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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Yes I do feel the same but am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also think why?? and just assume its the anyhole is a goal mentality of messaging a 1000 women to see if one replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think the same, however now I just think to hell with it. I get to play with some guys I'd never thought I'd have a chance with and we have a lot of fun. Go for it and if you don't enjoy just don't meet again.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Yes I do feel the same but am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no interest in going for it but do wonder why they would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I do feel the same but am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. "
do it then you never know x

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Get yer tongue out of your cheek lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

these younger lads want to play with all of the above because they know they will have a great time.

everyone will get something positive from the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x "

Isn't it?

Do you mean young women never chase older men?

If that's what you meant, I disagree entirely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x

Isn't it?

Do you mean young women never chase older men?

If that's what you meant, I disagree entirely

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fair enough just giving my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally like older women because I find it's a much more enjoyable experience! I wouldn't message anyone unless I had a genuine interest. Not every lad on here has the 'Any hole's a goal' attitude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way... "

im 100% with you

I always see young fit guys who mail me as thinking cause i'm older and not a size 8 i'll be soooooooooooo flattered by their interest I couldn't possibly turn them down, I also think they see older women as easier to meet and that's why so many contact me

I also think I over think sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x

Isn't it?

Do you mean young women never chase older men?

If that's what you meant, I disagree entirely

fair enough just giving my opinion "

And this time last year I'd have agreed with you! However Tor picked me up in a wine bar in London and here we are a year later!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way...

im 100% with you

I always see young fit guys who mail me as thinking cause i'm older and not a size 8 i'll be soooooooooooo flattered by their interest I couldn't possibly turn them down, I also think they see older women as easier to meet and that's why so many contact me

I also think I over think sometimes "

I wonder though that part of it is numbers, there are (as far as I can see) more women in their 30's plus on here than 18-29. Real ones anyway. Also women who are a little older tend to be more specific in what they want.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Yes I do feel the same but am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. do it then you never know x "

I do. If the opportunity arises I have no problem with younger men.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I also think why?? and just assume its the anyhole is a goal mentality of messaging a 1000 women to see if one replies "

You'd be surprised.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a older mature lady..

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

I'm sure a few younger people enjoy older people, just like some have a preference for white or black or large or small tits etc.

Plenty of 'any hole's a goal' I'm sure, not to mention fake females on the make (not that I've come across any on this site).

There really is no accounting for taste or history - if unsatisfactory sex with one's own age group is followed by wonderful sex with an 'oldster' behaviour/preferences can be formed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size"

Whilst I dare say that many of us do indeed like the sort of ladies you'd expect to find in a lads mag, our sexual desires aren't limited strictly to those sort of ladies, and nor do we see older or fuller figured women as being less, they're just another variety like a different flavour/brand of ice cream.

And we all like ice cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x

Isn't it?

Do you mean young women never chase older men?

If that's what you meant, I disagree entirely

fair enough just giving my opinion

And this time last year I'd have agreed with you! However Tor picked me up in a wine bar in London and here we are a year later! "
well good luck to you both long may it continue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size

Whilst I dare say that many of us do indeed like the sort of ladies you'd expect to find in a lads mag, our sexual desires aren't limited strictly to those sort of ladies, and nor do we see older or fuller figured women as being less, they're just another variety like a different flavour/brand of ice cream.

And we all like ice cream "

indeed we do and that's why we look like this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way... "

totally agree! I always think they're taking the piss..I've never met anyone younger I think I'd be to paranoid of my own body

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm glad it's not just me lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm glad it's not just me lol x"

no you're definitely not on your own with this one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im sure quite a few men expect me to be flattered that they are interested in me, whatever age they are.

i have met a few much younger men, i think if they could get someone as often as they wanted to, who was there own age then they wouldnt want to meet me. Maybe they meet me because they are turned on by some of my pictures, maybe they arent quite so shy with an ordinary much older woman, who knows. they see my profile and think i am someone who likes sex a lot.

i dont meet younger men anymore, the ones i like live too far away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Although I've got total double standards when it comes to women, as prefer mid twenties to late thirties lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm glad it's not just me lol x"

It's not just you. I've been chatting to a young guy for a while now and I'm terrified of meeting him! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm glad it's not just me lol x

