FabSwingers.com forum: Dating or Swinging Site??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do some women on this site want to be wined & dined before they will play, treated to expensive meals & flowers etc??!!....I sometimes feel sorry for the Guys on this site, it can be a minefield for them!!..This is a Swinging site not a Dating site!!!!!!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Why do some women on this site want to be wined & dined before they will play, treated to expensive meals & flowers etc??!!....I sometimes feel sorry for the Guys on this site, it can be a minefield for them!!..This is a Swinging site not a Dating site!!!!!!"

actually it is a site that people use in most forms, and can use in any way shape or form to their hearts content...

I actually feel more sorry for people who want to dictate how others should use the site....

there are plenty enough people on here to go round... if someone doesn't use it the same way as you do, and they aren't compatible... move on!!! simple as....

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

People are free to use this site however they want. If being taken out for a nice meal is what a girl wants before playing then so be it. There are plenty of men on here who are happy to oblige, I get these offers all the time.

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

actually it is a site that people use in most forms, and can use in any way shape or form to their hearts content...

I actually feel more sorry for people who want to dictate how others should use the site....

there are plenty enough people on here to go round... if someone doesn't use it the same way as you do, and they aren't compatible... move on!!! simple as...."
I for one do not insist on expensive meals, I do though prefer a social meet. However I'm big and grown up and can pay my own way in this world! And if others want to pay for meals and drinks for people then hell why not. It's called being nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are free to use this site however they want. If being taken out for a nice meal is what a girl wants before playing then so be it. There are plenty of men on here who are happy to oblige, I get these offers all the time.

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

Hear hear!

Now err, where are we going for that drink

Always better to go during Happy Hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind a little social foreplay. It gives you both a chance to see if there's chemistry, it's important to me anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had very few social/pubbing etc etc meetups relative to my fabby years...

I dont care how others choose to meet, what I dont like is people expecting more when its not been promised, I'm not here to meet A person, I'm here to meet people, and moreso its with some sexual tones.

the site and scene has a multitude of differing perspectives, I just think theres room to mix it up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!! "

I think I know what you mean - one girl I was chatting to sometime back wanted:

1) to be picked up (in a nice car, ..and not taxi unless black cab)

2) to be brought a big bunch of flowers

3) to be taken to a nice restaurant, or trendy bar/pub for lunch as it would be a daytime social meet (all for 1st meet)

4) if things progressed nicely, maybe I'd get a peck on the cheek

5) if progressed to 2nd meet, then I'd be allowed to kiss on the lips

6) 3rd meet, we could hang out in the evening.. depending how late it got (and enjoyed each other's company) then maybe a hotel for the night (nice hotel like The Ritz.. no Travelodge!)

7) Ending up in a hotel over night on 3rd meet does not constitute sex

8) 4th meet,.. I'd get to give her oral

9) 5th meet, she'd reciprocate and I receive oral (yippee!)

10) 6th meet.. we finally "do the deed"

So,.. "where do I sign up!" I asked myself, right?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

It's the ritz or nothing with me....

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

actually it is a site that people use in most forms, and can use in any way shape or form to their hearts content...

I actually feel more sorry for people who want to dictate how others should use the site....

there are plenty enough people on here to go round... if someone doesn't use it the same way as you do, and they aren't compatible... move on!!! simple as...."

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!!

I think I know what you mean - one girl I was chatting to sometime back wanted:

1) to be picked up (in a nice car, ..and not taxi unless black cab)

2) to be brought a big bunch of flowers

3) to be taken to a nice restaurant, or trendy bar/pub for lunch as it would be a daytime social meet (all for 1st meet)

4) if things progressed nicely, maybe I'd get a peck on the cheek

5) if progressed to 2nd meet, then I'd be allowed to kiss on the lips

6) 3rd meet, we could hang out in the evening.. depending how late it got (and enjoyed each other's company) then maybe a hotel for the night (nice hotel like The Ritz.. no Travelodge!)

