FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting Insecure Couples

By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

On occasion i've had meets with couples where it was obvious the wife's heart wasn't in it and others where the couple spent the whole time bickering with each other. Don't know if its just me lol but has this happened to anyone else?

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

If get any sort of inkling one half of the couple (M or F) is not into it I do not meet them.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"If get any sort of inkling one half of the couple (M or F) is not into it I do not meet them. "

Me too, but sometimes you only get a inkling when you actually meet them.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

We have Bern in several situations where couples get into arguments (social occasions at clubs not meets) we are starting go wonder if we are abnormal because we font argue when we go to clubs lol

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"We have Bern in several situations where couples get into arguments (social occasions at clubs not meets) we are starting go wonder if we are abnormal because we font argue when we go to clubs lol "

I'm surprised this happens in clubs too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always have a social meet first, as you can tell quite a bit from body language and how a couple interact with each other, if there are any signs that things arent quite right we wouldnt continue with the meet! We have also seen the insecurities of some couples played out in clubs and that's not a pretty scene at all!

We are happy to say that we have never had any insecurities and wouldn't meet a couple that had!

Where would the fun be in that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me once when I was playing on my own (ms here) and I joined a MF couple for a mff. To cut a longish story short, the other female threw a massive jealous bitch fit so I made a sharp exit. Learnt a valuable lesson there! Ms

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

Oh yes back when we accomodated we had a meet where she was well into it and he didnt seem to be but wanted to direct Sir and me and what we got up to. After we gave up as we werent comfortable with this Sir went to the bathroom and they started having a huge domestic in my house about how he was just not happy as she got all the attention and he just didnt get it. They left fab shortly after. We have also seen couples fighting in clubs when one of them gets jealous of the fun the other one is having in a public room. Nothing less sexy than trying to have some fun and hearing a bickering couple going on about how one if them is a using the other just so they can have fun with other people and leave them out. It does seem quite common lately. We just remember faces and then avoid at all costs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me last week in a club. I was just talkjng to the guy as friends as he was nice to me when I first came - and the gf came back with a face like thunder ! He was at that point JUST telling me how jealous she was that he had even spoken to me last time - and she heard him ! ... Queue row and I made a fast exit lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We recently meet a couple socially and hit it off very well on a social level. Had a great time out and we felt good about making their acquaintance. Found out afterwards that they had a massive argument once we went our separate ways. I think a lot of couple make the mistake of not talking honestly about potential scenarios that could arise in swinging.

There are a lot of misconceptions about swinging. When we first started exploring the lifestyle we made friends with a man who was a lot more experienced. He told us that although it is the ultimate male fantasy this was a women run lifestyle. If the women aren't happy no one is happy and that alot of times that doesn't sit well with the husbands of new couples.

It also seems that even when both want to play and enjoy themselves they dont want their partner to actually have fun. I find that so odd and a bit selfish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had meet where they both downed a lot of booze to calm their nerves before we went to their place to play. The play was ok until he suddenly told her to suck me off so I could go.

When she had done so she insisted I had a tea before I left and she acted quite affectionately towards me. I could see he was seathing and left as fast as was polite. Next day I was blocked. Very uncomfortable!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We always meet socially and you can usually tell if there are issues bit not always. The woman who snatched her hand away when A laid his next to hers on the table, the woman who stepped back when he went to peck her on the cheek, the guy who kept on that he found it all a bit odd, the guy who implied that he wouldn't normally do this sort of thing, the woman who drank at least ten vodkas just to get through a social.....I'm sure you get the picture. You can't always tell though and we did have one very uncomfortable encounter where halfway through the proceedings it became clear that the woman didn't want any part of what was going on.

Be honest with yourself first then be just as honest with your partner.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I should add that we got messages from all the above couples saying they wanted to take things further.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"We recently meet a couple socially and hit it off very well on a social level. Had a great time out and we felt good about making their acquaintance. Found out afterwards that they had a massive argument once we went our separate ways. I think a lot of couple make the mistake of not talking honestly about potential scenarios that could arise in swinging.

It also seems that even when both want to play and enjoy themselves they dont want their partner to actually have fun. I find that so odd and a bit selfish.

I've also known couples where it was his.idea and she took some persuading but once they started she loved it and he realised that it didn't live up to the fantasy.

The problem then being that he wanted to stop but after spending so long pestering and persuading her he didn't know how to say "this swinging lark that I practically bullied you into trying, I don't actually like it so even though you are having the time of your life can we stop please?"

