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Q for the lady half of couples – Orgasms

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Just a quick question really as I am somewhat confused.

One thing I do like to do is to give pleasure – usually that means a reasonable amount of time with a finger gently massaging the g spot and tongue gently flicking the clitoris.. (just what I like to do !!)

Now usually this gets the right result – loads of moans followed by writhing, moaning and sometimes more vocal utterances and plenty of fluids !

I have noticed, on a few occasions with couples when the male half is present – there are all the right moans and murmurs – reasonable flushing of the chest etc. then sudden request to stop – usually being pulled up to cuddle or perhaps penetrate. Now this doesn’t seem to happen with ladies on their own so I got to wondering – is there a guilt element of having an orgasm by someone other than hubby ? – or is it ladies don’t want to orgasm until the end of the time there ? I know guys don’t want to cum too early as we just want to turn over and go to sleep when we blow our load, but I thought the big advantages to women was the option of multiple orgasms. I may of course just be that I am crap and get it wrong (ho hum) but yesterday the words were – that was lovely but…

So any clues to the confused appreciated

Alan

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think as with most things all women are different and you wont find one correct answer to this

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Maybe it was actually boring the pants off them?

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I can't say I've ever held back, Master enjoys seeing me cum. I wouldn't feel any guilt, he's made me cum so many times and knows exactly how to play my body so he has no reason to feel strange about it.

Off topic- i will never forget the amazing fuck after he saw me for the first time cum as a girl gave me oral.

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Maybe it was actually boring the pants off them?"

Probably !

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Maybe it was actually boring the pants off them?

Probably ! "

But I hope not !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe it was actually boring the pants off them?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent met anyone yet that can make me cum as easy as the hubby. guess he just knows which buttons to press. Also alot of couples like to have fun together after a meet so maybe thats where the difference lies. Its very rare that the hubby cums during a meet cause we finish things off when we get home. For us our meet is an extra to our sex not instead of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I havent met anyone yet that can make me cum as easy as the hubby. guess he just knows which buttons to press. Also alot of couples like to have fun together after a meet so maybe thats where the difference lies. Its very rare that the hubby cums during a meet cause we finish things off when we get home. For us our meet is an extra to our sex not instead of. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have noticed, on a few occasions with couples when the male half is present – there are all the right moans and murmurs – reasonable flushing of the chest etc. then sudden request to stop – usually being pulled up to cuddle or perhaps penetrate. Now this doesn’t seem to happen with ladies on their own so I got to wondering – is there a guilt element of having an orgasm by someone other than hubby ? – or is it ladies don’t want to orgasm until the end of the time there ?"

Assuming you've not misjudged the situation, it's possible that the wife is anxious about her husband's reaction, as you suggest. One time, I felt that a husband was a little bothered when I started cuddling his lover after we'd had sex. He either no longer did this with her or didn't like how intimate we were. Either way, she liked it, and may have been teaching him a lesson.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"He Either way, she liked it, and may have been teaching him a lesson."

Really! That's awful. Not that she liked it but that she may have been teaching him a laesson

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By *estingBoundariesCouple
over a year ago

Nr Louth


"I havent met anyone yet that can make me cum as easy as the hubby. guess he just knows which buttons to press. Also alot of couples like to have fun together after a meet so maybe thats where the difference lies. Its very rare that the hubby cums during a meet cause we finish things off when we get home. For us our meet is an extra to our sex not instead of. "

If I hadn't seen your username, I would have sworn Mrs Testing posted this about us!!!

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

If I'm brutally honest the only reasons I would do that would be either it wasn't doing anything for me or it was actually hurting me. Of course that's just me it doesn't mean that's why other women do it x

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"I have noticed, on a few occasions with couples when the male half is present – there are all the right moans and murmurs – reasonable flushing of the chest etc. then sudden request to stop – usually being pulled up to cuddle or perhaps penetrate. Now this doesn’t seem to happen with ladies on their own so I got to wondering – is there a guilt element of having an orgasm by someone other than hubby ? – or is it ladies don’t want to orgasm until the end of the time there ?

