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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you should spend more time chatting on fab/phone beforehand , other option is booking the hotel on the same night with your meet in person so then they have to give you half the costs . Another option is if u accommodate instead of the hotel !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should stick to your plan of going halves ... and if the guy doesn't want to go along with you, find another guy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you should stick to your plan of going halves ... and if the guy doesn't want to go along with you, find another guy x "

i carnt afford to be out of pocket though. and i dont get meets that easily

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?"

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

people you meet on a regular basis, you book one time, they book the next... share any risk of cancellation

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked."

Stick to your guns then. I am in the same position and it does mean less meets, but the understanding guys tend to be the lovelier ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think you should spend more time chatting on fab/phone beforehand , other option is booking the hotel on the same night with your meet in person so then they have to give you half the costs . Another option is if u accommodate instead of the hotel !"

I chat on fab and some have been for a few months before and they still let me down. accommodating is not an option as i have a teenager in the house.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked.

Stick to your guns then. I am in the same position and it does mean less meets, but the understanding guys tend to be the lovelier ones."

i have spoke to some really nice guys but they turn out to be not so nice

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I always insist that we pay cash on the day once we get there. I too cannot afford the risk of someone not turning up or paying up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"people you meet on a regular basis, you book one time, they book the next... share any risk of cancellation"

If only lol. I struggle to get a first meet let alone a regular

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always insist that we pay cash on the day once we get there. I too cannot afford the risk of someone not turning up or paying up"

think that would be a good option for me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most hotels are cheaper to book in advance then pay on the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked.

Stick to your guns then. I am in the same position and it does mean less meets, but the understanding guys tend to be the lovelier ones.

i have spoke to some really nice guys but they turn out to be not so nice "

Why not ask the man to book the hotel, and pay your share.

If he declines, then you know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Most hotels are cheaper to book in advance then pay on the day "

rather pay a bit extra on my half than paying the full cost

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked.

Stick to your guns then. I am in the same position and it does mean less meets, but the understanding guys tend to be the lovelier ones.

i have spoke to some really nice guys but they turn out to be not so nice

Why not ask the man to book the hotel, and pay your share.

If he declines, then you know where you stand."

I have tried that and seen myself blocked

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Most hotels are cheaper to book in advance then pay on the day

rather pay a bit extra on my half than paying the full cost"

Why not meet for a drink... and all going well just get a hotel then for that same day / night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i had to pay half the money for a hotel i dont think id bother, might as well pay a rent boy and get exactly what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My advice is don't do what you don't want to do. If its going to put you in financial distress then tell them. I assume you always pay your own half if they pay in advance?

yes i pay half if thats what we agreed before the room was booked.

Stick to your guns then. I am in the same position and it does mean less meets, but the understanding guys tend to be the lovelier ones.

i have spoke to some really nice guys but they turn out to be not so nice

Why not ask the man to book the hotel, and pay your share.

If he declines, then you know where you stand.

I have tried that and seen myself blocked"

At least that way your not out of pocket. And it's bad manners to block you.

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By *.BrooksMan
over a year ago

Blackwood

I think they may ask you to book and say they will give you half when you meet because they have faced the problems if being out of pocket when someone cancels on them. Why not set up a PayPal account and get them to send you half the cost and tell you will email them confirmation of the booking if they aren't willing to do that then they obviously aren't genuine in the first place and aren't worth meeting. You also won't be out of pocket by as much.

Might be worth a try ?

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

We meet a couple..we share...we meet a single female..we pay..simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a mystery to me how this sexy lady is not getting regular meets with gentleman that stick to there word . Pic collectors are bad enough but actually arranging a meet and not turning up after this lovely lady has paid for a hotel is pathetic. Rant over hope you find some naughty gentlemen hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run a mile sounds like married playing away to me. It's obliviously yours to decide just think about it. You could always do a social first and get the contribution up front first. It wouldn't bother me if you asked for my share up front. But I'd have booked the hotel myself or taken you back to mine to be honest. Really what's wrong with these guys.

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

If they want to meet you at a hotel then they should pay for it themselves. If YOU want to pay halves after the meet that's up to you but they shouldn't expect you to pay.

We do a lot of hotel meets and we've NEVER asked anyone to pay to meet us there. We book the room, we invite the guys and we just want them to show up. Charging them would be a bit cheeky we think.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Personally I like to make the hotel booking as I feel more comfortable that way. Mainly because the booking is then in my name, and if anything goes badly I can just kick the sod out of the room

I don't often meet in hotels anyway and generally only with people I have met before like at a social. I have never had a problem with them not paying their share or paying in another way like them getting dinner or something (if we have dinner/drinks that is).

I would never agree to a hotel with someone I have not met before in some way or another anyway. Because I don't know if I want to shag them or not unless I have met them in person.

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm of the _iew that whoever suggests the meet should, if they're unable to accommodate, at least make/ pay for the hotel booking.