It's not just you. I've been chatting to a young guy for a while now and I'm terrified of meeting him! X "

see for me I just like to feel that I'm not just cheaper than paying for it..not sure it helps that I spent so much time with young lads as mates... (From car clubs etc) I hear them talking, and the conversations I've heard leaves me thinking most young guys just see me as a possible easy lay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You couldnt be more wrong xx

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By *exysadie00Woman
over a year ago

Yeovil

I have been meeting young guys for the last three years both on here and in my town and although some undoubtedly have the view that we should be honoured someone so young and toned should be showing an interest in us older women, the majority of them are genuinely interested because they like our maturity, experience and expertise and also our enjoyment. I always say if I could have combined my sexual knowledge now with the body I had when I was 19 it would've amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sorry I just see it same as those that like bigger women, the genuine ones are very few and far between..

and many show their true colours when they get a choice... I have to feel confident when I play.. so I don't believe the compliments. And think do they think I'm stupid. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to avoid those I felt were 'out of me league' then one day just decided to go for it with a very persistent guy who I still meet nearly 2 years later...now I just go for it and if they have thought I would be an easy/pity shag then they've been disappointed. Any I'm not as sure of I'll make chat for longer before I'll arrange anything and the 'any holes a goal' mob have generally given up before I give in. It's resulted in some very fun times...many of which I've repeated more than once!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single young guy at 27 i can say i am attracted to the older woman and enjoy their company. More so than women of similar age or younger x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single young guy at 27 i can say i am attracted to the older woman and enjoy their company. More so than women of similar age or younger x"
i still am

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I feel the same as you Cali 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to avoid those I felt were 'out of me league' then one day just decided to go for it with a very persistent guy who I still meet nearly 2 years later...now I just go for it and if they have thought I would be an easy/pity shag then they've been disappointed. Any I'm not as sure of I'll make chat for longer before I'll arrange anything and the 'any holes a goal' mob have generally given up before I give in. It's resulted in some very fun times...many of which I've repeated more than once! "

I have done a 'out of my league' meet and boy it was good.... just hope he wants more and if not... his loss not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i met a man a few years ago and wasnt sure about meeting him at first but he kept sending me messages.

he was 20 years younger than me and very attractive, blonde hair, lovely smile. i met him twice and was glad i did because he was one of the nicest men i had met, and he gave me the best verification i have had and still got it even though he isnt on this site anymore. i know he had a very young slim partner, yet we both had fun, its not always about looks.

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By *heekychappy1121Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You have to give us younger guys a chance to impress!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have to give us younger guys a chance to impress! "

Then impress just had a peek a fellow Edinburgh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to avoid those I felt were 'out of me league' then one day just decided to go for it with a very persistent guy who I still meet nearly 2 years later...now I just go for it and if they have thought I would be an easy/pity shag then they've been disappointed. Any I'm not as sure of I'll make chat for longer before I'll arrange anything and the 'any holes a goal' mob have generally given up before I give in. It's resulted in some very fun times...many of which I've repeated more than once!

I have done a 'out of my league' meet and boy it was good.... just hope he wants more and if not... his loss not mine "

Good for you too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have to give us younger guys a chance to impress! "

Its not that I think you wont impress.. I just prefer to feel desired rather than feeling I should feel flattered..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... most Ive messaged are after 30+ thankfully they have the decency to reply. And then, the women my age just delete the message .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I can see what you are saying, I am a young guy, I have my own tastes and types. The fact that your older than me doesn't even cross my mind.

When I see your profile I see a lady with stunning eyes, a great smile and a pretty face which would make me very interested in you. I would never assume you'd be desperate for a young guy, infact I am similar to you and usually assume how can a lady with a few years upon me be interested with their experiences and when they can play with 'real' men.

I often assume that certain women are far too good looking, or more experience in bed to be interested in me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep thats why its so hard for alot of guys on here.when alot of women cant decide what it is they actualy want or are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right - what's an 'older woman'? (I may refuse to accept it)

When we've been out and about we've still felt very much part of the younger crowd - that's been an unexpected surprise. But then some fit young twenty something comes along and knocks you back down to earth

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I will take my pleasure where I find it. If a 20 something man wants me and I want him, we probably both will get what we want out of the encounter...who am I to question his/her motives.

