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Importance of kissing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've had a number of meets with different women and always really enjoyed the experience. The sensation of kissing and touching is such an important part. I had a a lunchtime play date today with a woman from another site that have been conversing with for sometime. She gave me oral and took her from behind. But she wouldn't let me touch her in any other way and absolutely no kissing. This has unnerved me as couldn't wait to get away. I think without the touching and kissing its just not good. What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This was talked about recently in another thread.

For me, kissing is essential both before, during and after.

It was clear though that others found it too intimate and wanted to save it for their partner. It's not my cup of tea but each to their own

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By *artinichilled1TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

For me theres no point in meeting if you cant kiss and cuddle in a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think kissing and touching is paramount to the experience! Too many women watch Pretty Woman methinks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm so glad it's not just me

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

It's like ground-hog day around here!

No, I don't agree that without kissing 'it's not good' ... it depends on preferences and how you play. We enjoy playing with bi guys and group fun - kissing isn't on the agenda as we don't need intimacy.

Perhaps make sure of what the boundaries are BEFORE agreeing to play in future - then you're less likely to come away disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's like ground-hog day around here!

No, I don't agree that without kissing 'it's not good' ... it depends on preferences and how you play. We enjoy playing with bi guys and group fun - kissing isn't on the agenda as we

Perhaps make sure of what the boundaries are BEFORE agreeing to play in future - then you're less likely to come away disappointed."

Yeah what's right for one doesn't hit it for another.

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"

What's right for one doesn't hit it for another. "

... and that should be the mantra for swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing new partners in our swinging fun and lots of it is essential to us both !

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't meet if there was no kissing. That's what turns me on in the first place. Didn't you discuss likes and dislikes before meeting? If I met a man and he said after I got there that there was no kissing, I'd probably leave.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet if there was no kissing. That's what turns me on in the first place. Didn't you discuss likes and dislikes before meeting? If I met a man and he said after I got there that there was no kissing, I'd probably leave. "

We did discuss things and on the social meet everything was great. But yesterday was totally not like we had discussed. I've felt bad about it but did leave early after about 15 mins. Fuck and go some people's cup of tea but not mine. I'm very tactile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes has to be plenty of kissing and foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet if there was no kissing. That's what turns me on in the first place. Didn't you discuss likes and dislikes before meeting? If I met a man and he said after I got there that there was no kissing, I'd probably leave.

We did discuss things and on the social meet everything was great. But yesterday was totally not like we had discussed. I've felt bad about it but did leave early after about 15 mins. Fuck and go some people's cup of tea but not mine. I'm very tactile. "

You shouldn't feel bad, if she changed the 'boundaries' for want of a better word without telling you, then it was hardly your fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is most important part for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we kiss,i mean kissing normally starts it all off. Talking,flirting,kissing etc...you wouldnt just zip,lob fuck would ya lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"kissing isn't on the agenda as we don't need intimacy.

Perhaps make sure of what the boundaries are BEFORE agreeing to play in future - then you're less likely to come away disappointed."

This but I do insist on a cuddle afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god I need kisses. It would be mechanical and cold without them.

I always say kisses open the flood gates.. Without it.. I'm just not 'that' turned on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god I need kisses. It would be mechanical and cold without them.

I always say kisses open the flood gates.. Without it.. I'm just not 'that' turned on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a local couple (who aren't members anymore). Chatted for quite a while before hand and was really looking forward to the meet. After a chat and a drink at their house we got down to business. I went in for a kiss and she said "sorry I don't do that", I went to remove her basque and she said "sorry, I don't get undressed". The sex was good (well I enjoyed it) but I was a little embarrassed because of the "I don't do that". Having to say sorry during sex is not a good thing ha ha

I was surprised it had never come up in any conversation before. If I had known I would have avoided it.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Yep love the kissing. Mwah. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we kiss,i mean kissing normally starts it all off. Talking,flirting,kissing etc...you wouldnt just zip,lob fuck would ya lol

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I have in fact it was how most of my verifications on my single profile came about...I kiss Lee and will kiss a little on meets together. But if I met alone I wouldn't.. it doesn't do it for me..