Who ends up paying what share is negotiable between adults on the basis of who can afford what £ that week.

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By *adrewMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

If its a first time meet get them to pay if they do then you know they are genuine don't pay for anything let them book and pay then you pay half x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If thy block u then uv had a luky escape I always meet socially 1st as sumone who chats nice n looks gud on ther pics not b n I once put myself in a really bad predicament which I will never do again if thy wont meet socially first then my suspicions are on alert as it shudnt really be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

"

I would never book a hotel in advance for someone I had never met, even if they did turn up what if you didn't click and didn't want to play? is he still going to give you half if you don't want to shag him? I doubt it

I would only book a room in advance if it was someone I had met before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most hotels are cheaper to book in advance then pay on the day

rather pay a bit extra on my half than paying the full cost

Why not meet for a drink... and all going well just get a hotel then for that same day / night"

This rarely book a hotel in advance now.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'll occasionally book hotels and arrange socials only if I'm going to be in that area for example on a shopping trip (if the elders grant me permission to leave Arse End)...I've then got the opportunity of meeting and possibly clicking with someone (in which case, I'd expect them to fork out for a bite to eat/drinks if we decide to play), but if we don't click then it's separate ways, no hard feelings and I'm there anyway...

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By *ecal1Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

"

There are many more men looking to play tahn women, so you have the upper hand, if they are not prepared to book the hotel and you happy to pay half when you arrive , look elsewhere. On this site would not dream of asking the woman to pay and book hotel !!!!

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Why not ask the man to book the hotel, and pay your share.

If he declines, then you know where you stand.

I have tried that and seen myself blocked"

Surepy that tells you all you need to know about them then? I'd think you'd had a lucky escape!

It may very well be cheaper to book in advance online but if there is no guarantee you won't be out of pocket then you have to decide whether it's worth it.

Personally, me and Vince would meet them at a bar nearby and then pay cash when we get there.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Why not set up a PayPal account and get them to send you half the cost and tell you will email them confirmation of the booking if they aren't willing to do that then they obviously aren't genuine in the first place and aren't worth meeting. "

A Pay pal account? For Fab meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for your safety and well being, always meet a stranger on neutral territory, before considering spending time alone with him/ her in a hotel room. Bad breath, copious amounts of wind, poor hygiene, no chemistry, anything may happen to put you off, once you have booked and paid for a hotel, you have made a financial commitment, and may go ahead with the meet just to get your money back or half of it.

I suggest using a travel lodge or motorway lodge, the staff are use to last minute bookings for travellers, and you can meet in the café area, before making a commitment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shake it off laugh out loud and get on with fab.

Obviously thay was timewasters or would turn up and say they'd got money on them and though you fall for it but you didn't so thay got pissed off with you and blocked you from what I can make out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people you meet on a regular basis, you book one time, they book the next... share any risk of cancellation

If only lol. I struggle to get a first meet let alone a regular "

How are you struggling to get a first meet your beautiful I'll meet you and go halves for a hotel with you and I'd say we pay on the day when we get there

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

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In the event the lady has booked the hotel in her name, I've used Paypal (or bank transfer) to send my half ahead. Works well for me.. with logistics out of the way two nawty adults can get down to enjoying the _iews the hotel has to offer

And that's in the event the person can't come all the way to mine (ie, halfway) as I can accomodate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if i had to pay half the money for a hotel i dont think id bother, might as well pay a rent boy and get exactly what you want. "

Yep! With you on that one!!

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By *HAEDRUS2013Man
over a year ago

LONDON


"im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

"

Please stick to your guns! Going halves is only fair. The ones who would complain are 1. tight 2. timewasters 3. not worth your time for other reasons lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get them to meet in advance for a quick social to give you their share then you both share the risk if its a no show and you can get a cheaper room in advance. This has worked for me many times and if they cant make the effort they aren't worth the meet. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them u aint got a card to pay for it and make them pay on theres they prob cant as wife may see the bill so you would catch out the cheaters to that way but if they do pay and you want to pay half then give it to them on the day

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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fair play to bbwbabe and the rest of the ones in hear that go dutch as having been burnt before I find if we both can't accom, when I mention booking a hotel most women are up for it until you confirm that we go halves then they go cold in the idea. As woman can afford to be choosy as so many men on here a lot are arrogant to think we men should be lucky to get the opportunity so we should foot the entire bill!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im all for going halves on hotel costs, but cannot affors the full cost.

Have been asked by guys to book and pay for hotel and they would pay half there share when they meet.

would be happy with that but would have to take there share of costs from my bill money. After being let down so many times very recently im worried they will cancel and i will be stuck with the hotel costs. I have been blocked because i wouldnt book the hotel. what advice would you give me?

I would never book a hotel in advance for someone I had never met, even if they did turn up what if you didn't click and didn't want to play? is he still going to give you half if you don't want to shag him? I doubt it

I would only book a room in advance if it was someone I had met before "

This.

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