7) Ending up in a hotel over night on 3rd meet does not constitute sex

8) 4th meet,.. I'd get to give her oral

9) 5th meet, she'd reciprocate and I receive oral (yippee!)

10) 6th meet.. we finally "do the deed"

So,.. "where do I sign up!" I asked myself, right?"

Crikey. And here I am complaining about guys who demand I come to their hotel room to suck their cock because they have a couple of hours to spare.

Us girls have it easy

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!!

I think I know what you mean - one girl I was chatting to sometime back wanted:

1) to be picked up (in a nice car, ..and not taxi unless black cab)

2) to be brought a big bunch of flowers

3) to be taken to a nice restaurant, or trendy bar/pub for lunch as it would be a daytime social meet (all for 1st meet)

4) if things progressed nicely, maybe I'd get a peck on the cheek

5) if progressed to 2nd meet, then I'd be allowed to kiss on the lips

6) 3rd meet, we could hang out in the evening.. depending how late it got (and enjoyed each other's company) then maybe a hotel for the night (nice hotel like The Ritz.. no Travelodge!)

7) Ending up in a hotel over night on 3rd meet does not constitute sex

8) 4th meet,.. I'd get to give her oral

9) 5th meet, she'd reciprocate and I receive oral (yippee!)

10) 6th meet.. we finally "do the deed"

So,.. "where do I sign up!" I asked myself, right?"
thats just marriage isnt it wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blinkin' 'eck and I thought an orange juice and a nibble on some nuts in a pub was asking too much lol Im raising my standards from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the ritz or nothing with me...."

what kind?, they have different flavours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey, I love that Ahabs!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the ritz or nothing with me...."

Could maybe stretch to a packet. Maybe.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Hey, I love that Ahabs!!!!!!"

Lol, the thing is I agree with most that people will use the site as they want (you can't stop them), but I also agree that the whole point leans more to the act of exploring sexual adventures with others.. not waiting to see who will wine and dine.

PS: I left that girl to her own devices - she later bumped into me at a social wondering why I did not wan tot meet her as loads of guys do (apparently) lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!!

I think I know what you mean - one girl I was chatting to sometime back wanted:

1) to be picked up (in a nice car, ..and not taxi unless black cab)

2) to be brought a big bunch of flowers

3) to be taken to a nice restaurant, or trendy bar/pub for lunch as it would be a daytime social meet (all for 1st meet)

4) if things progressed nicely, maybe I'd get a peck on the cheek

5) if progressed to 2nd meet, then I'd be allowed to kiss on the lips

6) 3rd meet, we could hang out in the evening.. depending how late it got (and enjoyed each other's company) then maybe a hotel for the night (nice hotel like The Ritz.. no Travelodge!)

7) Ending up in a hotel over night on 3rd meet does not constitute sex

8) 4th meet,.. I'd get to give her oral

9) 5th meet, she'd reciprocate and I receive oral (yippee!)

10) 6th meet.. we finally "do the deed"

So,.. "where do I sign up!" I asked myself, right?"

I think she may have been bored that night and thought she may amuse her self by playing you to see if you would bite

I'm sure there are not many that want that for real !!!!!

or are there ladies?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm all for people having the freedom to use the site as they please, but some Ladies 'demands' are just ridiculous!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happened to trying to impress a woman with a bag of chips hey ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never ask for anything except respect

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

"I'm all for people having the freedom to use the site as they please, but some Ladies 'demands' are just ridiculous!!!!!!!"

Demands can be easily ignored. It is the internet after all and clicking on delete isn't much of a chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I demand is a peck on the cheek. Which one? Your choice

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I think she may have been bored that night and thought she may amuse her self by playing you to see if you would bite

I'm sure there are not many that want that for real !!!!!

or are there ladies? "

What I found strangest was her "play style" - she does not "overlap" meets, ie, most people can meet 2-5 different people over 1-3 months on rotation (modest numbers), she does not do that.

