FabSwingers.com forum: trying new things

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Recently I've been exploring in many new ways.. and being much more comfortable with myself I have opened myself to many new ideas.

but I feel a little odd about asking people to come try things with me when I don't know how I will feel about it after..

my currently issue is I'm curious as to how it would be to play with a lovely transsexual lady... Pre op... But I don't know how to approach anyone without making it sound like a experiment.. I am worried about offending someone..

with women it was easy as just waited for the opportunity to arise knowing I had the support and comfort of my good friend... And I wasn't made to do it...

But unlikely I am going to just come across a ts lady in my normal times at clubs..

I did put up a meet and just like lots of lovely tvs contact me and as nice as many were it's not what I am looking for.

so would you feel I was using someone to satisfy a curiosity and is that a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

curiosity is a good thing love finding new ways to play, im sure if you did explain to a ts they would be happy to help and im sure would be pleased you have shown an interest in their lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I worry as a few women have turned me down and been offended because I am wanting to explore bi play further when as a couple..

I try to explain I'm exploring my self too and that there is no bad experiences to be had...just ones that I will either not to again or adjust and try again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try an find a woman who has similar needs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try an find a woman who has similar needs x"

I'm looking for a ts . but what I am worried about is them feeling part of some sexual experiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try an find a woman who has similar needs x

I'm looking for a ts . but what I am worried about is them feeling part of some sexual experiment. "
if they are on here they must be open to suggestions why not just ask you have two chances in the reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experimenting = experience. Have we not all had to do some sexual experimenting? I am sure that if you choose the right person and let them know why you are meeting them, then they will be only too pleased to show you the pleasures of something different

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

On the flip side of the coin, I've had a few guys message me, wanting to experiment with a CD (not a TS).

Generally, I find them to be hard work, wanting reassurance, asking all sorts of questions about what I like, what I want to do with them, how does this, that or the other feel, what will I be wearing, is it safe where we'll meet and so on. And then bottle it.

I'm sure you'd be more relaxed than a lot of people wanting to experiment and frankly I don't mind as I meet them when I'm dogging or at a club, so if they do bottle it, there are lots of other peeps there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You won't know if you like it or not till you try it. Perhaps word it differently. Say it's your first time, rather than mentioning experimenting. Anyone can decide they do or don't like it after they've tried something new.

I'm trying new things all the time. 3 years ago I could never have imagined the experiences I've had and I'm loving it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all. I am confident in my own areas but now I am being encouraged and supported to step outside that and try new things for myself I find myself a little shy and it's baby steps for me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Baby steps are the best ones to take because then you don't have far to get back to safety. I am sure you will be fine, be happy with your new found confidence and enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a swinging site

Lots of people are on here to experiment

I don't think they'll be offended

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think you should go for it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Recently I've been exploring in many new ways.. and being much more comfortable with myself I have opened myself to many new ideas.

but I feel a little odd about asking people to come try things with me when I don't know how I will feel about it after..

with women it was easy as just waited for the opportunity to arise knowing I had the support and comfort of my good friend... And I wasn't made to do it...

But unlikely I am going to just come across a ts lady in my normal times at clubs..

I did put up a meet and just like lots of lovely tvs contact me and as nice as many were it's not what I am looking for.

so would you feel I was using someone to satisfy a curiosity and is that a bad thing. "

are you doing it for you or to please someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do things to explore my own wants and desires now. I may have a dominant but he supports me not forces or coerces me to do things...

It's a different experience for me to explore like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prior to any meet i always ask the other party what they do not like sexually it saves awkward moments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of my meets are experimentation, that's why we started swinging.

I am happy having a sexual relationship with one man, but wanted to know what it was like having two guys, swapping with another couple, have another woman lick me, experience dvp, watch my man have sex with other women, watch him make other women come etc. It's all experimentation to me.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

"Recently I've been exploring in many new ways.. and being much more comfortable with myself I have opened myself to many new ideas.

but I feel a little odd about asking people to come try things with me when I don't know how I will feel about it after..

with women it was easy as just waited for the opportunity to arise knowing I had the support and comfort of my good friend... And I wasn't made to do it...

But unlikely I am going to just come across a ts lady in my normal times at clubs..

I did put up a meet and just like lots of lovely tvs contact me and as nice as many were it's not what I am looking for.

so would you feel I was using someone to satisfy a curiosity and is that a bad thing. "

I think its lovely that you sre honest and care how they feel about it... but I suspect there are many willing people out there who will be happy to help you with this. .. good luck in your search

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I think its lovely that you sre honest and care how they feel about it... but I suspect there are many willing people out there who will be happy to help you with this. .. good luck in your search

You're being honest and that's key surely.

Lots of people like experimenting/trying new things

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