A 75 year old man f*****g a 25 year old girl would never ask himself that question so why should I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will take my pleasure where I find it. If a 20 something man wants me and I want him, we probably both will get what we want out of the encounter...who am I to question his/her motives.

A 75 year old man f*****g a 25 year old girl would never ask himself that question so why should I? "

I like this it's nice too people as your sexy self will play x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its also having thing's in common, I like to meet someone for a drink and a chat first and I really can't see what on earth I would talk about with a guy in his early 20's, as a single mother pushing 40 what would i possible have in common with someone 20 years my senior? they would have zero interest in anything I had to say lol they say the biggest sexual organ is the brain so if you cant stimulate that what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got lots of friends in their 20's and a few even younger and we're never short for conversation.

Although inevitably there are those moments when you realise they don't know what you're talking about (music from before they were born etc.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Difficult and emotive subject to comment on, however, my twopeneth, for what it's worth, young guns see the more mature, larger and experienced gals as potentially easier, less challenging conquests, than mixing with their own peer pool, where competition to get laid is far more intense, particulafly the prettier and more body perfect (as the media perception would have us believe) the girls in question are. Its called hedging your bets. Dont be offended, its just life in its most primal form. If you need someones approval or constant reassurance to fire your own self worth and belief perhaps you're looking in the wrong place because a swinging site has to be just about the most insincere arena in which to find solace.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"You should be flattered enjoy while you can young men always chase women its never other way round why thinks its you go for it girl x "

erm, I chase lots of older guys, they are my preference.

Never thought younger would be interested in me til last week at a club. He was great, made such an effort to chat and we had some fun. I've lowered my age range now. If a younger guy makes an effort and is not embarrassed to be seen with me in a club and embraces my body, I'm all for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way... "
I feel this way. 20'somethings look at me and yes its flattering and yes they have hot bodies, but they are in my son's age group so it is a big definite no. I don't understand as im not slim, have a belly etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a younger guy and I'm just here to have fun like a lot of people. Age shouldnt be an issue for people but that's their opinion. If you're a polite and curtious what's the problem?

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Cali I felt exactly the same as you when I was contacted nearly 2 years ago by a ridiculously beautiful 21 year old guy. We chatted and had a laugh and it took him probably 4/5 months of persistence before I met him because I just could not understand why he'd want to!! Have to say 18 months later we're still meeting or were till he moved back to London recently and it was a fabulous 18 months. Try it you never know you might like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guilty as charged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way... "

I used to but then I tried out a 26 yr old and to be honest he couldn't keep up hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you need to try even younger leggy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it boils down to confidence lets be honest

If you look at yourself and see an unattractive person its hard to understand why someone else would view you as attractive

I think sometimes, young, fit, good looking guys can be a little intimidating

What we have to remember is not everyone will view you the same as you view yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So does anyone else feel this way... "

I sometimes feel this way esp when I see so many young attractive fit females on here I wonder why they would want to be with me...but have to say when I'm with them in the flesh I've never felt that way...always been made to feel sexy and desired

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

So does anyone else feel this way...

I sometimes feel this way esp when I see so many young attractive fit females on here I wonder why they would want to be with me...but have to say when I'm with them in the flesh I've never felt that way...always been made to feel sexy and desired "

See I tried it once.. but felt dirty after... thought omg.. what would people say.. and I didnt feel that I was desired by him.. just somewhere to get off and easier than the other girls ... so not played with younger since then.

but I have had a few couples lately contact me where one or other is quite a bit younger ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've asked a few young guys about this before. They say if they wanted a young attractive girl they would just pick one up in a bar or something. They find older larger ladies attractive and that's why they come on here.. None of the hot young guys, and there has been many, has ever made me feel I should be the lucky one! Infact they are the ones who act honoured..