Assuming you've not misjudged the situation, it's possible that the wife is anxious about her husband's reaction, as you suggest. One time, I felt that a husband was a little bothered when I started cuddling his lover after we'd had sex. He either no longer did this with her or didn't like how intimate we were. Either way, she liked it, and may have been teaching him a lesson."

Did you stop when you realised he might have been bothered?

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"..... Also alot of couples like to have fun together after a meet so maybe thats where the difference lies. Its very rare that the hubby cums during a meet cause we finish things off when we get home. For us our meet is an extra to our sex not instead of. "

That's what I was thinking/ hoping ! Thanks. I do feel sometimes its good if one is playing in a room at a club that it is right to sneak out and leave the couple together alone for a while after its 'over' but its often a bit awkward to not look like - right I have blown my load and don't give a toss so I am off !

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


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Did you stop when you realised he might have been bothered?"

And......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs Bedford 555 here:

My clit is ultra sensitive and prolonged oral desensitises me .

I much prefer a mixture of clit stimulation and penetration, so if a guy is down on me for more than a couple of minutes, I pull him off and get him to penetrate me - could this be what's happening here?

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By *ightDiversion OP   Man
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


" Mrs Bedford 555 here:

My clit is ultra sensitive and prolonged oral desensitises me .

I much prefer a mixture of clit stimulation and penetration, so if a guy is down on me for more than a couple of minutes, I pull him off and get him to penetrate me - could this be what's happening here?"

Could well be.

Thanks for the get out - although its still probably that I am crap !! lol

So practice needed - any volunteers ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Did you stop when you realised he might have been bothered?"

No, she clearly wanted me to carry on, and he didn't actively object, just looked snitty. But the encounter did break up soon after.

Mind you, when the other guy seems to be doing something right, husbands need to take note - particularly if it's an emotional issue such as cuddling. I've always thought this is true of some of the couples who say they're not looking for single men - the husband is terrified his wife will get more satisfaction from the other man.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

sorry, personal opinion but i think that's quite disrespectful if you thought someone was uncomfortable yet you carried on.

If couples have issues, that's their business but to me you sound quite arrogant in your approach.

Ruby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Mind you, when the other guy seems to be doing something right, husbands need to take note - particularly if it's an emotional issue such as cuddling. I've always thought this is true of some of the couples who say they're not looking for single men - the husband is terrified his wife will get more satisfaction from the other man."

Oh no... You just committed swinging suicide... If someone isn't happy you stop... I don't think I've ever heard anything so conceited as this.. a husband or partner will always know the partner the best...

And not sure why you would be cuddling someone else's wife..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as with most things all women are different and you wont find one correct answer to this"

This and I do not orgasm on meets, not because I am not enjoying myself or guilt etc more it is my mind & body that needs to have a connection and I would never have that emotional connection on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as with most things all women are different and you wont find one correct answer to this

This and I do not orgasm on meets, not because I am not enjoying myself or guilt etc more it is my mind & body that needs to have a connection and I would never have that emotional connection on a meet."

I rarely do on meets.. sometimes I do.. and it's never guilt or holding back.. I like you need the connection.. so I rarely do.. sometimes I do but that is because my mind is already in the right place x

Cali

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

for me i find the more people around the harder it is for me to cum...very rare for me to orgasm with oral in a group situation or in a club for example...i just cant float off into my mind and fantasies like i would at home one to one

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd


"Did you stop when you realised he might have been bothered?

No, she clearly wanted me to carry on, and he didn't actively object, just looked snitty. But the encounter did break up soon after.

Mind you, when the other guy seems to be doing something right, husbands need to take note - particularly if it's an emotional issue such as cuddling. I've always thought this is true of some of the couples who say they're not looking for single men - the husband is terrified his wife will get more satisfaction from the other man."

Wow really? You carried on even though you could feel somebody was uncomfortable?

