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Parties: What do you have to do to get invited to one..?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

First off - sorry if this seems like a 'Look at us' thread. It's not intended to be that at all.

A bit of background on where I am coming from... Ruby and I have been swinging as a couple for about 18 months now. Beforehand, the experience each of us had was as single people only - this is the first time either of us has swung as part of a couple, and it's been a learning curve for both of us.

Now... from my previous dalliances with this world back in the 80's, I know I LOVE parties. Ruby has enjoyed those we have been to too, and wants to do more - she really likes the 'group' aspect to some of them.

Now, if you look at our profile, it's clear right from the start that we are on the look-out for parties - yet, in the last six months, we have only been invited to ..... one.

When I got into this world, I was introduced into it by a GF who went to an established network of parties and I 'slotted in'. I didn't really have to do any work to get in there - I got lucky. Now, and to be perfectly frank, we're struggling getting to where we'd like to be.

I would be grateful if those of you reading this would have a look at our profile and let us know if there is anything blindingly obvious that we're failing to do, say or show that would indicate to a few more hosts that we're up for it..?

If we come over as right munters, then tell us (flippin hope not! Although Ruby's a bit, you know.... but I'm absolutely gor-juss!!!! ) Am genuinely at a loss on this one, so .... over to you lot.

a befuddled ted.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Speaking for myself I'm inclined to skip over the header of a profile and go straight for the main body of text so maybe the first line of your profile could say that you like parties. Otherwise I find yours to be one of the best profiles I've read, there's no chance of misunderstanding what you want, it makes me smile and it contains no text speak whatsoever.

Just a thought but do you have the facilities to hold a party yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've very rarely been invited to parties but have been to several mainly by looking at friend or local updates or meet today ads to get to know who is holding one...then if we're interested, we message the hosts. We work on the assumption that if they're posting about one, they're open to being asked if we can come

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Speaking for myself I'm inclined to skip over the header of a profile and go straight for the main body of text so maybe the first line of your profile could say that you like parties. Otherwise I find yours to be one of the best profiles I've read, there's no chance of misunderstanding what you want, it makes me smile and it contains no text speak whatsoever.

Just a thought but do you have the facilities to hold a party yourself? "

Regrettably not, but it's something I'm working on...

ted.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Speaking for myself I'm inclined to skip over the header of a profile and go straight for the main body of text so maybe the first line of your profile could say that you like parties. Otherwise I find yours to be one of the best profiles I've read, there's no chance of misunderstanding what you want, it makes me smile and it contains no text speak whatsoever.

Just a thought but do you have the facilities to hold a party yourself?

Regrettably not, but it's something I'm working on...

ted. "

Excellent!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Speaking for myself I'm inclined to skip over the header of a profile and go straight for the main body of text so maybe the first line of your profile could say that you like parties. Otherwise I find yours to be one of the best profiles I've read, there's no chance of misunderstanding what you want, it makes me smile and it contains no text speak whatsoever.

Just a thought but do you have the facilities to hold a party yourself?

Regrettably not, but it's something I'm working on...

ted.

Excellent!"

Our first punter! Just got to find the right house now.....

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to do parties at my house but its a two up two down so would onky be able to hold a small amount of people lol xx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm having one in October

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

offer to house sit for friends, then have one at their house

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not allowing single guys to message you will reduce your chances of invites simply because quite a number of single guys organise parties.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I want to do parties at my house but its a two up two down so would onky be able to hold a small amount of people lol xx"

Oh... you'd be surprised how many you could squeeze in. If they can get 100 people in a Mini.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to do parties at my house but its a two up two down so would onky be able to hold a small amount of people lol xx

Oh... you'd be surprised how many you could squeeze in. If they can get 100 people in a Mini....."

You can have a great time with just 3 or 4 select couples

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've held a party in my apartment and you would be surprised at how many you can fit in...,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm having one in October "

Are we invited lovely lady....creep creep xxx

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I'm having one in October

Are we invited lovely lady....creep creep xxx"

You don't need an invite xx

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I've held a party in my apartment and you would be surprised at how many you can fit in..., "

That's what she said, lol

(I'm so sorry, haha)

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've held a party in my apartment and you would be surprised at how many you can fit in...,

That's what she said, lol

(I'm so sorry, haha) "

Cheeky

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"First off - sorry if this seems like a 'Look at us' thread. It's not intended to be that at all.