The main reason I don't play with attached men even with their partners permission and encouragement is that I've been caught up in the middle of some weird couple dynamics and the interloper usually gets the worst of it!

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

A few years back I was contacted by the female half of a couple who's husband wanted to watch her with another guy

After quite a bit of correspondence, which he was only initially involved with, it transpired that their's was a marriage in trouble (violence, bullying etc) and it was something the husband had been pressuring her to do for years

We eventually met without his knowledge and she had such a great time she said she cried on her way home as she'd never had sex where her needs were the focus

Lost contact over the years but I hope she eventually dumped his sorry ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also seems that even when both want to play and enjoy themselves they dont want their partner to actually have fun. I find that so odd and a bit selfish.

I've also known couples where it was his.idea and she took some persuading but once they started she loved it and he realised that it didn't live up to the fantasy.

I have heard this happens a lot. Even though its the mans idea sometimes its the women who take to it much more easily. My opinion is that men who do this aren't really secure with themselves and want to have a threesome to boost their own ego and bragging rights. As soon as they see their wife enjoying it or getting more attention they want to call it quits. Not fair at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On occasion i've had meets with couples where it was obvious the wife's heart wasn't in it and others where the couple spent the whole time bickering with each other. Don't know if its just me lol but has this happened to anyone else?"
It happened to me, met for a drink & she said she was a little nervpus but ok. Went to theirs & he left us 2 women to talk. She burst into tears & was petrified. She had ony agreed to it because he'd more or less bullied her into it.

I finished my coffe and then told him it wasn't going to happen & that I was leaving. He had the cheek to call me a timewaster & fake. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

I met one couple and the women kicked me out the house at 1am because she couldn't handle it, ive met a few couples where they have had a domestic, or have been that busy keeping an eye on each other its killed the mood, I met one couple who had a no kissing rule and all she did was keep an eye on him to make she we didn't kiss I ended up telling them to forget it, I used to meet couples but because of the amount of bad experiences I stopped, I now only meet single men, I have met some really nice couples but over all the bad meets with couples greatly out weighted the good ones so I now stick to single where I don't feel like im treading on egg shells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were at a club a couple actively sought us out to play with them getting down to the nitty gritty and they decide to have a domestic. We had no idea what was going on but stopped playing immediately. Put us in an awkward situation as we felt we had done something wrong...turns out they had some issue over this site and,was nothing to do with us or the club.

Very very uncomfortable and showed little respect for us as a couple or the surrounding people.

MissD

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

"On occasion i've had meets with couples where it was obvious the wife's heart wasn't in it and others where the couple spent the whole time bickering with each other. Don't know if its just me lol but has this happened to anyone else?"
No we haven't and we don't wish to either.We are just looking for nsa fun no drama.if we come across that we wont even go there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What this thread is basically proving is that, if you have any doubts or issues over Swinging, doing it in a couple will bring those to the surface far quicker than on your own.

It's not single guys, or girls, who have problems with couples - couples have probs with couples all the time.

On one occasion, we stopped the meet and had a long talk with the couple concerned. Felt like the Fabs Agony Aunts!! Like I often say in threads on here, all comes down to talking to each other, being honest about what you are looking for individually and finding the common ground - assuming there is any to find of course....

In the meantime, the mid-play domestics just continue....

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"A few years back I was contacted by the female half of a couple who's husband wanted to watch her with another guy

We eventually met without his knowledge and she had such a great time she said she cried on her way home as she'd never had sex where her needs were the focus

Lost contact over the years but I hope she eventually dumped his sorry ass"

My experience of this was similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It also seems that even when both want to play and enjoy themselves they dont want their partner to actually have fun. I find that so odd and a bit selfish.

Similar situation just happened to us with some newbies who I don't think talked it through. Long story short.we had some social outings. He (the other mr.) was jealous of me pleasuring his wife. Massive blow out.

Lesson learnt on our end.

Mrs.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Absolutely fantastic comments by everyone so far on this topic, thank you all, its been brilliant to read and a real eye opener as i had no idea that so many couples fell out and bickered while in a club or on a meet.

The other thing i've noticed though is the lack of single male comments so far? Apart from me i think only 3 other guys have commented. Could this be that most single guys couldn't give a stuff whats happening with the couple as long as they get their end away? I know for myself i couldn't go through with a meet if the wife's heart wasn't in it or if the couple started arguing for whatever reason.

