FabSwingers.com forum: As part of a couple making more of an effort when you swing than you do for your partner!

By *allDarkFoxForYou OP Man
over a year ago

Winchester/London

I was wondering how the dynamics work when preparing for a meet with regards to any potential resentment or friction within a couple ?

Wives- Does your husband who resembles Desperate Dan with 5 o'clock stubble when making love to you during the week, have a close shave just prior to your weekend encounter with another couple ?

And does he wear his new boxers,best shirt and the classy aftershave you haven't smelt or seen on him since last xmas ?

Does he temper his language and refrain from crude noises during a meet just like you wished he did at home with you day in day out ?

Husbands- Does your wife wear that tight skirt to meets that you've requested she wears for you at home and in the boudoir rather than the trackie bottoms you see her in during the week ?

And didn't she tell you that those stockings and suspenders she has on for the swap were to much hassle putting on for you the other evening at home ?

When did you last see her in the quantity of makeup that she's painstakingly applied for the encounter swap ?

At that wedding reception last year wasn't it ?

So couples, can making a far greater effort in your appearance and conduct for a swap with another couple, than you do for the partner you live with and love cause resentment and friction ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LoL I can see all the arguments you're going to start with this one James

Mine used to be more like 5 day stubble mind when I was with my ex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very interesting often thought the same.Be Iinteresting to see peoples response

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By *allDarkFoxForYou OP Man
over a year ago

Winchester/London

"LoL I can see all the arguments you're going to start with this one James

Mine used to be more like 5 day stubble mind when I was with my ex... "

Well at least you weren't tucking your beard in your undies Abi

It may cause a few issues as a thread

Healthy debate is the way forward.

It came to me as an idea when I read on a profile how long a lady was taking to get ready for a swap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It came to me as an idea when I read on a profile how long a lady was taking to get ready for a swap.

As a tv I fully understand why women take a while...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was wondering how the dynamics work when preparing for a meet with regards to any potential resentment or friction within a couple ?

Wives- Does your husband who resembles Desperate Dan with 5 o'clock stubble when making love to you during the week, have a close shave just prior to your weekend encounter with another couple ?

And does he wear his new boxers,best shirt and the classy aftershave you haven't smelt or seen on him since last xmas ?

Does he temper his language and refrain from crude noises during a meet just like you wished he did at home with you day in day out ?

Husbands- Does your wife wear that tight skirt to meets that you've requested she wears for you at home and in the boudoir rather than the trackie bottoms you see her in during the week ?

And didn't she tell you that those stockings and suspenders she has on for the swap were to much hassle putting on for you the other evening at home ?

When did you last see her in the quantity of makeup that she's painstakingly applied for the encounter swap ?

At that wedding reception last year wasn't it ?

So couples, can making a far greater effort in your appearance and conduct for a swap with another couple, than you do for the partner you live with and love cause resentment and friction ?

Nope...if we were doing that it really would be time to re-examine our relationship...

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By *allDarkFoxForYou OP Man
over a year ago

Winchester/London

Will couples who've had friction scenarios in this area be prepared to admit it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would see a club night or a meet night as a date night for us, where there just may be sex with others involved. So yes we both make a little more effort on a date night than we do when doing housework together.

Being real total pervs we occasionally have a date night where we don't actually involve any other people at all, sometimes don't even leave the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i always make an effort when i am meeting someone because my hubby doesnt take that much notice, as long as we look clean and tidy usualy.

he does notice when my hair looks nice but he isnt bothered too much about makeup and stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see what your getting at.

Sissy here.

I sometimes sit back and watch my slut gettin her self already for a meet. Looking all glowing and rosey.

The point is tho, when she is in her trackies and I have my stubble we still bang the life out each other. Lol

And when we have a meet we both dress up especially if we're going to a swinging party. Which we most probably end up banging there too.

So in day to day life it's not all glam but when a meet is on the cards it is chance for both of us to get ready.

Just because I'm a guy I still need long time to be ready.

However if you found your self jealous from this it's probably not the game for you.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if I am qualified to answer this put even just part of a play couple knowing my play mate will be all done up ready to meet new people makes me think mmm...

Thing is I don't need him to be all dressed up for me... Like him as he is.. if that's rugged and just from work what does it matter. Same as he has often met me dressed in normal attire...

I would imagine it matters even less with couples that live together and are in a relationship.

I will always try to look my best for my play partner and any meet... But sometimes it just doesn't matter between us.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think lots of people don't or can't understand couples dynamics. Lots of us (I don't say all) are in this together so that getting ready to meet other people isn't something that you look at as one of you making an effort that you might not make for your partner rather its both of you as a unit getting ready and it can be part of the foreplay actually.

