good health in hands for a massive worry free gangbang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Proven clean you say!!!

Being fit doesn't prove anything."

Correct!! More likely to shag more being fit and catch more diseases

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Must admit though...I'd love to meet you all in the gum clinic, fresh clean certificates of good health in hands for a massive worry free gangbang "

I'm sure that could be arranged if you REALLY wanted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common sense being a swinger , a condom should be like a 6th finger ...lol. What I find that substitutes the bareback feeling while using a rubber is using lots of lube especially a silicone based for that slippery gliding feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Common sense being a swinger , a condom should be like a 6th finger ...lol. What I find that substitutes the bareback feeling while using a rubber is using lots of lube especially a silicone based for that slippery gliding feeling "

Good plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wear one, don't wear one. All supposed to be adults here. She only asked. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was amazed when a woman once asked me to go bareback:

I thought what the heck lets go for it.

Next thing I knew was I had fallen from the horse I was riding and everyone else was laughing

No bareback for me, a saddle every time, yeehaw, ride on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I queried this as I'm new and nobody had asked this far. I know everyone is entitled to their own opinion, just thought it was a bit of a strange request

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

You said yes just because he looked fit ?

I was thinking the same, yikes!! Fit must mean disease free "

I must be riddled haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people..."

You will get exactly the same response and thought process from some vanilla individuals if you asked then to swing with you. Some see swinging as risky condoms are not fool proof and you can still catch things from oral sex. Think about it ask yourself why you swing and you will probably understand better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good Grief. You know, one day I'd love to see a thread that went:-

"Got invited to meet a lovely couple the other day and we fucked bareback for hours : me and her husband taking it in turns. It was top, more people should do it because its great and nothing feels as good as when its already full up to the brim....'

Because I would love to watch the utter fits of moral 'Dail Mail-esque' outrage and apoplexy. It would be hilarious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good Grief. You know, one day I'd love to see a thread that went:-

"Got invited to meet a lovely couple the other day and we fucked bareback for hours : me and her husband taking it in turns. It was top, more people should do it because its great and nothing feels as good as when its already full up to the brim....'

Because I would love to watch the utter fits of moral 'Dail Mail-esque' outrage and apoplexy. It would be hilarious. "

Lol. That would definitely press all the buttons for the "safe sex fascists".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met a certain young man a few times now...

We have had a chance to gauge his morals, and general standards..

Mrs was very comfortable with him, as was I.

Mrs prefers bareback, and we broached the subject with him...he was understanding and apologetic but refused. Kind of confirmed our judgement.

We discussed the matter for a while,and like adults agreed that if one person not happy then it doesn't happen.

We then went on to have lots more fun...with a condom...

Now we are decent clan living folk...sort of...any meets are always Safe Sex....untill we get to know folk a bit.

Some judgement you make with any new BF or GF...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if a girl said yes to bareback then I would say no to do anything since you've no idea where they've been...

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

I was chatting to someone on here about a meet, and it turned out she did bareback. When I politely declined, she said she does covered as well!!! Some people!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if a girl said yes to bareback then I would say no to do anything since you've no idea where they've been... "

You miss the point....

At some stage with a new partner BF . GF the bareback question will come up...

We dont mean first night...or even second or third...we mean when you are in a position to judge...

Or do you wear condoms forever?

In a swinging club etc its a no brainer...but once you get to know people a bit...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was chatting to someone on here about a meet, and it turned out she did bareback. When I politely declined, she said she does covered as well!!!"

I think you will find that is a far more widely held approach (but often the other way around) - its just never openly talked about because of the 'Safe Sex Temperance Movement' and the fear of becoming a site pariah.

If anyone doesn't understand nor fully acknowledge there is a subculture of people very happy to go bare, covered or anything in between because they recognise that they are consenting adults in a consenting situation then some need to re-think their approach.

Its the sad, childish mentality of those who would seek to decry others for their own choices that make it a hidden culture on here - practiced by many but spoken about only by a few.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

What?!! Are you implying people have free will and can choose who they play with without getting their panties in a bunch how other consenting adults play?!!