A bit of background on where I am coming from... Ruby and I have been swinging as a couple for about 18 months now. Beforehand, the experience each of us had was as single people only - this is the first time either of us has swung as part of a couple, and it's been a learning curve for both of us.

Now... from my previous dalliances with this world back in the 80's, I know I LOVE parties. Ruby has enjoyed those we have been to too, and wants to do more - she really likes the 'group' aspect to some of them.

Now, if you look at our profile, it's clear right from the start that we are on the look-out for parties - yet, in the last six months, we have only been invited to ..... one.

When I got into this world, I was introduced into it by a GF who went to an established network of parties and I 'slotted in'. I didn't really have to do any work to get in there - I got lucky. Now, and to be perfectly frank, we're struggling getting to where we'd like to be.

I would be grateful if those of you reading this would have a look at our profile and let us know if there is anything blindingly obvious that we're failing to do, say or show that would indicate to a few more hosts that we're up for it..?

If we come over as right munters, then tell us (flippin hope not! Although Ruby's a bit, you know.... but I'm absolutely gor-juss!!!! ) Am genuinely at a loss on this one, so .... over to you lot.

a befuddled ted."

This might be stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you checked out the meets and events page?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm having one in October

Are we invited lovely lady....creep creep xxx

You don't need an invite xx"

Aw fankyou. Pm me the date so i can book it off please xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you travel as I know 2 guys who have parties not far from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is'nt it odd how when you don't look for something they just fall into your lap and when you do want something you can never seem to find it?

We get party invites quite a lot although they're not something I have a massive interest in at the moment

I think that if you're not getting the invites from people messaging you then put the leg work in yourself to find what you want,meets and events as a starting point,there always seems to be loads going on,you'll have a fair bit of choice

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Not allowing single guys to message you will reduce your chances of invites simply because quite a number of single guys organise parties."

You do come across this, I've hosted lots of GB and been complimented on them by men and women who've attended them. Some times I'll see a couples profile that says they like GBs so will try and mail them but can't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"First off - sorry if this seems like a 'Look at us' thread. It's not intended to be that at all.

A bit of background on where I am coming from... Ruby and I have been swinging as a couple for about 18 months now. Beforehand, the experience each of us had was as single people only - this is the first time either of us has swung as part of a couple, and it's been a learning curve for both of us.

Now... from my previous dalliances with this world back in the 80's, I know I LOVE parties. Ruby has enjoyed those we have been to too, and wants to do more - she really likes the 'group' aspect to some of them.

Now, if you look at our profile, it's clear right from the start that we are on the look-out for parties - yet, in the last six months, we have only been invited to ..... one.

When I got into this world, I was introduced into it by a GF who went to an established network of parties and I 'slotted in'. I didn't really have to do any work to get in there - I got lucky. Now, and to be perfectly frank, we're struggling getting to where we'd like to be.

I would be grateful if those of you reading this would have a look at our profile and let us know if there is anything blindingly obvious that we're failing to do, say or show that would indicate to a few more hosts that we're up for it..?

If we come over as right munters, then tell us (flippin hope not! Although Ruby's a bit, you know.... but I'm absolutely gor-juss!!!! ) Am genuinely at a loss on this one, so .... over to you lot.

a befuddled ted.

This might be stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you checked out the meets and events page?"

Yes it is and yes we have. Messaged (nicely!), got no answer in most cases, got one 'too old'... , and a few 'too late, already full up'.. one of which was about a month ahead... so read into that what you will....

ted.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"This might be stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you checked out the meets and events page?

Yes it is and yes we have. Messaged (nicely!), got no answer in most cases, got one 'too old'... , and a few 'too late, already full up'.. one of which was about a month ahead... so read into that what you will....

ted."

It's probably just a case of keeping at it then. One day you'll meet someone who goes to parties and they'll pass your names on and you'll be off. That's how it worked for me anyway.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

hold one of your own

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not allowing single guys to message you will reduce your chances of invites simply because quite a number of single guys organise parties.