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By *urvywelshCouple
over a year ago

Everywhere and nowhere baby

"I think lots of people don't or can't understand couples dynamics. Lots of us (I don't say all) are in this together so that getting ready to meet other people isn't something that you look at as one of you making an effort that you might not make for your partner rather its both of you as a unit getting ready and it can be part of the foreplay actually. "

Definitely. Mr Curvywelsh loves it when I'm getting ready for a meet. He knows we're both going to have a good time in our own ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We make more of an effort when we are swinging but it doesnt cause any tension/friction or jelousy. I still dress up for him at home too but not as often as he would like. I can see your point though but to be honest I wouldnt have thought it would be too much of an issue for swinging couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife makes more effort for other men but that turns me on.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

good post op

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We make the same amount of effort to meet others as we would if we were going out with friends, or were having a sexy night in together, it just wouldn't be possible to make that much effort every day for each other, between work, children.

However with your own partner sometimes it's not the 'done up ' you they find attractive. I can be painting a room, in scruffs covered in paint and he will come at me like a raging bull.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't live with my other half but there are times when I do dress up for him and there are times when I don't. To me that's a sign of how comfortable I am with him and know that he will want me even with no make up on (just about!!) And hair a mess.

I wouldnt dream of letting meets see me like that.... On a meet I believe there is an image to portray (ie not mum, or job related) so I dress up to get rid of those roles and become swinger me. If that makes any sense?

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By *allDarkFoxForYou OP Man
over a year ago

Winchester/London

"good post op

Thank you kindly

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By *ornaandjimCouple
over a year ago

BRISTOL

What about the woman's 5-day stubble? *wink*

Seriously, I think we do tend to make more effort if we know we're going to meet others but personally I find that 'getting ready' is part of the 'getting horny' process so I tend to do that at home too.

I'll quite often be in my frumpies during the day when doing stuff around the house (why waste the lingerie?) but often shower, shave and change for when Mr is on his way home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't make any extra more effort in a meet as we do home for each other. I always want to look great, smell good and always keep myself shaved "down there" for myself and my partner.

The same goes for my husband.

We are getting ready the same way as we were going out clubbing, or going out for a bite.

I don't wear sweatpants very often, only maybe if I am on my period lol.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

Agree that getting ready is part of the foreplay.

I like to get ready to go out and feel more confident with make up on.

If i'm wearing suspenders then the OH can put them on far better than i can - they never stay fixed when i do them!

Equally if we're going to a club or i'm wearing a corset, he ties me in and helps me decide what to wear.

I like watching him get ready too, he wore the full kilt out to a club once and i was proud to be on his arm - not jealous of the effort made at all.

I try to make an effort for him (and don't own trakkie bottoms!) but love that he still wants to shag me with bed head, last night's make up on and no effort.

I'm a lucky girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nice to read everyones input

its ineresting dynamics

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We always make that extra effort at the weekend, during the week MrH only usually shaves a couple of times and MrsH never wears make up. We are happy just being us, on a weekend we both make the effort to look good if we are not working and we both appreciate how good the other looks. It makes the weekend a little more special. MrsH have friends who would never be seen without their slap but then they never look any different, they look the same at work as they do on a night out so it just becomes the Norm.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

So couples, can making a far greater effort in your appearance and conduct for a swap with another couple, than you do for the partner you live with and love cause resentment and friction ?

No....

The great thing about being a couple is being comfortable with each other no matter how you look on a bad day...

We obviously expect each other to make more of an effort when meeting new people

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"We make the same amount of effort to meet others as we would if we were going out with friends, or were having a sexy night in together, it just wouldn't be possible to make that much effort every day for each other, between work, children.

However with your own partner sometimes it's not the 'done up ' you they find attractive. I can be painting a room, in scruffs covered in paint and he will come at me like a raging bull. "

Spot on

I love Mr B with his stubble and rough and ready work look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

K always makes an extra effort on meets, it's like a first date for her and she doesn't want to disappoint, which is all the better for me, it's such a turn on watching her make such an effort to please and getting so excited, we all benefit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both look our best and put lots of effort in if we're going out...whether thats for a swinging meet or a night out with friends,the only difference in the 2 would be my choice of outfit as I can't wear what id wear to a meet while out with friends

There has never been and friction or argument about whether either of us is putting in extra effort for another person,I guess thats what comes when you are so comfortable with each other that you would'nt even think of something so petty causing a problem or being an issue

It would be more of an issue if one of us was'nt bothered about putting effort in to look,smell and behave perfectly

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