Wow!!! That's amazing, I'll tell the op!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

"

You said yes because he was fit?!! O...k...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think if a girl said yes to bareback then I would say no to do anything since you've no idea where they've been... "

...so I'm guessing 'Have you been with anyone else this evening and if so are you still full up?' is not an acceptable response in that situation?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I've had guys turn up for meets without condoms, had guys try to move from foreplay to penetration without getting one, I quickly remind them and their reply is (and I quote) 'Ohh yea I forgot'

People like to push their luck!!

If they forget it's not standard practice for them"

The last few men I've met (all over 50) have been rock hard until I reach for a condom then...flop...nada...zilch...nothing! All had safe sex on their profile but obviously not used to wearing condoms.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing.

False equivalence. That's not the slant being discussed in this thread. Try again."

I've seen this false equivalence on here more than once, and so have you I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing."

i had sex while i was driving, does that count?

(i was wearing a condom though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life so lets please do without all this silly moral posturing.

i had sex while i was driving, does that count?

(i was wearing a condom though)"

Now THATS unsafe sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

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By *hunderkissMan
over a year ago

Sussex

In all fairness, I think people are less likely to catch something from a regular from a site like this than a random one nighter. We're all so over conscious about it we're probably all as clean as a whistle... That's a risk still thigh. Just a passing comment and I'm no way saying I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it...."
because bareback feels twice as good for a man , even if it doesn't make much difference to a woman. Imagine putting a condom on your tongue then kissing someone. It's that much different.

I take condoms to meets, and use them, i'm simply answering the OP's question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand why so many people don't criticise people who want to go bareback as i wouldnt myself but, i wont say i know alot about stds, but what is there difference between going bareback and oral sex with no protection? so someone will swallow a guys cum but wont do bareback?

surely you can still catch what ever they have orally, and there is a virus that gives men throat cancer from oral sex but cant be stopped with a pill that women get for free but men dont.

All im saying is if you say about bareback oral sex must come into it to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had meets where the guy is so strict on his profile about safe sex, and preaches on here about it, then they try to slip it in bare, til they get a stern reminder from me to put a condom on, but in response to the op, its simple, everyone has a choice to do what they please, so if you dont like what someone does dont meet them, it doesnt make it wrong that people do something that you choose not to.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well, maybe on this site it's because I state on my profile I am entirely new to swinging, but I have not found the men here any different to the rest of the population - with VERY few notable exceptions of men who take full responsibility themselves, they will ALL try and go bareback - by stealth, deceit, dominance - every trick in the book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i met a young chap a couple of times, he messaged me saying next time we met could we have sex without using a condom. I said yes because he was fit, he asked me when i had last been tested.

I never did meet him though, because he was being annoying.

"

Ha ha ha good job he was annoying before you went bareback then....so is that the requirement for being safe now...ah he wont have anything because he is fit.

You do make me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basic common sense says that so called 'fit' people will have much more opportunities to fuck and that can't be a generalization. If a meet wants bareback they are either very irresponsible or perhaps not being totally honest. Either way it's not good and safety is always the best option,in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DONT DO IT , be safe , be aware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see a lot of men with photos of them fucking various men and women bareback, it tends to put me off a little.

Had one guy a few years ago tell me he would put a condom on but wanted to feel me without one first errrrrm

And the guy who said he doesn't use condoms as the women he fucks aren't sluts.

General lack of knowledge about sexual health I think.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

i've heard excuses, and also had that "I'll put one on in a bit but let me feel you first". Oh and the chestnut that is "I can control myself".

Nope- I take no risks, my Man it's different as it's a relationship but playing pals have to be covered - with both of us.

It's a necessity and a respect for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No glove no love.

I don't want my fanny dropping off, darling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand why so many people don't criticise people who want to go bareback as i wouldnt myself but, i wont say i know alot about stds, but what is there difference between going bareback and oral sex with no protection? so someone will swallow a guys cum but wont do bareback?

surely you can still catch what ever they have orally, and there is a virus that gives men throat cancer from oral sex but cant be stopped with a pill that women get for free but men dont.