I still welcome further comments from couples and women as its been brilliant so far, but would also like to hear from other single guys out there and maybe why so few of us have contributed to this topic so far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely fantastic comments by everyone so far on this topic, thank you all, its been brilliant to read and a real eye opener as i had no idea that so many couples fell out and bickered while in a club or on a meet.

I have met several couples on my own and, with one exception, it has been good fun. My lady friend and I are now also doing couple meets and the first one was excellent for all 4 of us.

I do however like to have a very open conversation with the couple before we meet to understand where their interests and concerns lie. If they are not up for it then we will not play as the atmosphere becomes very uncomfortable.

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I do however like to have a very open conversation with the couple before we meet to understand where their interests and concerns lie. If they are not up for it then we will not play as the atmosphere becomes very uncomfortable.

Thats a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the problem with this hobby of ours is that you never know how you're going to actually feel until you actually experience it...people fantasise about it and it builds up into an amazingly horny picture in your mind...they talk about it and think they've established their boundaries but until you're actually in the thick of it, you really have no idea how you're going to feel...or react...

We met a couple this weekend at a club and it was very clear from her body language and the things she said that she was extremely unhappy with the whole lifestyle...he was like a dog with 2 dicks and clearly didn't care how she felt...he couldn't have been oblivious it was so obvious...their dynamic made them unattractive and we would never have considered them...but she also wasn't open to anyone else talking to her about it either so my instinct to try and help her wasn't welcome...

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By *HAEDRUS2013Man
over a year ago

LONDON

Reading all of this and thinking 'Wow' and 'Fucccckkk'. Never experience any of this with couples at all. Guess I have been lucky?

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Reading all of this and thinking 'Wow' and 'Fucccckkk'. Never experience any of this with couples at all. Guess I have been lucky?"

You have been lucky mate lol. A couple of years ago i had a fb couple come to mine and they argued so much he eventually walked out and left her there, with me

Can't complain about that one though as we ended up having a great night together anyway without him

lol

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

An excellent thread to read through. When we first came into the lifestyle we played with couples but always found it quite difficult, mainly because of the age difference. If we met a couple in MrH age range the female often felt threatened by MrsH being younger and if we met a couple more MrsH age range the female was not always keen on playing with an older man. We had it once where a female half got jealouse because she thought her man was enjoying himself too much!!! A lot of people just do not realise how difficult this lifestyle can be, they think everyone ends up shagging each other and having loads of fun......very rarely does it work out that way. Fortunately over time and after trying just about every scenario you could think of we have ended up whee we are now and enjoy it to the full.

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By *igger1952Man
over a year ago

Paphos Cyprus.

i think it happens a lot. i live in paphos, cyprus now and meet a lot of couples who come over here for a holiday. the man is all for it and wants to see his wife get laid by other men. She sometimes is not really bothered and it shows when you start ''playing'''. I always like the to woman to mail me before they come out so that i get a good idea of what she wants. Long may it continue as i have met some lovely couples over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met a couple before from another site a few years back im pretty sure not all couples are like them but it has made me more aware and cautious about meeting couples, think he never forced her into it but she went along with swinging to please him, ended up she enjoyed the attention from single guys more than he had hoped for, major arguments etc etc and i never went back but kept in touch with her, happened 4 or 5x with other guys as well. I got abuse through phone calls, messages, etc etc by the male half saying she enjoyed herself too much with you, you've ruined my life etc. Apparently other guys were getting the same hassle and abuse from him as well, he was just an idiot, wanted to watch his wife sleep with guys then it all backfired, what did he think? That she wasn't going to enjoy herself? Total idiot so i am wary of couples and have turned quite a few down on gut feeling because of past experience, as i say not all couples will be like that though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let us be honest about this, if a man forces his wife into having sex with other men then that is some sort of rape.

The very last thing of all things I would want to do is force myself on a lady. Hence why I like to hear from her before we meet and, if I get a chance of a quiet 1 to 1 before we start, I ask her if she is REALLY happy. If she says no then I would pull the plug and let him get pissed with me so he does not blame her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago we were at a club & this Indian (I think) couple came in. She was absolutely stunning but it was clear from her body language that she was really uncomfortable. In fact she seemed on the point of tears.

On the other hand the guy was obviously really charged up & had eyes for every woman in the place except his partner.

They whole thing had a really bad vibe about it & obviously everyone else felt the same as they left a few hours later & as far as I could see nobody went near them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let us be honest about this, if a man forces his wife into having sex with other men then that is some sort of rape.

Thank for putting this out there. It is a form of rape and it will only lead to breaking down a womans self esteem.