She meets one person.. and stick to that person till "it fizzles out" before meeting someone new. She however "appreciates" if the guy in question does the same for her. I saw red flags!

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

I always do a social meet either drinks/coffee lunch or dinner I always offer to pay my share some guys accept this and some insist on paying I think its very gentlemanly but I certainly don't expect it from anyone .

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I'm all for people having the freedom to use the site as they please, but some Ladies 'demands' are just ridiculous!!!!!!!"

people dont have a gun to their heads saying they have to agree to them...

they can jump thru hoops..... or they can walk on by!!

if people didn't give in to the demands, they would get the message..... but some are that desperate that they do

who's fault is that... the person demanding or the person giving in???

its not all one sided....

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people."

These words are how I am. x

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"I'm all for people having the freedom to use the site as they please, but some Ladies 'demands' are just ridiculous!!!!!!!

people dont have a gun to their heads saying they have to agree to them...

they can jump thru hoops..... or they can walk on by!!

if people didn't give in to the demands, they would get the message..... but some are that desperate that they do

who's fault is that... the person demanding or the person giving in???

its not all one sided....

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

I know a nice kebab joint not far from me... good thing I accomodate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

I know a nice kebab joint not far from me... good thing I accomodate

Let me guess you provide your own chilli sauce

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Good point Fabio......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!!

I think I know what you mean - one girl I was chatting to sometime back wanted:

1) to be picked up (in a nice car, ..and not taxi unless black cab)

2) to be brought a big bunch of flowers

3) to be taken to a nice restaurant, or trendy bar/pub for lunch as it would be a daytime social meet (all for 1st meet)

4) if things progressed nicely, maybe I'd get a peck on the cheek

5) if progressed to 2nd meet, then I'd be allowed to kiss on the lips

6) 3rd meet, we could hang out in the evening.. depending how late it got (and enjoyed each other's company) then maybe a hotel for the night (nice hotel like The Ritz.. no Travelodge!)

7) Ending up in a hotel over night on 3rd meet does not constitute sex

8) 4th meet,.. I'd get to give her oral

9) 5th meet, she'd reciprocate and I receive oral (yippee!)

10) 6th meet.. we finally "do the deed"

So,.. "where do I sign up!" I asked myself, right?"

I hope you insisted the 6th meet was held somewhere really really special. Like Necker Island. On Her

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By *eretakenWoman
over a year ago

ringwood near bournemouth

"What happened to trying to impress a woman with a bag of chips hey ???

chips with sauce

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

I know a nice kebab joint not far from me... good thing I accomodate

Let me guess you provide your own chilli sauce

I reckon it'd be more like special sauce

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

I know a nice kebab joint not far from me... good thing I accomodate

Let me guess you provide your own chilli sauce

I reckon it'd be more like special sauce

I got all sorts of sauce... take your pick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I am just happy to go out for a drink somewhere. I am not going to just jump in the sack with someone immediately, I enjoy the social side of the scene as well as do many other people.

were both happy with a burger and a pint lol

Me too! Cheap dates

I know a nice kebab joint not far from me... good thing I accomodate

Let me guess you provide your own chilli sauce

I reckon it'd be more like special sauce

My special sauce is in the pipeline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Blinkin' 'eck and I thought an orange juice and a nibble on some nuts in a pub was asking too much lol Im raising my standards from now on

I wouldn't do that in my local if I were you. It'll get you chucked out.

Ordering an Orange Juice, that is...

ted.

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By *heNerdyCyclistMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

I totally agree. Some people like random encounters. However some like me enjoy the romantic nature of kink and these kind of sites. I'm not saying have sex with me and there will be oysters but I certainly love treating meet ups as first dates, so to speak. I personally believe if there's no chemistry and 'footsie'... What's the point? Wait. Lemmie rephrase that. How are you going to experience an wonderful whole experience (apart from the sex)?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Blimey, women get taken out for meals on here? I'm lucky if I get a half of bitter. I must start being more discriminating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always insist on socials on the first meet. Weather its coffee, a drink in the pub or a full on dinner. I don't expect a guy to pay and always offer my half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always insist on socials on the first meet. Weather its coffee, a drink in the pub or a full on dinner. I don't expect a guy to pay and always offer my half.