All im saying is if you say about bareback oral sex must come into it to"

There is a risk with all sexual contact.. however oral without protection is considerably lower than bareback sex..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must admit though...I'd love to meet you all in the gum clinic, fresh clean certificates of good health in hands for a massive worry free gangbang "

*waves certificate* I'm free!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and the chestnut that is "I can control myself".

"

I've had that one a few times or they ask if I'm on the pill, men seem to only worry about a woman getting pregnant and forget the main reason they need to cover up

Until they are crying like a bitch over their drippy willy and the umbrella up their japseye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ever seen what's written on the bottom of a condom?

Obviously not been rolling it back far enough!

Lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

anyone can ask, you choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always play safe and even then I test every three months

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

The only safe sex is to delete your account and not have sex with strangers

Everything else is unsafe, in that even sex with a condom is a risk (HPV can be transmitted even without the condom failing)

So the slightly naive _iew of some they are fine because they block accounts of people with bareback pics is concerning

There are degrees of risk, protected oral sex being very low risk up to unprotected anal sex with blood transfer being very high risk

But at the end of day virtually everyone here, by choosing to be here, has chosen to take a risk, it's where you draw your personal line that determines how much risk you take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they only wanted you to take your shirt off?

Haha! Maybe. I should clarify that with them right away could be a fuss over nothing "

id want your shirt off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they only wanted you to take your shirt off?

Haha! Maybe. I should clarify that with them right away could be a fuss over nothing

id want your shirt off "

How disgusting, taking your clothes off and everything!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I knew a guy years ago who split his foreskin having a wank. He bled like a ... whatever!

So tell me again what exactly is safe sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I knew a guy years ago who split his foreskin having a wank. He bled like a ... whatever!

So tell me again what exactly is safe sex?"

ouch

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

I think an awful lot of people , and I include myself in this, have at some point got carried a way in a moment of utter passion and done the deed bareback. We are after all human, and we don't always get it right.

My _iew is I try to always get it right and be safe. But this hobby does carry its risks . But so does buying a kebab from the local take away or driving on a foggy night......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think an awful lot of people , and I include myself in this, have at some point got carried a way in a moment of utter passion and done the deed bareback. We are after all human, and we don't always get it right.

My _iew is I try to always get it right and be safe. But this hobby does carry its risks . But so does buying a kebab from the local take away or driving on a foggy night......"
spot on x

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By *exiSlutBabeWoman
over a year ago

Stoke

There is of course no such thing as safe sex.

There is of course no way of guaranteeing crossing the road without being run over.

The answer is to minimise the risk, condoms help with that.

Condoms and common sense, if I am going to meet someone I check the "safe sex" is on their interests, if not I will not meet, I just block the person and their verification people, if I see a profile that says "love bareback" I block them and their friends and their verification list.

At a club I ask a guy if he has a condom, if not I will not have sex with him, to come into a room expecting sex with me without carrying one is a danger signal, if they have one, I wont use it, I take my own, there are too many men with fantasies about getting a stranger pregnant but at least if he was carrying one it is a positive sign.

Sure I may miss out sometime but by eliminating the risks I feel more comfortable with what I do

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By *exiSlutBabeWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"The only safe sex is to delete your account and not have sex with strangers

Everything else is unsafe, in that even sex with a condom is a risk (HPV can be transmitted even without the condom failing)

So the slightly naive _iew of some they are fine because they block accounts of people with bareback pics is concerning

There are degrees of risk, protected oral sex being very low risk up to unprotected anal sex with blood transfer being very high risk

But at the end of day virtually everyone here, by choosing to be here, has chosen to take a risk, it's where you draw your personal line that determines how much risk you take "

Everyone here ? are people in nightclubs safer ? are those that pay for sex safer ? are those that date or have one night stands safer ?