Don't let your own insecurities judge others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will take my pleasure where I find it. If a 20 something man wants me and I want him, we probably both will get what we want out of the encounter...who am I to question his/her motives. "

^^^ This. I'm 48 and my ex is 13 years older than me! My preference on here is for younger men only. I did revise the lower limit recently but it's still 32 - 44. Years ago I was persuaded to meet someone who was 21 years younger than me. It was a fantastic meet and he still keeps in touch! As long as you can have a connection, a conversation and something [apart from sex] in common then I don't see the problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also wonder why a young fit toned lad would want an old woman but its all about attraction isn't it? Some men like BBW's and some don't, if we all like the same, the world would be a rather dull place to live

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Younger, older, same age...if they want you and you want them, if you are attracted to each other or even if all you feel is a need for raw hard sex why ask yourselves questions? Isn't it why we are all here...on this site? It is for me !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I would add something from the other side of the coin. I am younger than most of the women who have posted on here (being 36).

I find you all very attractive!

Seriously though everyone has different tastes! But at the same time I hate the competition!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with ages of kids because I don't have any...just don't find them particularly attractive and am utterly uninterested in meeting them...their reaction to that generally would lead me to believe you're pretty much on the money Cali...

Jane

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

It not that I find young men so be intimidating or worry that they might just think I am an easier option.

They just very rarely appeal to me in a sexual way.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Younger, older, same age...if they want you and you want them, if you are attracted to each other or even if all you feel is a need for raw hard sex why ask yourselves questions? Isn't it why we are all here...on this site? It is for me !"

Couldn't have said it better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've asked a few young guys about this before. They say if they wanted a young attractive girl they would just pick one up in a bar or something. They find older larger ladies attractive and that's why they come on here.. None of the hot young guys, and there has been many, has ever made me feel I should be the lucky one! Infact they are the ones who act honoured..

Don't let your own insecurities judge others"

See I just honestly see it that they say that they want an older woman but I would say most are just saying what they think they need too... In the same class as the guys that tell me I'm so amazing till I say no... Then I was not for them .

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way... "

Im exactly the same.. Blame it on the fact they are the same age as my daughter but in truth its pro ably just insecurity as they could have a young nubile nymph, what would they want with an old far bird like me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It not that I find young men so be intimidating or worry that they might just think I am an easier option.

They just very rarely appeal to me in a sexual way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't pay much attention to ages past a certain point, more about maturity and humour for me. I've only ever had one meaning relationship with someone my age. Fake tan and hair just don't do it for me and the bar scene is just funny, the lads spend more time in the mirror than the gals nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been some really differing views and I know it could be down to how I view myself but over my many years in swinging I've had many reasons to become cynical..

I just don't think any young hot single guy could make me honestly believe if he had a better offer he would still want me. And I like to be desired.. no pleasure in it for me if I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been some really differing views and I know it could be down to how I view myself but over my many years in swinging I've had many reasons to become cynical..

I just don't think any young hot single guy could make me honestly believe if he had a better offer he would still want me. And I like to be desired.. no pleasure in it for me if I'm not. "

Surely the logic goes that if he is that great he can be choosy? And he has chosen you. Had a similar thing with my ex, she was 34, me 24. I got a bit of attention from what the media would call 'hot' women.

Her initial response was 'why me? X is obviously interested and she's younger and slimmer than me' the reason was I found her very attractive, intelligent and was great conversation.

Alas no matter how hard tried to make her see this, we broke up while I was suffering from depression due to bereavement and illness. I was no longer strong enough to deal with both our problems.

Bit heavy for a swingers site lol. Thought you might wanna hear from the other side.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been some really differing views and I know it could be down to how I view myself but over my many years in swinging I've had many reasons to become cynical..

I just don't think any young hot single guy could make me honestly believe if he had a better offer he would still want me. And I like to be desired.. no pleasure in it for me if I'm not.

Surely the logic goes that if he is that great he can be choosy? And he has chosen you. Had a similar thing with my ex, she was 34, me 24. I got a bit of attention from what the media would call 'hot' women.

Her initial response was 'why me? X is obviously interested and she's younger and slimmer than me' the reason was I found her very attractive, intelligent and was great conversation.

Alas no matter how hard tried to make her see this, we broke up while I was suffering from depression due to bereavement and illness. I was no longer strong enough to deal with both our problems.

Bit heavy for a swingers site lol. Thought you might wanna hear from the other side. "

always good to hear both sides but I just see it that on here it's hard for a single guy no matter what. Over 30 and plus size is the most common female on here, so we are seen as easier... use younger guys never pester. It's a case of move on to next one...

I just think they see me as a easy target and not doing to be one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never pester lol? damn that's what I'm doing wrong!