You do come across this, I've hosted lots of GB and been complimented on them by men and women who've attended them. Some times I'll see a couples profile that says they like GBs so will try and mail them but can't."

I know what you're saying but it's a bit of Catch 22 where single guys and couples are concerned. We take off the filter and WHAM! we get flooded with message after message, the majority of which are crap. Yet to see any from single guys who host parties tbh. So if we keep it in place, we don't get to hear about them...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hold one of your own "

Did hold a small one a while back in my previous flat, but in my new one I have lost one bedroom due to storage . Looking for a house at the moment, but precious few that would be suitable coming up around here at the moment ..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Perhaps your just not what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This might be stating the bleedin' obvious, but have you checked out the meets and events page?

Yes it is and yes we have. Messaged (nicely!), got no answer in most cases, got one 'too old'... , and a few 'too late, already full up'.. one of which was about a month ahead... so read into that what you will....

ted.

It's probably just a case of keeping at it then. One day you'll meet someone who goes to parties and they'll pass your names on and you'll be off. That's how it worked for me anyway."

Like I said in my OP, that's pretty much how I got into swinging in the first place - luck meeting a girl who was already going to an established network of parties in the mid 80's. Think I'll have to start rubbing me rabbits foot....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Perhaps your just not what they are looking for"

Hey ho.....

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I feel your pain. I have only ever been to one party.

No one wants me either.

The three of us should just have our own party and invite no one else.

I have lots of cheesy pop music if you can supply the cheesy puffs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I feel your pain. I have only ever been to one party.

No one wants me either.

The three of us should just have our own party and invite no one else.

I have lots of cheesy pop music if you can supply the cheesy puffs. "

I don't know a cheesy puff....... Oh hang on ... you meany nibbles, didn't ya.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been to a party. We got a few invitations on earlier profiles when we said we were looking for them but they were never at convenient times.

I know there was a profile around the midlands somewhere that was organising them and they looked pretty good - but can't remember who they were!

Somebody at a club suggested somebody on here too but that was midlands based. I guess it's one of those things of getting a foot in the door and then becoming part of a network.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're a site supporter, on the home page you get local updates.

Sometimes people post that they're organising a party

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central

Never been to a party as yet, but something I'd love too try xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you're a site supporter, on the home page you get local updates.

Sometimes people post that they're organising a party "

Been checking that out a lot recently, but nothing yet.... watch this space...

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"I feel your pain. I have only ever been to one party.

No one wants me either.

The three of us should just have our own party and invite no one else.

I have lots of cheesy pop music if you can supply the cheesy puffs.

I don't know a cheesy puff....... Oh hang on ... you meany nibbles, didn't ya..... "

So funny. Wish I had coffee to splurt out.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Not allowing single guys to message you will reduce your chances of invites simply because quite a number of single guys organise parties.

You do come across this, I've hosted lots of GB and been complimented on them by men and women who've attended them. Some times I'll see a couples profile that says they like GBs so will try and mail them but can't.

I know what you're saying but it's a bit of Catch 22 where single guys and couples are concerned. We take off the filter and WHAM! we get flooded with message after message, the majority of which are crap. Yet to see any from single guys who host parties tbh. So if we keep it in place, we don't get to hear about them... "

Although I specialise in GBs I've also held I think about 3 parties. The first one was great with a lovely couple from Shropshire, however there was a little bit too much of a cliquey feeling to the others. That's why I now stick to GBs. Possibly the cliquey thing is the reason is why you don't get invites?

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

To the OP we know how you feel on that one, the parties we have come across (not that many locally I admit) or socials for that matter, have clashed with children being home or holidays etc.

We can't host one either, so normally end up at a club but they often don't have that party feel.

Would be up for joining you (and even helping out as we know how much work they are) if you do come up with something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to severAl parties and hav hosted several here too.we only have a small 3 bed terrace but have had over 30 people partying here before. We are now kids free so can organise so e sexy fun nights.always byob and we supply the food. We never charge , and we normally get a good mix of cpls, bi ladies . Afraid we don't put out invites to single guys because we get swamped with offers.we have had a couple of tv's over who seem to really enjoy partying.

We met at a swingers party over 5 years ago and are still together.so sometimes parties have extra benefits too.

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