I agree with what you say but find that those in the swinging scene are far more aware of the risks than many outside the scene. Partially due to threads like this

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"The only safe sex is to delete your account and not have sex with strangers

Everything else is unsafe, in that even sex with a condom is a risk (HPV can be transmitted even without the condom failing)

So the slightly naive _iew of some they are fine because they block accounts of people with bareback pics is concerning

There are degrees of risk, protected oral sex being very low risk up to unprotected anal sex with blood transfer being very high risk

But at the end of day virtually everyone here, by choosing to be here, has chosen to take a risk, it's where you draw your personal line that determines how much risk you take "

Very true.

We (nearly) always insist on "safe" sex, however we have a couple that have become quite close friends with and we see (and shag) them quite regularly. After a while and a long conversation we now do bareback with them, but only with them, and we believe that they do the same. We go to clubs together regularly and (like us) they always play "safe" with other couples and guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now now ladies dont be falling out

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire


"The only safe sex is to delete your account and not have sex with strangers

Everything else is unsafe, in that even sex with a condom is a risk (HPV can be transmitted even without the condom failing)

So the slightly naive _iew of some they are fine because they block accounts of people with bareback pics is concerning

There are degrees of risk, protected oral sex being very low risk up to unprotected anal sex with blood transfer being very high risk

But at the end of day virtually everyone here, by choosing to be here, has chosen to take a risk, it's where you draw your personal line that determines how much risk you take

Everyone here ? are people in nightclubs safer ? are those that pay for sex safer ? are those that date or have one night stands safer ?

I agree with what you say but find that those in the swinging scene are far more aware of the risks than many outside the scene. Partially due to threads like this "

I absolutely didn't mean, or say, people having d*unken one nighters in nightclubs are safer

I said that by choosing this lifestyle we, as independently minded people have chosen to take a risk, not that we are only group that chooses to take a risk or there aren't others who take more risks

And I would agree there are a lot of intelligent and very sensible people on here who are as careful and risk averse as you can be within this lifestyle

It just concerns me that some people seem to be under the impression they are taking no risks and others are where as its nowhere near as simple as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The naivety of those that think that because someone 'says' they 'always' play safe means that they actually do 'always' play safe is quite bemusing.

We take every meet at face value, always have done and always will

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By *ubberdollieWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"The naivety of those that think that because someone 'says' they 'always' play safe means that they actually do 'always' play safe is quite bemusing.

We take every meet at face value, always have done and always will "

This echoes what I said before, anyone can say safe sex only. I've said it but I admitted I have cocked it up before, so to speak !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am actually finding this a lot lately; one who declined a play meet with me as he suddenly developed gout and another who assured me that he safe yet 30 mins earlier had been agreeing with me how bad some were not to respect my wishes

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By *ob_nwMan
over a year ago

Cumbria


"But at the end of day virtually everyone here, by choosing to be here, has chosen to take a risk, it's where you draw your personal line that determines how much risk you take

Everyone here ? are people in nightclubs safer ? are those that pay for sex safer ? are those that date or have one night stands safer ?

I agree with what you say but find that those in the swinging scene are far more aware of the risks than many outside the scene. Partially due to threads like this "

i would think working girls who make a living out of sex, would be very careful and look after them selfs, the same as most on here know the risks. not many seem to worry about unprotected oral sex ! this is a very easy way to get infected.

I know the risks, and choose how best to stay as safe as I can, thats my choice, I am not here to judge any one,it's up to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't do bb and are shocked that fully grown adults do it and obviously don't hold there health very highly.

We let them get on with it. They won't think it's a very good idea when they wake up one morning and there cock has turned a funny colour and fell off.

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"

I would frankly be gobsmacked if there is anyone on this site who can honestly claim not to have had unsafe sex at some point in their life

"

Me! I have never done bareback in my life. Don't feel I have missed out at all - what you have never had you never miss lol. I still go for regular checks though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wanted you to RIDE A HORSE???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no way play it safe

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I don't understand why people risk their lives jumping out of perfectly good aeroplanes or climbing up high things with no ropes but they still do it and that is their business!

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By *exiSlutBabeWoman
over a year ago

Stoke


"I don't understand why people risk their lives jumping out of perfectly good aeroplanes or climbing up high things with no ropes but they still do it and that is their business!"

