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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I'm interested to meet a submissive woman but just wondering How many people have found such ladies to play with. I appreciate it will take a few meets to build the trust up as no one is going to let you tie them up the first time you meet

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

Well, I'm happy to be tied up on a meet and can often found tied and blindfolded before they even get into the room. I feel secure in this because I always have hubby there to help out and join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to meet submissive women then get active on your local kink/fet scene. Be pro-active and don't rely on a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I was very lucky to meet my partner

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"If you want to meet submissive women then get active on your local kink/fet scene. Be pro-active and don't rely on a swingers site "

This and there are specific websites for this.

Also whilst i enjoy being tied up and have had a meet or two with me tied, it would take a lot of talking/meeting for me to trust and feel safe enough for someone to tie me up on my own without the Mr there. Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I appreciate that the trust has to be built up first. I would happily meet a couple as obviously this would make for a more comfortable situation with the lady's partner there. Just need to find one now I guess

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Well you are quite clear what you will get out of it, but what does she get out of it she couldn't get from a hundred others?

Not personal criticism just pointing out that you need to have a Unique Selling Point to generate interest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Unfortunately there's probably 100s of guys like me. So I doubt I'll stand out. When it's her turn I am attentive and I get pleasure out of knowing I've made someone climax. I'm not selfish all the time

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm a very submissive woman (with the right person) but to be honest, I wouldn't meet someone who only wants to play at it - which is (maybe wrongly) how your profile sounds to me.

I like men who are definitely Dom, not just more dom than sub. Its about what works for me.

You might find a lady into roleplay would like it more than a submissive woman.

I also wouldn't trust anyone I met on here to fulfil that role in my life for me. Its about trust and background as well as the physical side of things.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

With my situation ie the dreaded married I can't dedicate as much time as I'd like to one person so it can't be a full time lifestyle for me

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

With having a young son, I am not submissive in my day-to-day life... its just not possible for me, but when I am with my partner, I am submissive to him, so when we are sexually available to each other, I submit, other times, we have a normal relationship.

I would suggest that perhaps you request someone who is willing to submit sexually, but accepts that you have other life issues outwith that time that mean you cannot do it full time.

Its not for me to sub to a married man, as I don't feel I would be his full focus as he'd always be worrying about the time for getting back to the wife, or the excuses he has to keep in his mind to cover our time together. My submission is too special to me to be a dirty little secret... and I love being covertly submissive when we are out and about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as has already been said the trust is the key thing here...and taking a sub isnt something you can or should do lightly. If you are looking for kinky play with a submissive woman (as your situation probably only allows for that) just be up front on your profile and dont greet submissve woman who messages you with a kneel bitch response!

Communication is key..sounds like you know that though..good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to pick up on your point about 1000s of men like you. Yes there are,like there were my first Dominant messaging me on here but the way he hooked me a long while ago was by being respectful, honest and knowing what he was talking about. Blindly messaging a woman who has sub on her profile isn't going to grab her attention, finding something in common whether that be through pictures or profile text helps. My first Dominant was good at that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice Ruby much appreciated but yes not randomly trying to pick anyone that mentions sub. Ideally want a heavily tattood one but then that's picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice Ruby much appreciated but yes not randomly trying to pick anyone that mentions sub. Ideally want a heavily tattood one but then that's picky "

There's nothing wrong with being picky. I'm incredibly picky, its one of the reasons I'm so very single and without a Dominant. What I would say is a D/s relationship is never nsa for the submissive. I stupidly fell for my married Dominant. I would totally agree with what crystalwheels said, but I imagine you wouldn't be able to go to munches.

You are going to struggle but if its what you want then don't stop searching until you get what you want. That's what I'm doing, ling out the shit so to speak.

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Firstly I am sorry if my previous post sounded negative, it wasn't meant to be. My point was you need to make yourself real to anybody you approach. So get a picture. It doesn't need to be a full face anybody who knows you would recognise you one. Just an interesting picture that might intrigue or provoke conversation.

Fill out your profile honestly but with some interesting things about you that might make a potential playmate think they would like you.

Offer added value. The fact your sufficiently endowed and know how to use it will be assumed or verified beforehand but as you said that's nothing special, so why you? Perhaps you could show interest or ability in an allied or complementary skill. Perhaps some basic rope skills? It is easy enough to learn how to tie for sex, you don't have to be a wizened Shibari master for that, and a little bit of sensual bondage works wonders at illiciting a nice head space in the submissive.

Most Dom/mes are a bit geeky, proud of their skillset and will often be happy to teach you things. There are also rope rope workshops and classes all over the UK but there are other sites where you are more likely to find them listed

You may need to invest up front in this part of your life. Be patient and realistic in your search criteria and you will be successful.

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By *ittle nelWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Firstly I am sorry if my previous post sounded negative, it wasn't meant to be. My point was you need to make yourself real to anybody you approach. So get a picture. It doesn't need to be a full face anybody who knows you would recognise you one. Just an interesting picture that might intrigue or provoke conversation.

Fill out your profile honestly but with some interesting things about you that might make a potential playmate think they would like you.

Offer added value. The fact your sufficiently endowed and know how to use it will be assumed or verified beforehand but as you said that's nothing special, so why you? Perhaps you could show interest or ability in an allied or complementary skill. Perhaps some basic rope skills? It is easy enough to learn how to tie for sex, you don't have to be a wizened Shibari master for that, and a little bit of sensual bondage works wonders at illiciting a nice head space in the submissive.

Most Dom/mes are a bit geeky, proud of their skillset and will often be happy to teach you things. There are also rope rope workshops and classes all over the UK but there are other sites where you are more likely to find them listed

You may need to invest up front in this part of your life. Be patient and realistic in your search criteria and you will be successful."

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