Going to get camo'd up and start following the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I felt exactly the same i thought it was some kind of joke that they were sat with their mates having a giggle ...but some how i was convinced into meeting a guy nearly 20 years younger than me ..and he his now a great freind and f/b he makes me feel younger and i find alot of my inabitions go when i meet him but each to their own xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme. "

Hence why I don't sleep with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme.

Hence why I don't sleep with them"

Mind nothing wrong with using people for sex as long as you realise that is what it is!

PS you are a very attractive woman btw!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme.

Hence why I don't sleep with them"

sweeping generalisation. I met both women who were 30+ and 'large' in public situations. One at work and the other while on a driving experience.

We are all different in what makes us tick, I object to been characterized as some tosspot who doesn't go for a jessica alba lookalike so he feels he is the superior one in the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme. "

I do keep it real. It would be very easy for a female on here to get a false sense of importance on here... As you could be the most awful looking person, but as long as you have tits and a pussy you will still get told how stunning you are.... To some maybe you are..

I know it's a sex site and if I'm doing a greedy girl night I'm less picky but I just need a connection to have good sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size

Whilst I dare say that many of us do indeed like the sort of ladies you'd expect to find in a lads mag, our sexual desires aren't limited strictly to those sort of ladies, and nor do we see older or fuller figured women as being less, they're just another variety like a different flavour/brand of ice cream.

And we all like ice cream "

very well put!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what about what you want in a play partner?? this is supposed to be about having fun with a variety of partners.....if you happened to find young toned sexy younger men a turn on why wouldnt you take an opportunity to play??? the ones i have met have all been extremely respectful and made me feel desirable to them so there has never been an issue....i would say its more our 'body confidence issues' than it is a younger mans desire to have amazing sex with an older woman....and just because they may not choose someone like us a life partner doesnt make us any less sexually desirable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"what about what you want in a play partner?? this is supposed to be about having fun with a variety of partners.....if you happened to find young toned sexy younger men a turn on why wouldnt you take an opportunity to play??? the ones i have met have all been extremely respectful and made me feel desirable to them so there has never been an issue....i would say its more our 'body confidence issues' than it is a younger mans desire to have amazing sex with an older woman....and just because they may not choose someone like us a life partner doesnt make us any less sexually desirable

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I find them eye candy but not sexy.. I spend a lot of my none fab time with younger lads, and to be honest the way they chat about their sexual conquests of and I quote.. "needy bored housewives"...I don't want to end up the topic of discussion... The.." yeah she's a bit fat but fucks like a pro".kinda comments is enough to put me off...this is from lads the socially treat me like I'm one of them...

it is about variety but if it makes me feel bad there is no point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme.

I do keep it real. It would be very easy for a female on here to get a false sense of importance on here... As you could be the most awful looking person, but as long as you have tits and a pussy you will still get told how stunning you are.... To some maybe you are..

I know it's a sex site and if I'm doing a greedy girl night I'm less picky but I just need a connection to have good sex. "

Most on here would shag a rolling doughnut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what about what you want in a play partner?? this is supposed to be about having fun with a variety of partners.....if you happened to find young toned sexy younger men a turn on why wouldnt you take an opportunity to play??? the ones i have met have all been extremely respectful and made me feel desirable to them so there has never been an issue....i would say its more our 'body confidence issues' than it is a younger mans desire to have amazing sex with an older woman....and just because they may not choose someone like us a life partner doesnt make us any less sexually desirable

I find them eye candy but not sexy.. I spend a lot of my none fab time with younger lads, and to be honest the way they chat about their sexual conquests of and I quote.. "needy bored housewives"...I don't want to end up the topic of discussion... The.." yeah she's a bit fat but fucks like a pro".kinda comments is enough to put me off...this is from lads the socially treat me like I'm one of them...

it is about variety but if it makes me feel bad there is no point. "

i couldnt agree more with if it makes you feel bad....groups of lads/men have been disrepectful to all women when in pub chat!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno what the problem is with young guys tbh

Where just here for fun just like the rest of you

We dont bite ......

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over a year ago

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By *oger ThatMan
over a year ago

essex

To me its more about attitude and personality. Looks, size and age are a massive thing for me. And it surprises me that I say that. It is not any hole is a goal for me, nor is it the majority of my friends.