Same here and if they don't I don't go

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By *heNerdyCyclistMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Ladies, I would buy you a drink! :p

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Blimey, women get taken out for meals on here? I'm lucky if I get a half of bitter. I must start being more discriminating. "

3 course meal if you play your cards right, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did someone mention chips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you need not worry as your not looking to get wined or dined or laid by men

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Blimey, women get taken out for meals on here? I'm lucky if I get a half of bitter. I must start being more discriminating. "

I think I did buy our pub dinner when we met, forgive me if I'm wrong and certainly not complaining either way. What happened to the women who said 'You can do me now while I eat my chips'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I ask what your preferred method of seduction is? A cock pic? A promise of the best orgasm ever? A quick fumble in the back of a fiesta maybe? Or a night in a really nice Premier Inn? I do agree that who ever that lady is she is pushing it a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry..assumed you were a man! lol

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Did someone mention chips?"

I'm partial to pineapple juice

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I believe most women here see dating and 1 to 1 meets as the same thing and will require the same approach and attention from their 'date'. The question i would like to ask is how many of those women are also on dating sites? and what differences do they find between the two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes point taken about the Social side of things & chemistry etc, but I meant why do some women 'demand' it as though it were a deal breaker if a guy doesn't offer that??!! "
simple if people don't wish to meet others demands just don't meet up or say its not there thing they do . I ask for nothing .... best I find then I don't have to be no one's puppet .

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I will openly admit that when I meet a man from fab, I treat it like a date and like to be treated the same. I like to go out first, enjoy dinner and a few drinks. Being seduced and in turn seducing a man, is such a turn on for me. Doesn't mean I want them to be my boyfriend or I expect everything to be paid for. I always pay my fair share.

It's such a turn on for me kissing in public, having a sneaky feel. Wanting them so much, but not allowed to have them yet. The eventual sex for me is then just so passionate and satisfying for me.

But then I don't really regard myself as a swinger. Just someone who is looking for a few friends with benefits.

This site has someone for everyone doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on any dating sites

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

(Mr) call me old fashioned but if I meet a lady on here I like to treat her with respect. It's nice getting to know someone over dinner and drinks. Things progress from there all well and good, if they don't then at least you got away from the TV and got out for a nice evening.

Swinging doesn't have to always be about the sex, dating and swinging can work. Really it can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last one on one meet I paid for a meal. .I see nothing wrong with the fact we both wanted some social time before getting down to it ..

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'm not on any dating sites

Me neither, and I echo what other posters have said, I am happy to go halves on all costs, I don't expect anything other than normal politeness (oh, and bloody good sex if it gets that far)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on any dating sites

Me neither, and I echo what other posters have said, I am happy to go halves on all costs, I don't expect anything other than normal politeness (oh, and bloody good sex if it gets that far)

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

I am seriously going wrong somewhere here... would never expect or want a meet to pay for a meal/room etc.

I accommodate, would be nice if guys would even bring condoms, never mind a pint of milk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not me

I don't even want to talk to them again once ive shagged them so have no intentions of having a meal with them lol

I guess we are all different, some women like to be taken out for a meal, some guys like to take women out for a meal, so its win win for some people

ive had guys offer me alsort's if I meet them, dinner, shopping etc so its not always women asking some men offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I will openly admit that when I meet a man from fab, I treat it like a date and like to be treated the same. I like to go out first, enjoy dinner and a few drinks. Being seduced and in turn seducing a man, is such a turn on for me. Doesn't mean I want them to be my boyfriend or I expect everything to be paid for. I always pay my fair share.

It's such a turn on for me kissing in public, having a sneaky feel. Wanting them so much, but not allowed to have them yet. The eventual sex for me is then just so passionate and satisfying for me.

But then I don't really regard myself as a swinger. Just someone who is looking for a few friends with benefits.