You are very respectful and i find that a very attractive quality.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Let us be honest about this, if a man forces his wife into having sex with other men then that is some sort of rape.

I see your point and do appreciate it, although if somebody we were meeting had a quiet 1 to 1 with me to ask if I was genuinely happy I'm sure Scott would feel a little offended, and so would I, that someone would assume I would open up to them over my long term trusted partner x

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Our first meet with a couple was enough to put anyone off. We dusted things down, learned how not to be and decided that it wastheir issues and to forget about em

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"An excellent thread to read through. When we first came into the lifestyle we played with couples but always found it quite difficult, mainly because of the age difference. If we met a couple in MrH age range the female often felt threatened by MrsH being younger and if we met a couple more MrsH age range the female was not always keen on playing with an older man. We had it once where a female half got jealouse because she thought her man was enjoying himself too much!!! A lot of people just do not realise how difficult this lifestyle can be, they think everyone ends up shagging each other and having loads of fun......very rarely does it work out that way. Fortunately over time and after trying just about every scenario you could think of we have ended up whee we are now and enjoy it to the full."

I have to say i've learned so much through this thread and as a single guy i now appreciate how difficult it is for a couple to find the right other couple to play with.

When i meet a couple its only the three of us who have to gel but when its a couple meeting another couple the dynamic changes and all four of you have to be happy enough with each other to play, what a nightmare that must be.

This swinging thing we all do sure aint easy and it seems to be much more of a minefield for some than it is for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not met any couples yet

not for the lack of trying though

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

From the situations I've seen or heard about, its usually a result of one party (M or F) wanting to play, but can't stand the thought of someone else playing with their partner. However if you ask them point blank you get the rehearsed "Ofcourse we both like to play - we're a couple!" answer.

In short, "they" like to play (who doesn't), but not necessarily what "he"/"she" wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From the situations I've seen or heard about, its usually a result of one party (M or F) wanting to play, but can't stand the thought of someone else playing with their partner. However if you ask them point blank you get the rehearsed "Ofcourse we both like to play - we're a couple!" answer.

In short, "they" like to play (who doesn't), but not necessarily what "he"/"she" wants."

I totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to me just once it was an embarrassing situation and I made an excuse I wasn't feeling well, the look in her eyes of relief said it all !!!!.

I never want that sort of situation again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our first visit to a club we were wandering around enjoy the vib, we noticed a couple where the guy kept wandering around alone a lot and leaving his partner sitting on a chair looking like thunder , later on up stairs in a play room all we heard was her shouting at him about looking but not touching, they then proceeded to go down to the bar and still argue until they left , kinda put a downer on a few people's enjoyment. So it does happen even at clubs .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our one and only FFM occured when a couple had a Barney on us once. The bloke came over all arrogant and we didn't take to him much. Anyway we started playing and the guy just couldn't get it up. He got more and more frustrated and angry. He actually turned quite nasty but fortunately stormed off in a huff. It was obvious by now they were just FBs.

So we looked at the girl and said shall we go then. She said oh nooooo that would be a great shame. If you are happy lets have a threesome. Oh nooooo I thought. So thanks to his silliness we had our one and only FFM threesome. We both enjoyed it so much and wish to goodness we could find another lady to play with. Sadly finding another opportunity has been impossible. So if any females would like to get in touch we'd love to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The few couples we've met have all been relaxed and both obvioulsly enjoying the experiences. Except one! The fem was obviously very uncomfortable with the whole scenario to the point where we both felt it, that she really didnt want any part of swinging despite his encouragement and trying to laugh off her reluctance as shyness. The glances he gave her confirmed what we knew- that she was there under duress -which made us feel a little like abusers. We cut the meet short with some excuse about time etc and it did put us off meeting couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are still quite new to this but the first meet we had away from a club was with a young couple like our selves. We agreed before hand that we only wanted soft play, everything was going well we found the hotel and the girls had a bit of wine and a natter. Part way through playing the fem from the other couple burst into tears and went and locked herself in the bathroom. We as a couple carried on playing and just left the guy to go and sort things out. Few mins later he came back and just joined in and it turned into a mmf. After this finished c went into the bathroom and tried to talk with her. We decided to just leave after that and let them sort there differences out.

A week later c got a text from the fem saying that they had split up and and thanks for everything. Those two now stay in contact and seem to get on great. How ever the male part has been trying to convince c to meet him alone. She hasn't been obviously and has just ignored him.