That is personal choice, jumping out of an airplane or climbing a mountain rarely puts any body else at risk, however barebacking without declaring that you do it does put others at risk, and there are many on here that do that.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"I don't understand why people risk their lives jumping out of perfectly good aeroplanes or climbing up high things with no ropes but they still do it and that is their business!

That is personal choice, jumping out of an airplane or climbing a mountain rarely puts any body else at risk, however barebacking without declaring that you do it does put others at risk, and there are many on here that do that."

Without declaring I totally agree, but to the OP it was declared so he could make that choice. I do not bareback either, just pointing out that it is up to the individuals concerned what risks they wish to take.

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By *hropshire irishMan
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Oh and the chestnut that is "I can control myself".

I've had that one a few times or they ask if I'm on the pill, men seem to only worry about a woman getting pregnant and forget the main reason they need to cover up

Until they are crying like a bitch over their drippy willy and the umbrella up their japseye "

I forget which radio station it was but they went out on the street asking these young people, mostly lads, if they used protection and the reason if they didn't... it was scary listening to them

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to clubs and condoms are normal though many couples don't. \We have had private meets with couples and condoms are rare. We have met single guys and very few wrap up automatically.

We chose to use condoms when we want to and don't use when we want to. Its a personal choice and its a free country - feel free to delete us from your friends list if you don't agree.

But I challenge anyone who says condoms are better than bareback - male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if ur a full-blown swinger bareback is retarded at best

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By *obb2upCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

most guys given the choice would cum in a ladys mouth and think nothing of it

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

I met a woman who tried to con me into going bareback

the first time we met the sex was great (with condoms) and she to me that i was the best thing

just before the second meet (30 mins)

it was going to be in a group she claimed that she didn't have any condoms i said that i'd bring some,then claimed that she was allergic to latex and that her son had used up all of her laytex free condoms

my answer: no condoms no play she said that she would get some from the garage so that was ok

when i got to the venue it was just the 3 of us and good fun was had all round i had a quick look at the condom box and surprise surprise laytex condoms

the week before i was the best thing with loads of texts sorting out meets Then the texts very quickly dried up

Now i wonder why that happened ????

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

I fell of the bed while fucking and got a very nasty bruise .I guess thats not practicing safe sexy lol

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By *heltenmanMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

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By *heltenmanMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I don't understand why people risk their lives jumping out of perfectly good aeroplanes or climbing up high things with no ropes but they still do it and that is their business!

That is personal choice, jumping out of an airplane or climbing a mountain rarely puts any body else at risk, however barebacking without declaring that you do it does put others at risk, and there are many on here that do that."

Absolutely. I'm honest about it, I won't wear them and I state that on my profile so no-one is misled or expecting different.

If it means a few swivel-eyed women or couples block me from the start, that's fine - I wouldn't have met them in any case if they only do covered.

As a few on this thread have stated (and yet many seemingly fail to grasp) this is a matter of choice for the individual, nothing more. I've never smoked in my life and never would, but I certainly wouldn't go round ranting at smokers about how they'll all likely get lung disease, cancer etc from their chosen lifestyle (much higher statistical risk as well, by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand why people would risk their health and even think of it. Obviously no was my answer but some people...

Here we go once again

Its a website for adults who are free to do what they wish to do.

If you dont like bareback or trannies or fat people or slim people or.... whatever then don't.

"

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've been asked to do bareback, I don't but it hasn't stopped me playing with the folk who asked...I take responsibility for my sexual health by wrapping up for penetrative sex (including toys), calculated risk for uncovered oral and quarterly tests...I do wonder if those who prefer BB would change their minds were they to receive a positive result at the clap clinic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They ask - you refuse. End of. Why the post?

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

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By *laclkguyMan
over a year ago

Pontefract

I think that it's each to their own

but everyone should be up front and not try to mislead people at the last moment as i've found in the past:

you meet up and: A no condoms or B when you produce yours the girl has an allergy to laytex that she forgot to mention and coincidently her son has just used up the last of her laytex free ones

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