FabSwingers.com forum: can't get it up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just seen another post that has prompted me to ask the ladies a rather delicate question...

a while ago I had a meet with a guy from another site who travelled up from London (I was living in Manchester at the time). we had been really looking forward to meeting, and had swapped pics, chatted on the phone and cammed so no surprises when we did meet but when we got down to the biz, he couldn't get it up!!! he told me it was because of the medication he was taking but I've never quite believed it..

so has anyone had a similar experience and what was the excuse in your case?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much drink in my case....although her hubby was kind enough to do the gardening the morning after just as I could perform

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd believe him. I know one man who just can't 'perform' while wearing a condom. I'm glad to say that he's in a committed relationship, now, because he really couldn't get round the 'condom' block.

On the flip side, I knew a bloke who had Holmes Adey (sp) disease, and he just went on and on and on and on and on and on ...... That was equally frustrating! There is a limit to how long I want to go on for.... I just want to roll over and go to sleep!

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

It happens .... but trying and trying with a soft one is futile. ..hate that. . Better to just stop trying and switch to talking and teasing

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It can affect guys more often than they care to admit. Sometimes it can be nerves.

Other times, its just a mental thing where the guy isn't quite as turned on as he expected to be (some men realise they aren't quite as sexually attracted to the person they are with at the time)

Contrary to popular belief, hard ons can't always be summoned at will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can affect guys more often than they care to admit. Sometimes it can be nerves.

Other times, its just a mental thing where the guy isn't quite as turned on as he expected to be (some men realise they aren't quite as sexually attracted to the person they are with at the time)

Contrary to popular belief, hard ons can't always be summoned at will

so true!

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I find that if i have a bad first meet with someone it plays on my mind for every other meet i have with them, but if i have a good first meet, its good everytime with them. For example i met a couple and on first meet everything went well with me playing with the wife and my best friend was 'up and ready', but because my fingers were so wet by playing with the wife i couldn't get the condom pack open, so my best friend gave up and went home

and from that everytime i met that couple that incident played on my mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can affect guys more often than they care to admit. Sometimes it can be nerves.

Other times, its just a mental thing where the guy isn't quite as turned on as he expected to be (some men realise they aren't quite as sexually attracted to the person they are with at the time)

Contrary to popular belief, hard ons can't always be summoned at will

so true!"

No, but often turn up when not summoned and become rather annoying in the wrong setting.

In fact they do have a mind of their own, or mine does anyhow!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its happened a few times to me and after a while its just not worth carrying on. The more you try, the less likely they'll get it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have all been there at some point. Med can affect ya as I found out some years ago but soon got them changed lol. Condoms are my downfall though. Just can't do it.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Have had it happen to me (Mrs) on a few occasions. I don't tend to make a big deal out of it as find it tends to make the man feel worse.

It's just one of those things...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not "getting it up" isn't a personality disorder.

Could be a thousand reasons from medication (and lots cause that problem) to diabetes to blood pressure to anxiety to lack of interest.

If he's over 40 then he's got a 40% chance of having ed which isn't always about Viagra

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