Aside from that everything else has been good fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the best is to talk ...if your meeting a couple then the woman should meet alone for a good chat...Women are good at fishing out the ones who are feeling pushed into it...As for anything else you should have rules as a couple..I know i like to be with him in same room..Knowing that i feel safer..Not that i dont feel safe lol...He makes me feel secure and relaxed plus i do love watching fuck another woman senseless love watching his face...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im taking my FB to Bristol Gardens for the 1st time on Saturday. I think I will have to behave a little.. Dynamics change when there are more than 2 everyone has got to get on and not be the jealous kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive met quite a few cpls off here and other sites ! I would say that theres always a different dynamic when meeting cpls to meeting singles !

Ive always felt the third party and theres usually one of the cpl more into it than the other ! Most times its the man egging the lady on ,saying things like " suck his cock or let him fuk u know !

Never as relaxing and carefree as meeting singles !

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By *ilkynmyzzyCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

We had a meet where a couple came over to ours and the male actually slapped the female during an argument they were having. One of only 2 bad meets we've had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think i would have slapped him for hitting her....But in saying that it would have been worse for her when they got home...sadly i have been a victim of DV ...but over that now..and no not my partner now x

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By *ilkynmyzzyCouple
over a year ago

Bridlington

Felt like slapping him but as you say it would have made matters worse. We can't understand people getting into swinging if one or the other is insecure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thread for a long time.

Good to hear people have insecurities muc the same as us..

My Mrs is a case in point, she had very mixed views about the Lifestyle , in fact she considered it perverted...

After much talking and explaining that I would enjoy watching her with guys, and was not looking to meet women...all about her having fun..

After some great meets and 1 or 2 not so great she is a convert...Loves the club scene, loves meeting young fit guys...

we are now chatting to and meeting cpls..

Its all about honesty, building confidence, and fun...

We have also met cpls at clubs, where the dynamics are clearly not right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Best thread for a long time.

Good to hear people have insecurities muc the same as us..

My Mrs is a case in point, she had very mixed views about the Lifestyle , in fact she considered it perverted...

After much talking and explaining that I would enjoy watching her with guys, and was not looking to meet women...all about her having fun..

After some great meets and 1 or 2 not so great she is a convert...Loves the club scene, loves meeting young fit guys...

we are now chatting to and meeting cpls..

Its all about honesty, building confidence, and fun...

We have also met cpls at clubs, where the dynamics are clearly not right!

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great post guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a couple a while back at mine the guy wanted to watch his wife with someone else so had a few drinks first then found out she did,nt want to do it she was doing it because he had forced her to do it so told him did,nt want any part of it and asked them to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the once where it appeared that the fem half of the couple didn't seem interested in being there. It was only a social meet, so no harm done. In fairness, I believe I was their first meet and they left the site soon after. I guess this lifestyle wasn't for them after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit on my travels i've had two couples where it was slightly 'disharmonius'

One was were it was so last minute they hadnt had time to discuss their rules (ie how far she could go etc) and he got really uncomfortable when she started getting very aroused.

The other was a a little more serious. I met a couple in la chambre with my ex partner, we played on a few seperate occasions and got on really well. They the wife got my mobile number and started texting me behind his back. When he found out he phoned me up at 3 in the morning and said he was going to kill me... Ill be honest and say i did text her but it was all interest from her. my partner at the time found it hilarious.... we never saw them there again!

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By *hrisBlkGuy OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Best thread for a long time.

Good to hear people have insecurities muc the same as us..

My Mrs is a case in point, she had very mixed views about the Lifestyle , in fact she considered it perverted...

After much talking and explaining that I would enjoy watching her with guys, and was not looking to meet women...all about her having fun..

After some great meets and 1 or 2 not so great she is a convert...Loves the club scene, loves meeting young fit guys...

we are now chatting to and meeting cpls..

Its all about honesty, building confidence, and fun...

We have also met cpls at clubs, where the dynamics are clearly not right!"

Like the quote, "Best thread for a long time". Thank you guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I can say is if no trust between couple then your in wrong game grow up and get a life if you gonna argue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been lucky that we communicate well. I will admit I have asked evie to stop once wth a guy. It wasn't that she was having. Fun, but the guy was really sleazy. He worked his way round the party and was insensitive of other things that had been going on, that had meant the party was comming to an end. There was no fuss, just a quick whisper and it was ended discretely.

I think sometimes you have to go with your gut feelings, and not be afraid to say if something isn't right. But its the way you communicate as a couple that's important.

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