Also I don't think husbands need to take note of emotional issues from a guy who might only have known their wife for a few hours ha!

And finally the part about husbands being terrified of their wives having more pleasure from someone else? Please! Scott nags constantly for us to meet single men, for the majority of swingers I know they love watching their partner getting pleasure from other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as with most things all women are different and you wont find one correct answer to this

This and I do not orgasm on meets, not because I am not enjoying myself or guilt etc more it is my mind & body that needs to have a connection and I would never have that emotional connection on a meet."

Agree totally - I don't orgasm on meets and don't want oral or any other clitoral stimulation. That's for my partner only and I make it quite clear in my profile. I'm here for something quite different.

And yet men always seem to assume that it's some sort of necessary standard part of the procedure and get all huffy if I say no...

I hate it when a guy say "I want to give pleasure...." but has no interest in finding out what the woman actually wants! I've seen it in group meets a lot, and it's one reason why I won't do them any more.

Why does it have to be such an issue - it's my body and I know what I want. Why is it so hard to get that fact respected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If couples have issues, that's their business but to me you sound quite arrogant in your approach.

Ruby"

You can't always handle situations the right way and it's difficult to explain them years after the event. It was more like he asked her to come with him to the coffee bar and she said no, she was quite happy there cuddling with me. She clearly didn't want him spoiling her fun. But she did go soon after. I'm sure she'd have jumped up if she'd wanted to. And it could have been a cuckolding situation that would turn him on after I guess - it just took me by surprise and I didn't know them well enough to judge.

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By *eonlylive1seCouple
over a year ago

Atherstone


"I havent met anyone yet that can make me cum as easy as the hubby. guess he just knows which buttons to press. Also alot of couples like to have fun together after a meet so maybe thats where the difference lies. Its very rare that the hubby cums during a meet cause we finish things off when we get home. For us our meet is an extra to our sex not instead of. "

Thats exactly how it is with us, it is very rare Mrs W cums at a meet or party ( only one we can really remember , was when she was held down by me and two other men and fisted and licked by two women !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sorry, personal opinion but i think that's quite disrespectful if you thought someone was uncomfortable yet you carried on."

I forgot to mention there was also my fuck buddy there, whom this guy had screwed and then he suddenly wanted to leave us. This might have been why the wife was annoyed with him. My FB was certainly annoyed. My feeling was he was the insensitive one.

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By *reakysexybitchCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

well im a squirter and cant even keep track of how much i cum...but only if im comfortable and the guy know what they r doing..but dont judge by me cause ima rare breed...only thing that sucks is i always always want more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't hold back my orgasm with single guys, I'm very happy to ride the wave and my OH loves watching.

But quite a few times he had taken over and this is because he knows the single guy is not going to make me cum.

My OH is quite a talented man and I don't feel there are that many guys who equal his skill. Now I accept that he can read my body perfectly and it's obvious that I'm going to respond.

Whilst I really enjoy oral with others, once I get the thought 'I wish he'd take over' in my head then im never going to cum with someone else.

But my play with single guys doesn't have to end in orgasm anyway, it's not that important as I enjoy the naughtiness and taboo nature of swinging. If it was just about achieving orgasm them I've got a reliable model for that

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By *reakysexybitchCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

If it bothers one of the partners then they shouldnt b in this kind of lifestyle..everyone should b enjoying themselves

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By *reakysexybitchCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

well im a multiple squirter but very few guys can get to full force effect out of me and i have an insatiable appetite.. and been told plenty of times that im a rare breed..also if ur gonna b on here then everyone should b having fun not guilty if there is feelings of guilt then this lifestyle is not for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Man here. I love to see my lady cum, with me or any other man, however she does come bigger and more easily with me. It is a personal thing, cumming, and she feels more relaxed and comfortable with me. She also cums better with our regular friends rather than new guys for the same reason.

Having said that if you spend too long on the clit you will desensitise it and perhaps the husbands you suspect of jealousy read the signs that their wife wants you to stop but will not say?

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