This site has someone for everyone doesn't it?

I love it when there's a spark and you go home all excited and horny at the thought of next time

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's the ritz or nothing with me...."

I don't meet in hotels: ever, and it's on my profile (when visible). I also don't meet men that don't accommodate, yet men will still try to convince me to meet in a hotel.

When I say ok the Dorchester or Savoy I never hear from them again: funny that!

I always meet socially for coffee. If the man wants to extend it to lunch/dinner I don't have a problem. I have a bunch of my favourite flowers gracing my dining room table, courtesy of my last meet. They were a pleasant surprise as I didn't expect flowers and these are hard to find and I've never mentioned them.

Telling someone to wine and dine before 69 is a bit off, but there are men on site who'd donate a nut to bury the other in pussy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually it is a site that people use in most forms, and can use in any way shape or form to their hearts content...

I actually feel more sorry for people who want to dictate how others should use the site....

there are plenty enough people on here to go round... if someone doesn't use it the same way as you do, and they aren't compatible... move on!!! simple as...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"(Mr) call me old fashioned but if I meet a lady on here I like to treat her with respect. It's nice getting to know someone over dinner and drinks. Things progress from there all well and good, if they don't then at least you got away from the TV and got out for a nice evening.

Swinging doesn't have to always be about the sex, dating and swinging can work. Really it can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's such a turn on for me kissing in public, having a sneaky feel. Wanting them so much, but not allowed to have them yet. The eventual sex for me is then just so passionate and satisfying for me.

But then I don't really regard myself as a swinger. Just someone who is looking for a few friends with benefits.

This site has someone for everyone doesn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was offered a pie and a pint and if we get on he would get a hotel room.............

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I was offered a pie and a pint and if we get on he would get a hotel room.............

Gold digger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no gold !!

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

not me

I don't even want to talk to them again once ive shagged them so have no intentions of having a meal with them lol"

Haha luv it my kinda woman

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think the difference between fabs and a dating site is that on here we can openly discuss what we seek sexually without being banned, but when it comes to actually meeting people it seems you need to adopt the same approach as you would on any dating site. Although this may not apply to group meets like gangbangs, dogging or bukkake.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

Ahabs - that sounds more like a courtship than swinging. Maybe she's an old fashioned kinda gal lol.

PS Id love to be wine n dined at the Ritz if anyone's offering

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Ahabs - that sounds more like a courtship than swinging. Maybe she's an old fashioned kinda gal lol.

PS Id love to be wine n dined at the Ritz if anyone's offering

Would it sound terribly naive of me to say I have no interest in courtship (especially the monogamous sort)? Otherwise I'd be on a vanilla site (one with a name to do with fishes?) seeking monogamous courtship, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no gold !!

Someone call me ---

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your going to spend many hours with someone surely you need to be fed and watered. That way you can go on for hours and hours and he has satisfied you more ways then one.

Anyway cook for her and you have cut down on costs you can ask her to bring the wine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The lucky lady is guaranteed a steak meal!"

"I don't want you lumbering me with some old bow-wow who don't know the difference between a Liebfraumilk and a can of Tizer!"

"It’s Derek Duval!"

"She’s had nothing but bad luck… then she met me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me this scene is about the total experience. If it was about an orgasm then I'd stick with my toys.

One gentleman water and dined me (I don't drink and drive)

. The conversation over dinner was extremely intoxicating ( see, who needs to drink

He walked me backed to my car and we kissed... I wanted more and got more. He proceeded to go down on me ohhhhhhh (not orgasmic o lol) it was risque and I wanted more (please sir says Ollie twist).

He offered to get a hotel room and I was in no mood to decline

. I followed him in my car and watched in a giggling horror as he waved my thongs out of his window.

What a night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I'm on dating sites too. The difference being, on this site people ARE more open about sex.

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Oh and I'm on dating sites too. The difference being, on this site people ARE more open about sex."

And they don't get banned for it either

lol

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