I find the older lady has a bit more respect and therefore manage to have a conversation with out feeling im on the edge of being told to do one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me (Paul) it doesn't come down to a preference of 'older' women... I love meeting girls around my age but equally enjoy meeting ladies who are older than me...

People tend to be at different stages of their live at different ages and I find the variety and versatility very attractive. While I don't want to generalise, I find that older women often have had more time to discover themselves sexually and therefore can convey their wants and needs with more confidence which I find very appealing.

Before the above comment leads to outrage, I am of course aware that this isn't always the case but my point is that to me/us swinging is about fun, joy and variety...and I feel that older women have a lot to offer - thus my interest

Remember, beauty or sex appeal is in the eye of the beholder, so ladies there are plenty of men who favour the body shape your critical about over that of a toned 19 year old! (saying 18 just seemed to young)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the larger older lady. Some of my mates take the piss because they prefer the Essex look (no offence to people from Essex) I would much rather get on with someone than have no convo. Again lads like me who generally like older woman are tied to the same brush as the so called any hole is a goal lads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Young guys contact me as well, I just feel flattered and fuck the ones who "tickle my taste buds". Very simple really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Young guys contact me as well, I just feel flattered and fuck the ones who "tickle my taste buds". Very simple really! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Young guys contact me as well, I just feel flattered and fuck the ones who "tickle my taste buds". Very simple really! "

I don't want to feel flattered though.. why should I feel flattered.. I want to know someone likes me, not that I'm an easy option.

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Young guys contact me as well, I just feel flattered and fuck the ones who "tickle my taste buds". Very simple really! "

hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme. "

some would, I have kids that are late teens, early 20s and have been hit on more than once by their mates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been with younger blokes and never been disapointed a few are close friends no ...i find them eager to please and up for anything x the way i look at it i want what i want i can get that from any age group ...but young blokes are fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole how you think you'll look to us is bullshit, well me being 23.. If I wanted to fuck a 23 year old lass would. I want to meet mature older ladies, I love your bodies I love that you more then likely will be able to show me a thing or two. It's been a fantasy of mine since I can remember!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The whole how you think you'll look to us is bullshit, well me being 23.. If I wanted to fuck a 23 year old lass would. I want to meet mature older ladies, I love your bodies I love that you more then likely will be able to show me a thing or two. It's been a fantasy of mine since I can remember! "

I accept that there will be some that genuinely like me... but... my point is on average its not the case.. and the other thread on younger men and older women kinda shows you genuine guys why its so hard to change my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole how you think you'll look to us is bullshit, well me being 23.. If I wanted to fuck a 23 year old lass would. I want to meet mature older ladies, I love your bodies I love that you more then likely will be able to show me a thing or two. It's been a fantasy of mine since I can remember! "

but I'm not here to fulfil your fantasy...i'm here to fulfil mine and teaching a 23 year old a thing or two isn't one of them ...

I'm an equal opportunities discriminator though...I won't fuck younger women either much to the Monkey's disappointment but funnily enough, you don't see many of them posting on the forum complaining that their target audience won't meet them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Healthy dose of realism here, as people probably realise already these guys wouldn't look at you in a social environment.

The site is superficial in the extreme. "

only cos of what their mates would say

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By *oungandfun3Man
over a year ago

Hounslow

I find many women older than me as someone who im attracted to but most women find me too young and don't give me a second thought, but who knows maybe one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Recently I've had a few people that I've refused because the guys have been much younger than me.. now I have the nice excuse that they are to near my sons age..

But I've realised today it's nothing to no with that and all to do with the fact I see them as too good for me, and pre decide that it's a case of they think I will be desperately flattered by a young sexy guy wanting me that I may not refuse...

I just don't honestly see why a young toned 20something wear old would want to play with someone my age and size...

I guess I like to feel that a guy wants me because he finds me sexy.. and I can't see that he really would.

So does anyone else feel this way...

im 100% with you

I always see young fit guys who mail me as thinking cause i'm older and not a size 8 i'll be soooooooooooo flattered by their interest I couldn't possibly turn them down, I also think they see older women as easier to meet and that's why so many contact me

I also think I over think sometimes "

I think you may over think too, but I must say what pretty and sexy feet you have

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