Kissing Lee is great.. it totally gets me going.. but mostly. I find kissing a chore.. love watching Lee kiss others though.

How the op describes is how I met successfully for many years as a single. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my.... Couldn't think of anything worse than not kissing! It is so sexy, tongues and kisses are so different from different people too. Kissing is a real turn on for me, to be honest not sure how aroused I would get without it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.... Couldn't think of anything worse than not kissing! It is so sexy, tongues and kisses are so different from different people too. Kissing is a real turn on for me, to be honest not sure how aroused I would get without it x "

+1 And a cuddle after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh god I need kisses. It would be mechanical and cold without them.

I always say kisses open the flood gates.. Without it.. I'm just not 'that' turned on..

"

This is so true.......

Flirting, kissing are a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.... Couldn't think of anything worse than not kissing! It is so sexy, tongues and kisses are so different from different people too. Kissing is a real turn on for me, to be honest not sure how aroused I would get without it x

+1 And a cuddle after"

Why on earth would you cuddle a meet after.. sorry can almost see the point on kissing but cuddling after... No no no... Not for a meet.

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By *ixxxWoman
over a year ago

London


"For me theres no point in meeting if you cant kiss and cuddle in a meet."

kiss - YES!

cuddle - hell no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me theres no point in meeting if you cant kiss and cuddle in a meet.

kiss - YES!

cuddle - hell no"

Glad it's not just me. Lol I do with my regular playmate... But not with a meet..

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By *ittle nelWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside


"For me theres no point in meeting if you cant kiss and cuddle in a meet.

kiss - YES!

cuddle - hell no

Glad it's not just me. Lol I do with my regular playmate... But not with a meet.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do these sort of threads always turn into people questioning what others do? Some do some don't. Let's just accept.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a number of meets with different women and always really enjoyed the experience. The sensation of kissing and touching is such an important part. I had a a lunchtime play date today with a woman from another site that have been conversing with for sometime. She gave me oral and took her from behind. But she wouldn't let me touch her in any other way and absolutely no kissing. This has unnerved me as couldn't wait to get away. I think without the touching and kissing its just not good. What do you think? "

I agree. I once met a guy from here who would only fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these sort of threads always turn into people questioning what others do? Some do some don't. Let's just accept..... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do these sort of threads always turn into people questioning what others do? Some do some don't. Let's just accept.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

long passionate kissing for me is part of foreplay... I would find it extremely difficult not to kiss its something I do automatically without thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg how hollow would a sexual meet be withoit kissing !

Kissing is the very best part

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Of course people should agree boundaries beforehand, but for people who don't like kissing during play, should the onus be on them to state that?

Must confess, it wouldn't even occur to us to ask if kissing was not okay at a meet, it's such a natural and essential part of the experience...which could be embarrassing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course people should agree boundaries beforehand, but for people who don't like kissing during play, should the onus be on them to state that?

Must confess, it wouldn't even occur to us to ask if kissing was not okay at a meet, it's such a natural and essential part of the experience...which could be embarrassing!"
absolutly perfectly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of the frowned upon opening email of "fancy a fuck"...what about "fancy a snog?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for those of us that don't really do foreplay we don't see the issues..

I am mostly here for what I want... When I play alone, I don't want any foreplay or kissing.. as a couple it's different. But I prefer to watch kissing.. and still nearly always suck cock as the first thing lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my.... Couldn't think of anything worse than not kissing! It is so sexy, tongues and kisses are so different from different people too. Kissing is a real turn on for me, to be honest not sure how aroused I would get without it x "

Each to their own, personally, I LOVE kissing, and make it clear beforehand that it is an essential part.

Also, if the kissing isn't right on the social meet, then it goes no further.

Personal choice!

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